Come whet your palates and tickle your fancy in this engagingly scrumptious evening exploring the universal relationship between food and sexual desire.
Author Lana Citron will be talking desire, passion and the pursuit of oral gratification to celebrate her latest publication Edible Pleasures, a textbook of aphrodisiacs. Lana looks at desire through the culture and history of aphrodisiacs in a talk which will be informative, entertaining, stomach-churning (the more gross examples) and palate teasing…
Edible Pleasures is a cultural and historical romp on the universal bond between food and sexual desire. From the poetic to the philosophical, the absurd to the abstruse, indulge in scientific, gastronomic and cultural histories, accompanied by an A-Z of aphrodisiacs with a side order of seductive recipes. Lovingly combining delicacies from The Taste of a Kiss by Martial to Madame Pompadour’s Asparagus Tips, by way of South Park’s Hot Salty Chocolate Balls, Edible Pleasures is the definitive textbook to food, passion, love and desire.
Ticket price includes a signed copy of Edible Pleasures, a glass of Prosecco & tasty treats upon arrival
“Discerning gourmands”, “connoisseurs of seduction” and “gastronomes of love” are all most welcome.
More About Lana Citron
A prize-winning Irish author and scriptwriter, Lana Citron’s novels are; Sucker, Spilt Milk, Transit, The Honey Trap and The Brodsky Touch. Her first nonfiction, A Compendium of Kisses was Book of the Week in The Economist and described as ‘an intellectual and indulgent treat; a wonderful and comprehensive book on all things osculatory’.
Pain during penis-in-vagina (p-i-v) sex has only received research attention in the last two decades. Within heterosexual relationships, most of this research has focused on women and whilst understanding women’s experiences is hugely important, sex is an interpersonal experience and much less is known about the experience of the male partners.
The aims of this research are to better understand how men make sense of and respond to their partner’s sexual pain; and to increase our knowledge of how men view pain during penetrative sex, how it influences the sexual relationship, the relationship in general and themselves individually.
The research will be used to inform therapeutic practice for both individuals and the couple and enhance support for anyone seeking help.
In order to collect as many and varied opinions, thoughts and experiences as possible, the survey allows participants to answer the questions in their own words rather than ticking boxes.
To take part in this study, you must be:
18 or over
Be in or have been in, a relationship with a woman suffering from pain during penetration (or pain that prevented penetration). The relationship can be current or in the past. The pain must have been present for 6 months or more.
The survey takes about 30 minutes to complete, depending on how long your replies are. At the end of the survey, you’ll be invited to request more information about a potential follow up interview if you’d like to talk more about your replies.
Confidentiality of all data will of course be rigorously maintained.
Who is the researcher?
Debbie Lovell is a psychology postgraduate student in the Department of Health and Social Sciences, University of the West of England, Bristol. She is completing this research for her Professional Doctorate in Counselling Psychology dissertation project, and the research is supervised by Dr Nikki Hayfield and Dr Zoe Thomas.
A brand new magazine is out on our horizon. Hot Sauce demystifies sexuality using art, fashion and conversation. It’s seventies, sexy and sublimely designed. Engaging long-form text, striking photography and charming illustrations make up the content of the limited first edition.
According to editor-in-chief, Annabelle Peacock, Hot Sauce “is like a gossip column with morals”. Rather than the worship of celeb culture, it opens up the individual sexual experiences, perspectives and art from real people. Issue 01, THE TALK, is an eclectic mix of coming-of-age tales and stories of self-discovery.
To begin with, Bex (who you may have heard of from the popular blog Bex Talks Sex) discusses how their journey into kink unfolded their true gender identity. Kayla Lords provides us with another of our favourite articles as she shines a light on the taboo nature of living a 24/7 kink lifestyle.
Another personal essay sees one writer reminisces about the time when her psychic abilities enabled her to find her perfect match. Meanwhile, Jake Hall highlights the harmful impact that queer stereotyping can have on a young person trying to navigate their way as they mature.
