The closest erogenous zone to the genitals, the anus is richly endowed with highly responsive nerve-endings which become even more sensitive during arousal and throb pleasurably during orgasm.
Apart from simply being a super-sensitive pleasure area in itself, anal sex stimulates specific erogenous zones for both men and women.
Anal Sexual Pleasure For Women:
- Anal sex also stimulates the clitoral legs: the two shafts of erectile tissue that extend inside from the clitoris, which contain lots of sensitive nerve-endings.
- The wall between vagina and rectum is thin enough to pleasure your G-Spot though your back-door.
Anal Sexual Pleasure For Men:
- Half of your penis is actually inside your body, continuing back almost to the anus, so anal sex can pleasure you from the inside, out!
- Most importantly, you have your own special spot called the prostate which is capable of giving you mind-blowing orgasms.
It sometimes has a bad reputation about being painful, but in fact anal sex should never hurt.
If it does, you are taking things too quickly or not using enough lubricant.
Patience and a slow, teasing pace are essential to relaxing anal muscles and enjoying anal sex / anal sex toys.
Inside the anus are two sets of sphincter muscles; the first can be tensed at will, whilst the second constricts involuntarily.
This is why, even if you are trying to relax into the delights of anal pleasure, your body might resist. This is when anal sex can hurt and forcing the issue will only result in the muscles resisting further!
Only by taking as much time as the body needs to open up to anal pleasure, and by using plenty of lube, will delicate tushies be kept safe, happy and relaxed enough to enjoy anal sex/toys to the full.
All toys destined for anal play need to be ‘anal-safe‘
There’s 3 things to check for before introducing your tush to a sex toy
- Anal -Safe Design. Just as – ahem – it’s an exit from the body, it can also be an entrance. Putting it bluntly, toys can get lost up there. So, make sure your anal sex toy has either:
- a wide or flared base, which as a ‘stop’ no matter how excited you get
- a long handle that you are sure you can keep a firm grip upon – (keep it and your fingers free of lube)
- a ring in which to slip your finger and hold tight!
2. Smooth, Non-Porous Surface: Your bum is a delicate flower with thin, ‘nickable’ skin ( much more so that the vajay) so any sex toy for anal play needs to be smooth and seamless. For peace of mind, it should also be non-porous, so it can easily be cleaned/sterilized.
3. Flexible enough to bend with the natural curves of the anus. Around 4 inches inside, the anal canal bends, so any toy longer than this should be flexible, in order not to ‘bump’ and feel uncomfortable.
Anal Sex Toy Materials
Silicone: We believe this is the very best material for anal sex toys as it’s sensually smooth, soft, flexible, non-porous and super easy to keep clean. If the toy is non-vibrating, or contains a removable bullet, you can even sterilize it. Use water-based lube with silicone toys as silicone lube, over time, can start to degrade the smooth surface of your toy.
Glass: Smooth , cool and firm, glass delivers sensually sleek sensations like no other sex toy material. You can use any type of lubricant with glass and a little goes a long way. Glass toys can be warmed by running under that hot tap before you play. Can be sterilized.
Steel: Very similar to glass but has an added weightiness that can feel sensational anally. The weight also makes for incredible prostate massage.
All these materials are body-safe, which means they wont disclose any substances ( is chemicals) into you body as well as non-porous which means they won’t absorb anything from your body either.
Hygiene is clearly an important factor when we’re talking bum-fun, which is why the best anal sex toys are non-porous toys that you can clean/ sterilize thoroughly. Condoms can be used on any toys and make for quick, easy peace-of-mind clean up.
So, safety message over.
Now let’s take off into the wonderful world of anal sex toys.
There are essentially 5 types of anal sex toys
Understanding the different sensations delivered by different anal toys is key to choosing the right anal toy for you.
Each provide a very different kind of anal pleasure.
Choosing your first anal toy can be mind-boggling and intimidating, especially if you’re going in blind, so here we’ll briefly describe the different sensations they deliver.
A Butt Plug is a stay-put anal sex toy, designed to be ‘worn’.
The narrow neck of a butt-plug prompts sphincter muscles to squeeze around where it’s slimmest, thus holding it in place.
Butt plugs are not designed to be moved in-and-out, but eased inside where they stay put ( thou they will often need a hand to keep them in place as it’s the body’s natural reflex to ‘expel’ from this area! ) providing a pleasurable feeling of fullness and pressure.
Butt plugs are available in both vibrating and non-vibrating options, from the tiny-sized and up.
