Pegging-Blog-Post

Everything you need to know about pegging before our masterclass

If you’ve never heard about pegging before, allow us to let you in on a little secret – it’s bloomin’ awesome!

For the uninitiated, pegging is when a woman penetrates a male partner’s anus with a strap-on. As a term, pegging was popularised by Dan Savage in his SavageLove column back in 2001, and it brought this sexy activity into the bedrooms of adventurous and pleasure-seeking couples all over the world.

Why would a woman want to wear a strap-on?

Pleasuring a partner with a strap-on lets you use your hands for teasing and touching other parts of your lover’s body. You can ditch boring gender roles, and taking on the role of the penetrator-slash-pleasure-giver can result in some spectacular and highly erotic play sessions for both parties. Swapping roles is hot!

Also, if you are blessed with a responsive clitoris and strong pelvic floor, you can even rock, ride and thrust your way to an orgasm whilst wearing a strap-on…

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Why would a man want something up his bum?

There are many reasons for giving pegging a go, but the pursuit of pleasure is, of course, at the top of the list. A male-bodied person has a prostate stashed away inside the rectum, and this magical walnut of a gland can offer untold pleasures when stimulated in the right way. Prostate play is intensely erotic, and orgasms are often more explosive when the P-spot is stimulated.

If you and your partner are thinking about heading down the pleasure-walk of the anal canal, there are a few things you need to think about first:

    • Communication – open, honest & ongoing.
    • Patience – slowly and gently is the only way forward when it comes to anal play.
    • Lubricant – the anus and rectum aren’t self-lubricating, so a generous dollop of anal lube is essential.
    • Building confidence – letting the receiving partner be in control ensures they only go as far and as fast as they are comfortable with, which allows you both to build up your pegging-confidence.

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Positions for Pegging

There is no magic position that can only be enjoyed when penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on. You can enjoy any and all positions that work for you both, but we recommend letting the receiver start on top. They are in full control of how much of the dildo goes inside them, at what speed, and if they just need to sit and breathe for a few moments they can do that too…

Pegging Master Class

We meet many couples interested in trying out pegging, and whilst our friendly shop team are always on hand with help and advice, you might like to know we offer fun and fully clothed strap-on & pegging masterclasses to get you started.

Our fab and pun-tastic sex educators will cover anatomy (female-bodied and male-bodied), how to choose a strap-on that’ll work for you; and they’ll also share tips & tricks to ensure your pegging sesh with your partner will be a sensual and safe experience for you both.

Here’s what you can expect when you join us for a pegging masterclass at our Pitfield Street shop:

  • A warm and friendly welcome from our knowledgeable team and like-minded guests
  • Fizz and French Fancies for all attendees
  • Advice on the best techniques to help you get started
  • Some useful tips and tricks on how to peg like a pro!
  • A professionally-led and open Q&A session
  • Recommendations on the best pegging products and a cheeky 20% discount to use on any products throughout the store after the session

So, if you fancy joining us for our next pegging masterclass, click here to find out more, send us an email here or call us on 0333 444 005 to book your space.

See you there!

 

 

Toy of the Month: Sh! Harness

Toy of the Month: Sh! Harness

This month we are celebrating an all time favourite. It’s consistently one of our best sellers and it’s not hard to see why.

It’s the Sh! Leather 2-Strap Dildo Harness

 

Our harnesses are hand crafted in our London workshop which is what ensures every piece is of the highest quality. You only have to hop over to the product page to see how many amazing reviews it gets.

The most recent of the many, many positive reviews comes from Horny Geek Girl who said:

This gorgeous deep purple 2 strap leather harness is soft as butter. The feel is beautiful; it is really soft and supple. It feels almost weightless in place. I was a bit worried about how well the ‘D’rings would hold the straps when it was in use but they worked perfectly, holding firm even with vigorous thrusting. I really liked this harness, it was very easy to tighten the straps when it was on, so it fit securely. I found it very comfortable to wear, and it didn’t chafe at all. The central straps that run between your legs sat nicely, and gave slight stimulation when I was thrusting.

Read the rest of the review on hornygeekgirl.com

It comes in a range of colours and sizes to suit all your strap on and pegging needs.

You can buy yours now for just £45.

Q&A Your Sex-Questions Answered

Q&A: How do I talk to my wife about pegging?

All Names Have Been Changed for the Purposes of Anonymity

Dear Sh!,

Looking for some advice and not sure how to submit to your advice section.

My wife and I have are both quite open minded and have a good sex life.  We have attended your Spanking and Bondage classes and enjoyed them both very much.