If that wasn’t enough, key sculptures from an emerging artist and designer means you never really know what you’re getting on the next page. It could be a silicone foot. Or, maybe a vulva made of liquid gold. Perhaps, it’s a series of photos dedicated to the natural enigma that is the female breast. And, don’t even get us started on the bunny illustrations. Add to that your very own kinky dictionary and a set of horoscopes like no other, Hot Sauce is a refreshing take on our most basic instincts.
According to their about section, “We applaud realism over aspiration. We love the word “smut”. We desire honesty. If you don’t, you can choke on it.” How promising. If you would like to get involved we have a hunch that they are on the lookout for fresh contributors and collaborators. In fact, following the success of their launch party last month they are quietly promising a host of events to begin in late Spring. So, if you want to get involved, buy the issue or simply find out more about them and what they do, check out their website www.hotsauce.sexy or give them a like on Instagram at @hotsauce.sexy – it utterly sizzles.
Did you know that there’s a penis museum in Iceland? (Maybe a bit far to travel for a look at phalluses seeing as so many just slide into DM’s on a daily basis, but that’s not the point.)
And did you know that there is no vagina equivalent anywhere in the world?
Cue Florence Schechter – superwoman extraordinarie, with a vision of bringing vulvae & vaginas to the world!
She decided to create the world’s first bricks & mortar museum dedicated to vaginas, vulvas and the gynaecological anatomy; the Vagina Museum!
Join us for an enlightening evening of vag-and-museum-talk with the fabulous Florence, where she’ll present a talk on “Why The World Needs A Vagina Museum” and discusses why she chose to set up the world’s first bricks and mortar museum dedicated to the vulvas, vaginas and the gynaecological anatomy, and the strange reactions she’s received along the way.
By opening their first premises, the Vagina Museum can host an outreach programme that includes supporting healthy and inclusive sex and relationships education, engaging with doctors and other medical professionals to provide better services and supporting the trans and intersex communities. A packed events programme will include talks, panels, workshops, classes, comedy nights, performances and so much more!
In support of the Museum’s mission, the V.M crew have created an advisory and board of trustees that includes a hugely diverse group of people from all walks of life including medical professionals; scientists; academics in gender studies, literature and history of sex work; curators; activists working in LGBT+ rights, fighting
FGM and supporting people in poverty who menstruate; and sex educators.
But to make this great (and time-sensitive) opportunity a reality, the Vagina Museum Crew need your help to do it and have launched a crowdfunder to make the dream a reality – find out more and donate here > Vagina Museum Crowdfunding.
I read The Vagina Monologues for the first time at drama school, five years ago. Hannah Cecily, a fellow drama student, and feminist mentor, pressed the book into my hands one day.
‘You must read this,’ she said, an earnest passion shining in her eyes.
I took it home and started reading it that night. From the very first page I was gripped and transfixed and as I read, my eyes were opened. I laughed and I cried and I shook with anger. I felt empowered, enraged, reassured, appalled, joyful and sad, then I felt them all over again. Every story touched me so deeply.
In Flood, an old woman explains that after getting sexually excited on a date with her high school crush and getting her dress and his car seat wet, she thought there was something wrong with her and never touched her vagina or got sexually involved with anyone for the rest of her life. I felt a deep connection to this woman and felt so sad for all the sexual pleasure she had been denied. I ejaculated for the first time during a masturbating session in my mid-teens. I was so shocked and ashamed of myself and wrote in my diary that I would never masturbate again as ‘I wet myself when I orgasm’. It was magazines, the internet, and my female peers talking openly about sex that taught me what female ejaculation was and that it wasn’t disgusting or wrong. I wondered, had I been born fifty years earlier with no access to any of that, if the woman in the monologue might have been me.
Again and again, the stories highlighted how disconnected women can be from their vaginas, as a result of rape and assault, shame they were made to feel by parents or partners, and fear of their (or our) own sexuality. I knew then how important it is that we take back ownership of our sexuality and reconnect with our vaginas (something that Sh! is helping with marvellously by the way).
When Hannah asked me a few months ago if I would like to co-produce a production of The Vagina Monologues with her I knew I had to do it. The play is as potent and relevant now as it was then and it will be relevant until sexual assault and rape cease to be, and all women feel utterly connected to their vaginas and sexuality.