Read More: How to use a Butt Plug
A dildo used as anal sex toy will give smoother penetrative sensations.
A dildo is best for a sliding-in-and-out feeling or for anal sex with a strap-on, whether with your female partner or ‘pegging’ your male partner.
Whether worn in a harness or used hand-held, a dildo ( rather than a butt-plug) is best for delivering smooth, penetrative sensations as there’s no sphincter-stop for the anal muscles to close in around.
In our anal dildo section, we list our most popular dildos bought at our store specifically for anal pleasure but feel free to choose any Sh! silicone dildo – their wide bases make every one totally safe for anal play.
Anal Beads deliver the repeated feeling of anal muscles opening and closing.
One of the easiest, most accessible anal sex toys for beginners, anal beads are a flexible string of molded beads, with a sphincture stop after each one. They gently graduate in size.
These are great anal toys if you enjoy the feeling of anal muscles repeatedly opening and contracting, as you get to experience this sensation with each new bead.
Some people experience more intense orgasms if anal beads are pulled out during climax.
Read More: Beginners Guide to Anal Beads
An anal vibrator can help relax anal muscles.
The shape of an anal vibrator will give you a clue as to the kind of pleasure it will deliver; stay-put plug; ‘popping’ beads; in-and-out penetration; specific prostate massage but it will also vibrate.
The sensation of vibration around the super sensitive anal area can feel mind-blowingly intense. Plus the vibrations themselves can distract your body away any reflexes of resistance, ie the buzz physically helps relax tense anal muscles.
Read More: Anal Vibrator Best Sellers
A prostate massager is an anal sex toy specially for the male g-spot.
It is designed to stimulate the prostate located a couple of inches inside his bum. Many men report amazing orgasms through prostate massage and some can even climax through this alone.
All prostate massagers will be curved, to a slighter or greater degree, as inside, his prostate is towards the front of his body.
Many are c-shaped with a perineum-stimulating base – these are designed for hands-free, stay-in-place pleasure, whether solo or with a partner.
These are the main types of anal sex toys and briefly what pleasures they deliver.
We give more in-depth advice on each of the different toys; how to choose and use them on each of their pages. If you would like to know more, simply head over to each section.
Looking for a toy for double penetration; ie vaginal and anal sex at the same time?
DP is something many couples, both straight and lesbian, would like to try.
The Double Diver is the best toy we have found for this.
Essentially a cock-ring, designed for a man to wear on his penis, with the clitoral stimulator buzzing away on his female partner’s clit (in missionary and woman-on-top positions) whilst the lower dildo provides her with anal/double penetration.
It can be used in the same way, slipped onto a dildo during strap-on sex, too.
Lube is essential for all anal sex, including toys.
The anus doesn’t self-lubricate and naturally resists if stimulation doesn’t feel smooth and ‘resistance-free’.
Adding lube ensures that everything is kept super-sensual and deliciously slippery.
Anal lubricant is thicker and lasts longer than regular lube, which is why it is recommended for the gentle art of sensual anal pleasuring.
Remember, whichever toy you go for, put a generous dollop of lubricant on the tip of your toy and the anal area before you play, wiping any excess off handle/base to ensure it’s not too slippery to keep a firm hold on.
Sensual, pain-free anal sex is all about being super-relaxed.
If worrying about ‘you-know-what’ ( yes- we’re talking poo) will just make you tense, then starting your anal adventure in the shower is a good place to ensure you feel fresh and relaxed.
And whilst it’s by no way essential and is not an anal sex toy in the true sense (though it can feel very pleasurable) a douche will give you extra confidence about being super-clean for your anal play.
Latex gloves turn hands and fingers into smooth operators.
Snaggy or long nails might hurt your lovers delicate anal area? A cut on your hands or bitten-down fingernails, which may make manual anal play unsafe? Or maybe you just feel a little squeamish about using hands or fingers for anal play?
A latex glove has the problem covered!
Plus, they sound sexy when snapped on suggestively and are perfect for medical fantasy role-play.
Analingus or ‘rimming’ is using your tongue to pleasure the anal area.
A dam can be used to cover the anal area so you can probe and lick away without a care in the world.
Both participants can worry about not always being fresh as a daisy ‘down there’.
This is understandable, given the hang-ups and insecurities many of us have been given around this subject,
But worrying isn’t conducive to hot sex, just as rushing off to shower isn’t conducive to spontaneous sex. A dam is simply a cheap, easy and tasty (they come in different flavours) way to enjoy relaxed impulsive rimming.
We hope you enjoy all your anal adventures!