I would like to try pegging and potentially attend your pegging class. I don’t though know how to raise this with my wife.
Can you give any advice? Thanks for your help.

A

Hi A,

Thank you for getting in touch with us.

We’re so glad you both enjoyed our Spanking and Bedroom Bondage classes.

We know talking about anal pleasure can feel particularly tricky because it’s been shrouded in taboo for so long. But we also know, from talking to our customers,  just how many couples explore and enjoy it (lots!).

Pegging too is enjoyed by many couples (around 40% of our strap-ons are bought by straight couples and we sell a LOT of strap-ons), not for role-play or BDSM, but simply for the woman to deliver intense pleasure to her partner, which in turn gives her amazing pleasure!

So…  Getting back to your question. The good thing is that you both know us here at Sh! and so there will be no surprises when it comes to how we teach our classes and how comfortable we make it to open up the conversation and talk about sex.

Rest assured our Strap on and Pegging class is just as fun, educational and enlightening as our other classes.

Maybe suggest attending another class to your wife, as the others were so positive, and then gently reveal to her that you  would be open to trying our pegging class – she may be interested too but doesn’t know how to bring it up either!

You can use a conversation about our Strap on and Pegging class as a way to gauge how she feels. This way, there is no pressure on actively trying anything just yet and the class will be a fantastic introduction to you both.

We’d also recommend The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure which gives lots of  advice on pegging and how to communicate your desires, along with everything you need to know about the amazing, orgasmic potential male g-spot. It also covers prostate health, so every reason for you both to be interested and it could too help with opening up communication.

Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure £11.99
Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure £11.99

We hope we’ve  helped giving you some ideas on how to talk about pegging with your wife and we hope to see you in class soon!

If you have any further questions or queries, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. Please send your emails to:
advice@sh-womenstore.com.
Love,

Team Sh! xx

Beginners anal advice

How to Choose an Anal Dildo

Many peeps make the mistake of buying a butt plug, when what they really want is a dildo for anal sex.

A dildo has a regular girth (though it can be slightly flared or ribbed for pleasure), which delivers smooth anal penetration.

A butt plug has a sphincter-stop at its base, which makes it stay-put, so whilst it offers special anal pleasures, it’s not designed for sliding in-and-out moves…

Choosing an anal dildo is all about size, with width being more important than length…

Unless you are totally confident you know the perfect size for your anal dildo, it’s best to start off with a slim dildo. The width is the most important dimension to consider, as you  can always control how deep a dildo goes, but one that is too wide, will make relaxing anal musclean uphill, if not impossible battle!

The anus is a delicate flower where everything, particularly size, feels magnified. So choosing a first dildo for anal sex for is not the time to be greedy or have your eyes bigger than your bum!

The flower metaphor works perfectly for anal pleasure because the bum-hole starts out as a tight bud, but with lots of gentle and loving cultivation, slowly opens up ….  Certainly as you become turned on, you may desire more and slight ‘stretching’ might feel good,  but for most of us, whopping anal dildos are the stuff of fantasy and porn films, rather than reality. Wide dildos can, in real life, be difficult to take, even for experienced anal-players.

If you plan to use your anal dildo in a strap-on, however, you may need a longer dildo than than you think. Once a dildo is slipped into a harness, a couple of centimetres of insertable length is lost, plus tummies can get in the way…

A slightly longer anal dildo is also good for pleasuring your guy’s prostate gland.

 

Any dildo destined for your bum needs to be ‘anal-safe’

Body-safe, easy to clean & wide bases makes all Sh! silicone dildos 100% safe for anal play
Body-safe, easy to clean & wide bases makes all Sh! silicone dildos 100% safe for anal play

That’s why the wide base that is a feature on every Sh! Dildo makes it safe to use as anal dildo, as, no matter how passionate your moves become,  it cannot slip all the way inside and potentially get lost up there!

Made from 100% silicone, a Sh! dildo is non-porous, neither absorbing nor disclosing any substances  and can be completely sterilized.

Silicone is also soft and flexible. This is important in order for it to bend with the natural curves inside.

The anal canal curves about 4 inches inside, so any dildo longer than that needs to be soft enough to bend…

This is why long, hard dildos may not be comfortable for anal sex.

We make  over 40 different sizes and styles, which means we can match you with your perfect dildo; from anal beginners to anal experts and everyone in between!

All Sh! dildos can be used in a strap on harness for anal play too, and many lesbians are au fait with its pleasures.

