I recently lost my virginity to a guy that I absolutely trust and am very attracted to. He was able to make me cum using his hands, but sex was incredibly painful for me. He isn’t particularly big but I’m pretty sure he caused some tearing as well (I bled a lot, although I think … Continue reading Q&A: Did sex hurt because I’m not attracted enough to men?
I’m still a virgin at 26. I have had bad experiences with sex before. Previously I’ve been burnt with guys but now I’ve found someone I really care about and have feeling for but I’m just scared of sex. I’m scared people I care about will just use me for sex and in some ways … Continue reading Q&A: I’m not sure if I want to have sex?
If you’re a beginner, living with other people, or looking for a toy for your travels then you might want something a little more disceet than a 9 inch dildo. So this week we’re looking at toys that say Sh! Yes that was a bad pun. Take this week’s quiz or scroll down to see … Continue reading Discreet Sex Toys
Dear Sh! I’ve been trying to lose my virginity but I can’t. We have tried so many times but I always stop him before he goes in all the way because I can’t handle the pain. He says that I am very tight, I do get very wet, but then this happens and I get … Continue reading Q&A: Help! I can’t have penetrative sex
A few weeks ago we ran a letter from a woman who was looking to explore toys after sexual trauma. We gave our thoughts but we also wanted to get an expert opinions from Sarah Berry, our sex and relationship specialist. Hi Sarah I wonder if you could advise me or whether this is outside your … Continue reading Q&A – Ask Sarah – Sex Toys after Sexual Trauma
My daughter has been asking about getting her first dildo or vibrator. She is 13 and very mature intellectually, and I guess she is physically developing now as well. What would you advise? I’m happy that she came to me but I’m not sure what I think about this. I know I started experimenting around … Continue reading Q&A: Should I buy my daughter a sex toy?
Hi, I have been happily married for 37 years but am currently undergoing couples sexual counselling. I am 58 yrs old, have only had one sexual partner and have never used any sex toys or vibrators. I have not had sex for 8-9 yrs and my counsellor has suggested that using a vibrator might be … Continue reading Q&A: Help, I haven’t had sex in 8 years and now I want to try a vibrator.
All names are changed for the purposes of anonymity. Hi Sh! I wonder if you could advise me or whether this is outside your advice area. I have never bought a vibrator or any sex toy as my first relationship was with a very controlling, abusive man who even thought touching yourself was cheating (me, … Continue reading Q&A: How do I get past my sexual trauma?
Buying your first strap on, especially when both partners are total beginners and have never tried strap-on play before, can be mind-boggling, we know. Just like buying your first anything, when you’re making your first steps into strap-on sex, you have NO IDEA what to look for in the first model! ( to research browse through our strap on advice & … Continue reading Beginners Guide to Buying Your First Strap On
Whether a sex toy specially designed for couples, a simple vibrator or something more ‘adventurous’ like an anal or kinky toy, introducing the idea of playing with a sex toy together can be a daunting experience if you are unsure how your partner may take to the idea. But there’s every reason to preserve. … Continue reading How To Introduce a Sex Toy into Your Relationship