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Penis vs Dildo: Can You Smell Them Apart?

An intrepid journo recently sent us a few questions about similarities between penises and dildos, and the likelihood of a person being about to tell the two apart.

We’re not all into penises (maybe we’re all into dildos but for the purposes of comparison, we needed someone who regularly handles the male pleasure package), so we asked our penile expert; a woman with several years active service in the field under her belt.

Here’s what she had to say:

Smell The Difference

A  penis does have a faint odor of Eau De Dick about it, just like a vagina has a distinctive scent. It’s a mix of musk and sweat, which is rather pleasant for a genuine cock-connoisseur.

Washing handsA freshly-washed peen will smell strongly of soap with a hint of male in the fleshy folds.

A clean silicone dildo is odourless, but a used one will smell of the lube used (raspberry can be rather refreshing) and also of lush lady-box (if that’s the orifice in which it was used).

A used dildo that’s been thrown under the bed after use will probably smell unpleasant – I’m not quite sure and I’d rather not find out.

A jelly dildo will have a noxious, toxic smell, especially if it’s brand new and straight out of the packaging. It will also feel rather “sweaty” to the touch and the pungent smell is offensive to most people.

A used jelly-dil  hasn’t graced my bedroom in the last 10 years so I can’t comment on the smell of that.

In conclusion: a person with some experience of peens should be able to smell the difference.

Look-A-Likey

Modern ‘realistic’ dildos are made from dense silicone with details like vein and head colour,  added by hand. The shaft may, from a distance and if you are squinting, be mistaken for the ‘real thing’ if it is poking out from the zip of someone’s jeans.

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However, if you were to take a closer look at a realistic-looking dong, you’ll notice the following:

  1. The balls are not floppy and lack pubic hair/stubble
  2. It’s not attached to a living, breathing person (a particularly good hint)

A living, breathing dick has blood pumping through it and will twitch and bob around (a clever dick can do this on command).

A  penis can and will lose its erection every now and then. That’s just how they work and you shouldn’t be offended by this. A dildo has a constant hard-on which, in my opinion, can be very useful.

A penis leaves ‘evidence’ before, during and after sex, supposing a condom is not used.

PackersNote: a flaccid packing-dildo (often used by Trans Men) poking out of a pair of briefs can be harder to spot – up close, you might notice it is covered in corn flour to avoid stickiness though.

Packing dildos are not for having sex with, they are far too floppy for that. The purpose of a packer is to create a nice bulge in the groin area.

In conclusion: a person familiar with penises and/or dildos should be able to tell the two apart (especially if found in a box under the bed).

Heating System

A real-life dick has a built-in radiator (blood flow) and a dildo does not.

A dildo can be warmed up, for sure, but it lacks blood flow and therefore feels “dead” in your hand. It doesn’t react to handling like a peen does. Its glans does not grow just before popping its cork and whilst there are squirting dildos, most do not offer this action.

In conclusion: a dildo can be warmed up but not from the inside like  a penis.

To the untrained eye, it may be tricky to tell them apart from a distance but as a general rule, dildos do not look, smell or behave like homegrown peens.

And if it’s shoved at the back of the wardrobe, it’s definitely a dildo!

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WIN The Great British Lesbian Hamper worth £500+

A new month means a new competition and Girl! – do we have an AMAZING  giveaway for you this month…

Rainbow LipsAs #queerpioneers, we’ve dedicated the last 25 years (woop!) to #pleasuringlesbians (well, our products have – we’d have been waaaaay too busy to run a shop otherwise!) and we want to make Pride 2017 the biggest and bestest ever – celebrating queer identity & culture in all its magnificent rainbow-glory!

We’ve been so excited about this, but we’ve managed to keep mum – until now that is:

We are giving away a Hamper full of sex toys, worth over £500!

That’s right, people £500+ worth of sex toys for you (and a beau perhaps) to enjoy…

We’ve packed the Great British Lesbian Hamper full of anything and everything you could ever need – we want to give the winner the time of their life; sexy experiences to enjoy time and time again!

For a closer look at the goodies inside the Hamper, scroll past the giveaway (once you’ve entered, of course!) and prepare to be amazed…

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Here’s a peek at what you’ll find in the Great British Lesbian Hamper:

Sh! Bliss G-spot Vibrator – with 7 setting to explore, you’ll be spoilt for choice! Velvety silicone covers the entire shaft and angled head, making Bliss very sensual to enjoy.