We give advice about buying a dildo for anal play/pegging everyday in our London store and know that it is a very individual, personal choice…

Buying over the internet is much trickier, so here are the top 3 anal dildo, as chosen by customers, instore, where they can see, feel and measure-up our full range, as well as ask any us any questions about anal play.

 

Best-selling anal dildos – as chosen by our customers..

Wirly Girly 2 - our most popular anal dildo
Wirly Girly 2 – our most popular anal dildo

 

Wirly Girly 2 is our best-selling  anal dildo, particularly for beginners to anal play and pegging.

At 5.25 inch long with rounded head and supple, slim 1.1 inch shaft, which makes it flexible to bend

The ribbed shaft delivers extra sensations as it slides in-and-out,  At 5.25 inches long it has enough length to deliver satisfying strokes, without feeling overwhelming.


 

 

 

Cupid 2 Silicone Dildo £24
Cupid 2 £24

 

Cupid 2 is  another very popular shape and size  for anal-play.

The 4.5 inches long shaft is slightly tilted with rounded head for easy entry.

The curvy 1.25 inch shaft offers gentle penetrative pleasure.

Because of the upward curve of this dildo, it is great for targeted prostate massage. On their back, use it with the curve pointing upwards;  if your partner is on all fours, its best  to swivel the dildo round and use it ‘up-side-down’ , with the head of the dildo pointing downwards…

This will align with their body better, ensuring no accidental ‘bumping’ occurs.


 

 

Wirly Girly 3 Silicone Dildo (£37) Slim and ribbed for sensational anal pleasure, but with extra length for longer strokes...
Wirly Girly 3 Silicone Dildo (£37) Slim and ribbed for sensational anal pleasure, but with extra length for longer strokes…

 

Wirly Girly 3 is a good choice if you plan to wear your dildo in a harness.

At 7 inches long with a gently rounded head and supple, ribbed 1.25 inch shaft makes this a user-friendly and popular dildo for longer strokes anal play

Firm but very flexible, it follows the natural curve of the anal canal.

A little bit longer than Wirly Girly 2, it reaches deeper inside with ease.


 

 

 

Dildos for anal pegging play

More and more straight couples are also discovering the delights of pegging – the term given for when  a women straps-on a dildo to anally-pleasure her man.

In the last 10 years pegging has become increasingly popular and nowadays about 35% of the strap on dildos we sell at Sh! are sold  for pegging play.

Pegging your man, using an anal dildo, is likely to pleasure his prostate gland and give him amazing orgasms.

Any dildo can be coupled with a strap on to create the perfect pegging toy for you, so feel free to browse our silicone dildo collectionIt is always best to choose your dildo first and then add a strap-on…

For easy-off-the-shelf pegging toys, we have 2 great products;

Pegging Strap On Kit (£89): 5.25 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £5
Pegging Strap On Kit (£89): 5.25 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £5

 

Pegging Strap-On Kit  is an ideal way to start your adventures in anal pegging play.

It’s a perfectly put-together set, made up of all our best-selling toys bought for pegging.

Includes:


 

 

 

 

 

Share Pegging Dildo (£46) - A strapless dildo with a small external dildo, for harness-free harness-free, strap-on style anal play
Share Pegging Dildo (£46) – A strapless dildo with a small external dildo, for harness-free harness-free, strap-on style anal play

 

Pegging Strapless Double Dildo is designed for strap-on style sex, without the ‘do-er’ having to wear a strap-on harness.

Using a strapless dildo is something that takes practice. They are best suited for close, intimate moves, rather than wild thrusting as, without the security of a harness, the dildo has to be kept in place, just by the operator holding the larger egg-shaped dildo inside her, gripping it with her PC Muscle.

The smaller shaft ( 3.75 x 1 inch ) extends out of her and its small, slim proportions make it user-friendly for anal and pegging pleasure

 

 

Pure Plus Anal Lube (£10) Using lube is essential to ensure anal play is all pleasure, no pain...
Pure Plus Anal Lube (£10) Using lube is essential to ensure anal play is all pleasure, no pain…

Remember, It’s essential use lube in all anal play, as  this is an area that doesn’t self-lubricate, and lots of lovely lubrication is key to ensuring anal sex all pleasure, and never painful.

Here’s our advice on the best lubes for anal sex.