The process of putting the show together has been incredible. The fascinating and in-depth conversations that have arisen at each rehearsal and the level of respect and trust between us all is so special. Every single one of our cast members and directors has brought such truth and passion to the project and the result is a powerful, funny, heart-rending, and heartwarming production.
All proceeds from the night are being shared between four amazing charities: RESPECT UK and DVIP (Domestic Violence Intervention Project), both incredible charities who are addressing the huge problem of domestic violence by running preventative programs for perpetrators and would be perpetrators, thereby stopping it at its root; Rape Crisis, who offer support, advice and information to survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, and any kind of sexual assault; and this year’s VDay Spotlight campaign, Women in Prison, Detention Centres, and Formerly Incarcerated Women.
We would love you to join us in supporting these charities and celebrating vaginas, at 7pm on Tuesday March 5th at Bethnal Green Working Men’s Club. Amazing Sh! raffle prizes also up for grabs!
That’s right: your favourite LGBTQ+ women and non-binary comedians, The LOL Word, are descending upon London’s finest sex emporium Sh! for a night of raucous, inclusive, sex-positive and hilarious comedy.
Not only will you see the comedy scene’s finest award-winning queer talent, but you’ll also get to spend the evening surrounded by solid gold pure smut with 10% OFF ALL PRODUCTS for ticket holders!
Comedians for the night include the entire LOL Word originals (Chloe Petts, Jodie Mitchell, Shelf, and Chloe Green) plus the most special of SPECIAL GUESTS…
Tickets are extremely limited so grab yours now to avoid disappointment!
Arrive at 6:30pm to start shopping with that sweet 10% DISCOUNT and the show starts at 7pm prompt.
So who are LOL then?
A bunch of best mates and accolade-brimming comedians, providing London, Manchester, Brighton, Edinburgh and beyond with the best LGBTQ+ comedy talent there is. Founded by Chloe Green, Jodie Mitchell, Chloe Petts and sketch duo Shelf, they pull together the very best talent the scene has to offer, to save you the faff. Previous line-ups have included Sofie Hagen, Fern Brady, Sophie Duker, Kemah Bob, Sarah Keyworth, Rosie Jones andmaaany more babes.
Shelf are a comedy double act from South London. Shelf is made up of Rachel WD and Ruby Clyde. Already lifelong friends, they started performing as Shelf in 2015. Shelf started out at open mic nights, honing a style that is “a winning hybrid of sketch show and standup” (Edfringe Review). Since their formation, Shelf have performed at Bestival, London Pride, and been nominated for Sketchfest’s Best New Act award. Their work has appeared on BBC3 and LADBible. They are founding members of sell-out monthly night The LOL Word, which showcases queer women and non-binary comedians from across the London comedy circuit. They are board members of the cult hit Alternative Comedy Memorial Society, with whom they regularly perform in London and Edinburgh.
The Skinny – “…cool and relevant” Diva Magazine – “The talented twosome find belly laughs in heavyweight topics like mental health, sexuality and gender“ The Broad UK – “What makes their show really stand out is the crackling chemistry between their on stage personae” The Daily Info – “Everything they do is organic and fresh…the audience is given permission to join in with their friendship: they let us in to their lives, flaunting their flaws and thus showcasing their qualities. Their honesty encourages laughing along and their comic timing ensures it” Bunbury Publishing – “The chemistry between Rachel and Ruby absolutely sparkled, from the writing to the performance, page to stage, everything feeds into each other perfectly. I will repeat, Shelf are going to be huge” Scotsgay – “Lesbians”
Jodie Mitchell is a ‘blindingly obvious comedic talent’ (The Skinny) doing her best to simultaneously be as surreal and political as possible. In 2018, she was a ‘Funny Woman Awards’ Finalist, a ‘Leicester Square New Comedian of the Year’ Semi-Finalist, and shortlisted for the ‘BBC New Comedy Award’. She has a hit comedy podcast, ‘Secret Dinosaur Cult’, which she co-hosts with Sofie Hagen, and is currently touring a new show as her male comedian alter-ego with the Drag King troupe ‘Pecs’, after a 5*, Offie-nominated, sell-out run at Soho Theatre. Jodie’s supported by Soho Theatre Young Company, and is a founding member of queer, all women and non-binary comedy collective ‘The Lol Word’. If you’re her mate, then you laughed at her shouldering butchness to don a denim mini-skirt in BBC Scotland’s ‘Scotsquad’. ‘Jodie Mitchell…left me with actual tears of laughter running down my face’ – DIVA ‘[Her] set is so funny it makes all the comedy in my life up to this point redundant’ – Theatrebubble
Chloe Petts’ “inexhaustibly funny mind” (Diva Magazine) and “compelling presence” (Steve Bennett, Chortle) has established her as one of the most exciting new acts on the circuit.
