Does the earth move too irregularly for your liking? Not enough fireworks in the bedroom? Do you want to learn more about your orgasmic potential?
If so, join us for a FREE evening talking about clitorises and climaxing. Let us take you on a guided tour of pleasurable peaks and orgasmic delights – be inspired, learn how to locate and recognize the G-spot, learn about techniques and toys, and what to expect from female ejaculation.
Full of practical advice and sexpert tips, this class is fun and playful whilst still providing insight and information.
IBTimes UK will be filming the event for a positive and much-needed documentary they are making on female sexuality and women’s feelings and attitudes towards towards their vaginas, labia and clitorises.
Please be aware that if you are in the audience your face may be visible in the film, so please only attend if you consent to this.
There will also be opportunities for the audience to get involved in the documentary and share their views on the topic if they wish.
Spaces are limited and advance booking is essential. If you consent to being filmed at our class, please book your ticket here: Free Class at Sh!
Dorrie Lane, a pioneer in sex-positive sex education classes since the 1980’s used her vision, her video camera, and her Wondrous Vulva Puppet to bring revolutionary information to women and men ready to go beyond mainstream assumptions.
Dorrie was one of the first to provide clear, direct, factual education at a time when few people had never even heard of the fabulous possibilities in the wide range of women’s sexual response. Her company, HouseOchicks produced some of the first “edutainment” videos, billed as, Sex through the Eyes of Women with titles that include, the Magic of Female Ejaculation, How to Find Your Goddess Spot, and the fabulous Masturbation Memoirs, featuring erotic luminaries Annie Sprinkle, Juliet Anderson (aka Aunt Peg), Scarlot Harlot, Dorrie Lane and many more.
She created the very first Sex Education online site in 1996, Vulva University, providing essential, award winning, free classes on women’s sexuality with intelligent and thoughtful information, designed by women, for women and those that love them.
Fancy getting your hands on a plush Wondrous Vulva? (Every home, school and Doctor’s office should have one!) Get yours in our shop at 57 Hoxton Square, or order one online. Each Vulva is lovingly handmade and utterly unique – much a like a human vulva. 🙂
Masturbation Month, a.k.a May, is in full swing and if you’ve not yet taken time to tickle your pickle, it’s high time to lock the door, pull the curtains and switch off your phone.
Masturbation Month could be seen as something silly and indulgent, or maybe something only ‘sad’ people do; staying in and rubbing one out.
Let’s erase those thoughts right now.
It can be tiresome to hear about the great sex ‘other people’ are having, especially if you believe you are the only one who’s not experiencing regular fireworks and squirt-fests. We meet many women who assume there is something ‘wrong’ with them for this exact reason. There really isn’t – for women, having an orgasm is often a learned thing, a bit like riding a bike. It’s tricky, but once you get the hang of it, it’s bloody marvellous!
Growing up, boys are expected to be sexually curious and their sexuality is celebrated. A dad might congratulate himself when his teenage son is caught masturbating, thinking ‘that’s my boy, he takes after me!’
If a teenage girl is found with her hands down her panties, it’s not unlikely she’ll receive a hissed “what are you doing, stop that!” followed by a shocked or disgusted look from her mother.
It can be incredibly hard to smash the shame many of us have had instilled from an early age: it’s not ‘nice’ and we ‘shouldn’t be doing that.’
No wonder it’s hard to relax enough to have orgasms.
Starting off with just your fingers – because they make fantastic sex toys – and a little bit of lube is the best way. Your fingers has an immediate feel and translate the sensations into tiny messages for your brain: soft, coarse, wet and so on.
Feel your way around, feel the folds, the texture of your labia and the slickness as the body gets more turned on.
If you feel comfortable, why not grab a mirror and have a look as well? Colours and shapes change as the body becomes aroused, which can be darn exciting in itself! Your vulva and vagina are unique, just like the rest of you.
The clit has a mind-blowing 8000 nervendings sitting atop it, and this is where things can get tricky. If stimulated the wrong way, the clit gets too sensitive and pleasure runs screaming from the room.
