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Lift Your Libido! A Evening with Menopause Expert Becks Armstrong

What do you do when your libido is lacking? Join us at our upcoming event on Thursday 9th of May!

Mindfulness & menopause expert Becks Armstrong will be sharing her tips to help you get your groove back during peri-menopause, menopause and long after your pesky period has finished.

Menopause can play hormonal havoc, and while some of the debilitating symptoms are well documented no one seems to want to talk about what can happen to your libido and if it’s dipped how to find your way back – so let’s talk about sex, baby!

Becks will give you some ideas about why it happens; will give you some tips on ways to help yourself if you’re struggling and also the importance of pleasure as you age.

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Also bringing the heat – for entirely different reasons – will be our very own Renee Denyer, Store Manager & Sexpert right here at Sh! Having battled through her own peri-menopausal symptoms for years, Renee favours an approach that involves water-based lubricants, vibrating toys, and frank vagina talk. Renee will be on hand to offer advice on how to best handle dry vaginal membranes and how to choose fun toys to help keep the pelvic floor in shape and orgasms at peak ratio.


Join Us!

This event is for women only and places are limited.


Learn More About Becks Armstrong & Clarity

Becks-Armstrong-FinalBecks Armstrong is a degree educated women’s health specialist, with 20+ years of senior leadership experience within UK tech start-ups.

As a qualified acupuncturist, traditional Chinese herbalist and doula, Becks has harnessed her compassionate leadership style to operate women’s health clinics in Australia to high pressured Cheif Operating Officer roles with leading, fast-growth UK tech firms.

In 2017, Becks spotted a lack of real and substantive solutions for women going through peri-menopause and menopause. As a result, she created Clarity – a technology solution to improve women’s health through mindfulness, relaxation, and sleep.

The Clarity app features specific content and mindfulness practices for situations that may arise due to menopause like hot flushes, sleeplessness, night sweats and improving a low libido. Such exercises improve the quality of life for users – from better mental health, relationships to performance in the workplace.

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The Clarity app’s mission is to improve the lives of women – one calming breath at a time.

 

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Win a Womanizer 2GO Lipstick Suction Vibe – Worth £129!

A new month and a new fantastic competition with a prize that’ll make your toes curl:

Meet Womanizer 2Go!

As far as orgasms go, initial testing showed that an impressive 98% of women reached climax in less than 5 minutes when using the Womanizer 2GO Lipstick Suction Vibe. This is far beyond any other sex toy-testing stats we know of, but we can well believe it – air suction toys haven’t been out on the market for all that long, but they have created a panty-flapping stir for sure.

We have one of these fantastic toys to give away and YOU could WIN it!

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Womanizer 2Go is part of brand new sex tech for women – toys that don’t necessarily make contact with the super-sensitive clitoris but still manages to bring on orgasms strong enough to wake the neighbourhood!

The magic behind Womanizer 2Go is air suction; a gentle vacuum that sucks and thrills the 8000 nerve-endings on the clitoris. Some say it feels akin to a really great oral sex session, others say it’s indescribable. Either way, everyone agrees it’s marvellous!

Key Features of Womanizer 2GO

  • Sophisticated clitoral suction vibe with 6 levels of intensity
  • 100% waterproof for fun pleasure sessions in the bath or shower
  • USB rechargeable and made from body-safe material
  • Comes with 2 silicone nozzles for best fit over clit
  • 2 years guarantee

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Suction toys are amazing tools for women who find it difficult to orgasm – the intense suction can help tip a temperamental clit into orgasmic bliss.

For women who like lots of pleasure (well – that’ll be most of us!), Womanizer 2Go can help you become multi-orgasmic. As it doesn’t directly touch the clit and over-stimulate it, many women find they can keep going and going and going…

The classy lipstick design makes this toy easy to store and perfect to take away on travels. Orgasms ‘2GO’ have never been easier 😉

Good Luck!


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The winner of the Competition will be selected in a random drawing from among all eligible entries received throughout the promotion period.

The winner will be notified by email at the email address provided in the Entry Information on or about 48 hours after the random drawing. Potential winner must accept a prize by email as directed by Sh! within 48 hours of notification. Any winner notification not responded to or returned as undeliverable may result in prize forfeiture.

