Painful Sex

Advice on sex that is painful or less than pleasurable. Painful sex is much more common that many peeps think and in a world where everybody appears to be having amazing sex, it’s isolating too. We’ve advised lots of women coming to us for help, advise and products and share our guides about overcoming painful sex here…

Q&A: Which Lube is Best for Me?

I am a disabled woman and am entering the menopause. Vaginal dryness is a problem and annoyingly I have an allergy to the crèmes recommended by the Drs. which have oestrogen in them so cannot lubricate for sex this way. I have been experimenting with a variety of over the counter non hormone lubricants to … Continue reading Q&A: Which Lube is Best for Me?

Q&A: Did sex hurt because I’m not attracted enough to men?

I recently lost my virginity to a guy that I absolutely trust and am very attracted to. He was able to make me cum using his hands, but sex was incredibly painful for me. He isn’t particularly big but I’m pretty sure he caused some tearing as well (I bled a lot, although I think … Continue reading Q&A: Did sex hurt because I’m not attracted enough to men?

Q&A: I’m not sure if I want to have sex?

I’m still a virgin at 26. I have had bad experiences with sex before. Previously I’ve been burnt with guys but now I’ve found someone I really care about and have feeling for but I’m just scared of sex. I’m scared people I care about will just use me for sex and in some ways … Continue reading Q&A: I’m not sure if I want to have sex?

Q&A: Help! I think my girlfriend might have vaginismus.

Me and my gf, both virgins, tried to have sex for the first time recently. Everything was going fine for a while, we went through our general routine of oral and manual sex, but when we decided I should try penetration we were simply unable to. Lubrication wasn’t the issue, she was very wet from … Continue reading Q&A: Help! I think my girlfriend might have vaginismus.

Q&A: I always get thrush after oral sex?

 Hi! I always get vaginal thrush after oral sex. Do you have anything to prevent it? Thanks! W. Hello there, Many thanks for your email. This is an interesting question, and we think many will be surprised to hear that yes, oral sex can bring on an unpleasant bout of thrush. Thrush is a yeast infection … Continue reading Q&A: I always get thrush after oral sex?

Q&A: I think I have vaginismus? What now?

Hi Sh! Team, I find this really difficult and awkward to talk about but I’m guessing you are probably very used to it. I went through an almost 2-year long dry spell before meeting my boyfriend. When we first started having sex it felt uncomfortable and painful.  He’s definitely on the bigger side but I thought I would get … Continue reading Q&A: I think I have vaginismus? What now?