Chloe is an alumna of the prestigious Pleasance Comedy Reserve, has been shortlisted for the BBC Comedy Award, was a finalist in the most recent Leicester Square New Comedian of the Year Awards and came runner-up in the Funny Women Awards 2017. She has appeared on Channel 4’s Random Acts and BBC 3 Quickies.
Chloe Green is a queer comedian who makes jokes about life as a Labour Party staffer and the patriarchy. Sounds like a misnomer? It’s Ms. Nomer, thanks very much.
When she takes time off from being a “f*cking delicate snowflake”, Chloe likes to make jokes. Because her job staffing Labour’s Twitter account and navigating the minefield of sexism and homophobia in politics is surprisingly funny. Sharp political commentary meets confessional storytelling as Chloe tells us what it’s like to be “out” on the inside of the UK’s weirdest workplace.
Chloe is a co-founder of queer comedy collective The LOL Word, which had a sell-out run at the Edinburgh Fringe 2018. She’s also a member of the Soho Theatre Young Company, was named one of the top lesbian and bi comedians to watch out for by Pink News in 2018, and was a Semi-Finalist in the BBC New Comedy Award 2018.
As seen on LADBible and Pink News, seen at Latitude, heard on BBC Radio 4 Extra.
“Smart, insightful, hilarious, and completely relatable” – DIVA magazine.
“a quickfire stream of jokes that bounce pleasingly around a wide field of crowd-winning topics” – Bechdel Theatre
About LOL Word:
The Guardian: “a new generation of comics retaliating against the old template of comedy”
DIVA: “Smart, insightful, hilarious, and completely relatable”
Sofie Hagen: “My favourite comedy night in London”
Bechdel Theatre: “THE night to go to”
November 8, 2018, Vogue.co.uk publish onto their site an interview given by writer Nicole Phelps with the chief marketing officer of L Brands (the parent company of Victoria’s Secrets, or VS), Ed Razek, and the executive vice president of VS Public Relations, Monica Mitro.
The wide-ranging interview primarily focused on the brands’ relevance in an increasingly inclusive lingerie market that’s heralded by Rihanna’s Savage X Fenty. Seemingly unthreatened by such competition, Razek explained their choices for not including a more varied body-type in their selection of models:
“Shouldn’t you have transsexuals in the show?”
Razek: “No. No, I don’t think we should”.
“Well, why not?”
Razek: “Because the show is a fantasy. It’s a 42-minute entertainment special.”
Reminiscent of Kim Kardashian’s People Magazine cover, the article almost broke the Internet. Bloggers, activists, influencers and just about anyone with a Twitter account were furious and staged a virtual riot. Razek’s PR team went into a meltdown and he was forced to publicly apologise – an action that leads back to the interview, in which Razek explained his thinking behind making certain business decisions with the self-directed question, “And did we include them to shut up a reporter?”
The VS show itself didn’t air until December 8, 2018, upon which it received its lowest ever ratings. ABC reported that their viewers had plummeted from 5 million the year before to a meager 3.3 million. This occurred despite their inclusion of social media influencers who have ten times that amount of followers on Instagram, such as Kendall Jenner or the Hadid sisters.
In the weeks that have followed, there have been numerous trans activists and models speak out against the incident. Carmen Carrera has had a petition started for her to be included in the show. Nikita Dragun went on to release a fiercely sexy video in which she dons wings and lingerie, captioned “dear Victoria’s Secret, you said trans women can’t sell the “fantasy” so here I am as a TRANS WOMAN selling the FANTASY!” It’s utter sauce.
