We love the month of July for many reasons; lazy days in the park, cocktails in the sunshine, and of course, long, light nights that are perfect for pleasure… Which neatly brings us to National Orgasm Day, an annual day that celebrates orgasms in any and many forms.
According to this article, sex toy designers Lelo offer their UK employees days off to enjoy finger shimmies as it boosts productivity, and surely there’s no better date to take a self-love day than on National Orgasm Day on 31st of July. Follow their lead, employers – allowing your employees to take the day off to polish their pearls will ensure a satisfied workforce in no time!
To help you celebrate in the best way we know how, we are giving away four bottles of Orgie Intense Orgasm Gel with Hemp, and one Ruby Glow Dusk ride-on vibrator!
We’ll pick one lucky entrant to win a bottle of orgasm gel each week and on National Orgasm Day itself, the person who has racked up most points in our competition will win themselves a Ruby Glow Dusk.
So new you can’t even buy this babelicious ride-on vibe at point of writing, this is the upgraded version of the award-winning toy designed by erotica author Tabitha Rayne. Covered in silky smooth silicone, Ruby Glow Dusk features a clitoral mound, a pubic dip and a small bump for the vaginal opening. This toy is for the humpers & grinders out there; designed for non-penetration and hands-free use, it allows you to rock yourself to orgasm.
We have one Ruby Glow Dusk to give away and a lucky winner will be picked on National Orgasm Day, Wednesday the 31st of July.
Win one of four Orgie Intense Orgasm Hemp! Gels (£19 each)
Using their latest Brazilian technology, award-winning brand Orgie have developed an arousal gel infused with hemp seed oil. Just one small squirt onto labia lips and clitoris will deliver multiple lovely sensations such as tingling, heating, and cooling. By encouraging blood flow to the area this increases sensitivity, meaning that orgasms are about to get super-charged.
We have four bottles of this lovely stuff to give away, and one winner will be picked each week leading up to National Orgasm Day.
Terms & Conditions
No purchase necessary to enter or win.
The competition ends on 31st of July 2019.
The winner will be notified by email at the email address provided in the Entry Information on or about 48 hours after the drawing. The potential winner must accept a prize by email as directed by Sh! within 48 hours of notification. Any winner notification not responded to or returned as undeliverable may result in prize forfeiture.
Prizes cannot be transferred, redeemed for cash or substituted by winner.
“Tonight’s DIVA Choice Award goes to a committed explorer of the senses.
in the days when the concept of “Sexual Wellness” was just a glint in Gwyneth
Paltrow’s eye, tonight’s winner was toiling away at the coal face of female
come the second sexual revolution, (not too far off now thanks to this mystery
woman) when Queen Megan is handing out awards for Distinguished Services to
Strap Ons, tonight’s visionary will be at the head of the queue.
This Yorkshire pioneer and maverick (she didn’t go to business school; she went to art school) opened the UK’s first ever female-focused erotic store in 1992. She’s spent a day in Soho looking for inspiration in the sex shops of the time, but the landscape was sleazy and male-focused.
High points include introducing the women of Britain to the Jessica Rabbit vibrator, setting up Café V, the UK’s first support group to help sexual violence survivors reconnect with their bodies and working with the NHS to bridge the gap between sexuality and overall health.
Established on an investment of £700 and originally specializing in sexy yet comfortable strap-on harnesses and gender-free silicone dildos, her business has grown into a multi award-winning brand dedicated to women’s bodily enjoyment and has created a sea change in attitudes towards honest female sexuality.
years ago, tonight’s winner was seen by a lot of the mainstream media as the
pervy weirdo lesbian who ran THAT East End sex shop. But she stuck to her
beliefs and those beliefs have borne fruit. She has become one of the UK’s
leading exponents of sex-positive feminism and has brought orgasms
and succor (and the new wave of clitoral suction sex toys) to thousands of
struggle to point out that female sexual pleasure is a right and not an
indulgence is on-going. But this powerhouse continues to push boundaries,
spreading her message passionately on TV, radio and panels around the world.
The winner of tonight’s DIVA Choice Award is the founder and managing director of Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, Ky Hoyle!”
The transcribed introduction above was given by none other than Stephanie Theobald, a journalist at Guardian & Sunday Times, and author of Big Clit Energy memoir Sex Drive.
About the DIVA Awards
Diva, the leading monthly mag for lesbians and bisexual women hosted its annual Award ceremony at Waldorf Hilton on Friday 7th of June. The Awards, hosted by Rachel Shelley and Victoria Broom, honour those who help make a difference to the lives of lesbians, bisexual women, and trans people.
