Hey Sh!
I'm interested in trying spanking with my girlfriend. It's not something we've done before, so I wanted to know how to make it fun and safe. I'd be grateful for any information you can give me. What's the best type of implement for a beginner? Thanks!
Hi there,
Great question. We love that you’re considering safety first rather than just taking a wild swing and hoping for the best. We've seen this too many times, and it rarely goes well.
Firstly, sit down with your girlfriend and have an open conversation about what you both want to experience. The immediate answer may be "spanking!" but what does that mean? Do you want to feel gentle taps on the butt or more pain in the thigh area? Does 'playful' sound sexy, or are you hoping for more of a power exchange? You may be on different pages, so agreeing on what will happen is important.
Communication is crucial to ensure you both get what you want and the play doesn't go further than you are comfortable with.
Our next tip is to get some practice on a pillow. Get a feel for your chosen implement and target practice on a cushion. This helps ensure your aim is true and you don't go harder than you have agreed with your gf.
After this, spank yourself with your implement. Try it on your arm and naked thigh. Sometimes, implements are sharper than we expect, so you need to know how it feels to be on the receiving end.
Once you’re ready to start spanking with your partner, be aware that their tolerance might differ from yours. Communication is crucial, and stop if they need a break.
Spanking for Beginners
Start by lightly rubbing or spanking the area with your hands to bring the blood up to the skin. Go for a well-padded area like the buttocks and thighs, and aim for the middle or lower part of the bottom. Pain thresholds rise directly in line with arousal, so the more turned-on your girlfriend is, the more spanking she'll be able to take. Never rush a spanking; let it take the time it takes.
To begin with, you might want to use a broad, flat spanking implement. Blows from something hard and narrow are more likely to leave lasting marks, whereas something hard and flat leaves a lasting redness. Soft and flat means no more than a slight blush.
The shorter a spanking implement is, the easier it will be to control. You could try one of our spanking paddles with a soft fur side for stroking over smarting buttocks or maybe this small leopard-print whip with its soft tendrils.
The final word is a reminder to ask your partner what they want and enjoy. Always err on the side of caution, especially to begin with!
Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx
