Strap On Harness

Sh! 2-Strap Strap-On Harness

There’s a reason that the Sh! 2-strap harness is a best seller and top rated on the Sh! website. It’s top quality and a classic, functional design that’s reasonably priced and versatile. Could you ask for more?

Before we get into the technical details, my favorite feature of this harness is that it’s £45 and handmade in London.

Actually handmade, not assembled with a label sewn on! The leather is soft and durable and will last for years. Accessible artisan goods like this are a rarity in today’s world of disposable products instantly delivered to your door, so Sh!’s craft is easy to appreciate.

The 2-strap harness also has a “just right” profile: well-built enough to be secure, but lighter weight than traditional chunky leather and metal harnesses. For those nights when you know fun is in store, you can throw it in your bag with your favorite dildo and it takes up no space at all! While some wearers might find a panty style harness (like the popular RodeoH) more comfortable, the 2-strap harness has a classic shape without being too bulky, and doesn’t shift around on your body. It’s also adjustable, unlike a panty style.

The 2-strap design is what you might picture when you imagine an iconic harness: one strap around the hips, and two straps between the legs. These bum straps can be worn either “jock” style–to emphasize your gorgeous bum and allow easy access to any parts between your legs—or together like a thong if you prefer. It also features a front to hold the dildo securely against your body and prevent excess pinching or rubbing. It’s easy to adjust and comes in sizes S—XXL.

This style also means it’s versatile for a range of body types and parts.

As a queer woman, I use mine with both men and women and change the dildo depending on our activity and my partner’s preference. (I personally love the Sh! Wirly Girly and Duchess models).

Leather Harnesses

The harness comes in a range of 6 colors of leather, all of them supple and attractive. While it’s true you can’t wash leather as you can synthetic materials, it’s still easy to wipe down after use.

Whether you’re looking to buy your first harness or your fifth, you can’t go wrong with the Sh! 2-strap harness.


Thanxx P for sending this lovely review to us – we hope you had fun putting the harness through its paces!


If you fancy getting your hands on a Sh! 2-strap harness of your own,

use code 2-strap in the checkout box for a 12% special discount!

 

Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

Beginners Guide to Buying Your First Strap On

Buying your first strap on, especially when both partners are total beginners and have never tried strap-on play before,  can be mind-boggling, we know.

Just like buying your first anything, when you’re making your first steps into strap-on sex, you have NO IDEA what to look for in the first model! ( to research browse through our strap on advice & dildo advice sections)

More importantly, whilst the thought of trying strap-on sex for very first time may make you beyond excited, it probably will also feel a bit scary and alien. Will you like it? Will you’re partner like it? Will you be able to operate it? Will you feel silly or miss your target?

Choosing the right strap-on is key to ensuring your first time is a hot experience for both of you.

Fused Strap Ons are not recommendedWe  Don’t Recommend All-In-One Strap-Ons

… and because we don’t rate them, we don’t sell them. An All-in-One Strap-On, where the dildo is permanently fused with the harness,  may seem so appealing for a for a first buy -open the box and Hey Presto off you go… Fused together strap-ons are cheaper than buying quality separates, but often buying an all-in-one can end up a total waste of money.

  • They’re impossible to keep clean, especially around the base of dildo, where it joins the harness.
  • The quality is usually poor
  • The one-size-fits-all harness mostly means they don’t fit well.
  •  Harnesses using elastic results in unwieldy  ‘twang-back’/ buckles dig in / straps are impossible to work out.
  • You’re stuck with one size of dildo.
  • The dildo is often too large which can kill off any strap-on desire of the receptive partner
  • The dildo is often dick-shaped, whether totally ‘realistic’ or more suggestively so. This might be the stuff of porn strap on sex, but for many women (and men) it can be off-putting.

One-size Doesn’t Fit All!

That’s why we produce over 40 different sizes and shape of silicone dildos, in a range of lovely colours and unique marbling effect. Plus 9 types of  strap-on harness, most in a range of different colour leathers. Giving you a fully bespoke choice, as well as the opportunity to show  individuality in your strap on style… But we know, faced with such a wide choice,  strap-on newbies can feel overwhelmed, which is why we created strap on kits

Strap On Kits Make Choosing Easy

Best Strap-On Kit (£99)
Best Strap-On Kit (£99)

We’ve advised thousands of first-time strap-on buyers at our London Sex Shop. From that experience, we’ve created strap on kits, which are ideal for beginners as they contain everything you need for your first adventures in strap-on sex

  • Each kit contains a best-selling silicone dildo and strap-on harness, plus lube & toy cleaner
  • Strap On kits save money on buying separately.
  • Because you are buying separates, rather than something fused together, it means that if/when you want to up-size, or down-size, the dildo , you can still wear it with the harness.

If you prefer to buy separately, here’s our advice to getting it right and making your first forays into strap-on sex a total success.

Don’t be a ‘Size-Queen’ When Buying Your First Strap-On. 

  • The biggest mistake peeps make when buying a first strap-on is buying a dildo that is too big.
  • If anything puts a lover off strap-on sex, its having an enormous dildo making its way towards them…
  • If the receptive partner is a strap-on virgin, whether for vaginal or anal sex, don’t be afraid to think small!

Do You Choose the Dildo, or the Harness, First?

  • For most dildos, it doesn’t matter which way round you choose your first strap on; chose the harness first & add a dildo .. or choose the dildo first and add your harness.
  • If you do want your harness to hold, (now or in the future) a large or  extra large dildo,  choose the dildo first and then choose a compatible harness as some harnesses hold bigger/heavier dildos more securely.

Buying Your First Dildo

Cupid 3 Curved Dildo £44
Cupid 3 Curved Dildo £44
Duchess Dildo £45
Duchess Dildo £45
Wirly Girly 2 Slim Dildo £34
Wirly Girly 2 Slim Dildo £34

In store, where customers can see our full range of dildos and try them in a harness, the top 3 selling dildos are:

Cupid 3 Curved Dildo, Wirly Girly 2 and Duchess Dildo

  • Width is the most important measurement to get right. If you’ve been having sex with your fingers, use a tape measure to assess the right girth.
  • When a dildo is in a strap on harness, you can always control how deep it goes, but one that is too wide is likely to be uncomfortable.
  • Depending on your size, once you slip a dildo into a harness upto  a couple of inches of ‘useable’ dildo-length can be lost so it’s better to opt for a longer dildo than you may imagine
  • If you and/or your partner are curvy, your tummies can get in the way, so definately opt for a longer dildo…
  • Use the filters in the dildo section to narrow down dildo choice for length / width.
  • Whilst the turn-on for the strap on operator is mostly mental & visual rather than physical, using a vibrating dildo will buzz on her crotch, which can make her orgasm whilst wearing a harness.


For lots more advice on choosing your first dildo, please read our How to Choose Your First Dildo Guide.

Choosing Your First Harness

Corset Strap On £62
Corset Strap On £62
2-Strap Harness £45
2-Strap Harness £45
Super StrapOn £56
Super StrapOn £56

 

  • Dividing straps means there’s no passion-killing pause whilst the the strap-on operator takes off the harness to receive some action herself.
  • This style means the strap-on operator can enjoy a 2nd dildo in the harness, using dual dildo adaptor
  • Most of our harnesses have a wide amount of size adjustability in each size which means even partners who are quite different in size can often share the same harness.
  • If you are in doubt about sizes, opt for the smaller.
  • Harnesses with wide backs , like the Corset & Super, are most supportive or larger, heavier dildos.

For lots more advice on choosing your first harness, please read How to Choose & Put on a Strap On Harness

Strap On Essentials … and Extras

  • Lube enhances all strap-on sex. Even if the recipient is as wet as Niagara Falls, adding water-based lube ( don’t use silicone lube with a silicone dildo as it can degrade the surface over time) ensures that there will never be any unsexy ‘drag’…

    Sh! Pure Lube £10
    Sh! Pure Lube £10

 

  • Lube is essential in anal / pegging play and we recommend a thicker anal lube for this, as it has the staying power that is required for the slow pace that is the key to enjoyable, pain-free anal sex

    Sh! Pure Plus £10
    Sh! Pure Plus £10 – Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant
  • Toy cleaner makes for quick and easy dildo clean-up. Getting an itch in the ditch, due to a dusty dildo, is no-ones idea of sexy!
Sh! Sex Toy Cleaner £5
Sh! Sex Toy Cleaner £5
  • Wearing a strap on for the first time, or seeing your partner wearing one, can make for surprising reactions.  Be prepared for anything from awkward shyness to a fit of giggles…
  • If you are very shy, and think this may inhibit you, a blindfold ( worn by the receiving partner) is a good way to keep both of you ‘in the moment’
Leather Blindfold £15
Leather Blindfold £15

Strap On Tips for Beginners

  • Warm-up with some manual and oral action before getting it down with a strap-on. Movie-sex is wrong – most women like lots of build-up before moving onto penetration.
  • Leave some lights on! You kind of need to see what you’re doing… and especially where you’re aiming!
  • Even so, use your hand to guide the dildo into the right place – don’t expect it to find where it’s going, just with your hips.
  • Keep checking that your dildo is still where it should be. When you’re excited and thrusting, it’s easy for the dildo to slip out and you find yourself thrusting into thin air! ( this happens to everybody) A newbie recipient may not have the confidence to tell you you’re missing the mark, so it’s up to you to check.
  • Try lots of different positions and places ( the stairs, kitchen table, up against a wall..?) Mixing it up is hot.
  • Strap-on sex can be simply ALL  about fulfilling the penetrative appetite of your partner… or it can be about role-play. It’s important to know the difference and be mindful of what’s appropriate. It maybe your fantasy but is it theirs? Only you know if asking your partner to ‘suck my c**k’ is going to go down well.
  • Most women need clitoral stimulation during penetration in order to orgasm. Don’t ignore her clit. Use your hands or guide her hands down.. Or add a vibrator to the mix.
  • Most of all – have fun!
How to Use a Double Dildo

How to Choose & Put On a Strap On Harness

Our range of strap on harnesses may look complicated, but essentially there are just two styles to choose from:

A strap-on with 2 back straps. This style is worn 'jock-style' and have two back leg straps that divide between your legs.
1> A strap-on with 2 back straps. This style is worn ‘jock-style’ & has 2 back leg straps that divide between your legs.
A thong or pant-style strap-on, with a gusset or a strap that runs between your legs.
2> A thong or pant-style strap-on, with a gusset or a strap that runs between your legs.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Choose a  Harnesses with two back straps

  • The two back straps divide between your  legs and curve around your buttocks. This makes it very comfortable to wear and keeps your ‘sexy bits’ free!
  • Made from soft leather in a variety of lush colours, these harnesses sit softly and securely against the skin and fasten with D-rings, so there’s no buckle-pinch.
  • A front panel holds the dildo close to the pubic bone and every harness comes with three (3) sizes of interchangeable rings so it can be used with different sizes of dildos.
  • Compatible with a Dual-Dildos Accessory which gives the harness wearer the option of penetration themselves whilst wearing this harness.

We make two styles of strap-on harnesses with 2 back strap-on, so, if you’d like this style, decide between:

Wide-Back Strap-On

Available in lace-up corset style or plain back style, 6 different colour leathers & two wide-ranging sizes: S/M (fits sizes 6 -12) & M/L ( fits sizes 14-20)

A strap-on harness with a wide back offers extra support & balance
A strap-on harness with a wide back offers extra support & balance
A corset-back strap-on, offers the same extra support & balance, with decorative, sexy lacing
A corset-back strap-on, offers the same extra support & balance, with decorative, sexy lacing

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why choose a strap-on harness with a wide back?

-Stylish and comfortable, with a wide, shapely back panel that hugs your lower back and hips to fully support your dildo – no matter how large or heavy is the dildo you choose to slip in.

-Double D-Ring fasteners are riveted to main panel so there is no need to position the leg straps on the waistband; simply pull them tight for the perfect size adjustment.


 

2-Strap Harness

Available in 6 different colour leathers & 6 wide-ranging sizes:

XS ( fits up to size 10 / Small ( 10-12) / Medium (12-14) / Large (14-16) /  XL (16 -20)  /XXL (20 -24)

Why choose a 2-Strap Harness:

  • The less-expensive model.
  • Wide range of sizes to fit everybody.
  • This is the most popular style of strap-on harness we manufacture, with customers rating it 5/5 and giving it rave reviews.
  • This harness is also suitable for male harness wearers: simply position the front panel, which holds the dildo, slightly above your own equipment or on your lower stomach.

 

 

Choosing the right size strap-on harness

Ever mindful that women are not created ‘one-size’ we offer a large range of sizes in our strap ons. And, if anything, our sizes come up on the larger side of traditional sizes, so if you are on the cusp of sizes, it’s best to choose the smaller option.

The thing to remember that whilst strong, soft leather is supple and will stretch over time.

If you do find that once you’ve pulled your harness tight, the adjustable leg straps are long, simply tuck them behind the straps.


 

 How to put on two strap harnesses

Whether you choose a wide-back strap-on or the more simple style, putting on, and getting out of this style of harness is the same.

How to Put On A 2 Strap Harness
How to Put On A 2 Strap Harness

 

  1. If you can wiggle the harness past your hips without undoing it, simply loosen the front straps through the D-rings to leave 3-5cm at the ends.
  2. If you can’t wiggle in, simply undo 1 front strap before stepping in.
  3. Step into the front leg loops, just like a pair of pants.
  4. Pull it up so the back panel sits on your lower back.
  5. Position the front panel over your pubic area.
  6. Slip your dildo through the ring so it nestles against your pubic area and adjust as necessary.
  7. Tighten the front leg straps by pulling them down evenly and equally in a downward direction.
  8. For a really secure fit, bend forward at the hips and pull front straps of the dildo harness again.

To remove , simply undo a front strap and step out.

NB: You don’t need to undo the lacing on the corset harness – it’s purely for decoration.


 

 

Thong, Brief or Pant-Style Strap-On Harnesses

A Thong Strap On Harness is quick & easy to put on but, with a strap of leather running between your legs, leaves you 'inaccessible' whilst wearing it!
A Thong Strap On Harness is quick & easy to put on but, with a strap of leather running between your legs, leaves you ‘inaccessible’ whilst wearing it!

 

Rodeoh Strap On Pants look and are worn exactly like a pair of briefs
Rodeoh Strap On Pants look and are worn exactly like a pair of briefs

 Why choose a thong or pant-style strap on:

  • Speedy strap-on action along with secure and comfortable fit.
  • No fiddling with harness straps or doing adjustments.
  • No tell-tale fastenings; can be worn discreetly  under your clothes.
  • Best for use with slimmer, lighter dildos.

Available in

Leather Thong Strap On: XS  8-10  /  Small 10-12  /  Medium 12-14 / Large 14-16

Rodeoh: XS (23-24″ hip) – 4XL (46-49″ hip)

 

How to put on a Thong or Pant Style Strap On

  1. Simply step in and pull up exactly like a thong/pair of pants.
  2. Slip your dildo in through the hole in the front and position as necessary. 

To remove,  simply roll down and step out.

 

easy strap on advice

Strap On Dildos Made Easy

We don’t rate standard sex-industry strap-on dildos, the kind where the dildo is permanently fixed to a harness. We’ve tried elastic strap-ons and suffered dildo twang-back on par with a playground bra-strap snap, only on more sensitive bits. We’ve laughed at monster orange dongs waving around in front of us darth vader-style. We’ve spent time working with an old toothbrush, attempting  to clean the join where dildo is attached to harness. And we’ve been left frustrated by the size-choice of these universally large (6″+) strap-ons:  the standard sex-industry still believes biggest is best.

We don’t rate all-in-one strap-on’s and because we can’t recommend them, we won’t sell them…

However, we have been making and selling our two-part strap-on’s for enough years to know that the trickiest part can be picking your first one. So, we’ve created a new range of Strap On Dildo kits to make it a bit easier.

