Q&A: We Want To Try Cock Rings For Couples

Q&A: Cock rings for couples sex ? - Sh! Women's Store

Hi Team,

I recently found your website, and I wonder if you can help me.

My girlfriend finds it difficult to orgasm during penetration, but we'd like to experience simultaneous orgasms. I read that cock rings are good for this, but how do I choose and use a cock ring? How do I know if it will fit? Thanks so much!

Hey there,

Thanks for getting in touch!

Penis rings slip over the penis where they look decorative, provide erection-strengthening for the wearer and added clitoral stimulation for the receiving vulva-owning partner (cock ring that vibrates is used)

Using a cock ring isn't too tricky but it can be a disappointing experience if you don't understand how choose and to use a cock ring OR expect too much of them!

An orgasm, especially for a vulva-owner during couples sex, depends on a variety of factors:

How turned on is she?
How long has the build-up been going on?
Is the stimulation in the right area?
Is it at the right angle and speed?
Is her mind on pleasure (trickier than it sounds, sometimes!)?
Is the wind blowing in the right direction?

It seems super-romantic to climax simultaneously, but actually - it is also very hot to come one at a time. You get to enjoy your lover's experience; feel the contractions and watch their face... You miss all this hotness if you focus on trying to come simultaneously. Focus on the pleasure, not the exact timing of the orgasm :)

What we're going to say next may disappoint you, but we're going to say it anyway:

Cock rings won't deliver simultaneous orgasms during couple sex by magic!

Your girlfriend may not even have an orgasm at all on the first try. This is perfectly normal.
Getting to 'know' a new sex toy can take time. You need to figure out how it works best for both of you. It may take a few tries before you get the full benefit of the vibrations and even then simultaneous orgasms during penetration are a tall order for any couple!

So, now we've got that sorted...

What is a cock ring?

A penis ring sits around the base of the penis, where it restricts the backflow of blood. This means a softer erection gets help to firm up, so they are often used by men & penis-owners with erectile dysfunction.

Penis rings without a vibrating part are mainly for the wearer to enjoy. This type of cock ring offers a snug feeling and enhanced sensations. Non-vibrating rings are perfect for harder erections or more sensitivity.

A non-vibrating ring can also be fun for a jazzed-up hand job. The penis feels more sensitive with all that blood in it, so teasing the tip, the frenulum, and the raphe (the pronounced ridge on the underside of the penis) can be sensational. We recommend taking the ringed-up peen for a hawt session of edging... *fans self*

can be used for solo play,

Cock rings with a vibrating part feature a clitoral stimulator that can be used solo, but they come into their own when used by couples, during intercourse. This is designed to pleasure the clitoris during penetration. 75-80% of women (or vulva owners) need their clits stimulated to have an orgasm, and penis-in-vagina sex tends not to deliver (enough) of this.

Vibrating cock rings ring can be simple with 1 speed only or come with bells & whistles, 20 pleasure modes and remote control. They can also be waterproof if you like playing in the bathtub or shower.

Cock & ball rings are a little more advanced. They are particularly popular with men & penis owners who enjoy a snug feeling around their entire package - balls 'n' all.

What to look for in a couple's cock ring?

Before choosing a ring, sit down with your partner and discuss what you'd like your toy to do. Orgasms, obvs, but what else?

Do you want a ring with multiple pleasure modes?
Do you prefer a remote control to make it easy to change speeds?
Does it matter whether the penis ring is waterproof or not?
Do you want a single ring, or do you like the idea of a cock & ball ring?

What about colour? Some folks couldn't care less, but others prefer to match their sex toys to their bed sheets.

Body-safe materials are very important. Rest assured all the cock rings on our website are safe for use, free from phthalates and easy to clean.

And, last but not least, budget. How much are you looking to spend on a penis ring?

Once you have figured out the basics, it's time to look at our cock rings.

We generally recommend opting for something easy to use, with various speeds and not too expensive for a first-time user. This way, you get a quality toy to experiment with without breaking the bank.

How to use cock rings for couples during sex?

Lube up the penis, including around the base and balls. You may want to slather the slippery stuff onto your pubes too if you are sporting what nature gave you. Long pubes can get caught under the ring, so best avoided!

Slide the ring over the semi-erect dique and ensure it rests snugly around the base. This way, the blood that makes its way into the cock, will stay there. Position the clitoral stimulator upwards towards your stomach.

Once you are BOTH eager for penetration (see above;), we recommend your girlfriend positions herself on top. The woman-on-top sex position lets her grind and rock against the vibrations in ways that feel great for her, and this is crucial for pleasurable sex with a vibrating cock ring.

Many couples whack a penis ring on without considering how the vibrations will work their magic. You can use the rings in different positions, but make sure the vibes hit the spot. We cannot stress this enough. If the vibrations don't stimulate the clitoris, it will seem as if the vibrating cock ring is "useless" - which it isn't. It's just how you use it...