Sh! Waterproof Rabbit – our bestselling rabbit vibe with 12 thrilling settings to explore. If you adore clit stimulation this toy delivers. The cute rabbit ears hug the clitoris, delivering intense vibes to the sides rather than directly onto the tip…

Sh! Glass Pink Double Dildo – stunning dildo with solid ribs and bumps in all the right places. Leave it to cool down in the fridge or run under warm water for exquisite temperature play.

Womanizer Pro W500 – fun peppermint version of this bestselling sex toy with sucking sensations. 8 settings deliver stonking orgasm after stonking orgasm – Womanizer is every toy connoisseurs’ must-have!

Rocks-Off Finger Tingles Vibrator – turn your fingers into tantalising temptresses, ready to offer buzzing pleasure at the press of a button…

Dildo HeartsSh! Cupid 3 Rainbow Dildo – specially made for celebrating Pride 2017! 6 inches long, with a rounded head and curvy, tapered shaft (1.5 inch at widest) delivers a winning combination of perfect penetrative pleasure. Hand-poured by our Dildo Mistress right here in London.

Sh! Leather 2-Strap Dildo Harness – best-selling strap-on harness in soft, supple leather, regularly receives 5* customer reviews. This harness is sensual, practical, secure and very comfortable for all strap-on play. Choose between black, purple, baby pink, hot pink, baby blue or red.

Thigh Harness BlackSh! Thigh Strap-On Harness – handmade right here in London, this is an innovative alternative for strap-on play. the thigh harness straps a dildo to your leg to deliver thigh-humping penetrative pleasure to your lover…

Sh! Lube – two bottles of water-based and paraben-free Sh! Lube should be enough to see you through the rest of the Summer!

Sh! Small Silicone Butt Plug -smooth butt plug in small size suitable for beginners. Included is also a bottle of 25ml anal lube for comfy play.

Sh! Leather Blindfold – leather blindfold is gently padded and secured comfortably with an elasticated strap. Soft, sensuous and opaque (no peeping!). Handmade right here in London.

Sh! Wax Candles 3-Pack – handcrafted for sexy simplicity as well as safety, these dripping candles are specially designed to have a low burning temperature, offering enough heat for that unparalleled sensual sensation of hot wax, without burning the skin.

bondage-ropeSh! Bondage Tape – self-clinging tape, ideal for quick and easy bondage games. 20 meters of tape for playful fun – choose between red, pink or black.

Sh! Toy Cleaner – speedy, safe cleaning product that’s suitable for use with all sex toys and all sex toy materials. Ensures all your sex toys are clean, fresh and free from harmful bacteria every time you want to play.

Ostrich Feather – approximately 20″ long for stroking and playful tickling. Choose between black, red or purple.

The Art of Lesbian Lovemaking – an updated version of the lesbian Kama Sutra. 44 chapters full of insightful and inspiring tips and techniques, written and compiled by Rose Black & Lilly Gluck, founders of lesbiankamasutra.com.

Disclaimer: Your email address may be used by Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium for marketing purposes.

Good Luck!

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How to use a g-Spot Vibrator

Why Choose a Silicone Dildo?

Silicone is considered to be the best dildo material, bar none. It’s the dildo-connoisseur’s choice for its look and feel and also for its safety and ease of care.

A Silicone Dildo is Safe

An odourless, non toxic and hypo-allergenic material containing no phthalates or latex, silicone is THE choice if you are allergic to, or have concerns about, other dildo materials.

Cupid 3 Silicone Dildo £40
Cupid 3 £40
Our most popular silicone dildo

It’s super easy to clean and you can even to sterilize a silicone dildo by boiling it for 3 minutes or washing it in the top rack of a dishwasher!

Ease of cleaning isn’t just about sex toy safety for you. If  you plan to share your dildo with a partner, or are looking for an anal dildo for solo or pegging play, a silicone dildo  is the ultimate choice,  because of this ability to fully sterilize.

A Silicone Dildo Feels Sensual

A silicone dildo feels warm, smooth and dry, not cold or clammy like rubber or jelly dildos. Whilst firm and sleek, it feels springy and flexible, unlike steel dildos or glass dildos, which are hard and rigid

Silicone is a non-porous material, neither disclosing or absorbing any substance.

This means it doesn’t soak up any of your natural juices and also holds lubricant well on the surface – a small amount of lube on a silicone dildo goes a long way!