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Q&A: Strap on Vibrating Dildo for Pegging

Dear Sh! My girlfriend and I were wondering – would a vibrating dildo be good for us to use during strap-on pegging? Any advice you can give us would be appreciated.   Hi there,

Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50

Having a vibrating dildo (the vibrating version of our own Silicone Dildos does mean that you have the possibility of more stimulation – both for you and your lovely lady during pegging. The vibrating bullet makes the whole “shaft” of the dildo gently quiver – whilst silicone transmits vibration well, it will never be as strong as a vibrator.

This sensation is then transferred to your prostate during pegging so it’s bound to feel good

Depending on how your girlfriend positions the dildo, she can benefit from the vibration on her clitoris too during a pegging session – so winners all round! If you’ve already got a dildo and want to try out the vibrating sensations that it will bring to strap on pegging, try a detachable powerful Vibrating Cock Ring that slips over the dildo at the base to create a similar thrilling effect. We hope this answers your question and if you need any more advice, just get in touch. Best Wishes Team Sh!

pegging advice

Q&A: Pegging Dildo Too Big?

Dear Sh!

When we’re both up for pegging, my girlfriend and I enjoy using a Twista dildo in our strap-on for a bit of pegging anal play. Even though we use loads of lube and take plenty of time, I’m getting the feeling that the dildo itself is a bit long for me. I suppose that she could thrust less deeply but I must admit that we both enjoy this aspect of pegging

Are we doing anything wrong pegging wise or should we be looking for another dildo?

 

Hi there,

As you take plenty of time, use plenty of lube and really sound like you know what you’re doing – the issue is probably more with your equipment than your pegging technique.

If you enjoy the thrusting during pegging sex then why deny yourselves this pleasure?

The simple answer is to use a shorter dildo for pegging.

Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo
Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo
Hand-Made by Sh!
£31

As you will be getting most of your pleasure from the stimulation of your prostate (which is not such a long way in), the extra length you’re currently getting from the Twista dildo is probably just not doing anything (except being a bit uncomfortable).

You have obviously got used to a certain level of “girth” whilst pegging with the Twista, so you may not want to go too small or narrow.

Have a look at our dildo range and go for an alternative that is shorter.

Wirly Girly dildos are very popular for pegging

These dildos feature similar ridges that you enjoy from the Twista. Going for a WG5 or WG6 would give you maximum width, but a shorter length.

Honey dildos also have a very decent width and a curve that’s good for stimulating the prostate.

Hope this helps and if we can be of any more assistance, please do get in touch.

Best Wishes

Team Sh!

Q&A

Q&A: Pegging Advice

Dear Sh!

I’m a man who’s really interested in trying out pegging, and I’d love to come along to one of your Pegging Erotic Classes . Unfortunately, I’m living out of the UK and don’t know anywhere here I can even buy a dildo,  let alone get expert advice. Help!

 

Hi,

Thanks for getting in touch.

Pegging, where a woman dons a strap-on to anally pleasure her male lover, has become increasingly popular over the last few years – around 35% of the strap-ons we sell at Sh! are to straight couples for exactly this reason.

And we’re very glad to be witnessing this revolution! Men have a pleasure spot up heir bums, the prostate gland, that is comparable to the female G-Spot for its orgasmic capabilities.

Men are finally flinging off any inhibitions that they may have held around anal sex, and their female partners happily strapping on a dildo to help them explore the amazing sensations anal sex can hold for men.

Share Pegging Dildo £52
Fun Factory Pegging Dildo £52

Apart from the emotional pleasure of pleasing their men, this way, women can get plenty of physical stimulation from wearing a strap-on.

This can be whether it’s simply the rubbing of straps on their clitoris, using a vibrating dildo which buzzes on her clit or even by  enjoying some extra penetration herself. This can either be in the form of an extra dildo, attached to the harness by a dual tool or by using a strapless dildo such as Fun Factory Pegging Dildo.

Strapless dildos do need strong PC muscles to keep inside and can be limiting in terms of how much she can safely thrust (without it falling out!), so if your partner is as new to pegging as you are, we would recommend she starts with a good quality silicone dildo, worn in a harness.

Choosing a Dildo for Pegging

Slimmer is usually better for an anal / pegging dildo; using a strap-on anally feels very different from fingers or a butt plug.

Popular anal dildos are: Cupid Dildos (slim with sensual curves) and Wirly Girly Dildos (slim with ridges that are very stimulating to the highly sensitive anus).

The dildo may need to be longer than you think, as a couple of centimetres will be lost once it’s in a harness. A slightly longer anal dildo is also good for pleasuring the prostate gland.

Best Pegging Dildo Set

If this all sounds complicated, we’ve put together a pegging  kit which includes everything your need for your first steps to pegging pleasure; our best selling anal dildo and strap-on harness, along with lubricant and condoms.

