We are always being told to rubber up before jumping in the sack, but many people are still in the dark about the different types of protection there are available protect you and your partner(s) from STI’s ( sexual transmitted infections).
Safe-sex advice often focuses on keeping safe during intercourse and anal sex and certainly these are the more riskier types of sex, but sexual health is also important for lesbians, which is why we stock a range of safe sex supplies; not just condoms, but also dams and gloves – to keep you covered, whatever your sexuality or preferred sexual activity.
Condoms are the cornerstone of safer-sex play and are the most widely used form of protection.
Use a fresh, new condom and lots of water-based lube every time you have penetrative sex (whether vaginal or anal), anytime going from back to front ( ie going from anal to vaginal) and anytime you share a sex toy.
Using a condom will protect both you and your partner against the majority of sexually transmitted infections.
Condoms, such as Pasante Extra condoms are designed especially for anal play as they are thicker than your average condom and more resistant to breaking or tearing.
Many condoms are already lubricated but using extra lube on the outside further protects the condom from splitting as well as enhancing glide.
Putting a little lube inside the teat of the condom also enhances sensation for him but you only need a tiny drop to do the trick ( going overboard can mean the condom can slide off him altogether!)
Make sure you use proper lube and never( ever!) any moisturizers you have to hand, such as massage, baby oils or body lotions. Not only are they likely to contain perfumes and chemicals that are irritating to delicate genital tissue, they are likely to contain mineral oils, which can degrade latex quickly, causing the condom to split.
Condoms can spice-up sex, as well as keep it safe…
As well as regular condoms, which come in Trim / Narrow-Fit , Large & Extra thin for added sensitivity, there’s also some great condoms to not just protect but also to add extra thrills to rubbering-up;
- For extra stimulation, there’s Ribs & Dots Condoms which are textured on the outside to deliver extra stimulation
- Heat things up with stimulating condoms such as Pasante’s Climax Condoms . These specially ribbed condoms are coated in warming or cooling lubricants to enhance sensation.
- Durex Mutual Climax Condoms are lubricated with a delay-infused ingredient to slow him down whilst the textured surface delivers more stimulation for you…
- Flavoured condoms are best used for blow-jobs and make a tasty treat of oral sex.
A Dam is a safer-sex shield used for oral sex
Using a dam, when going down on her, aka cunnilingus ( oral-vaginal play) or for rimming aka anilingus (oral-anal play)
Don’t go down on someone who has an obvious outbreak of Herpes, or if you have a cold sore. And visa versa…
The Herpes virus can cross between mouth and genitals, so unprotected oral play with a person carrying the virus could potentially result in a cold sore, or genital herpes outbreak.
Latex Gloves are great multi-purpose safer sex accessories.
Small cuts on the hands, hang nails, those who bite their nails – there’s lots of reasons why to cover-up hands and protect yourself and your lover against possible transmission routes for viruses or bacteria.
Gloves are perfect for all manual sex play, and especially for fisting and anal play, where they turn hands into sleek playthings.
And there’s another benefit to using gloves; unlike skin, they don’t absorb lubricant so maintaining a sensual glide is easier with glove-covered mitts. Adding lots of water-based lubricant, transforms your hands and fingers into incredibly slippery tools of pleasure!
Gloves are also great if you have particularly long nails, which might hurt or cut your partner. TIP: Pop little balls of cotton wool into the fingertips of the glove, to protect the glove from tearing and give a cushioned effect for the receiver.
I’m allergic to latex – can I still have safer-sex?
Having the ‘safe sex’ talk
But safe-sex isn’t just about having and using the right supplies.
Talking about safer sex will help you make choices together and open up the conversation about sex; your likes, dislikes and like-to-try’s, which is a great basis for a GREAT relationship.
It’s best to start the conversation before you hit the bedroom, as once you’ve got to the heat of the moment, it can be really difficult to put the brakes one and bring up the condom-convo.
You might feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll feel much more at ease knowing you’ve got the right type of protection.
It would be so disappointing (and potentially very painful) to find out your new partner has a latex allergy, when all you have is latex condoms and dams.
We aren’t going to show you lots of pictures of infected genitalia – they are not pleasant, and many images are plastered over the internet anyway…a quick search will show you all you need to know!
What we do want to share is that all unprotected sex can be risky, albeit there are different risk levels for different types of play.
Although the risk of HIV infection is lower in lesbian sex than heterosexual or gay male partners, there is still the possibility of contracting a STI so always be sure to practice safer sex, whatever your sexuality.
We urge everyone to get tested regularly and rubber up with new partners, because taking control of your sexual heath and well-being is really sexy.