1: Be Physically Responsive to G-Spot Pleasure
Being physically responsive to your first G-Spot orgasm means being really, REALLY turned on!
Starting out wielding your new G-Spot toy with grim determination will get you nowhere. The difference between “Oh! Wow!” success and “This is doing nothing...” disappointment is all about arousal, receptiveness and lots and lots (and lots more on top!) build up.
For many of us this will mean at least 30 minutes, if not an hour, of "foreplay" with your toy, before going G-Spotting!
For many women being responsive to G-Spot stimulation also means firing up the body AND the mind. Tease yourself into a state of pillow-chewing readiness with your fingers or toy, fire up your fantasies with a hot read like Nancy Fridays classic My Secret Garden, or perhaps a sexy DVD or porn-film, if you enjoy visuals.
Your clitoris and vagina will now be swollen, pumped full of blood and ready for action...
2: Be Mentally Responsive to G-Spot Sensations
To be responsive to your first G-Spot orgasm you have to get past the feeling that you are going to pee.
The same nerves that sends G-Spot sensations to the brain also sends messages from the bladder.
For many women a G-Spot orgasm is accompanied by a pleasurable gush of liquid; sometimes enough to hit walls and soak the bed! This is called female ejaculation or 'squirting'.
Although this liquid is not urine (it's actually similar to the fluid in male ejaculation - without the sperm obviously!) it is very easy to feel scared that it might be. Being scared makes you tense up, stop breathing and dash your chances of actually having a G-Spot orgasm.
Getting past this feeling is vital to a G-Spot orgasm. Visiting the loo, before you start and putting a towel underneath you during your G-Spot session are two practical ways you can so you can relax away from distracting worries about peeing the bed.
3: Be Firm with your G-Spot
Curved G-Spot Vibrator
Although we’re all individual with individual responses, there are some universal rules shared by most of us.
One is that our clitorises enjoy a lighter, subtle touch whereas our G-Spots cry out for much firmer stimulation.
So find a position you can comfortably satisfy your G-Spot’s need for this; on all fours or on your back with your legs drawn up to your chest are good positions to try.
Start putting lots of lube on your G-spot toy and sliding it somewhere between 1-3 inches inside and pressing firmly, towards your tummy, with a little circular motion.
Some women find pressing down just above their pubic bone with their other hand increases G-Spot sensitivity.
Also try rubbing, in firm circular movements, around your urethra (where your pee comes out of) as some women find they can be externally stimulated to G-Spot orgasm here.
Whilst it all might feel swooningly pleasurable, tune in to your sweet spot that feels different; that’s it - you've found the G Spot!
Your body will tell you when to increase the pressure of the stimulation. Try pressing the toy deeper onto your G-Spot, moving it back and forth (in doing so quite firmly bumping your G-Spot) or a mixture of the two. Also try squeezing your PC muscle in rhythm with your G-Spot stimulation.
4: Enjoy your G-Spot Journey
Learning how to have a G-Spot orgasm is more usually a process of discovery that a moment of eureka, so it’s important not to get too hung up on the destination and enjoy the journey.
Identifying and enjoying this special spot maybe as much as you can hope for (and that’s a lot!) the first few times you try.
As you get used to the sensations, bigger and better things WILL come…
Be Open to Multiple Orgasms
Multiple orgasms are more likely to be G-Spot rather than clitoral.
The clitoris can become too sensitive to be touched soon after orgasm, whereas the G-Spot can take more stimulation soon after orgasm.
If you are lucky enough to experience the deep throbbing release of a G-Spot orgasm, it’s possible to enjoy more very soon after.
Keep stimulating your G-Spot throughout the orgasmic contractions, (usually between 5 – 10 seconds).
Once they subside, rest for a short period (about 20 seconds) and resume firm stimulation with your toy.
You may have another G-Spot orgasm quite quickly. You can keep going, stimulating throughout your orgasm and resting briefly as soon as they’re over (it can feel uncomfortable without the pause)…until you can take no more!