Q&A: What toy will work in combination with a strap-on?

Hi, we are a lesbian couple looking for a vibrator that can be used with a harness to allow for some vigorous thrusting. We have a double dildo harness and the receiver is very happy with the dildo we have but the harness wearer wants to have a vibrator with clitoral stimulater. We have tried various things but they do have a tendency to drop out at the wrong moment. Any suggestions of dildos or vibrators or mix and match that might work? Thanks!

Hey there,

Thanks so much for your email!

We’re not sure what you’ve already tried, but we have several options for you to consider.

We know you’re happy with your existing dildo, but if you’re open to buying another, you might consider something like a vibrating dildo. All our Sh! vibrating dildos have a perfect space for a Sh! vibrating bullet to slot into the base and fit flush with the heart-shaped base of the toy. This makes them super friendly for strap-on users. They are also handmade in our London workshop, so ethically-made sex toys!

The Honeybunch strap-on dildo base is another excellent option. Honeybunch has space for a bullet vibe (not included) in the base, ensuring the wearer has thrilling vibrations plus something to grind against!

A Honetbunch dildo base on a blue dildo — Honeybunch Strap-On Dildo Base

You could also try something like a Whisper ride-on panty vibe. This one looks like a vibrating panty liner, but it’s very clever. It sits snug against the labia under the harness for the wearer to enjoy. It’s controlled via remote, so easy to increase the va-va-voom as you get into the thrusting!

There are also C-shaped vibrators that can be worn under harnesses such as the Lelo Tiani 3. These toys are designed to be worn during penetrative sex, so they sit flush against the body and stay in place, providing both clitoral and G-spot stimulation.

We hope this helps!

Love, Team Sh! xx