Your guide to achieving multiple orgasms

The holy grail of the big “o” can only be one thing. Closing the orgasm gap one small step at a time, we present the multiple orgasm.

Experiencing more than one during a single sex session is something most of us strive for, but like anything, it can take a little practice.

Aching to discover the key (or the secret)?

The best way to make it in the privileged world of multiple orgasms is experimentation. It doesn’t matter if you’re on your own or with one, or more, partners, start exploring techniques and toys to find out your magic combination.

Here’s our expert guide on how to achieve multiple orgasms…we’re sure you’re going to have lots of fun trying this out at home!

Easy does it

The one way to hinder your personable expedition to euphoria is to put too much pressure on yourself. Stop thinking about your goal and start feeling the journey. At first, taking things slowly and steadily creates the mood and soothes your mind. This puts you in a better position to fully relax into your steamy sexcursion so, again, do not rush the intro.

Think about the setting in which you are going to have sex or masturbate (remember the same rules apply if you are flying solo – no cutting corners!). How do you like the lights? What about the smell? Have you made sure you won’t get interrupted? Are your favourite toys and lube at an arms-reach away? Above all, are you in a good mood? It’s all in the details…

If you’re with your partner, you could begin with a tantalising, full-body massage. Whack out the oils, the ice-cubes, the blindfolds, and the handcuffs – this is not the time to scrimp. The more sexual energy and anticipation you build, the better. Even if you don’t reach your pleasure limit again and again, then don’t despair as you’re going to have such an exceptional time you won’t even care.


Don’t be afraid to let go

For anyone who owns a vagina, one of your top attributes in any bio should read “physically able to repeatedly climax without pause”. There should be an Olympics for this! Well, maybe there shouldn’t, but if there was, you could soon be a gold-winner. Like an athlete forgets about the millions tuning in to watch them, you must truly let go of any individual hang-ups, which is why your setting and chosen partner(s) are paramount to this experience. Be aware that dutch courage is not applicable here. In other words, put down that glass of red, as alcohol will definitely not help you. It may turn you on more initially but it will not help seal the deal, especially if you want multiple “deals” to be made.

You want your first orgasm to be clitoral, because that’s generally the most sure-fire way to experience one. Remember, you have 8,000 nerve endings in that darling little clit so you need to show it some respect. Go to work on your favourite erogenous zones and build up the heat whilst doing whatever trick works for you whether you’re going manually or automatic. Don’t forget – vibrators are your friends (as is lube). Get into your favourite position with your favourite speed setting and let the sparks begin shooting up your body. You are going for gold.


Once you’ve had your fun (clitorally), you are going to begin experiencing hypersensitivity. Take the hint and move your focus internally: you are on a quest to find your G-Spot. This is the perfect time to lather on more lube and introduce a dildo or a strap-on into the mix (a penis belonging to a living, consensual partner also works). Choose your size, shape, texture, sensation (vibrating or thrusting) and find the angle that hits your sweet spot and when it does – congratulations, really, because you’ve made it! Two orgasms for the price of one: you couldn’t match that in the Aldi wine section.

The Grand Finale

Hold your horses, as it’s not over yet. You are in a state of high sexual arousal and there’s no stopping you. Listen to your lady-garden and follow your fantasy. Do you want to switch up positions again? Are you ready for more clitoral stimulation? Do you want to move things to the back door? If you’re with a partner then this is the perfect time to get in sync together for the final ride and enjoy a mutual orgasm.

Once you’re completely satisfied, lie back and relax. Let the warm, fuzzy feeling take hold and hang onto that sexual energy with a little caressing. Who knows, you might be good to go again sooner than you think…


MultiOrgasmic Blog Post

A quick guide to multiple orgasms

Anyone who’s ever experienced an orgasm knows just how ruddy marvelous they are:  Your heart races, toes curls and breathing speeds up while the feeling builds in waves all over your body until you reach the point of climax and a feeling of intense pleasure and relief washes over you…


Yes, orgasms are pretty fantastic, but have you ever wondered how it might feel to have more than one?

You might be keen to learn about how you can increase your chances of experiencing one (or more, coz let’s be honest, once you’ve had one you’ll want to do it again).

Either way, this short guide to multiple orgasms should give you all of the information that you need to know about multiple orgasms.

What are multiple orgasms? 

Bodies are amazing in that there is almost no limit to how much pleasure they can experience and the female body, in particular, is amazing in the sense that it can produce numerous orgasms in any one session (provided it gets the right stimulation).

A multiple is effectively when a woman experiences more than one orgasm during a sex play, either on her own or with a partner.

Can everyone experience them?