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#beboldforchange: How Sh! Helped Change the Female Pleasure Game

#beboldforchange: How Sh! Helped Change the Female Pleasure Game

This year’s International Women’s Day theme of ‘Be Bold for Change’ got us thinking about the times in Sh!’s herstory when we were bold, when we were determined to make a change, despite men ( and yes, mostly it *was* men) telling us that this was not a mould to be broken.

The sex industry today may be filled with women-led crowdfunded sex toy designs, female-focussed websites and couples-friendly packaging but 25 years ago it was a very different matter…

‘We don’t get many women in here Darlin‘ leered the moist male shop assistant on our first ever preamble to a sex shop…

We’d gone on our little shopping trip because as young, liberal women, we believed it was our right to explore our sexuality and I just wanted a nice vibrator and my friend wanted a strap-on!

Turned out that wasn’t to be. There were no nice toys, let alone female-friendly ones…

It also turned out to be the defining moment that spurred us to #beboldforchange.

For millennials, who have grown-up and honed their sexuality in a post-Sh!, post-Lelo, post-Agent Provocateur world, it’s difficult to explain to just how bleak and ignorant was the world towards female sexuality, 25 years ago.

It was 1992. At once both an age, and also a nano-second, ago.

It may have been 40 years after Dr Gräfenberg identified ‘an erotic zone [that] always could be demonstrated on the anterior wall of the vagina’ –  the famous G-Spot of his namesake.  Yet it would be 6 years until Helen O’Connell discovers that ‘the vaginal wall is, in fact, the clitoris’ in 1998 and a whopping 16 years before the first ever 3D sonography of the stimulated clitoris,  in 2008, reveals its true size and intricacy.

It’s not just the ignorance around female pleasure that’s shocking to look at within the last 25 years.

Within the last quarter century there has been a massive shift around sexual identity along with a rejection of limiting binary labels. The fact that half of all millennials don’t identify as 100% straight is beyond brilliant to those of us honing our own sexuality 25 years ago.

In 1988, Section 28 had been enacted; the nasty little law that stated local authorities ‘must not intentionally promote homosexuality’ and it would be a long, out and proud fight to get it repealed in 2003.

It was this fight that led, in a lovely rainbow line, directly to the equalisation of all relationships within the law and legalisation of gay marriage in 2013.

A time, when Madonna released  Erotica and leather-clad lesbians ran their own SM sex clubs  and yet when Operation Spanner was criminalising consensual SM and if you were a ‘proper’ feminist, you argued against porn, sex work and penetration.

It was a time of glimmers of sex-positivism amidst the oppressive gloom of the anti-sex brigade.

Radical was the concept of a sex shop where women were not only not only welcomed but were the main deal.

But we were bold. We wanted change. We opened one anyways!

‘I hereby charge you with running an unlicensed sex shop…’

The Licencing team from the local Authority had come armed with clipboards, counted up all the  ‘sexual articles’ in Sh! and decided they constituted a ‘significant degree’

[ The legal definition of a ‘sex shop’ is a place that displays/ sells ‘sex articles’ to ‘a significant degree’ ]

Oh dear. Either we were to pay the sex shop licence fee of £17,000 per year, or they would see us in court.

A licenced sex shop is legally allowed to sell R18 porn videos, which in a pre-internet world was a super-lucrative business within male-focussed sex shops.  We were already being radical by creating a shop for women to explore their sexuality, in a world that frowned upon or just plain disbelieved that women should even want to. But making up our sales with porn for women ( where precious little even exists, now as then) was asking too much!

Financially it was tantamount to closing us down.

But the bigger issue was around the meaning of a ‘sexual article’ which is legally defined as anything that ‘stimulates or encourages sexual activity or the force or restraint  associated with it’

Gosh! First off, how strange to place equal emphasis on  ‘force and restraint’ when F&R (or S&M as most of us would put it)  is quite a specialised sexuality. But no mention of spanking which is historically  La Vice Anglais (or perhaps that’s force and having it enshrined in law has somehow created a self-fulfilling  prophecy of kinky Englanders?) What about feet or food or silk? Oh dear but no – that would mean that Clarkes, Tesco and the haberdashery counter at Selfidges could be deemed to have a significant degree of sexual articles and were thus sex shops.

Definition surely always exists with context and  within the context of Sh! surely anything could be deemed sexual.

We purposefully rejected ‘realistic’ toys and porn-star packaging. There was nothing overt or ‘obscene’ ( another scurrilous legal definition) on our shelves precisely because these type of toys were made for the male gaze and had nothing to do with female-friendliness let alone female-pleasure.

‘They could all be electric toothbrushes!’ we retorted somewhat cheekily,  as the Council officials surveyed the brightly coloured, non-phallic vibes on our display table.

Which of course is true, because before Sh! and before Lelo ( who in 2003, were one of the 1st companies to design female-friendly sex toys) a lot of women used there trusty Braun to get off.

Sex and health are, of course, intertwined (which is how come you see vibrators in chemists & drugstores these days!), but back in the dark ages of the ‘90’s few businesses or institutions shared this healthy attitude to sex.

We were determined to bring sexuality out of backstreets of seedy-land and into the light of everyday life. But we had a fight on our hands if we were to even survive long enough to get our message out. There was nothing for it – we had to go to court. There followed a hysterically scary few days as we all pondered the precise nature of a ‘sexual article’ ‘Is THIS a sexual article Madam, …or this?’ quizzed our barrister of the magistrate as he flourished a feather duster or a length of chain around…

The case was thrown out, perhaps as much as on a technicality as on principal, but the bold issues had been raised and change was on its way.

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‘This is Mr Listen to Me from *much bigger sex toy company than yours love*….’

Sh! must stop calling your rabbit ‘Jessica Rabbit’ because we have bought the rights to that name and it’s ours, ALL ours!’

The rabbit vibrator may seem like it’s been around forever but it was a revolutionary design when it first hopped onto the scene, since when it has revolutionized possibly millions of women’s orgasmic capabilities.

We received this ‘order’ at least a decade after discovering a rabbit vibrator on the shelves of our local sex toy warehouse, re-naming it Jessica Rabbit Vibrator and telling the world about this fabulous new discovery.  The rabbit has had many guises, but this was one of the earliest, before Rampant, and was called (in the same vein) Roger Rabbit.

‘Did you recommend it in a 1993 Cosmo article?’ we asked.

That was the last we heard from any late-to-the-party sex toy company lawyers. We have proudly, boldly, and with a certain ‘so, sue us!’ righteousness to call our rabbit vibrator; Jessica Rabbit, ever since!

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Cafe V – Information and New Dates

 

Coming along to a meet-up or support group for the first time can be both exciting and scary – there’ll be unfamiliar faces and new things to learn. From experience, we know it can be very stressful to think about attending a group without knowing who will be there, and what to expect. We have created this page with the aim of putting some of those worries at rest, and help you attend the workshop feeling more relaxed.

What is Cafe V?

Cafe V is a well-being workshop and support group for female survivors of sexual violence and assault. Cafe V is hosted by Pav, the founder of My Body Back Project, in partnership with Sh!, the iconic sex shop for women in Hoxton Square, London.

 

Welcome to Sh!Where is Cafe V held?

Cafe V is held at Sh!, 57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB. It’s a well-lit, boutique-style erotic shop and a safe space.

For the meet-ups, you’ll see the My Body Back Project logo displayed on the door. This way you’ll know you’re in the right place and that we are expecting you!

Cafe V starts at 10.30am finishes at 11.30 -12noon. This is before the shop opens to customers. The shop opens at 12noon, so after this, customers will start streaming in.

 

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At Cafe V, you will meet Pav. Pav is the founder of My Body Back Project, and attends every Cafe V. We first met with Pav after she sent us a letter, sharing her thoughts on how there is precious little practical help for women dealing with and recovering from the physical effects of sexual violence or abuse.

Since setting up My Body Back Project and Cafe V, Pav have also joined forces with Barts Health NHS Trust to start a cervical screenic clinic especially for women and trans men who have experienced sexual violence.

 

sh-erotic classYou will also meet Renee. Renee is the Senior Store Manager at Sh!, and regularly teaches classes on sexuality, including at Cafe V. Her main interest is female sexuality and she will happily talk to you about the more practical details of choosing and using lubes, sex toys and positions that’ll help you feel more in control.

A member or two from Team Sh! will also be in attendance to help out with the practicalities of hosting Cafe V. The members of Team Sh! will vary, but please rest assured that they are all very friendly and know how to make a decent cup of tea! Team Sh! are very comfortable talking about all things sex, and you can always trust them to offer honest advice on the products available.

 

Tea & Pastries

Much has been said about the free tea and pastries! You will find a member of Team Sh! serving tea, coffee and pastries throughout the workshop. We hope you enjoy this treat!

 

Things To Think About

In order to make the workshop as useful and relaxed as possible, there area few things to consider before attending:

Cafe V is not intended as the first point of help after sexual violence has occurred. As much as we’d like to be able to offer the help, we simply do not have the resources to offer immediate trauma support. Instead, the best place to contact is Rape Crisis.

LubeAs Sh! is a sex shop for women, there will be vibrators and other toys in full view. If this feels uncomfortable for you, Cafe V may not be for you just yet. But – please remember that you are welcome to join the group when you feel ok about looking at sex toys (you don’t have to touch).

During Cafe V, the team speak openly and positively about sex, sex toys and sexual activities. If hearing about sex is a trigger for you, then Cafe V may not be for you at this point. Please bear in mind that this may change with time, and that you are most welcome to join the group when you feel ready.

It is unfortunately unavoidable that guests may occasionally find topics triggering. We do our best to avoid known triggers during talks, but if you feel uncomfortable with anything that is said, you are absolutely free to get up and move away from the space until you feel ready to re-join the group.

 

Booking a Space at Cafe V

Please email CafeV@outlook.com if you have questions about the meet up or if you’d like to join the next session.

Spaces are limited and fill up fast, so we recommend getting in touch soon to avoid disappointment.

 

Upcoming Workshops

  • February 6th  | Masturbation solo or with partner – includes suggestions oh how to choose and use sex toys and lubes.
  • April 2nd | Different options for how penetrative sex and oral sex can be done.
  • May 28th | Communicating your experiences (of the assault and how you feel sexually) with a sex partner.
  • July 2nd | Different ways to achieve orgasm.
  • August 20th | Problems with sex – guest can anonymously submit their questions to us and we answer them during the session. This can include vaginismus, vulvadynia, dyspareunia.
  • September 17th | Bondage for women who have experienced sexual violence. We’ll talk about how to stay feeling safe and in control.
  • October 29th | Fantasies during sex. We’ll spend some time looking at erotica and other useful tools for fantasising.
  • December 3rd | Triggers and flashbacks – how to cope with these
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Sexual Health Week: Vaginal Health

When we googled the word “vagina”, we found more than 1000 euphemisms. Beaver, clam, ladygarden, cock-sock (really?) and muff are a few. Being the forward females that we are, we quite like pussy and the dreaded c-word too, but we realise those words aren’t for everyone so we’ll stick with vagina.

Keeping your vagina happy & healthy is essential – an itchy muffkin is no joking matter. Any woman who has ever had thrush knows what we’re talking about: thrush is a yeast infection, causing itching and soreness around the vaginal opening, alongside the dreaded cottage cheese-like discharge. It’s easily treatable, but it’s an absolute bugger if you are unfortunate enough to experience a bout.

  • Vaginal Discharge

A healthy vagina will produce around 700ml of mucus each month. The mucus will change throughout your cycle, and this is perfectly normal. Your mucus will be transparent and stringy during ovulation, which is a useful hint if you are trying for a baby.

  • Vaginal Smell

The vagina has a slight odour, but it’s not unpleasant. Diet, sexual arousal or ovulation can change the smell slightly, but it should still smell fresh. A strong-smelling vagina could indicate an infection and should be investigated.

  • Vaginal Bacteria

The vagina produces healthy bacteria called lactobaccili. Good bacteria inside the vagina should flourish and outweigh any bad bacteria. For this reason, you should not douche the vagina, or wash with strongly scented soaps. It may seem as if you’re giving yourself a “deeper clean” but in actual fact, you’re upsetting the natural pH and you’re likelier to end up with a vaginal infection.

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The vagina is self-cleansing, which means you needn’t scrub it out. Washing the labia folds with gentle soap and water is enough – the inside takes care of itself. The vagina is clever like that.

  • Bacterial Vaginosis

Every so often we meet women who say they have developed an vaginal infection for no apparent reason. When we ask for more details, we can often help pin point what has caused the bout of Bacterial Vaginosis (BV).

Very hot baths, or bubble baths, are lovely to sink into, but they don’t do vaginas any favours. The hot water and scented bubbles will dry out the delicate vaginal membranes, and too many of these lovely baths will cause an imbalance in vaginal pH, and before you  know it,  you’ll find yourself with a sour-smelling, watery discharge that needs seeing to. Strong washing powers may also cause BV, as can douching (flushing out the vagina with water). Showers are more vagina-friendly, plus that shower head is always fun…

If you suspect you have BV or any other vaginal infection, it’s time to book an appointment with your GP.
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Sexual Health Week: STI’s

Sexual Health Week takes place from 14th September until 20th September and during this week we’ll make your vagina (or penis) our focus. We want your juicy bits to stay healthy.

We all know that we should go for regular check-ups, and that we should use condoms if we’re lucky enough to pull a hottie on a night out. But how many of us actually adhere to this, 100%? There are definitely occasional slip-ups, right?  Too busy, too drunk, don’t like getting our kit off in front of nurse in case she laughs at our oddly-shaped labia lips… There are many excuses and you may even have used one of them yourselves. And by doing so, you’re doing your vagina (or penis) a massive disservice.

Sexually Transmitted Infections, or STI’s for short, can happen to anyone who is sexually active.

It doesn’t mean that you’re playing fast and lose, and it doesn’t mean that you’re in some way “dirty”. It’s a risk we all take if and when we aren’t practising safer sex.

Safer sex means using condoms, dental dams and latex gloves during all sexual encounters where a partner’s STI status is unknown – this is by far the best way of avoiding unpleasant itching or frothy discharges in delicate areas.

Sexually transmitted infections are passed from one person to another through genital and/or sexual contact.

The good news is that most infections can be cleared up quickly.

The bad news is that many aren’t aware of carrying an infection, as they show no symptoms.

ribbed-condomsChlamydia is the most common STI in the UK, and worryingly, most people don’t experience any symptoms. This means you may be infected for a very long time, and could unknowingly be passing it on to partners.

Women may experience a burning sensation when peeing, vaginal discharge and bleeding in between periods. For men, symptoms may show as burning when peeing, a cloudy discharge or pain in the testicles.

Untreated Chlamydia can lead to infertility, so it is important to get checked out regularly.

Genital Warts are small, fleshy growths around your genital area, including the anus. They are caused by the Human Papilloma Virus and the second most common STI in the UK. The warts are usually painless, but you may notice some redness or itching.

Gonorrhoea is a bacterial STI easily passed on during sex. About 50% of women don’t experience any symptoms at all. For those who do experience symptoms,  pain when peeing or a watery discharge is common. Other symptoms can be pain in the lower abdomen after sex, or bleeding in between periods.

Dental DamThricomoniasis is caused by a teeny-tiny parasite, and is passed on easily. Most people don’t know they’re infected.

Thric can cause a frothy, yellowish discharge in women, and men may experience burning after peeing or an inflamed foreskin. Thric can be difficult to diagnose, and your GP may advise you to go to specialist clinic for a swab test.

Pubic Lice crawl from hair to hair (but don’t jump from person to person) so up close contact is how they are passed on.  They can live in all body hair, and it may take weeks before you realise you are infected.

HIV is most commonly passed on through unprotected sex, but can also be transmitted via infected blood. There are no cures for HIV, but there are treatments that allow the infected person to live a long and otherwise healthy life.

If you experience any of the above symptoms, we recommend you book yourself an appointment at your local GUM Clinic for further investigation. There is no shame in having an infection – but it is important it gets cleared up…

 

For more info on sexually transmitted infections.

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6 Reasons to Try the Mooncup

Team Sh!, like many of our customers, are huge fans of the Mooncup. Here are 6 reasons why you should try using a Mooncup too:

 

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The Mooncup is Convenient.
Ideal for travelling, swimming and exercise. Can safely be used overnight. Needs emptying less often than you would replace tampons or pads.

The Mooncup is Comfortable.
Inserted correctly, the Mooncup can’t be felt inside. Non-absorbent, so does not cause dryness.

The Mooncup is Safe.
Latex-free and made from medical grade silicone.

The Mooncup Saves Money.
Only one Mooncup is needed and will last for years. One costs less than the average woman spends in six months on disposable sanitary products

The Mooncup is Healthy.
No exposure to pesticides, chemicals or bleaches. The Mooncup collects rather than absorbs, allowing for a healthy vaginal environment.

The Mooncup is Eco-friendly.
One woman uses 10.000 tampons and pads in her lifetime. 4 million sanitary products are flushed away every day.

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Q&A: Vaginismus

Dear Sh! I’ve just been told I have something called vaginismus. I’ve spent years wondering why I couldn’t have proper sex with boyfriends (and usually getting dumped because of it). I’ve never heard of vaginismus before, and it sounds pretty bad!

I was told to get myself a dilating kit for vaginismus treatment.

Can you help? Hi there, Vaginismus is actually pretty common, and every year we have hundreds of women coming through our doors who also have vaginismus.

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina go into spasm.

This makes intercourse either very painful and difficult, or even impossible. Vaginismus is usually seen as having psychological roots, so working to “repair” yourself physically and addressing any psychological issues about sex you may have lurking deep down (whatever they are and wherever they may have come from) is the best way forward. Above all, don’t despair!

Vaginismus is something you can conquer with just a tiny bit of self-discipline.

There are few vaginismus dilating kits available. A standard hard plastic dilating kit, which is often prescribed for vagisismus, can look & feel very “medical”. Because of this, we developed our vaginismus dilating kit, which we call the Sh! Training Kit.

It is made up of 4 vibrators, graded in size like standard vaginismus dilating kit

Starting from very small and slim and progressing to larger and wider – all in pretty pink and purple colours! The advantage of using vibrators instead of non-vibrating dilators for vaginismus treatment is that the vibrations will also help to relax your muscles, and you can have fun stimulating your labia and clit at the same time. Compliance is usually the problem with the whole dilating issue – but if you have a great little vibe to encourage  you, you’re  much more likely to pick it up and use it.

The most important thing is to try not to despair or give up on yourself – vaginismus is beatable!

 

Customer Responds:

Just wanted to thank you all for advice about vaginismus. I was really quite depressed about the whole thing and your comments have really helped. I got your kit off this website, and it’s really great. I showed it to my doctor and she was totally impressed! I’ve seen the NHS ones and they looked awful. I’m only at number 2, but I really feel much more positive and as I’ve never had a vibrator I’ve actually enjoyed experimenting with rubbing my clit – WOW! Thanks again!

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How to Check Your Breasts

You know your body better than anyone else, and everyone has their own way of checking and touching their breasts, but here are some handy tips to help.

Check your breasts regularly and around the same time the month…

A good time to check your breasts is a few days after you period ends, so you’re not as tender or swollen. Due to hormone levels, you will find that your breast tissue will probably change throughout the month.

If you’re not having periods, check your breasts on the same day every month -pick a day ( the 1st of the month? payday?)  -whenever is easiest for you to remember.

If you are pregnant or breast feeding, it is still important to check your breasts every month. When breast feeding, try to examine after a feeding or using a pump, to make it more comfortable.

First, check your breast for visible signs…

Check in the mirror,  arms by your sides and shoulders straight.

Are your breasts their usual shape, size and colour? You’re looking for any changes to your breasts, such as soreness, a rash, redness or swelling , skin dimpling/ bulging  or to nipple ( inverted or discharge)

Next check your breasts by feeling them…

Position: If you’re starting with your left breast; lay on your back with your left hand under your head. Pop a pillow or something soft under your left shoulder.

Motion: Using your right hand , move around the breast in small circular motions, using the pads of your fingers.

Area: You can either start at the nipple working out in a circular pattern or use an up ‘n’ down pattern ( like you’re mowing a lawn) but be sure to cover the whole area, from collarbone to top of your tummy and from armpit to cleavage area.

Pressure: Use as much pressure as is comfortable for you, but the firmer the better, which, depending on the size and sensitivity of your breasts, will likely mean varying it from lighter around the centre of your breast and nipple area to much firmer at your breastbone, ribcage and armpit.

Tip: Checking in the shower or using lubricant or massage oil will make it easier to examine your breasts as there will be less resistance

When checking your breasts, look out for any of these changes, that don’t disappear…

  • Lumps, knots or thickening
  • Any swellings, warmth, or a change in tone of the skin
  • Changes in the shape and/or size of the breast
  • Rash on the breast or nipple,
  • Any sore or itchy areas
  • Nipple pulling in
  • Discharge from your nipple

If you do notice any unusual changes or lumps don’t panic, but don’t ignore them either…

Many lumps are found to be non cancerous, so try not to panic. If it is something more serious, Breast Cancer treatment & prognosis has come on leaps and bounds in the last few years.

So, don’t ignore any changes in your breasts, which don’t disappear after a few days. The sooner a lump or changes are noticed by you and checked out / treated by your Doc the better…

 

Review: Lelo Luna Smart Bead

Review: Lelo Luna Smart Bead

I have been a fan of doing pelvic floor exercises ever since I realised that strong vaginal muscles equal strong orgasms, long before I actually needed to do them. I’m forever banging on about the importance of doing regular kegel squeezes, and in this instance I practice what I preach.