“The DIVA Awards is a fantastic event that honours those who are committed to raising awareness for the lesbian, bisexual and trans community. We’re proud of everyone who won big tonight and all those on the shortlist – each and every one of them make a difference to the LGBTQI+ community.”
Linda Riley, founder of DIVA Awards
There were plenty of celebrities at this year’s fancy bash, and there may even have been some fan-girling involved when the team got to meet Sinitta (no introductions needed!) and London-based singer & song-writer Ronnie-Martine…
Gentleman Jack star Suranne Jones *swoon* presented Bake Off host & TV presenter Sandi Toksvig with a shiny gong for her advocacy on behalf of the lesbian, bisexual and trans community.
Loose Woman and proud mama Denise Welch collected the Ally of the Year award on behalf of her son Matty Healy, singer of 1975, who is a vocal and high profile supporter of LGBT+ equality.
Behind every successful woman is a tribe of badasses cheering her on and at the forefront of the Sh! badass tribe is Sophie Walters, Ky’s business partner and co-owner of Sh! (aka Financial Director & Chief Purse Strings Holder)
A business doesn’t run itself (though sometime we wish it did!) and Sophie has provided magnificently strong shoulders (arms, legs and whatever else may be needed) in shifting heaven, earth & heavy boxes to support Ky’s vision for the li’l slice of heaven that is Sh!
Not usually one for late nights out on the town, our Sophie made an exception for the DIVA Awards and not only did she look dapper AF for the occasion, but rumour also has it that she thoroughly enjoyed the fine wine and good food on offer at Hilton Waldorf. 🙂 Who knows, maybe we’ll be able to convince her to join us for fun nights out a bit more regularly after this!
Did you know that the famous “positions” were based on classifications of genitals sizes – how to make them more compatible to ensure true pleasure.
Did you know the whole book of Kama Sutra is based on the textures of vulvas – how to arouse women with different textures, what kind of pressure to apply, what food they like, even the perfect environment for their sexual pleasure? According to the Kama Sutra with every changing phase of the moon, the erogenous zones shift around the body. An accomplished lover was one who understood where the erogenous spot rested every night and how it should be stimulated for maximum arousal.
Written in the 4th cen AD the Kama Sutra was the first book to acknowledge the idea of women’s pleasure – their capacity to feel pleasure and their right to experience it – separate to and independent of a man’s pleasure. With great perception, it explained the difference: Men’s desire is like fire, beginning in the groin and flaring upwards, it is easy to ignite and easier still to douse. Women’s pleasure, on the other hand, is like water – starting at the head it flows downwards, taking forever to come to the boil and equally long to cool down.
A woman’s pleasure is complex and fragile, it was a skill that had to be learnt – (the Kama Sutra was written to teach men how to pleasure a woman) – what stories to tell before sex to arouse her, what conversation to have after sex to make her come back to your bed more readily the next time, with what kind of kisses to drive her distracted but not satisfy, with what kind of kisses to finally quench the desire. It even includes an entire Ayurvedic study on the different combinations of fingers that should be used to pleasure oneself. Each finger holds the energy of a specific element and each combination provides its own sensations.
Join Seema in an evening of decoding the secret teachings of the Kama Sutra on sensuality, pleasure and seduction.
Ticket price includes a glass of Prosecco upon arrival
Seema Anand is a mythologist and storyteller specialising in women’s narratives. She is an acknowledged authority on the ancient erotic literature of the East. Ancient India believed that sexual pleasure was not just instinct but an art, the correct practice of which contributed to the wellbeing of all five senses and the development of the mind and the soul. It was essential for both the physical and mental wellbeing but could only be effective if understood properly.
“I believe that the erotic literature of ancient India was written by a woman – it is the only thing that explains the detail, the elegance and the beauty with which the subject is handled, where pleasure becomes an art and sex a poetic experience…”
Come whet your palates and tickle your fancy in this engagingly scrumptious evening exploring the universal relationship between food and sexual desire.
Author Lana Citron will be talking desire, passion and the pursuit of oral gratification to celebrate her latest publication Edible Pleasures, a textbook of aphrodisiacs. Lana looks at desire through the culture and history of aphrodisiacs. In a talk which will be informative, entertaining, stomach-churning (the more gross examples) and palate teasing.
Edible Pleasures is a cultural and historical romp on the universal bond between food and sexual desire. From the poetic to the philosophical, the absurd to the abstruse, indulge in scientific, gastronomic and cultural histories, accompanied by an A-Z of aphrodisiacs with a side order of seductive recipes. Lovingly combining delicacies from The Taste of a Kiss by Martial to Madame Pompadour’s Asparagus Tips, by way of South Park’s Hot Salty Chocolate Balls, Edible Pleasures is the definitive textbook to food, passion, love and desire.
Ticket price includes a signed copy of Edible Pleasures, a glass of Prosecco & tasty treats upon arrival
“Discerning gourmands”, “connoisseurs of seduction” and “gastronomes of love” are all most welcome.
More About Lana Citron
A prize-winning Irish author and scriptwriter, Lana Citron’s novels are; Sucker, Spilt Milk, Transit, The Honey Trap and The Brodsky Touch. Her first nonfiction, A Compendium of Kisses was Book of the Week in The Economist and described as ‘an intellectual and indulgent treat; a wonderful and comprehensive book on all things osculatory’.
Pain during penis-in-vagina (p-i-v) sex has only received research attention in the last two decades. Within heterosexual relationships, most of this research has focused on women and whilst understanding women’s experiences is hugely important, sex is an interpersonal experience and much less is known about the experience of the male partners.
The aims of this research are to better understand how men make sense of and respond to their partner’s sexual pain; and to increase our knowledge of how men view pain during penetrative sex, how it influences the sexual relationship, the relationship in general and themselves individually.
The research will be used to inform therapeutic practice for both individuals and the couple and enhance support for anyone seeking help.
In order to collect as many and varied opinions, thoughts and experiences as possible, the survey allows participants to answer the questions in their own words rather than ticking boxes.
To take part in this study, you must be:
18 or over
Be in or have been in, a relationship with a woman suffering from pain during penetration (or pain that prevented penetration). The relationship can be current or in the past. The pain must have been present for 6 months or more.
The survey takes about 30 minutes to complete, depending on how long your replies are. At the end of the survey, you’ll be invited to request more information about a potential follow up interview if you’d like to talk more about your replies.
Confidentiality of all data will of course be rigorously maintained.
Who is the researcher?
Debbie Lovell is a psychology postgraduate student in the Department of Health and Social Sciences, University of the West of England, Bristol. She is completing this research for her Professional Doctorate in Counselling Psychology dissertation project, and the research is supervised by Dr Nikki Hayfield and Dr Zoe Thomas.
A brand new magazine is out on our horizon. Hot Sauce demystifies sexuality using art, fashion and conversation. It’s seventies, sexy and sublimely designed. Engaging long-form text, striking photography and charming illustrations make up the content of the limited first edition.
According to editor-in-chief, Annabelle Peacock, Hot Sauce “is like a gossip column with morals”. Rather than the worship of celeb culture, it opens up the individual sexual experiences, perspectives and art from real people. Issue 01, THE TALK, is an eclectic mix of coming-of-age tales and stories of self-discovery.
To begin with, Bex (who you may have heard of from the popular blog Bex Talks Sex) discusses how their journey into kink unfolded their true gender identity. Kayla Lords provides us with another of our favourite articles as she shines a light on the taboo nature of living a 24/7 kink lifestyle.
Another personal essay sees one writer reminisces about the time when her psychic abilities enabled her to find her perfect match. Meanwhile, Jake Hall highlights the harmful impact that queer stereotyping can have on a young person trying to navigate their way as they mature.
If that wasn’t enough, key sculptures from an emerging artist and designer means you never really know what you’re getting on the next page. It could be a silicone foot. Or, maybe a vulva made of liquid gold. Perhaps, it’s a series of photos dedicated to the natural enigma that is the female breast. And, don’t even get us started on the bunny illustrations. Add to that your very own kinky dictionary and a set of horoscopes like no other, Hot Sauce is a refreshing take on our most basic instincts.
According to their about section, “We applaud realism over aspiration. We love the word “smut”. We desire honesty. If you don’t, you can choke on it.” How promising. If you would like to get involved we have a hunch that they are on the lookout for fresh contributors and collaborators. In fact, following the success of their launch party last month they are quietly promising a host of events to begin in late Spring. So, if you want to get involved, buy the issue or simply find out more about them and what they do, check out their website www.hotsauce.sexy or give them a like on Instagram at @hotsauce.sexy – it utterly sizzles.
Did you know that there’s a penis museum in Iceland? (Maybe a bit far to travel for a look at phalluses seeing as so many just slide into DM’s on a daily basis, but that’s not the point.)
And did you know that there is no vagina equivalent anywhere in the world?
Cue Florence Schechter – superwoman extraordinarie, with a vision of bringing vulvae & vaginas to the world!
She decided to create the world’s first bricks & mortar museum dedicated to vaginas, vulvas and the gynaecological anatomy; the Vagina Museum!
Join us for an enlightening evening of vag-and-museum-talk with the fabulous Florence, where she’ll present a talk on “Why The World Needs A Vagina Museum” and discusses why she chose to set up the world’s first bricks and mortar museum dedicated to the vulvas, vaginas and the gynaecological anatomy, and the strange reactions she’s received along the way.
By opening their first premises, the Vagina Museum can host an outreach programme that includes supporting healthy and inclusive sex and relationships education, engaging with doctors and other medical professionals to provide better services and supporting the trans and intersex communities. A packed events programme will include talks, panels, workshops, classes, comedy nights, performances and so much more!
In support of the Museum’s mission, the V.M crew have created an advisory and board of trustees that includes a hugely diverse group of people from all walks of life including medical professionals; scientists; academics in gender studies, literature and history of sex work; curators; activists working in LGBT+ rights, fighting
FGM and supporting people in poverty who menstruate; and sex educators.
But to make this great (and time-sensitive) opportunity a reality, the Vagina Museum Crew need your help to do it and have launched a crowdfunder to make the dream a reality – find out more and donate here > Vagina Museum Crowdfunding.
I read The Vagina Monologues for the first time at drama school, five years ago. Hannah Cecily, a fellow drama student, and feminist mentor, pressed the book into my hands one day.
‘You must read this,’ she said, an earnest passion shining in her eyes.
I took it home and started reading it that night. From the very first page I was gripped and transfixed and as I read, my eyes were opened. I laughed and I cried and I shook with anger. I felt empowered, enraged, reassured, appalled, joyful and sad, then I felt them all over again. Every story touched me so deeply.
In Flood, an old woman explains that after getting sexually excited on a date with her high school crush and getting her dress and his car seat wet, she thought there was something wrong with her and never touched her vagina or got sexually involved with anyone for the rest of her life. I felt a deep connection to this woman and felt so sad for all the sexual pleasure she had been denied. I ejaculated for the first time during a masturbating session in my mid-teens. I was so shocked and ashamed of myself and wrote in my diary that I would never masturbate again as ‘I wet myself when I orgasm’. It was magazines, the internet, and my female peers talking openly about sex that taught me what female ejaculation was and that it wasn’t disgusting or wrong. I wondered, had I been born fifty years earlier with no access to any of that, if the woman in the monologue might have been me.
Again and again, the stories highlighted how disconnected women can be from their vaginas, as a result of rape and assault, shame they were made to feel by parents or partners, and fear of their (or our) own sexuality. I knew then how important it is that we take back ownership of our sexuality and reconnect with our vaginas (something that Sh! is helping with marvellously by the way).
When Hannah asked me a few months ago if I would like to co-produce a production of The Vagina Monologues with her I knew I had to do it. The play is as potent and relevant now as it was then and it will be relevant until sexual assault and rape cease to be, and all women feel utterly connected to their vaginas and sexuality.
The process of putting the show together has been incredible. The fascinating and in-depth conversations that have arisen at each rehearsal and the level of respect and trust between us all is so special. Every single one of our cast members and directors has brought such truth and passion to the project and the result is a powerful, funny, heart-rending, and heartwarming production.
All proceeds from the night are being shared between four amazing charities: RESPECT UK and DVIP (Domestic Violence Intervention Project), both incredible charities who are addressing the huge problem of domestic violence by running preventative programs for perpetrators and would be perpetrators, thereby stopping it at its root; Rape Crisis, who offer support, advice and information to survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, and any kind of sexual assault; and this year’s VDay Spotlight campaign, Women in Prison, Detention Centres, and Formerly Incarcerated Women.
We would love you to join us in supporting these charities and celebrating vaginas, at 7pm on Tuesday March 5th at Bethnal Green Working Men’s Club. Amazing Sh! raffle prizes also up for grabs!
That’s right: your favourite LGBTQ+ women and non-binary comedians, The LOL Word, are descending upon London’s finest sex emporium Sh! for a night of raucous, inclusive, sex-positive and hilarious comedy.
Not only will you see the comedy scene’s finest award-winning queer talent, but you’ll also get to spend the evening surrounded by solid gold pure smut with 10% OFF ALL PRODUCTS for ticket holders!
Comedians for the night include the entire LOL Word originals (Chloe Petts, Jodie Mitchell, Shelf, and Chloe Green) plus the most special of SPECIAL GUESTS…
Tickets are extremely limited so grab yours now to avoid disappointment!
Arrive at 6:30pm to start shopping with that sweet 10% DISCOUNT and the show starts at 7pm prompt.
So who are LOL then?