Like most things, multiple orgasms are different for everybody and some people are finding hard to have one orgasm, never mind several. Don’t beat yourself up over it – learning more about what your particular hots spots are, and spending a lot of time playing & teasing them, will help you closer to the first orgasm and after that, the world is your oyster!

It is common for the clitoris to become too sensitive for touch after the first climax, but we hear there are women (or female-bodied persons) who have experienced multiple orgasms after working through the period of uncomfortable over-stimulation. If you reckon you can handle it, you may have more than one treat waiting for you on the other side…

A different approach is to work with your G-spot, as this tends to be far more comfortable for continued stimulation.  Women who enjoy G-spot play are often in a far better position to become multiple orgasm:ers, as their G-spot doesn’t become overstimulated in the same way the clitoris does. In fact, the G-spot enjoys attention so much, it becomes bigger and firmer, the more you stimulate it!

How to become multi-orgasmic

We’re focusing on the female body in this blog post, but men can also become multi-orgasmic if they are into prostate play.

Once you have mastered the art of one orgasm – or maybe two – you can kick it up a notch and try for a third.

Having the first orgasms by clitoral stimulation (any way you like it: tongue, fingers or toys), before moving on to a blended orgasm is a good middle. A blended orgasm is clitoral & G-spot stimulation at the same time (you’ll need fingers, G-spot toys or a penis for the internal stimulation).

Once you have mastered the blended orgasm, it’s time to practice G-spot orgasms only. For this, you need to be super-turned on, and tease yourself for up to an hour without allowing an orgasm to happen, Take yourself almost there, and then back off, go back up the peak, and then back off… This technique is called edging and works wonders if you want to increase the intensity of your orgasm.

Once you have mastered this (we know, it’s a lot of “homework” involved!), it’s time for the multiple…


After the first G-spot or blended orgasm, give yourself a few seconds before resuming firm stimulation of your G-spot area. Glass toys or steel dildos are particularly good for this, but any G-spot toy should be able to provide the stimulation needed.  Once you’ve had a second orgasm, give yourself another few seconds to rest and then carry on…





How to find and pleasure the G-Spot

How to find and pleasure the G-Spot

Ah, the G-spot. The rare and unrivalled superstar of female orgasms. So special and precious that some even doubt its very existence! But after all our years of experience in advising women on the discovery of their ‘happy place’, at Sh! we definitely know better!

So, maybe you’ve been fantasising about the ultimate in penetrative sensation, or you’ve just heard your friends talking about how amazing G-spot stimulation and orgasms are, but you’re still struggling to hit your peak or maybe even find your G-spot!

Never fear! We’ve put together a short guide to shed some light on the ins and out of your G-spot, how you find it and the moves you need to be making for maximum satisfaction. Maybe you’ll discover it’s not so elusive after all…

How to find your G-spot

Finding your G-spot takes a lil’ bit of time and exploration, but baby the journey is the destination! Don’t put pressure on yourself if you can’t find the Holy Grail straight away, relax and enjoy the sensations of exploring. Getting to know your own body and being comfortable is key to understanding your own ‘process’ when it comes to reaching orgasm. There are no wrong answers here so feel free to move along as quick or as achingly slow as you desire! The beauty is, the G-spot ‘wakes up’ with arousal and will become easier to find the more you’re enjoying yourself.

It’s often best to begin your exploration simple, with fingers and lube. This can be fun with a partner you trust and communicate with well, but it’s often best to start your research alone and at your own pace. This way you’ll have some idea of the sensations, how they make you feel and what to expect – meaning you’ll have a more confident and fulfilling time with a partner and your G-spot further down the line! Make sure your fingers are clean and your nails are free from dirt and snags for a far more pleasant experience.

The G-spot area is located on the front wall of the vagina, about half-a-finger inside and up. You’ll find your fingers will naturally follow the inner slope of your body, but as a guide curving them upwards towards your belly button will give you a better angle. Often, new explorers make the mistake of delving a little too deeply – blame mainstream porn and the idea that ‘bigger/deeper is better’ – the sacred pearl of the G-spot is often not as far within as you’d expect! We wish we could draw you a map to the exact spot, but here every woman is unique, and like we said you’re bound to have fun figuring out what works best for you!

The G-spot is actually erectile tissue that swells and becomes firm as you become aroused, ready for stimulation.  As you feel around, try and find a cluster of tissue that is slightly more hard and bumpy than the typically smooth surface of your vaginal walls. You should notice a gently significant change in sensation. Feeling that? Bingo! You’ve just found your G-spot!

Remember as we mentioned, we are all different and unique goddesses! Your G-spot may be higher up inside or could be larger in size (easier to find! Lucky you!). G-spots can vary from the size of pea to a walnut – all are completely normal, natural and loaded with the potential to send you into orbit!

Can’t quite find it? Don’t give up hope! Orgasms take time to build and the G-spot itself can take a while to respond. Up your chances by seeing to it that you’re nicely relaxed and incredibly aroused. Give yourself lots of attention and you’re sure to have a great time practising. Still no luck? Just try again another time. Women of all ages frequently visit Sh! to tell us they’ve just discovered their new super power! It’s really never too late.

All this being said, it’s true that G-spot stimulation just doesn’t cut it for some ladies. This is completely fine! There are plenty of other types of stimulation out there. But you’d be doing your wonderful body a disservice if you didn’t at least give it a try.

Increasing sensation alone or with a partner

So now you’ve found your special spot, it’s time to experiment with it and find out how it likes to be stimulated. Oh yes, now the fun REALLY begins! You might choose to do this alone or with a partner, but either way there is a special technique that you can use that has been shown to work for a lot of lucky G-spot owners:

Work your finger (or fingers if you prefer more than one) in bit by bit and massage the G-spot firmly. Remember to use plenty of lube in order to keep your movements smooth and deliciously swooping. You want to get your fingers into a curled position and use them to massage the wall of your vagina in a ‘come-hither’ motion (also known as your ‘new favourite’). It can be tiring to do this on your own, so a G-spot toy can be helpful. Yes, this technique is so legendary that toys have been crafted to replicate its exact movement. For ease, it’ll have a handle to hold and a tip that curves upwards towards your hot-spot.


If you’re experimenting with a partner, try lifting your knees towards your chest, which will give them better access for finding your G-spot and allow you to simply lie back and enjoy. Rather than having them thrust their fingers in and out vigorously, ask them to firmly massage the area instead – we call this ‘juicing the G-spot’,  and from here the view is so spectacular that your partner might enjoy it just as much as you do. (Almost!)

Best positions for G-spot stimulation

Now you’ve got to grips with things and know whereabouts your G-spot is located, it’s time to ramp things up and work on using different positions to keep hitting your pleasure spot and maybe even achieve some toe-curling orgasms!

Doggy style is a great position for G-spot stimulation and is also perfect if you enjoy the feeling of being dominated. Being on all fours with your back arched ensures your G-spot is receiving maximum attention. A lot of women also find that riding ‘on-top’, cowgirl style is key to a penetrative orgasm, as from here you control the pace and the spot that gets hit! For that intensely intimate eye-contact with your partner, try lying on your back with your legs in the air as they penetrate you. Ride that rocket ship into orbit baby!

WIN Abby G

WIN a Fun Factory Abby G Vibrator Worth £70!

We have a fantastic giveaway for you this month: Abby G – a shapely G-spot vibrator in vibrant turquoise worth £70!

Designed by Fun Factory in Germany, Abby G  is stylish, strong and so much fun to play with.

This stunning vibe is a delight not only for the eyes, but for the G-spot too; pronounced ridges along the shaft and a curvaceous tip offer sensational pleasure!

The G-spot often responds better to deep vibrations and Abby G boasts a deeply rumbling motor for better orgasms.

Fully waterproof and with a 2-year guarantee, Abby G is a winner in our eyes!
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The Low-Down on Abby G

This clever vibrator takes regular batteries or rechargeable batteries (and knows the difference between them), and can even be upgraded to a rechargeable toy with the addition of a Hybrid Kit!

Abby G offers 4 speeds and 6 pleasure patterns, all easily controlled with one hand only. The FUN button located on top of the battery compartment functions as the ON/OFF switch and the + (plus) &  – (minus) buttons scrolls through the various speeds and pattern.

Like many other Fun Factory vibrators, Abby G features a travel lock which is handy for storing too.

Made from body-safe silicone, Abby G is easy to keep clean with a spritz of toy cleaner or a wash with anti-back handwash and warm water.

Good Luck!

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Glass Dildos in Bucket of Ice

Glass Dildos For Beginners

Few will disagree when we say glass dildos are stunningly beautiful, but many will wince and imagine a number of of glass-related accidents in the sensitive nether regions. Let’s shatter (sorry!) that mental pic right now. Your PC muscle may be strong enough to squeeze the juice out of a lemon (don’t try it) but it is not strong enough to break a glass dildo, we promise.

A vagina is mighty impressive, but there are some things it just cannot do. Like snap a Pyrex or toughened glass dildo in half. Glass dildos are solid, like oven dishes, so it’s safe to relax and read on.

Glass dildos are firm, and this firmness can feel magical – especially if you enjoy G-spot play. We recommend starting off with this simple move: lube up the dildo, and slide in only a small portion. Leave the dildo in place, and rhythmically squeeze around it. Your body will tell you when it is ready for more.

Glass Dildos are Versatile Sex Toys

Glass dildos are commonly designed with two different ends, giving you the option of enjoying different sensations depending on which end you choose to play with. The Sh! Glass Double Dildo in purple is an excellent example of this.


This dil features a pronounced ‘head’ on one end and ball-shaped bead at the other. Both are ideal for delivering the targeted massage and circular ‘juicing’ movements that both the G-Spot and prostate respond to, whilst the lengthy shaft ensures easy handling.

Sensual curves flow along the body of the Sh! Double Dildo, treating you to sweet sensations as the vagina opens and closes around the ripples.

Glass Dildos are Simply Beautiful

The first thing that strikes customers are the beautiful designs of glass dildos – they are works of art!

The Flower Glass Dildo is super cute with a small flower set in one end. The shaft offers deliciously raised dots for internal stimulation and you can, of course, use either end depending on your mood.

The gentle curve of the shaft is good for anyone new to glass toys, as it follows the natural inside curve of the vagina.


Ice Ice Baby

Unless you love intense heat (and some do), keeping cool during the recent heatwave has probably been a priority. Cool showers, iced drinks and fans are the most common go-to solutions but what if there were more fun ways of keeping the internal temperature down?

Good news peeps, there is!

Glass dildos are fantastic for temperature play, as we shall explain next…

Glass Dildos On Ice

Leaving a glass dildo in the fridge for 30 minutes before play time will chill it down nicely. The thought may send shivers down your spine – but as long as they are by the promise of sexy play, it’s all good. Slowly stroking a chilled dil down your hot body feels heavenly on a scorching day.

Running the dildo under cold water is another great idea. It cools down quickly and you’ll get the added tease of waterdrops slowly making their way down your naked body – incredibly visual if you’re playing with a partner…

We wouldn’t recommend popping a dildo in the freezer – the glass, if thoroughly frozen, could attach to your bits and there is absolutely nothing sensual about that.

A gentler way of exploring temperature play is to leave your bottle of lube in the fridge. That way you can add one or two drops at a time and see how you feel about the coolness before going the whole hog and feasting on a chill-dil.

Let’s take a closer look at some of our most popular glass dildos.

Glass Dildo with beaded shaft (£37)

Sh! G-spot Glass Dildo is as popular with customers as it is with staff.  At only 1 inch in diameter, this dildo is slim but curvaceous, perfect if you don’t enjoy toys that are too girthy.

Its ergonomically curved tip is designed to press against and help stimulate your G-Spot, but is also well-suited to prostate massage.

If you are interested in exploring female ejaculation & squirting, this well-designed dildo can certainly help you on your way. The G-spot reacts better to firm stimulation than the soft pitter-patter of finger tips, and the weightiness of glass dildos deliver this in spades!

As with all sex toys, we recommending adding a drizzle of lube for comfortable play and enhanced sensations. As glass is non-porous, any lubricant can be used. Adding a few drops quickly turns your dildo into a slippery, sensual sex siren.

sh_-ripple-small-pink-glass-dildoSh! Small Ripple Glass Dildo is a good option if you feel the length of some of the dildos seem a little intimating. As we all know, it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean…

Subtle beads ripple along the shaft of this cutie, and the large loop handle at the end ensures it is perfectly safe for anal play too.

It’s worth noting that whilst a more petite size, Sh! Ripple Dildo isn’t suited for newbie anal play – it is better suited for more experienced back-door players.

Sh! Double Glass Dildo offers two very different types of pleasure. One end is smooth and sleek, perfect for stroking in and out. The other end has been designed for contrasting sensations, with raised dots delivering intense pleasure. Slather the dots in your favourite lubricant and it may well become a new toy-box favourite!


How To Keep Glass Dildos Clean

Glass dildos are hypoallergenic and non-porous, meaning that all lube & juices stay on the surface of the toy. This makes them easy-peasy to clean!

A spritz of sex toy cleaner, or washing with antibacterial hand wash and hot water is all that’s needed to keep your dil spick&span.

How to Squirt; Separating the Myths from Reality.

How to Squirt; Separating the Myths from Reality.

During the process of writing this post we have researched as much as possible about the topic to give a constructive and informed opinion. What we have found is that the little scientific research that has been conducted on female ejaculation is highly contradictory and really inconclusive. Scientists keep arguing, speculating or drawing conclusions based on extremely small case studies (i.e. the French study on female ejaculation  is based on the experiences of only 7 women!).

We are not scientists and whilst there are truly still many ‘myths’ left to solve, here’s what we can gather.

