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Q&A: How do I have a prostate orgasm?

Q&A: How do I have a prostate orgasm?

Hey,

I know you’re female focused but I thought you might be able to help me. I’m interested in ‘exploring’ if that’s the right word, my prostate. It’s not something I’ve done before but the idea is growing on my I guess. I’d just like some advice on where to start and what to expect?

J.

Hey J!

This week is Men’s Health Week so we’re really happy to be able to answer one for the boys.

You sound a bit hesitant but it’s great that you’re looking to explore new things and prostate play can add a new dimension to your sex life. It can make your orgasms more intense and some men can orgasm from prostate stimulation alone.

The prostate is sometimes compared to the male G-Spot and it does have quite a lot in common with the G-Spot. Like the G-Spot it swells and hardens as you become aroused which makes it easier to find.

It can be stimulated by inserting a finger or toy two or three inches inside the anus, it’s important to go slowly, use lots of lube and stop and warm up some more if you feel any pain. You should also try using a specialist anal lubricant which will be thicker and longer lasting than regular lube.

You should make sure you are already aroused before going for the prostate, and again, if it hurts you’re doing it wrong. Add more stimulation and lubrication.

It might take quite a lot of time and stimulation (and a lot of lube, remember the anus isn’t self lubricating) to get you there so be patient.

Here’s a handy guide to show you where to find your prostate:

His Prostate

 

It might be a good idea to try a specially designed prostate toys such as Rocks-Off Naughty Boy Prostate Massager. Which is slim, almost silent and perfect for beginners, it also stimulates your perineum for even more pleasure. If you’re playing with a partner you might want to try using latex gloves or finger guards, they can prevent nails from snagging and help if you’re worried about cleanliness.

Rocks Off Prostate Massager

If you’d like to find our more you might want to look at the Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, which is a veritable compendium of useful information.

If you have any questions please send them to advice@sh-womenstore.com, if you’d like advice from our sex and relationship expert Sarah Berry please include the subject line ‘Ask Sarah’.

Best Wishes,

Team Sh! xx

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity.

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How to Use a Prostate Massager

Guys have their own erotic pleasure spot called the prostate – a gland that is comparable to the female G-Spot. This spot is often referred to as the ‘male G-spot’ – although we like to call it P-spot, as this better refers to the prostate.

We meet many men & couples in-store, who are interested in exploring  prostate massage & pleasure.

Gone are the days when playing with his bum was taboo – these days it’s widely acknowledged that the entire anal area is one big pleasure zone.

And for men, the orgasmic rewards of prostate play are apparently mind-blowing. They describe it a totally different sensation, and often report their orgasm to be much more intense than the solely penis-inspired kind. Some men need / enjoy their front bits stimulating too whilst others can get off just with prostate massage.

It can be very tricky for a man to stimulate his own P-spot internally, and partners may have short fingers – leaving only one solution: get a prostate massager.

But, before you go in swinging, remember that rectal tissue is very delicate and does not self-lubricate.

 

Sh! Pure Plus £10
Sh! Pure Plus £10 – Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant

Lots of lube and lots of foreplay is essential to pleasurable prostate massage.

Make sure your partner is properly turned on before going anywhere near his bum. There’s a widely-accepted believe that anal sex essentially hurts, but this simply isn’t the case. Not using lube will hurt. Going too fast and not giving anal muscles time to relax into the sensations will hurt. Not letting your partner be fully in charge of the pace will make him tense up and that may hurt too. But, by following our advice on first time anal play, you’ll both be prepared and his body will be ready to accept pleasurable prostate play.

 

How to use a Prostate Massager

Prostate massagers have been designed to reach in and connect with the P-spot.

Keep stimulating his front parts (shaft and party bag) whilst slowly inserting the prostate massager. Go gently; a slow pace and communication is key.

Prostate massagers have a curve, which needs to be inserted very gently. A good trick is to point the curved tip towards his belly button (on the inside). This means that if he is laying on his back, you insert the prostate massager in a gently upwards curve, but if your man is on all fours, you’ll want to point it downwards…

This will ensure you follow the natural curve of the anal canal, thus eliminating any accidental pain.