Doing your squeezes benefits not only in a pleasure sense but also in a “business” one. As in, it takes care of business.

A strong pc muscle offer more control, which in turn help take care of accidental leakage. Running around after kids, enjoying a good belly laugh or a surprise sneeze can all have damp, inconvenient effects in the gusset area.

I usually use weighted balls for my pc exercising as I find the additional weight is good for toning, plus it can be really good fun with the ball/s rubbing up against the G-spot whilst doing housework.

I had heard there was a new, cool kegel exerciser in town – and a vibrating one at that! – so I jumped at the chance when my Boss asked I wanted to try one for testing purposes.

But as soon as I had Luna Smart Bead in my hand, I had several questions:
  1. What’s with the “belt” half way down the shaft?
  2. Why is Luna Smart Bead battery operated?
  3. Why is  Luna Smart Bead so expensive?
  4. Why isn’t Luna Smart Bead remote controlled?

In my opinion, these are all design flaws. I think Lelo has run with a great idea and released it out on to the market  long before developing it to its full potential  – Luna Smart Bead is not yet where it could be. Or should be….

 

Here’s the low-down:

LELO_Femme-Homme_LUNA-SMART-BEAD_product-1_deep-rose_0Like all other Lelo products, Luna Smart Bead is made from super-smooth silicone and thus feels great to touch.

Despite the soft, sensual material, I recommend adding a good measure of waterbased lubricant before inserting the Smart Bead. Trying to insert it without the added lube will ensure a tight, uncomfortable squeeze and nobody wants a sore muff…

The bottom part unscrews in order to slip in 1 x AAA battery and when you put it back together again,  you are left with a small, white “belt”. Like an indent.

This indent is hard to clean and whilst the Smart Bead is waterproof to the depth of 1 meter; lube, juices and water can – and do – sneak inside. Because of this it’s best to separate the two parts, and remove the battery, before cleaning. Make sure both parts are fully dry before assembling again.

Covering Luna Smart Bead’s entire body in silicone and making it a rechargeable product that doesn’t need taking apart would easily take care of this problem.

All other Lelo luxe products are rechargeable, which is one of their main selling points. Luna Smart Bead is battery operated, but the price (around £70) is high-end and what I’d expect to pay for a rechargeable vibrator.

The Price is an Issue.

For the price, the customer isn’t getting much to be honest. Yes, it’s beautiful. Yes, it’s silicone. Yes, it’s Lelo. But it’s still a product that runs on 1 x AAA battery, which in the world of sex toys isn’t all that.

Luna Smart Bead emits a gentle vibration, and for me personally, the vibration is far too low for any kind of pleasure.

In comparison, our Mini G-Spot vibrator, which also takes 1 x AAA battery, has several settings to choose from, is made from silicone and retails at a fabulous £18.

Making the product rechargable would also improve the intensity of the vibrations, ensuring that Luna Smart Bead could be used as a sex toy. We are all for multi-tasking products!

A Good Reminder

Luna Smart Bead is perhaps best aimed at those who forget to do their pelvic floor squeezes and need a gentle reminder (albeit from within!).

There are 5 cycles to work through, each harder then the last, and Luna Smart Beads remembers which level you are on. As your muscle strength improves, Luna Smart Bead takes you up to the next level.

The Smart Bead emits a low vibration in a pre-programmed pattern, and this is your cue to squeeze your pc muscle. This can easily be done in front of the telly of an evening.

It’s like having a personal trainer for your vagina!

Better Control

LELO_Accessories_REMOTE_product-1_cerise_2xLastly, I’d like to see a remote controlled version of Luna Smart Bead. This would allow the user to start, or finish, the exercise at their leisure.

As it is, you slip in the egg and then wait 30 seconds for the exercises to begin.

Should someone step into the room at this point, you have no way of switching Luna Smart Bead off – this could lead to all manner or fun/not-so-fun situations!

A remote control would also let you control intensity manually, which would be great if you wanted to use Luna Smart Bead as a sex toy.

All in all, Team Sh! have unanimously agreed that Luna Smart Bead with its tricky leakage vs cleaning issue and over-pricedness won’t make it on to our cherry-picked product list.

For now, we’ll be sticking with weighted love-balls. Sorry Lelo!