Firstly, let’s clear the air.

Squirting is NOT a must. Porn has created a culture of unrealistic gushing and moaning; of women screaming to the top of their lungs and squirting bucketfuls to their heart’s content.
noa_contents_deep_roseLife disclosure: You can have amazing, mind-blowing sex, not squirt and it will still be amazing, mind-blowing sex. Multi and blended orgasms, BDSM, bum-fun, sexy massages, toys of all shapes and sizes or just good ol’ loving sex are just some of the things you can do to widen your sex experiences and sexuality. Squirting is fantastic because it comes with G-Spot orgasms, releasing more or less fluid is actually just a side-effect!

So before we enter the slippery slope of squirting – breathe and take that stress off your and/or your partner’s shoulders.

So, what is Squirting?

Squirting is the release of fluid coming out of the urethra during orgasm. The quantities may vary from person to person and there is no wrong answer to how much fluid one must release to be considered squirting.
What is this magical fluid you may ask? Well, here’s where it get’s tricky and where there is no definite answer. *cough…sexism…cough*
The ‘main ingredients’ seem to vary between these two:
1. Alkaline liquid from the Skene’s glands (which is the female equivalent of the prostate) made of similar components of those produced by the male prostate, along with glucose and fructose.
2. Traces of urine

The quantity of how much of these two are in this fluid has rattled many cages and it is still inconclusive *cough…sexism…cough*. But honestly…so what if it is made of urine? Understand that whatever it is made of, it is a natural way of the body to respond to stimulation.  So as long as you are having safe, consensual sex… just enjoy it! If you are having trouble with your partner due to embarrassment, this is the time to reclaim that empowerment.

Sex is messy and fun and that is just fine! 😀

Then… what is that other fluid I release when I have sex? Is that Squirting?

Those of us with female reproductive organs release many-a-fluids when playing with ourselves, a fun-buddy or partner. One of them is natural lubrication when aroused – the more arousal, the more lubrication. So if you feel you are releasing a lot of fluids, odds are your body is just having tons of fun lubricating itself. You can however feel very aroused and not lubricate – that’s also fine!IMG_5499
There are all kinds of lubes to help, we recommend our water-based lube, odourless and tasteless it is a perfect gal pal if you want some extra lubrication.

Will I be ever able to squirt?

There is no one secret way of making someone squirt. We all have different bodies that may require different attention. And, as always, your mental state (whether just had a bad day and are very stressed or very relaxed) also plays a big part in your sexual experience.

There is also a lot of debate on whether all or only some women can squirt: so if squirting is like riding a bicycle or being able to touch your nose with your tongue. And again, many may debates and no real conclusion (*cough…you-know-how-it-goes…cough*), but if you want to know whether you can squirt there is only one way to figure it out – and it’s loads of fun.

How to squirt

With that in mind, there is a correlation between the G-Spot and squirting. gspot-300x258The G-Spot is located close to the entrance of the vagina, about half a finger in and up on the front wall. Have a feel with a lubed-up finger – the ridged area is the G-spot. Some are harder to locate than others, so if you don’t find yours in a jiff don’t stress, it might take some exploring. The G-Spot also swells when you are aroused, so that might also be a good time to try and find it, this time it will feel like a spongy lump. Found it? Smashing!

The G-Spot needs a lot of stimulation, and exercising your PC muscle or “kegels” will help in sensitising your G-Spot and having stronger penetrative orgasms.

Here’s when the love balls come in (pun intended). These are small body-safe and usually silicon-made balls to insert into your vagina. They are made to be easily inserted and removed, so not to worry about ‘losing them’. Try stopping your pee half way when you are urinating: that “pulling up” movement is done by your PC muscle.
sh-love-ballsSh! love balls are hypoallergenic and contain no latex or phthalates, they are non-porous and super easy to clean, but the Fun Factory Smartballs Uno or Duo Geisha Love Balls also have 5 star reviews from customers, so take your pick 😉 One you have them inside you just repeat that “pulling up” movement. You can start slow trying it out a few times and raise the number of “pulling up” movement as you progress.

rocks-off-rock-chick-miniNow, to the G-Spot. Reaching to it can be tricky if you are alone, in which case using a sex toy is helpful. For first timers, the Rocks-Off Rock Chick Mini vibe is affordable, powerful and it doesn’t forget about the wondrous clit! Once you’ve located it, regardless if you’re using a sex toy or fingers a classic tip is to try a “come hither” motion.

If you’re more of an expert and want to get to the next level, the Demona Wave Vibe is the best friend of toy reviewers Candy Snatch and Miss Jezzebella as well as our own sex toy tester.