The key things for enjoyable pegging are lots of lube and great communication. We recommend Lush Pure Plus lube for anal play – it’s thick,  gel-like and stays slick for ages so ideal for any kind of anal play.

Like pretty much every sexual activity, good communication during your pegging experience is vital to making it sexy, sensual experience you both want to go back for more…

We also suggest talking everything through beforehand with your partner – it’s a great idea to discuss what you’d both like from the experience.

 

Pegging Positions

A good pegging position for pleasuring your prostate is  you on all fours and your partner approaching from behind.

As the prostate is found about a finger-length in and to the “front wall” (ie behind the penis),  a good tip,  if  “pegging” from behind, is to turn the dildo so it’s pointing “down” in the harness, with the curve of the dildo aiming at your prostate.

Another good pegging position is for the receptive partner on his back with knees pulled up. In this position, the dildo is worn in the more usual upturned position in the strap-on for a sure-fire prostate-hit!

BTW we ship all over the world and regularly send out our famous pegging pleasure products with international postage! So now you know where you can buy yourself a dildo!

Hope this helps – please do give us a shout with any more questions.

Best Wishes

Team Sh!

Strap On Sex for Straights

Strap On Sex for Straights

Strap Ons are no longer purely Lesbian Sex Toys. Straight couples are now getting in on the strap-on action.

Advice From Scarlet Magazine Article Jan 2005

Strap-on sex for straights – are two cocks better than one?

Strap-on dildos are no longer solely the domain of lesbians: a fifth of all strap-ons are now sold to straight couples and a further 30 percent of men say they’d consider being on the receiving end of one. But what’s all the fuss about?

It seems there are two schools of thought when it comes to anal sex: there’s the up-the-bum-no-harm-done gang who regard it as just another string to their sexual bow; and then there are those who shake their heads, look aghast and swear they wouldn’t do it even if you paid them. (Hang on though – how much?)

However, times are a-changing. Despite how ridiculous this statement seems, sex does appear to go through ‘fashionable’ phases. And right now strap-ons are hot. ;P

A few years ago 98 percent of our strap-ons were sold to lesbian couples, but in the past year straight couples are becoming a significant factor in the dildo/harness market and now clock up around a fifth of all sales.

Perhaps it’s growth of the internet driving our appetites for all things sexual? There have been big changes with women and the way that their sexuality is viewed. People feel more comfortable with more fluid gender roles and identities; most sexual activities have less stigma now. And what better way to play with the other side of your sexuality than switching up who penetrates who?

There’s good physical reason to penetrate your man too; along with all those nerve endings in the anal area, around an inch or so inside the man’s rectum is his prostate gland which can be stimulated by a finger or a dildo for an earth-shattering orgasm.

What’s it really like?

Scarlet’s feisty reviewer and her fearless fella give it a go.

She says: My main concern was that things might get messy – and not in a good way. But according to online advice, it seemed unlikely that we’d wind up with grubby sheets, but best to put down a dark towel just in case and get him to have a bit of a sluice beforehand.

We decided to look online for a dildo; something that wasn’t too big and wasn’t too small.

When it arrived, I secretly tried it on in the bathroom and felt incredibly stupid. I looked like a bondage pony ready to trot at the bum sex gymkhana. I called Sh! for advice, and luckily the latest in boy-girl pleasers had just arrived, a Super Strapless Dildo, which was made of soft silicone; it was a two-part strap-on – one piece went inside me and tilted against my G-spot and the other was my ‘cock’.

Sexually this was all about him. I felt separate from him, and way too concerned with getting it right. We took it easy initially; lots of lube, a finger, then two and then I tried to penetrate him. Not easy. It kept popping out of me, wildly bending away from him and eventually it just became desperately unsexy.

After tea (him) a bit of a cry (me) and a hug (both of us), we tried again with the conventional strap on and found it easier to achieve penetration.

The best position was him on his back with me propped on my elbows in front of him. I got to thrust well from that angle and watching the depth of his orgasm was incredible. His balls actually seemed to go concave he came so hard.

If I’m honest, it was a bit of a disappointment for me; I had to “slow down, be gentle, calm down” when all I wanted to do was fuck him really hard. And it was frustrating not getting it right first time. We’ll try it again and add a few more drinks to the equation. After all, I’ll be hard no matter how much booze I have.