Whilst soft to the touch, silicone is quite a dense material so it transmits vibration well. Owning a vibrating silicone dildo means you’ve got a dildo AND a vibrator in one, giving you the added thrills on top of the penetrative pleasures your dildo bestows…

 

 

Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo (£32) Our most popular anal/pegging dildo
Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo 2 (£32) Our most popular anal/pegging dildo

 

A Silicone Dildo Lasts

Silicone is practically indestructible, unless attacked by something sharp. It never breaks down or degrades.

This is fab for a committed, long-term relationship with your dildo, but not great environmentally if it’s just a one night stand.

A dildo made from silicone is an investment and will provide years of pleasure if it’s take care of properly.

Although incredibly durable, once torn silicone can split, so keep your dildo away from sharp edges, teeth and curious pets!

 

 

 

Best Strap-On Kit (£99) All our best-selling strap on goodies, in a perfectly put-together kit
All our best-selling strap on goodies, in a perfectly put-together kit

Why Silicone Dildos Cost More

Silicone is an costly raw material and producers of pure silicone dildos tend to be, like ourselves, small, specialist manufacturers, which is why silicone dildos are more expensive than mass-produced dildos from China.

A silicone dildo is the best dildo you can buy,  but it IS quite an investment.

 

Silicone Toys & Lube

We advise to use only water-based lube on all toys made from silicone, as  the two silicones can react together and, over time, effect the smooth surface of the dildo.

We’ve tested this ourselves, after a silicone lubricant manufacturer tried to convince us that their lubricant was safe to use on silicone sex toys.

It was hardly highly-scientific, but we submerged a silicone dildo in silicone lube for a length of time to see for ourselves what the outcome would be. Small pitting started to appear on the surface.

Of course it would take many, many hours ( days.. week…s?) of play to simulate this ‘experiment’ within a real-life example, but why take the risk, we say.

 

Pros & Cons of Silicone in a Nutshell

Pros:

  • The safest adult toy material.
  • Hypo-allergenic & non-toxic
  • Feels dry, smooth and warm to the touch
  • Totally non-porous
  • Can be sterilized/disinfected which means you can safely share toys between partners or pleasure zones just as long as they are sterilized/disinfected between uses.
  • Transmits vibration well.
  • Warms quickly to body temperature.
  • Holds lubricant well (use only water–based lubes)
  • Durable
  • Super easy to clean
  • Can be sterilized

Cons:

  • Expensive
  • Though durable, can tear once surface is broken
  • Can’t be recycled.
  • Not compatible with silicone-based lubes

Why Choose a Sh! Silicone Dildo?

Lovingly hand-crafted in our London studio and featuring our trademark heart-shaped bases, Sh! silicone dildos are functional as well as good looking; comfortable and secure to use, whether you hold them in your hand or wear in a harness as a strap-on dildo.

The wide bases also makes them totally safe as anal dildos

As the largest producer of silicone dildos in the UK, we offer over 40 sizes and shapes, giving you the widest choice to suit your personal preferences and pleasures.

More ethically-produced than  mass-produced dildos made in the Far East.

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Our Best Selling Silicone Dildos

Here are our best-selling dildos, not just from sales over the internet but also from our London store, where customers can browse our 40+ models, comparing size and shape…

Hand-poured in our London studio, using top-grade silicone, each dildo is priced on its weight, which is listed on each product page  – along with the dildo’s other vital statics of length & diameter to help you choose your perfect size.

Each dildo is available in a range of colours, including a signature marbled design for each style.

A marbled dildo will be unique – no-one else will own the exact same marbled dildo as you!

Each dildo is also available as a vibrating version, with a small pocket in the base that holds a Sh! Bullet Vibrator.

 

 

Cupid 3 Silicone Dildo (£40) - Our best-selling dildo, by a mile!
Cupid 3 Silicone Dildo (£40) –

 1. Cupid 3 Silicone Dildo

Our outstanding best-seller by a long way!

Cupid 3 appears to the perfect size and shape for lots and LOTS of you…

Both the regular and the vibrating version appear in our best-selling dildo list.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo (£34)
Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo (£34)

2.  Wirly Girly 2 Silicone Dildo

Slim and ribbed, this is a favourite among women who prefer less girth.

It is also a super-popular size and shape for anal play and pegging.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cupid 6 Silicone Dildo £50
Cupid 6 Silicone Dildo £50

3.  Cupid 6 Silicone Dildo

With the same subtle curves of Cupid 3, this is a popular choice for those looking for a slightly larger dildo, with more girth.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cupid 2 Silicone Dildo £24
Cupid 2 Silicone Dildo £24

4.  Cupid 2 Silicone Dildo

The opposite end of the scale, Cupid 2 is a popular choice for those looking for a smaller dildo.