Rock the massager gently back and forth – this will stimulate his P-spot. The prostate will swell and harden, and become more receptive to firmer stimulation.

If the massager offers vibration, this is the time to turn the buzz on. Start off gently – the bum is very sensitive so vibration will feel far more intense in his tush, compared to how it feels in your hand. At the point of orgasm, your man will likely feel that he’s climaxing from both ends – explosive!

 

Top 3 most popular prostate massagers, as chosen by male customers:

Naughty Boy Prostate Massager
Naughty Boy £49

Naughty Boy by British toy designers Rocks Off is our most popular prostate massager. Slimmest out of the prostate toy collection, the tip isn’t much wider than a finger. Suitable for newbies, Naughty Boy gently increases in girth, offering a slightly fuller feeling when it’s in place. The flatter part sits comfortably in the “taint” – the area between the balls and the anus. Naughty Boy comes with an upgraded 7-speed version of the popular RO-Bullet, meaning you have several speeds and patterns to experiment with.

 

 

Njoy Fun Wand
Njoy Fun Wand £72

The Njoy Fun Wand is a heavy stainless steel massager with a  long handle for easy use. You have the option of using either end, making this prostate toy very versatile. Weighty toys are incredibly sexy and usually work very well for both P-spots and G-spots and because Fun Wand is made from high-grade steel, it can be sterilized.

Use the slimmer end with three bulbs for warm-up and teasing – the opening and closing of the sphincter muscle feels so good – and try the larger bulb when you feel ready for more.

 

 

Lelo Bob Prostate Massager
Lelo Bob Prostate Massager £29

Lelo Bob is a non-vibrating prostate massager. Super-stylish and so smooth in silicone, Lelo Bob has a strong curve to ensure a full feeling and accurate P-spot pleasure. Lelo Bob is for the more advanced player; the girth can be a little intimidating if you are new to anal play.

When massaging the prostate with a toy, explore different sensations

You can slowly and gently twist the toy around, or try a rocking back and forth motion, or why not give a gently sliding in and out motion a go? Let the partner on the receiving end dictate the pace – it’s their bum, after all!

 Learn More about Prostate Pleasure

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, is THE go-to guide on learning all about the incredible orgasmic potential of this very special male pleasure spot, with advice on massage, pegging, positions, toys, building trust, communicating desires, plus illustrated tips and techniques about achieving supercharged orgasms…

Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure £11.99
Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure £11.99
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The Male G-Spot & Erotic Prostate Massage

Men have their own erotic pleasure spot, called the Prostate – a gland that is comparable to the female G-Spot

…which is why it is sometimes referred to as the male G-spot.

Erotic prostate massage is highly pleasurable for lots men. Their orgasms are often more explosive when prostate stimulation is combined with sex. Some lucky chaps can orgasm through erotic prostate massage alone!

How to find and stimulate your man’s erotic hot spot – The Prostate Gland.

The Prostate Gland / Male G-Spot
The Prostate Gland / Male G-Spot

 

Massage the male G-spot /prostate by inserting a finger covered in anal lube or special prostate massager two to three inches into his anus and stroking towards the front of his body using a ‘come here’ gesturing motion, exactly like a G-Spot stroke.

Exactly like the female G-Spot, the prostate swells and hardens as it becomes aroused, making it easier to feel.

The more turned-on your man, the more his prostate will be receptive firmer stimulation.

If you are going to add erotic prostate / male G-Spot massage to your repertoire, you’ll need to understand how sensitive & slowly the journey to prostate pleasure should be.

anal sphincter muscles
anal sphincter muscles

Inside the anus are two sets of sphincter muscles; the first can be tensed at will, but the second set constrict involuntarily.

So even he wants erotic prostate / male G-Spot massage and is trying to relax, his anus might initially appear to resist.

Patience, a slow pace and communication are essential to relaxing both sets of anal muscles and enjoying prostate / male G-Spot stimulation.

Rectal tissue is very delicate and does not self-lubricate, so always be gentle when performing erotic prostate massage.

