Q&A: Vaginismus

Dear Sh! I’ve just been told I have something called vaginismus. I’ve spent years wondering why I couldn’t have proper sex with boyfriends (and usually getting dumped because of it). I’ve never heard of vaginismus before, and it sounds pretty bad!

I was told to get myself a dilating kit for vaginismus treatment.

Can you help? Hi there, Vaginismus is actually pretty common, and every year we have hundreds of women coming through our doors who also have vaginismus.

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina go into spasm.

This makes intercourse either very painful and difficult, or even impossible. Vaginismus is usually seen as having psychological roots, so working to “repair” yourself physically and addressing any psychological issues about sex you may have lurking deep down (whatever they are and wherever they may have come from) is the best way forward. Above all, don’t despair!

Vaginismus is something you can conquer with just a tiny bit of self-discipline.

There are few vaginismus dilating kits available. A standard hard plastic dilating kit, which is often prescribed for vagisismus, can look & feel very “medical”. Because of this, we developed our vaginismus dilating kit, which we call the Sh! Training Kit.

It is made up of 4 vibrators, graded in size like standard vaginismus dilating kit

Starting from very small and slim and progressing to larger and wider – all in pretty pink and purple colours! The advantage of using vibrators instead of non-vibrating dilators for vaginismus treatment is that the vibrations will also help to relax your muscles, and you can have fun stimulating your labia and clit at the same time. Compliance is usually the problem with the whole dilating issue – but if you have a great little vibe to encourage  you, you’re  much more likely to pick it up and use it.

The most important thing is to try not to despair or give up on yourself – vaginismus is beatable!


Customer Responds:

Just wanted to thank you all for advice about vaginismus. I was really quite depressed about the whole thing and your comments have really helped. I got your kit off this website, and it’s really great. I showed it to my doctor and she was totally impressed! I’ve seen the NHS ones and they looked awful. I’m only at number 2, but I really feel much more positive and as I’ve never had a vibrator I’ve actually enjoyed experimenting with rubbing my clit – WOW! Thanks again!

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  • 24/10/2015 at 17:32

    Dear Sh! Thank you for running this article about vaginismus. It is so great to see vaginismus being brought to light like this. Just in case it might help anyone currently suffering from it, just to say that I had vaginismus and it really affected my life and relationships until I was able to find out what it was. Some of the worst things about having vaginismus were feeling different and faulty. But it is just not true. Any partner that is worth having, is going to be willing to be patient with you too. I now consider myself cured and vaginismus is part of my past. It did take some work to get there, but it does get better. In my case it was a process rather than an event. I had therapy with BASRT (British Association of Sexual and Relationship Therapy) therapist. Most important is to be kind and patient to yourself.
    At that time I was working through vaginismus, the only trainers available were the standard ones. It is fantastic to see Sh offering the far more appealing Sh Training Kit!


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