Before you get down to some really pleasurable anal play, there are a few things to think about, so here we'll take you through what you may need to stock up on before heading in through the back door...
Lubricant is essential to ensure ALL your anal play is pleasurable
Lube is the most important thing when it comes to a pleasurable anal experience - a necessity. The anal canal isn't self-lubricating, meaning that the necessary moisture needs to be added - by you.
Many customers come to us, asking if anal play "has" to hurt, and we always give the same answer: anal play should not be painful at all. It should only be pleasurable.
When asking these customers, we usually find they all have one thing in common: they don't use lube. (dry friction - no wonder it hurts, peeps!)
Lashings of lube will make all anal pleasure, with or without toys so much more comfortable and sensual. It also ensures that everything stays nicely slidey, throughout the long, slow journey of anal arousal (if you're going too fast, no wonder it hurts peeps!)
Here, we have two options for you:
Silicone Lube is slick and long-lasting for the slow pace of arousing anal play....
Silicone lubricant for anal play
Silicone-based lube is great for skin-on-skin play; when you use fingers or a penis, or if you use sex toys made from glass, plastic, or steel. It is slick and long-lasting, and a little goes a long, long way...
Silicone lube is also perfect for anal play in the bath or shower - which is a good place for beginners to anal sex to start their journey as many people are hesitant around 'feeling clean'. Water will wash away regular lube.
It's worth noting that silicone-based lube could damage the surface of any silicone toys you may have, so we recommend covering these toys with condoms if you opt for silicone lube.
Sh! Pure Plus (£10) Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant
Water-based lubricant for anal play
Choose a thick, viscous water-based lube for anal play
The thicker, the better! It will coat fingers, penises and toys much better than runny versions.
Customers often ask how much lube they should add, and our reply is always this: Add as much as you think. Then add a bit more!
Water-based lubes are very body-friendly, and work well with any toys you have. Water-based lube evaporates/sinks into the skin, so you'll have to reapply, or reactivate your lube with a couple of drops of water or saliva, which works just as well.
A word about anal enhancers and why you should never use anal numbing products...
Intimate Organics Anal Relaxant £18
Here at Sh!, we do not sell any products designed to numb the anal area.
We have many customers asking for these (it's that old 'anal sex always hurts' myth again!) but we always explain why using anal numbing creams or sprays could actually be harmful.
The anal canal is very delicate and the skin there easily torn. Pain is your body's way of staying 'stop' or 'slow down'. If you have numbed your body (with a special numbing product, or with alcohol or drugs) you will be unaware of being hurt. Staying present and in-tune with your body's sensations is the only way to safely enjoy anal sex.
What we offer instead, are anal enhancing sprays, which are naturally formulated to relax the anus for easy penetration, whilst still keeping the bottoming partner fully aware of all sensations in their tush.
Pasante Extra Condoms (£7)
Using Condoms for Anal Play
Using condoms is a great way to take care of any hygiene-worries you may have. Also, a necessity, for safer-sex. .
Because of the delicate skin in the bum, anal sex with an uncovered penis is the easiest transmission route of many STI's. Pasante Extra, are specially created for anal sex; extra lube for friction-free moves and extra thick latex for a strong barrier.
Whether for safer-sex purposes or not, using condoms for anal sex makes clean-up a doddle: just whip the condom off and dispose of. Easy peasy!
Using Latex Gloves for Anal Play - Turns fingers into smooth operators...
Black Latex Gloves £4 for 10
Using latex gloves for anal sex (or non-latex gloves, if you are allergic) not only easy, but also very sexy.
Snapping on a glove and drizzling some lube over your gloved-up fingers can be a hot image, raising anticipation of things to come..
It can also add frisson to kinky medical role-play...
They also make a sexy barrier, if you are a bit squeamish about probing your partner's tush...
Gloves are essential if you have long nails (long nails and delicate tushies don't go together), nails that aren't smooth (ouch!) or if you are concerned about hygiene (easy to whip off and dispose of).
If you have long nails, it's a really good idea to pop some cotton wool into each finger of the glove before putting it on. This will protect your nails - and your partner's bum!
If you're not keen on wearing whole glove, you could easily cut the latex fingers off, and cover your own fingers with them - finger cots!
Using Dental Dams for Anal Oral Sex (aka Analingus or Rimming)
Latex Dam (£2) for anal oral sex, aka 'rimming'
Dams are squares of latex (also available in non-latex, if you are allergic) that you place over your partners bits to perform oral sex through. They are a barrier, much like condoms and can be used for vaginal as well as anal pleasure - though always use a new dam, each time.
The offical word for anal oral sex is analingus, but it's more commonly called 'rimming'.
Rimming is when you pleasure your partners anus with your lips and tongue. It may sound shocking to some, but the anus has tons of nerve-endings, just begging to be licked, kissed and touched, and this can be intensely pleasurable.
Drizzle a touch of lube on to your partner's side of the dam before placing it over their anus - this will make your licking feel moist and sexy - just like your tongue!
So there's the run-down on the essentials (lube!), as well as additions to pleasurable anal play, but if you'd like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at firstname.lastname@example.org and we'll answer you.
We may also share Q&A's so others may benefit, but if we do it will always be anonymous, with nothing left in to identify you - promise!