Try it by yourself or a partner and whatever happens, relax and enjoy a wet Valentine’s 😀



How to use a g-Spot Vibrator

Q&A: How Do I Use a G-spot Vibrator?

So I bought a g spot vibrator but umm I don’t know how to use it, how far inside should it go, because it can not go inside… like less than a quarter of if can, and it hurts, so I give up and uhg, i really want to use it but its painful and hence i think im using it wrong. thank you and i’m sorry for this REALLY awkward question, wait i haven’t asked my question, sorry, how do you use a g spot vibrator?

Hello there,

Many thanks for your email.

We are a little concerned about the vaginal pain – we’d recommend getting that seen to, first of all. It might not be anything serious at all – perhaps a little tear in the delicate membranes – but any and all muff-pain should always be checked out by a professional.

A little bit of knowledge on the G-spot itself is a good place to start.

G-Spot picture

The G-spot is located close to the entrance of the vagina, about half a finger in and up on the front wall. Have a feel with a lubed-up finger – the ridged area is the G-spot.

Always use a good lube for all sex play, including when experimenting with using G-spot vibrators. Add lube to fingers, toy and muffkin – you might find this makes a huge difference.

Are you comfortable with other kinds of penetration, i.e with fingers and/or penises? It is possible that the girth of the toy is wrong for you – a toy that is too big will be uncomfortable. An intact hymen could also make things a little painful.

It’s important to be fully aroused before going G-spotting. The G-spot grows with arousal, making it easier to find and stimulate. Inserting a toy into a body that isn’t yet ready for it can make the experience uncomfortable and painful – not good.

demona-wave-vibratorA toy designed for G-spot pleasure doesn’t have to go very far in to be able to stimulate the right area. The important part of the design is that the toy has a bump or an upwards curve on the tip  – this bump or curve is the part that can work magic. A G-spot orgasm takes time but is worth the extra effort. 😉

We recommend “juicing the G-spot” – firm, circular motions on the area. Make sure you’ve emptied the bladder beforehand so you can just relax and enjoy the sensations.

Good luck!

Love, Team Sh! xx

If you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at advice@sh-womenstore.com and we’ll answer you privately.

We may also share Q&A’s so others may benefit, but if we do it will always be anonymous, with nothing left in to identify you – promise!


Sex Toy Review: Demona Wave Vibe

It fell on me to take Demona Wave Vibrator home for a test drive – it’s a hard job, but someone’s gotta do it, right? To be fair, I didn’t have much on and it seemed like a fun way of spending an evening.

Little did I know…

First things first: Demona Wave is USB rechargeable which is handy, especially if you like to charge your sex toys as you are working. Multitasking is a buzzword these days, and we all like to save time. Just plug the vibe in to a laptop or PC – easy! So full marks for that.

Material: Demona is covered in soft, strokeable silicone which is hypoallergenic, non-porous and a pip to keep clean. A good wash with antibacterial hand-wash and hot water is all it takes to keep Demon clean and germ-free. Again, full marks.

How can you put a price on an orgasm?

Style: Luxurious, definitely. But at a better price. At £86 (at point of writing), Demona Wave is much purse-friendlier that similar toys from Lelo, for example. I didn’t actually pay for this toy (nor did I steal it, in case you are wondering). No, it was given to me in exchange for a fair review. Still, £86 is very fair for what you are getting and I would pay full price for this vibrator.

Volume: Demona Wave packs a punch – a triple-whammy of pleasure – and for that, I can forgive the noise-factor.  The wave-motion does cause a whirr, there is no way around that. (Well, actually, there is a way around that: turn up the music or TV if you have thin walls or the noise irritates you.) It’s not too bad though: it’s not the noisiest toy I own, but nor is it the quietest. I doesn’t bother me too much, but I’m deducting a point for volume.

Design: Ergonomically curved and well-designed, Demona Wave follows the internal curve of a woman’s body. The shaft lays flat against the G-spot, and if you don’t believe in the G-spot, this vibrator might just change your mind… More about that later.

In use: The handle rests comfortably in your hand, and the 3-button interface is easy to use with only one hand.

I think this toy needs to be renamed; Demona doesn’t to it justice. It should be called ‘Nora’, as in “Bloody Nora!”


Being a dual stimulator, Demona has a shaft for internal pleasure, but also a small, soft clitoral stimulator that reaches over to tease the clitoris. It’s flexible, meaning it can be positioned where you want it for best stimulation. 8 different modes offer plenty of variety to suit all tastes. Personally I’m a bit too lazy to spend hours experimenting – I’m much likelier to opt for the setting I know will work wonders every single time.