The full range of Sh! silicone dildos can be overwhelming at first  – there’s a size and shape for all tastes and all sexual pursuits, but determining exactly what you want or which one you will enjoy can be tricky until you’ve tried at least one. Then you have to match it to a strap-on harness, decide on lube…  When all you really want to do is get down to business!

Our kits allow you to pick a perfect strap-on dildo with the minimum of stress.

We’ve combined years of experience and feedback from our customers along with a discount on buying the toys separately, to make a perfect plaything for you and your pocket.

So, if you want to try out a strap-on dildo for the first time, or if you want to buy a complete strap-on set that suits you perfectly, or give one as a gift, we have the perfect solution!

Here’s our Top 5 Strap-On Kit Picks:

 

Best Strap on Kit £99

Best Strap-On Kit £99 Best-Selling 6 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Toy Cleaner SAVE £5
Best Strap-On Kit £99 Best-Selling 6 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Toy Cleaner SAVE £5

 

Our Best Seller Strap-On Dildo kit is a combo of all our customers’ favourites

  • Cupid 3, our best selling dildo of all time,
  • Two-Strap Harness, our most popular style of harness, which can worn by a man or a woman, and – because of it’s an open-crotch design – allows access to their sexy bits as well.

We’ve heard so many good things about these two over the years – they really are the perfect partnership.


 

 

 

 

Thigh Strap On Kit  £96

Thigh Strap On Kit £96; 6 Inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £5
Thigh Strap On Kit £96; 6 Inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £5

 

For those who don’t fancy wielding a conventional strap-on, there’s the Thigh Strap-On Dildo kit– a set which allows you to have fun with penetration without having to do the pelvic thrust.

It’s also a good option if you have mobility difficulties and want to play without having to make too many moves.

The Thigh Strap-On Kit consists of a sturdy and sexy Thigh Harness, and Duchess silicone dildo, which has a  upwards angle and rounded head for extra G-Spot play.

 


 

 

Pegging Strap-On Kit £89

Pegging Strap On Kit £89: 5.25 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £5
Pegging Strap On Kit £89: 5.25 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £5

 

The Pegging Strap-on Dildo kit is specially created for guys who want to receive anal play, with their partner strapping a dildo into a harness and doing the giving!

This kit includes Wirly Girly 2 , a best-selling  slim dildo with a gently textured surface that’s ideal for sensual anal stimulation and a good length for wearing in a harness for pegging.

 

 

 


 

 

 

Double Strap On Dildo Kit £146

Double Strap On Dildo Kit £146 - Double Pleasure Set for Lesbian Couples: 2 Dildos, Harness, Adaptors, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £7
Double Strap On Dildo Kit £146 – 2 Dildos, Harness, Adaptors, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £7

 

The Double Strap-on Dildo kit is perfect for couples who like to share.

Snapping the two dildos together using the Double Dildo Strap Connector creates a double dildo that both lovers can enjoy at the same time, either vaginally and/or anally.

Or you can snap one dildo into the Dual Dildo Accessory, slipping it onto the leg straps of the  harness, whilst the other dildo is used conventionally.

It might sound complicated but, once in place,  the strap-on operator gets to penetrate and be penetrated at the same time – the best of both worlds and definitely worth any initial preparation.

 


 

 

 

Big Dildo Strap-On Kit £144

Big Strap On Dildo Kit £144 - Large 7.5 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £7
Big Strap On Dildo Kit £144 – Large 7.5 inch Dildo, Leather Harness, Lube & Cleaner SAVE £7

 

And, for big fun, the Big Strap On Dildo kit combines the larger-than-life Mistress Cupid – a beautiful,  extra large dildo with the fantastic curves – with the comfortable Super StrapON Harness, which had a wide back that helps support the extra weight of the dildo.

Ideal for more experienced strap-on players or for those who like larger than life pleasures!

 

 

 

All our strap-on kits come with a bottle of our own-brand lube, which gets rave reviews from our customers,  and a bottle of sex toy cleaner for quick and confident clean-up, all packaged in a gorgeous .gift box which doubles as a great storage box to keep your set together, handy and free from dust bunnies