Lots of lube is essential in every kind of anal play, including, of course prostate play!

Make sure you don’t skimp – coat his anus, fingers and toys liberally and keep reapplying.

 

Many prostate massagers are ergonomically shaped for hands-free pleasure
Many prostate massagers are ergonomically shaped for male G-Spot  pleasure

Special Prostate Massagers like the Rude Boy and the Naughty Boy are specially shaped to take in the curves of the anus and find his erotic hot spot.

Probing with a prostate massager is a great way to give you man a great erotic prostate massage without using your fingers.

 

 

Using latex gloves for erotic prostate massage is also a great way to deal with any squeamishness or nerves. They are also brilliant if you have long nails and need to protect his delicate tush from your talons.

Go Forth! Give him the erotic prostate massage of his life!

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Prostate Awareness for Pleasure and Health

We’re on a mission to raise awareness of both prostate health and prostate pleasure.

Many men don’t have all the facts on the prostate gland, and lots who do will avoid getting a checkup out of embarrassment and nervousness.

So here’s our guide to the prostate gland.

Prostate Facts

As a man ages, so does his prostate. The older it gets, the more likely it will incur some sort of ailment, or worst case scenario, prostate cancer. Now, don’t get us wrong – prostate problems can occur in younger men too, so it’s important to keep an eye on the P-spot at any age.

If you notice any of the following, it’s time to get booked in for a check-up:

– Frequent need to pee
– Getting up several times during the night to pee
– Dribbling pee
– Not being able to pee
– Pain or burning sensation when peeing
– Blood in urine or semen
– Painful ejaculation
-Frequent pain or stiffness in lower back, hips, pelvic/rectal area or upper thighs

A visit to the doctor will involve a latex glove and some lube, that can’t be helped, but it shouldn’t take long and it shouldn’t be painful.

The doctor will check for texture, any growths or abnormalities. Early detection is the aim of the game; prostate cancer grows quickly and it spreads to other parts of the body. Once the cancer has spread, treatment is much more difficult.

The good news is, awareness of where the prostate is, what it does, and its role is sex doesn’t have to be painful and medical.

Discussing the prostate is a good idea – as men learn early in life not to be too open about their bits (and especially anything bum-related!), it can be a real help to talk to a lover who’s open to discussing and exploring prostate pleasures.

Once a gent overcomes his reluctance, we hope he’ll feel more able to talk about the prostate in a health-related situation if he needs to – whether he tries prostate play and decides it’s not for him – or tries it and loves it!

What is The Prostate?

The ProstateThe prostate is a highly sensitive gland that surrounds a man’s urethra and plays a vital role in orgasm.

It can be stimulated by pressing on the perineum ( the strip of skin running between the base of his penis and his bum) or inside, through the wall of the rectum if he’s comfortable with gentle anal play.

In ALL anal play, always use lots of lube.

Start with a well-lubed finger – and latex gloves if you’re concerned about hygiene (or have long nails) – and you’ll be able to feel the gland. The prostate is about the size of a walnut, and very sensitive. Gentle stroking and ‘come-hither’ finger moves can give a powerful sensations. Some men describe the feeling as like ‘orgasms in miniature’.

Couple prostate massage with a regular orgasm, and the fireworks can be explosive!

Toys for Prostate Discovery & Pleasure

We have a whole section of prostate pleasure toys to explore and discover.

The most important advice about prostate toys, or any toys for anal play is they must be safe.

The anus is a delicate flower, so anything destined for this area must be super-smooth and seamless.

They must also have a base which allows for a good hand-grip  to prevent the toy from slipping from your fingers and scooting all the way inside.

As well as specially designed prostate massagers, butt plugs, such as Sh! Silicone Butt Plug 2 can also provide hot hands-free prostate stimulation.

We think that men who have a fun and healthy awareness of their prostate are better equipped to handle health problems if they arise – and also get to enjoy some amazing sensual pleasures…

So stock up on the lube, check out our hot range of men’s sex toys, and get Prostate Aware by exploring the having fun!

For more info on prostate health, please check out The Prostate Cancer Charity’s excellent site.