If you choose to use Demona  as a standard vibrator without the wave-motion activated, you’ll find that the firm shaft presses against the G-spot area and deliver a deep, rumbly buzz that feels fantastic.

If you enjoy vibes that shake you to the bones, you got it!

Activate the wave-motion and you have a whole new party on your hands and in your pants: the shaft moves and presses against the G-spot area in slow, deliberate strokes. A friend said she thought the come-hither strokes looked far too slow to offer pleasure, but I disagree. The slowness gives you a chance to focus on each movement, inching you closer and closer to what you just know will be a crazy intense orgasm. Bliss!

If you are new to G-spot play and G-spot orgasms, this slow wave motion is a good way of finding out how it all works.  Clench your pelvic floor muscle in time with the internal waves and you might find yourself cresting much sooner than expected…

On first use, Demona Wave Vibe caused female ejaculation to happen – completely unexpected but much enjoyed!

As a non-regular ejaculator, this was a fun bonus that threw me a little bit. So, a word of warning – it could happen to you too. 😉

All in all, Demona quickly became one of my all-time favourite vibrators and comes highly recommended by my muffkin.

*Always use a good waterbased lube like Sh! Pure when using Demona Wave Vibrator.



Toy of the Month: The Sh! Swell Vibrator

Toy of the Month: The Sh! Swell Vibrator

So toy of the month is going to be a new regular feature, bringing you all the best, newest and shiniest toys.

And if there’s a particular toy that you think we should be talking about please tell us in the comments.

This month our chosen toy of toys is the Sh! Swell Vibe. You might be thinking that it’s not the most exciting option, what about the Embrace with it’s massaging clit tickler? Or the Picobong Diver Egg with it’s clever app that lets you hook up your vibrator to your favourite beats?


Well those are good and interesting toys, maybe another month they will be here in all their technologically advanced glory. But what swung it for the Swell this month was a positively glowing review from the lovely Emmeline Peaches.  She says, and we quote:

“If you’re looking for a G-spotting toy which can be used externally, crave deep, rumbly, powerful vibrations, and want a luxury toy with all the perks then the Sh! Swell Vibrator may just be the best £45 investment that you’ll ever make.

I’m not joking around here. This toy deserves a direct appraisal because the toy itself gets straight to the point. It’s a practical piece of kit that delivers an impressive amount of power which literally made me say ‘holy shit’ the first time I turned it on and realized just how throbbing and rumbly its vibrations were. This sense of awe only grew as I ramped up the speeds and I knew right there and then that this vibrator was special.”

We’d agree that the Swell is a bit of a bargain at only £45, for a fully waterproof, rechargeable toy.

So there you are, if you’re looking for a G-Spot toy that delivers a surprising punch this is our top pick. Buy yours now!

Have fun trying it for yourself and see you next month!

The A – U of Orgasms; A-Spots, U-Spots, G-Spots and more…

The A – U of Orgasms; A-Spots, U-Spots, G-Spots and more…

So it’s not quite a full alphabet but this is your complete guide to everything from your A-Spot to your U-Spot, taking in the clitoris, G-Spot and Nipple Orgasms on the way…

The A-Spot

What is it?

The A-Spot (aka ‘anterior fornix erogenous zone’/ ‘AFE zone ‘ ) is a located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper  wall, above your cervix, where the vagina begins to curve upwards.  That’s where the name comes from it’s your ‘anterior erogenous zone’. It’s been described as the ‘female degenerated prostate’ whatever exactly that means, but just think of it as a fun spot to explore. So basically it is right at the back of your vagina, beyond the G-Spt and above the cervix entrance. To explore, draw your legs in all the way and feel around a little, when you touch this spot you may feel an instant increase in lubrication along with possible  intense pleasure and contractions.

What do I do with it?

When touched the A-Spot can generate instant wetness, a session of A-Spot play can produce an orgasm that’s very similar to a G-Spot orgasm. If you have any problems with vaginal dryness this might be one to cultivate, as repeated stimulation is said to increase your levels of natural lubrication.

Toy of choice:

Because of where it’s situated the A-Spot can be a little hard to reach, unless you have long fingers. So we’d recommend using a long toy like this Swell vibrator (recently and enthusiastically reviewed by the lovely Emmeline Peaches). Try sitting with your legs pulled up against your body for maximum reach and full pleasure.


The Clitoris

What is it?

Well we hope you know what your clitoris is but if you’re not quite sure here’s a quick catch up. The clitoris is your most sensitive erogenous zone, it sits underneath your clitoral hood at the top of the labia, but the clitoris is a bit like an iceberg, it also extends below the surface. The clitoris is made up of erectile tissue so it will swell when you’re aroused.

What do I do with it?

