The skin is the body’s largest erogenous zone with millions of sensory receptors, all of which deliver amazing pleasure especially when your skin is overloaded with sensations.
Skin is receptive to a whole range of erotic touches from fingertip light to full-on sensation.
There are extra sensitive receptors in genitals and nipples, but just diving straight for the usual erotic zones misses out large areas of our bodies that are receptive the sensual pleasure of erotic touch – feet, shoulders, neck, inner thighs – anywhere you care to name!
Prepping for Sensual Massage
Massage, erotic or otherwise, is not something to be rushed; it’s important to ensure you are both comfortable.
- Prepare the area – gather towels, cushions, omassage oils, lubricants and any toys you may want to hand, as once started it’s a real mood-killer to rush off and start rummaging in drawers.
- Dim the lights or better still, light candles. Creating a sensual, relaxing environment is key.
- You’ll need full access to their body so lay them down diagonally on the bed or on cushions on the floor.
- Only warm bodies can bask in the erotic glow of massage so take a hot bath, light a fire/crank up the heat before stripping off.
- Turn phones off
On to the Massage…
- It can be incredibly sexy for your lover to be totally nude for an erotic massage…
- But exposing only the area about to be massaged, just like a professional masseuse, is also hot – the effect of air on skin can really ignite the senses and flashing certain small areas can feel vulnerably naughty, especially when you get to the “erotic” bits!
- Always warm up massage oils or lubricant for intimate massage in your hands, never pour directly on your lover. Cold oil or lube surprises and can ruin a relaxed mood.
Candles for massages are a great way to deliver warm oil directly to your lover’s body.
Massage candles are not like household candles as they burn at a much lower temperature. It’s recommended that you blow out the candle and wait a few minutes before dripping the oil or test the temperature on your own skin first.
- Once you start massaging, don’t break contact between your skin and theirs – it’s this continuous rhythm allows your lover to really relish in the erotic sensations.
- Don’t rush! An sensual massage is not something to do speedily. Set aside at least an hour for your massage session and try not to get to the main dish (the erotic portion of the massage) until half an hour in.
- Start with your lover lying on the their front so you can work on their back, starting at their shoulders and working your way down to their feet.
- In this position the erotic hot spot is the bum and what access you can get to between their legs.
- Turn them over and start again at their shoulders, working down to their feet, by way of breasts, and then onto the pubic area.
- Whether you are massaging bum or balls, legs or labia, go slowly and repeat each stroke 10 times: use fluid, continuous and circular strokes.
- For intimate areas use silicone-based lubricant, rather than (potentially irritating ) massage oil. Silicone lubricant has the oily-feel, staying power that’s necessary for massage and it’s safe to use with condoms, should your massage turn into sex.
- Vibration relaxes muscles, so a wand massager is great for erotic massage. Massagers can be used externally all over the body to stimulate the senses – they offer powerful vibration so keep a towel handy in case you need to ‘dampen down’ the buzz on genital areas…
- Pay close attention to your lover. In sensual massage, the stiffening of the body can mean that the massage is too hard or that they’re close to orgasm. The same goes for a moan – it’s your job as the erotic masseur/se to know the difference!