The ‘ringing a doorbell’-technique should be banished; pressing long and hard on the little jewel is not going to open the magic door to vaginal Narnia. Ever.
Women have what we like to call their Happy Hour: imagine that the clitoris is a clock face (the Clit Face). Many women say that 10-11 or 1-2 are their most sensitive spots.
As small as your clitoris is, there are one or two spots that responds better to stimulation than any other part of your little jewel, and by working out when your personal Happy Hour is, you are well on your way to having an orgasm.
It’s important to keep your pelvic floor in good shape – do your clenches as often as you can: in the bus queue, during dull meetings and whilst watching telly of an evening.
Keeping your pelvic floor toned has a number of health benefits which we’re sure you already know about, but did you know it can help you orgasm too?
An orgasm is a series of involuntary rhythmic contractions of the vagina, and a having a strong pelvic floor can be helpful.
Whilst you’re jiggling your jewel in all manner of wonderful ways, try squeezing your PC muscle in time. It’s what the mighty Betty Dodson calls “fucking forward” – simultaneously stroke, push forward with your hips and clench. Magic!
Buzz Me Up to Heaven Baby
Vibrators are notoriously reliable when it comes to producing orgasms, hence their popularity. But if you’ve ever had a vibrator and it didn’t work for you, there could be good reasons for that:
1. The Wrong Kind of Vibrator
There area few types of vibes to choose from:
Clitoral vibrators – these are typically small and not designed to be used internally. They usually offer a high-pitched buzz.
G-spot vibrators – a shaft with a pronounced curve or bump at the tip, designed to be enjoyed internally. G-spot vibes often deliver rumblier vibrations.
Rabbit vibrators – a dual stimulating-type toy, they have a shaft for internal pleasure combined with a clitoral tickler.
Wand vibrators – these tend to be large in size (rest assured, they are not for insertion) and offers deep rumbles that shakes you to the bone.
Vibrators tend to fall in two categories: high-pitch or low & rumbly. These feel different and we find that women often fall into one of two camps: you need either a high-itched vibe for buzzy thrills, or deep vibrations for rumbly excitement.
The wrong type of vibration could be what isn’t working for you. If you’ve had a bullet vibe for example, and it produced nothing but boredom, try something with a heavier vibration.
3. Not Enough Time
Vibrators are fantastic at multi-tasking, but it would be wrong to assume they magically know what your preferences are. You need to work with the vibe; try different positions, different settings and different speeds. If you have a waterproof toy, you might like to try it in the shower or bath.
And give yourself plenty of time.
Learning how to have an orgasm can take a fair bit of time, a full hour of exploration and stimulation is not unusual. As you get to know your body and its particular likes & dislikes, you’ll be able to cut this time down if you want to.
There is no such thing as a ‘normal’ length of time to have an orgasm. There are a number of things to consider for each and every orgasm achieved: level of arousal, how relaxed you’re feeling, if fingers or a vibe is being used… All of those things matter when it comes to your pleasure.
Some women can orgasm very quickly, others need more time. There are no rights or wrongs, just remember it’s not a race.
The Wetter the Better
We are firm believers in a li’l bit of additional lube, whether you are using sex toys or not, or whether you are usually plenty wet. Lube enhances sensations and you may find it makes everything so much more comfortable.
There are many different types of lube to try, but you can never go wrong with a paraben-free, water-based version as it is unlikely to cause irritation. For fancy occasions you might like to switch it up with flavours, warming or tingling options, but if your peach is sensitive, it’s always best to opt for a plainer lubricant with as few ingredients as possible.
Once you start having orgasms, you’ll likely find they are easier to come by. It’s about finding out what works for you – this may mean a good vibe, a certain position or maybe downloadable clips featuring your favourite type of fantasy or porn. As long as you’re having a great time, it’s all good.
Masturbation is about pleasure – your pleasure. You can take as much or as little time as you want or need, and you spend that time wisely: on yourself.
Not having to worry about a partner’s pleasure can be incredibly liberating. We spend so much time worrying about whether other people are having a great time, we forget or ignore our own wants and needs. Masturbation Month reminds us that our pleasure matter too.