Most couples have their tried & tested go-to positions for sex; start in one, move to a second and finish in a third – perhaps something extra fancy for birthdays and Christmas. That’s often how it goes.
As long as you’re both enjoying yourselves, there really is no need to be swinging from the chandeliers or attempting the Wheelbarrow position, it’s uncomfortable and makes sex harder than it needs to be…
But even so, standard positions can be made spicier with a few simple changes and in this blog post, we’re sharing our best tips for switching up your favourites for extra heat. Read on!
Blow Their Mind
We hear that the number 1 sex act desired by straight (and we’re guessing, gay) men, is fellatio. A blow job allows him to concentrate on his pleasure, without having to worry abut anything. His job is to relax and let your tongue work its moist magic…
But, for fairness, we’re going to add a good session of cunnilingus into the mix too. Why should guys have all the fun?
Letting her relax and enjoy a sensual tongue-treat should be just as high on the sex agenda.
Depending on personalities or mood of the couple playing, an oral sex session can be switched up or down.
If you enjoy the feeling of submission, kneeling before your partner can be the ultimate thrill. Make sure you’re comfortable (on a cushion) and make sure they’re comfortable too (sitting or standing).
Or, if you like to be in control, try tying your partner up. For extra fun, you could also blindfold them. Check in with them regularly, making sure they’re comfortable and still having fun.
Tease and please, make them beg for your attention… For extra dominance, tell them they can only orgasm with your permission.
Wine Me, Dine Me, 69 Me
69-ing, or the top-to-toe position where you each feast on the others delicious bits is another favourite with many couples.
If kneeling over your partners face for a length of time is too hard, simply moving into a gentler version of the same position will make all the difference. By laying on your sides and nestling against each other, you’ll be able to give and receive pleasure simultaneously.
If your jaw or neck needs a break, just use fingers or a small vibe to tease instead.
Spice up the 69 position by adding small tongue vibrators. The additional buzz can make all the difference, if you or your partner find it difficult to orgasm.
We often hear people dissing missionary position as ‘dull’ and ‘vanilla’.
They are clearly not doing it right.
With a couple of easy moves, the missionary position can become your trusted go-to position for both sensual and kinky play.
For a more sensual version, the partner on top lifts themselves up a little, resting their pubic bone against your pubic bone. For a female-bodied person, this slight change delivers pressure over the clitoral area and by rocking together, chances of a thunderous orgasm suddenly become much higher.
Doing it kinky style is very easy: the top places their full weight (or most of it) on the bottom, holding their wrists firmly above their head. This way, the bottom experiences a submissive helplessness; all they can do is lie back and let pleasure wash over them.
For extra playfulness, a struggle can be sexy – the dominant partner gets to use their power to keep the struggling partner in place. This needs to be consensual of course, so don’t forget that all-important safe word.
If you want to switch it up even more, try adding a We Vibe Sync to your missionary position. The lower, more flexible arm of the We Vibe slides inside the female-bodied partner, snuggling against both clitoris and G-spot. The partner with a penis or dildo slides in too, and you both rock & roll with the added benefit of thrilling vibrations in places where it counts…
Partner on Top
Having a partner riding you is super-sexy; you get to watch & feel them move in ways that feel best for them! Lay-back-and-watch-the-show sorta-thing… *Fans self*
The partner on top has several options:
- Bonce up & down for a fierce workout
- Rock back & forth for deep, grinding pleasure
- Lean back for intense pressure against G-spot or prostate
- Hop on back-to-front so your partner gets a great view of your bum
Switching up partner-on-top sex is easy: slip a vibrating cock ring like Rocks Off Union over the penis or dildo.
With two vibrating bullets, vibrations from RO-Union are plentiful and you can hump, rock & ride your way to climax…
There are many reasons to love doggy style sex, it’s a firm favorite with many couples.
If the receiving partner is female-bodied, they’ll be enjoying intense G-spot pleasure as the dildo or penis rhythmically strokes in & out.
If the receiving partner is male-bodied, the dildo or penis will offer the same type of sensations against the prostate, a highly sensitive area inside the rectum.
Benefits for the giver is the feeling of being in control, powerfully offering pleasure that’s off the Richter scale. The fantastic view is of course a bonus!
Switch it up by playfully spanking the receiver’s bum, or gently insert a lubed-up finger into their butt for a beginner’s version of double-penetration. Always check with your partner first though, no one likes a surprise in the place where the sun don’t shine…
For the receiving partner, feeling submissive and ‘under control’ can be an immense turn on.