A bunch of best mates and accolade-brimming comedians, providing London, Manchester, Brighton, Edinburgh and beyond with the best LGBTQ+ comedy talent there is. Founded by Chloe Green, Jodie Mitchell, Chloe Petts and sketch duo Shelf, they pull together the very best talent the scene has to offer, to save you the faff. Previous line-ups have included Sofie Hagen, Fern Brady, Sophie Duker, Kemah Bob, Sarah Keyworth, Rosie Jones andmaaany more babes.
Shelf are a comedy double act from South London. Shelf is made up of Rachel WD and Ruby Clyde. Already lifelong friends, they started performing as Shelf in 2015. Shelf started out at open mic nights, honing a style that is “a winning hybrid of sketch show and standup” (Edfringe Review). Since their formation, Shelf have performed at Bestival, London Pride, and been nominated for Sketchfest’s Best New Act award. Their work has appeared on BBC3 and LADBible. They are founding members of sell-out monthly night The LOL Word, which showcases queer women and non-binary comedians from across the London comedy circuit. They are board members of the cult hit Alternative Comedy Memorial Society, with whom they regularly perform in London and Edinburgh.
The Skinny – “…cool and relevant” Diva Magazine – “The talented twosome find belly laughs in heavyweight topics like mental health, sexuality and gender“ The Broad UK – “What makes their show really stand out is the crackling chemistry between their on stage personae” The Daily Info – “Everything they do is organic and fresh…the audience is given permission to join in with their friendship: they let us in to their lives, flaunting their flaws and thus showcasing their qualities. Their honesty encourages laughing along and their comic timing ensures it” Bunbury Publishing – “The chemistry between Rachel and Ruby absolutely sparkled, from the writing to the performance, page to stage, everything feeds into each other perfectly. I will repeat, Shelf are going to be huge” Scotsgay – “Lesbians”
Jodie Mitchell is a ‘blindingly obvious comedic talent’ (The Skinny) doing her best to simultaneously be as surreal and political as possible. In 2018, she was a ‘Funny Woman Awards’ Finalist, a ‘Leicester Square New Comedian of the Year’ Semi-Finalist, and shortlisted for the ‘BBC New Comedy Award’. She has a hit comedy podcast, ‘Secret Dinosaur Cult’, which she co-hosts with Sofie Hagen, and is currently touring a new show as her male comedian alter-ego with the Drag King troupe ‘Pecs’, after a 5*, Offie-nominated, sell-out run at Soho Theatre. Jodie’s supported by Soho Theatre Young Company, and is a founding member of queer, all women and non-binary comedy collective ‘The Lol Word’. If you’re her mate, then you laughed at her shouldering butchness to don a denim mini-skirt in BBC Scotland’s ‘Scotsquad’. ‘Jodie Mitchell…left me with actual tears of laughter running down my face’ – DIVA ‘[Her] set is so funny it makes all the comedy in my life up to this point redundant’ – Theatrebubble
Chloe Petts’ “inexhaustibly funny mind” (Diva Magazine) and “compelling presence” (Steve Bennett, Chortle) has established her as one of the most exciting new acts on the circuit.
Chloe is an alumna of the prestigious Pleasance Comedy Reserve, has been shortlisted for the BBC Comedy Award, was a finalist in the most recent Leicester Square New Comedian of the Year Awards and came runner-up in the Funny Women Awards 2017. She has appeared on Channel 4’s Random Acts and BBC 3 Quickies.
Chloe Green is a queer comedian who makes jokes about life as a Labour Party staffer and the patriarchy. Sounds like a misnomer? It’s Ms. Nomer, thanks very much.
When she takes time off from being a “f*cking delicate snowflake”, Chloe likes to make jokes. Because her job staffing Labour’s Twitter account and navigating the minefield of sexism and homophobia in politics is surprisingly funny. Sharp political commentary meets confessional storytelling as Chloe tells us what it’s like to be “out” on the inside of the UK’s weirdest workplace.
Chloe is a co-founder of queer comedy collective The LOL Word, which had a sell-out run at the Edinburgh Fringe 2018. She’s also a member of the Soho Theatre Young Company, was named one of the top lesbian and bi comedians to watch out for by Pink News in 2018, and was a Semi-Finalist in the BBC New Comedy Award 2018.
As seen on LADBible and Pink News, seen at Latitude, heard on BBC Radio 4 Extra.
“Smart, insightful, hilarious, and completely relatable” – DIVA magazine.
“a quickfire stream of jokes that bounce pleasingly around a wide field of crowd-winning topics” – Bechdel Theatre
About LOL Word:
The Guardian: “a new generation of comics retaliating against the old template of comedy”
DIVA: “Smart, insightful, hilarious, and completely relatable”
Sofie Hagen: “My favourite comedy night in London”
Bechdel Theatre: “THE night to go to”