He says:

When she told me she wanted to actually fuck me – properly, with a strap-on, half of me was excited and the other half wanted to run and hide. I let my more adventurous side take over, and in the name of research, I gave my ass up. We started with loads of lube and her fingers inside me. This was nice until I felt her sharp nails scratching me – I asked her to be gentle, but she was in full dominant mode and didn’t pay much attention. One of the things that turned me on was the power exchange, although I found myself wishing she would come out of character for a minute.

It was difficult to find the right position, and there were many failed attempts that only discouraged me and made me feel silly and a bit humiliated. Finally, we got into a position where she could fuck me while stroking my cock. This was amazingly hot and I came in minutes.

My orgasm was one of the most intense I ever experienced, and lasted for what seemed forever. Definitely worth the trouble. I felt bad that I had come so hard and she didn’t even get wet – I want to make sure next time that she’s getting off too.

There was a slight feeling of embarrassment and worry that there would be a mess all over the sheets, but it was surprisingly clean and the only thing that needed cleaning up was all the lubricant that we used.

My overall verdict is that it was worth it, but be ready for lots of trial and error until you find your groove. Best advice is to clip all your nails, get the right toys and add plenty of lube.

Six steps to (anal) heaven

1. “Choose a strap on harness that fits you well, the snugger and more secure the better,” says award-winning author and sex educator, Tristan Taormino (Pucker Up: Dirty Secrets for Maximum Pleasure). “You should definitely try them on in a sex toy store if possible to see which works best for you. For beginners, I would recommend a smaller dildo to start out, but of course, you should find what works best for you and your partner.”

2. Silicone is the best material for toys because it is completely non-porous and therefore very easy to clean and disinfect. It’s also very resilient and conducts body heat. Latex is less resilient and more difficult to clean.

3. Remember, the rectum is not self-lubricating. Always use a good thick anal lubricant.

4. Make sure that your toy is flexible enough to manoeuvre the curves of the rectum. Very hard, rigid things (like candles, metal or wooden objects) are not a good idea for your ass, and never put any sharp objects or anything with rough or jagged edges in the rectum.

5. Make sure that you clean your toys after each use with sex toy cleaner or antibacterial soap and lots of hot water.

6. Make sure dildos, plugs and vibrating toys for anal use all have flared bases to prevent them getting stuck and never put anything in a rectum that may be difficult to retrieve unless you want to find yourself in A&E discussing your sexual habits with a very amused GP.

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Pegging: The Erotic Discovery for Straight Couples

Pegging is mighty popular!

Traditionally viewed as lesbian sex toys, nowadays over 40% of strap-on dildos that we manufacture at Sh! are bought by female/male couples.

The ProstateThe turnaround came in the noughties when men finally lost their hang-ups and discovered the pleasures of the male G-Spotaka he prostate gland.

‘Pegging’ as a term, was born from a sex advice column competition in 2001 to name the act with no name.

Back then, male sexuality was at least prescriptive as female sexuality, if not more so – men had to be the “do-ers” – the ones on top. God help a man if he enjoyed anything more than the missionary position after a few pints and a curry on a Friday night!

And if he enjoyed something up his bum, he had to start questioning his sexuality as “real men” didn’t!

For us the first whiff of change came when FHM journalist Grub Smith (and girlfriend) came to Sh!, as the manufacturer of the finest strap-ons in the land.

Best Pegging Dildo Set
Best Pegging Dildo Set £78

His girlfriend needed to be kitted out with a strap on for a blow-by-blow article he was writing about loosing his anal cherry.

We’re hazy on dates, but it was probably late 90’s, the height of the lads-mags reign.

We were expecting a “Yeah Mate. Tried it. Didn’t like it” article, but what Grub gave the world, and all the lads in it, was a pretty sensitive piece, with all his anxiety – and pleasure – faithfully recorded.

Grub’s article also smashed the widely held view that when a woman pleasures her man this way, there must be role-reversal or submission/domination involved.

Sure, some women do like to get all mistress-like when pegging, and some men enjoying playing the opposite role.

But our experience of selling 1,000 of strap-ons as a straight couples sex toy, tells us that most are simply exploring the sensual pleasures of pegging, not role-play.

Whether a toy for a lesbian sex or straight sex, if you are going to wear a dildo in a harness, as a strap-on, we always advise opting for a slightly longer dildo than you may initially think.

This extra length is essential on the out-stroke to prevent the dildo slipping out of her lover altogether.

The other pegging essential is lube. Never scrimp on your personal lubricant during any kind of anal sex as it’s vital to keeping your moves smooth and anal sex sensual and pain free.