Popular for anal and pegging play too.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Duchess Silicone Dildo £41
Duchess Silicone Dildo £41

5. Duchess Silicone Dildo

About the same dimensions as Cupid 3.

With a smooth rounded head for G-Spot massage and subtly grooved shaft.


 

 

 

 

 

 

Wirly Girly 3 Silicone Dildo £37
Wirly Girly 3 Silicone Dildo £37

6.  Wirly Girly 3 Silicone Dildo

A longer, slightly wider version of Wirly Girly 2.  Slim and ribbed, for sensational penetration, that’s all about strokes.

The extra length is useful for strapping it on in a harness.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Twista 2 Silicone Dildo £61
Twista 2 Silicone Dildo £61

7. Twista 2 Silicone Dildo

The largest of our best-sellers, Twista 2 is a great choice for super-fulfilling penetration, with a gentle spiral down the shaft for feels all the way!


 

 

 

 

 

 

Dickie 2 Silicone Dildo £39
Dickie 2 Silicone Dildo £39

8. Dickie 2 Silicone Dildo 

Our beautifully stylized take on a realistic dildo.

Handsome good-looks, with a ridged head and a shaft that becomes increasingly fulfilling…


 

Silicone dildos vs rubber dildos advice

Rubber vs Silicone Dildos – The Difference Between Dildo Materials

Our  guide to the difference between rubber and silicone dildos.

Certainly size and shape are important when choosing your perfect dildo, but the sex toy material it’s made from is also an important consideration; the material effects the feel, weightiness and sensations of a dildo, as well as how easy it is to clean and care for.

We produce dildos in silicone & rubber* and they are very different in terms of cost, feel and care…

Silicone Dildos
Silicone is the best sex toy material, but it is quite an investment..

The Difference in Cost: 

Silicone is an expensive raw material and its manufacture process is time-consuming, intensive and sensitive to environmental conditions.  It is the best sex toy material, by a mile, but this does mean that an artisan, ethically-produced silicone dildo is not the cheapest dildo on the block.

Rubber is a much cheaper material and easier to work with, which, of course means a rubber dildo is a lot cheaper. This makes a rubber dildo a good starter dildo  for people just starting out or who would like to make sure they get the right size, before investing in silicone.

*NOTE: We are phasing out our rubber dildos, as more and more peeps are choosing to go straight to silicone. When they’re gone, they’re gone!

 

The Difference in Feel:  

With a dildo in each hand it is easy to feel the difference between dildo materials – but of course, this is less easy over the internet!

silicone dildo  feels warm, dry, smooth and very strokeable. The material warms to body temperature quickly, and feels soft and pliable (but still firm enough to be fit for purpose!).

Rubber Dildo
A Rubber Dildo feels solid, is non-porous, with a  delicate surface…

It feels solid and quite rigid.

rubber dildo feels much firmer, denser and heavier than silicone.

 

The Difference in Care & Cleaning:   Silicone is a non-porous material and is really easy to clean – you can even sterilize it,  so it can be shared between lovers or pleasure zones (though, of course, never go from anus to vagina without a condom or sterilizing in between).

To sterilize a silicone dildo, just boil in a pan for a couple of minutes or wash in the top rack of a dishwasher (without soap or dishes!)

Don’t try this with a rubber dildo as it will melt.

Rubber is a porous material which means it will absorb body fluids and is impossible to sterilize. Its surface can also flake or nick, especially if caught with fingernails, so, for both these reasons, we advise it’s best to cover with a condom, even if it is to be used by just one person.

The Difference in Lube-Choice: Using lube with dildos, or any (all!) sex toys for that matter, will enhance the experience, no matter how wet you or your lover get all by yourselves.

Sh! Pure Lube £10 - Lube enhances all rabbit vibrator play, increasing glide, sensuality and intensity...
Lube enhances all play, increasing glide, sensuality and intensity…

Unlike skin-on-skin contact, you can’t tell how slippery and smooth a dildo is feeling to your partner, so its always best to coat the dildo in lots of sensual lubricant before going in!

But which lube, for which dildo material?

For silicone dodos we recommend always using water-based lubricant, as there is a chance that a silicone-based lubricant can effect the smooth surface of the silicone material. 