Neither of these women would look remotely out of place in a 2019 VS line-up. They’re both insanely beautiful, with legs comparable to sky scrapers, perfectly round boobs and tiny waists. Their appearance is almost totally in tune with the 70-year-old Razek’s vision of how a woman should look.
Yet, what about the women – trans and cis – who don’t fit into this lingering physical ideal propelled forward by a patriarchal society?
In 2016, Ashley Graham was actually ignored by VS after posting onto social media an illustration of her as their first plus-sized model to walk this show – despite the image reaching hundreds of thousands of people. Bear in mind that Razek’s response to this is that L Brands have segregated larger models to another lingerie brand, Lane Bryant, and tried to televise a plus-size show back in 2000 but “No one had any interest in it, still don’t”.
Yep, he has been using the same argument for almost twenty years.
Disabled models haven’t even had a look in yet with their inclusion into the fashion industry being even slower than that of trans and non-binary people. Madeleine Stewart told Teen Vogue that it would be her “biggest dream” to be the first model with Down’s Syndrome to be featured in the Victoria’s Secret exclusive line-up.
Yet, with declining ratings and a muddied reputation, why do women still want to represent or support VS? These being a company who have made their name with the creation of a glorified beauty pageant. The Instagram generation are pushing for realist representations from brands. The international lingerie market is blossoming with inclusivity, with brands such as Savage X Fenty, Lonely Lingerie and TomboyX leading the way. Meanwhile, ThirdLove, a label that was invested in by an ex-VS CEO claims to create “Bras and underwear for every body” with their #WeAreAllAngels social media campaign. There’s still a long way to go for the lingerie market to be more woman-friendly and intersectional, but why don’t consumers and influencers start by supporting brands who truly support and promote them – rather than try to resuscitate a cis-man’s wet dream.
If Victoria’s Secrets want any hope of staying relevant, it’s time for them to make space for the female fantasy.
For over a quarter of a century (eek) we’ve been inspiring women to explore their sexuality. Sick of silicone penises bulging with veins and sex shops that didn’t seem to think twice about women, our founder Ky Hoyle took a great leap of faith and launched Sh!, the only one of its kind. Fast-forward to now and look how far we have come. Even your local supermarkets are stocking subliminal sex toys, courtesy of Cosmopolitan.
It’s been a long journey over the years and we have watched our clientele blossom into the diverse community it is today, regardless of age, gender and orientation. We’ve presented Jessica Rabbit to Graham Norton, we’ve custom-made countless silicone dildos and we’ve watched our favourite sitcoms like Broad City trigger an increasing acceptance of pegging in society.
Feminism, in our eyes, can’t only benefit one group of people. As women, or non-binary people, we should be listening to, helping and supporting each other. Contemporary feminism is about inclusion, acceptance and equality. We’re striving to create all of this – starting with our strap-ons.
A Woman’s Place is in the Sh!ome
If it’s societal power dynamics you are looking to escape, a thorough delve into bondage could be exactly what you need. You could start with a splash of hot wax (from a body-safe candle) on your lover whilst they’re restrained to the bed. Or, perhaps, you could begin with a cheeky clamp on their nipples and some crotchless lingerie…
Maybe, it’s a strap-on you are yearning for. Known for our in-house dildo-making lab, we at Sh! love to put our own, extra, touch onto sex toys. This Christmas, for instance, we have taken to hand-making harnesses lined with gold leather and honey coloured dildos that are marbled with glitter. What a time to be alive! If using one of these isn’t utterly invigorating then, excuse us, but we have no clue what is.
Both harnesses and dildos are available in a range of sizes (and shapes for the latter), meaning you can choose exactly what you want, how you want. If you are using a strap-on to penetrate someone else for the first time, be sure to take it slowly and steadily with LOTS of lube. Remember, as the driver, you have zero nerve endings in your joystick but your passenger definitely does – so you can’t go in too hard or fast. It might be an idea for your passenger to sit on top so they can be your backseat driver and choose the speed and motion that feels good.