Whatever you like! You can stimulate your clit with your fingers, a vibrator or a willing partner. If you’re new to clitoral stimulation we’d suggest exploring with a finger and some lubricant to gauge what you enjoy. Some people prefer direct stimulation, whilst others find that off-putting or even de-sensitising  and prefer stimulation to the sides of the clit. Everyone will have different preferences and that will affect which toy is right for you.

Toy of Choice

Vibrators can be one of the easiest ways to achieve a clitoral orgasm and, in general, vibrators with a ”higher pitched” vibration make for better clitoral toys and those with a lower, heavier, deeper vibration are better for penetration.

If you’re not keen on direct stimulation, a rabbit vibrator that stimulates the sides of your clit and has a range of vibrations to explore could be a good choice. If you have difficulty achieving clitoral orgasms you might want to try a wand massager; a study in 2008 found that over 93% of a group of 500 women who struggled to orgasm achieved The Big O with a Wand and the Betty Dodson Method.



The G-Spot

What is it?

Your G-Spot is probably the second most well known erogenous zone. It’s located a couple of inches inside your vagina on the anterior wall, so towards the front. If you feel around with a lubricated finger you should be able to locate a small patch that feels different in texture, slightly rougher than the smooth walls around it. It doesn’t feel like much now but once it’s swollen with arousal the G-Spot can deliver powerful orgasms.

What do I do with it?

We’d recommend being thoroughly aroused before you go near your G-Spot. Take as much time as you need to make sure you are thoroughly warmed up, you might also want to take a bathroom break before you settle down for some G-Spot exploration.

The same nerves that sends G-Spot sensations to the brain also sends messages from the bladder. For many women a G-Spot orgasm is accompanied by a pleasurable gush of liquid; sometimes enough to hit walls and soak the bed! This is called female ejaculation or ‘squirting’ and is not the same as urinating so don’t worry. But for peace of mind you might want to put a towel down and nip to the loo beforehand.

The G-Spot responds best to firm pressure, you can try applying pressure with two fingers or a toy. If you’re using your fingers try a firm ‘come here’ motion, you might want to try squatting or all fours, play around until you find a comfortable position. As always, remember to use lots of lube.

The G-Spot can also be a source of multiple orgasms, keep stimulating the G-Spot through your orgasm, then take a short, 20 second break, and resume stimulation. However, G-Spot orgasms can be hard work so, patience is key.

Toy of choice:

There are plenty of toys designed to stimulate your G-Spot, like a G-Spot Vibrator or to provide G-Spot and clitoral stimulation for the best of both worlds and maybe a ‘blended orgasm’. Something firm like a glass dildo can also work very well for the steady stimulation needed to achieve a G-Spot orgasm.


Nipple Orgasms

What are they?

Apparently Nipple orgasms are the most common type of orgasm after clitoral, which might come (no pun intended) as a surprise, considering that the G-Spot orgasm is more widely known. Your nipples are jam packed with nerve endings, even if you don’t experience nipple orgasms this is another erogenous zone you can explore and enjoy.

What do I do with them?

This is another one that’s wide open. It’s up to you! Do what feels good is the mantra of today (and every day, especially National Orgasm Day).

A good way to demonstrate what kind of stimulation you enjoy can be to try it out on a partner, squeezing, stroking, nibbling or licking can all feel good. Oral stimulation might be the best way to experiment with your nipples orgasmic capabilities, starting with a light touch and moving up to firm sucking. Other than that, play, explore, enjoy!

Toy of Choice

It’s  not all nipple clamps, there are all kinds of teasing sensations to savor. If you would like to explore nipple clamps you could try a vibrating option with just a soft pinch, enough to awaken never endings and start building sensations.

You could also try nipple suckers for some gentle but exciting stimulation. Cups softly attach around the nipple and areolas for a subtle sucking sensation.


The U-Spot

What is it?

This is another erogenous zone that you might not know much about. The U-Spot is located at the opening of the Urethra, that’s where the name comes from. Your urethra is where your pee comes out of. It’s located between your vaginal opening and the clitoris, towards the top. As always, get out some lube and have a feel around, this little spot fills with blood when you become aroused making it very sensitive to stimulation. It’s connected to a group of glands ‘Skene’s Glands’ that are thought to be similar to the male prostate and might be the source of ‘female ejaculation’, but more research is needed before we can say for sure.

What do I do with it?

Try exploring the area around your urethra with a lubed finger or a wet tongue. Stick to slow, delicate touches and find what feels good.

Toy of choice:

Here the best toy is a willing partner! The U-Spot responds best to a warm wet tongue although feel free to experiment with the content of your toy box and let us know the results!