Back in the day, medical professionals believed that below-the-belt stimulation was necessary to avoid an ever-imminent “hysteria” experienced by women. This hysteria, no doubt, proved to be rubbish but we still believe that regular downstairs T.L.C is vastly important for a healthy, happy life and luckily for you, you don’t need a doctor to give yourself a good seeing to.
We have a multitude of cherry-picked toys to take your favourite self-loving chore to an otherworldly experience. Live like the Queen you are with Zalo’s regal set or lap away at your lower lips with the classic, yet under-rated, Volta toy from Fun Factory. Whatever you choose – just make sure you are lubed up to perfection. We are strapped onto a path to eroticism and to liberate sex-positivity for the sake of womankind!
Is there anything more stress-inducing than living in a patriarchal society when you’re not a cis-man? Perhaps not, but thankfully, we have ways to alleviate your strife on all fronts. Take this cute little stress ball for instance: what better way to quash any negativity in an everyday scenario? Or, what about our fun Feminist Card Set? Dedicated to making a life of dodging misogynists that bit easier, all you have to do is whip one out to end instantly another eye-rolling conversation.
However you choose to deal with everyday sexism, it’s worth remembering to make time for yourself. Join us at Sh! to promote feminism in any way that you can. Even if it’s something as small as buying your friend her first ever sex toy this year, it could be a life changer.
The festive season is upon us and we’re making merry by giving away a fantabulous Womanzier Starlet suction toy!
Petite yet powerful, Womanizer Starlet has 4 levels of intensity (honestly, you don’t need more!) and retails at a cool £69 – but you can get your hands on it for free!
Womanizer Starlet is small in size but big on orgasm-reliability. Our toy tester confirms it’s easy to hold and use, and a full charge offers a 30-minute play session – but from experience, we know that Womanizer sex toys usually delivers within mere minutes! a Rafflecopter giveaway
The new generation of sex toys – suction toys – are winning 5-star reviews from customers, toy testers and sex bloggers alike. Once you get the hang of it, suction toys need very little to work their magic. A drizzle of water-based lube, regular USB charging and a comfortable space for you to relax whilst the toy builds you up to orgasmic explosions pretty much covers it… Well, cleaning of course, but the removable silicone nozzle makes it easy peasy.
Here’s how it works:
The nozzle of Womanizer Starlet sits comfortably over the clitoris and offers magnificent suction, not dissimilar to really good oral sex.
We have found that the majority of our customers experience intense orgasms with their suction toys, more so than with any other kind of vibrator. The ‘pleasure air’ technology is very clever and few clits can resist the temptation.
If you find it hard to climax, one of these can make all the difference, so what are you waiting for – enter our competition now and Womanizer Starlet could be all yours!
**A winner has now been selected at random, so check your inboxes!
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As you know probably know by now, Sh! and MBBP are all about respecting, exploring and celebrating our bodies and all the wonderful things they give us, and if you want to join in our celebration of self-love this December, then this is the party for you. Come along and let’s celebrate the baetriarchy!
My Body Back Project is a small charity and they get by primarily on the goodwill and dedication of volunteers and supporters. But the amazing team really need your help to raise as much money as possible this Christmuff; this will ensure clinics and workshops stay open. It will also fulfill ambitious plans to develop healthcare that’s sensitive to the needs of people who have experienced sexual violence.
There’s lots of fun stuff lined up for the evening: Open mic readings, feminist jewellery making, plenty of time to browse & shop all the goodies Sh! have to offer, em-power ballads, cocktails, coffee, cakes and much more…
So, grab yourself a ticket (or two. Or three!) to what will be a fantastic Christmuff Party and support My Body Back’s crucial work.
Bake your way towards self-love by making a cake of your favourite body part. It might be because of the way it makes you feel, the way it looks, what it enables you to do or anything else! We’re thinking nipple cakes, vulva cakes, legs, lips, tongues, bums, tums – whatever. The more glittery, colourful or innovative the design, the better!
Our judges will choose the best three cakes and crown the Queens of Christmuff!
To enter the Christmuff Bake-Off, book a special Muff-Maker ticket (only £3.50!), get cracking with recipe ideas to steal the show from any mere muff-ins, and get ready for a warm reception! Soggy bottoms welcome.