With rubber you can use any lube you like…

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Different Types of Dildos

People often get confused about the difference between a dildo and a vibrator. At Sh! we distinguish simply;  Any toy with the primary purpose of penetration, we call a ‘dildo’. It can sometimes vibrate, but internal pleasure, rather than vibrating thrills is its main job spec.

Stroked in and out, a perfectly shaped and sized dildo will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings that surround the vaginal and anal entrances and further inside there’s the G-Spot  and Prostate to explore. These female and males ‘sweet spots’ offer orgasmic potential that is quite different to clitoral and penile orgasms.

But with so many different types of dildos,  which is right type for you?

Silicone Dildos

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 40  different sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

Whether for solo or partner-play, Sh! Silicone dildos are the best, most versatile dildo you can buy.

Yes, we admit we’re biased! But our artisan range, which is  hand-poured in our London studio, using pure silicone means there’s a bespoke, ethically-made dildo for everyone…

 

Body-safe, sensual and very easy to clean, they can be held in your hand or worn in a strap on harness.

Their wide bases also makes them totally safe to use as dildos for anal play.

Buying a dildo is a very personal choice, of course.  ‘One size’ most definitely does NOT fit all and that’s why we make almost 40 different sizes of silicone dildos from petite upwards.

Only you can know if you, or your lover would prefer a short dildo, or a long dildo, a  slim dildo, or a wide dildo, but we can give you the following dildo buying advice:

 

What Size Dildo?

  • Width is the most important measurement to get right, as a dildo that’s just too ‘girthy’ will not please.
  • Length is less important, as you can always control how far to put it inside.
  • If you plan to wear your dildo in a harness, however, you should opt for a longer one than you may think as a couple of usable inches are lost when a dildo is ‘strapped on’

If this is you are a first-time buyer, read up on how to choose your first dildo.

 

 


 

Dildos For Two

Double Ended Dildos
Double-ended dildos are extra-long, with a dildo at each end for each partner to enjoy…

Double dildos  come in two types: traditional and strapless.

Traditional double-ended dildos are extra-long dildos designed to use with a partner.

There’s a shaft at each end for each of you to enjoy, either vaginally or anally.

You move the double dildo between yourselves using a pull me/push me motion.

A double dildo offers simultaneous voyeuristic and physical pleasures as you both get to see AND experience penetration together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless dildos  are designed for strap on-style sex with a partner, without the need of a harness.

A U-shaped double dildo, featuring one internal (egg-shaped) and one external (longer) dildo.

The “operator” grips the internal dildo inside her (using her PC Muscles) whilst she penetrates her lover with the external dildo.

A strapless dildo is best for subtle moves, rather than wild thrusting, as it doesn’t offer the same security of a dildo worn in a harness.

 


 

Dildos To Strap-On

 

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A dildo worn with a harness offers more security & adaptability than a strapless; the harness holds the dildo securely to your body, meaning you can move more freely.

The other advantage is that you can interchange the dildo, up or down-sizing as the fancy (and your dildo collection) takes you…

One partner wears a dildo ‘strapped-on’ , either onto their hips, with a regular Strap-On  Harness or onto their leg, using a Thigh Harness.

The dildo is then ready to offer her partner penetrative pleasure, either vaginally or anally.

A Strap-On is a classic lesbian sex toy,  but it’s becoming increasingly popular with straight couples who are discovering the delights and orgasmic potential of pegging.

Dildos worn in a harness must have a flared/wide base to prevent them slipping out of the harness.

A flared base on a dildo is also crucial for safe anal play.

All Sh! silicone dildos are harness compatible and anal safe.


 

Dildos For Sensation

Glass G-Spot Dildo £37
Hard dildos, made of glass or steel offer amazing sensations that the G-Spot & Prostate particularly enjoy…

Dildos made from glass or metal offer a delicious weightiness that other dildos can’t…

It’s a weight and firmness that the G-Spot & Prostate respond to really well.

These dildos also feel super sleek and sensual. With just a touch of lube, they simply glide inside with unbelievable ease…

They can also be gently warmed, or chilled, to offer different temperature sensations.

Glass and metal dildos offer unique penetrative pleasure which is very different to a regular dildo and most of our customers who try them, rave about the exquisite sensations they deliver.

Designed to be hand-held, they cannot be worn as strap-on.

 

 

So that’s our run down on the main different types of dildos, but we have loads more advice about choosing and using a dildo

Check out these sections to discover more…

 

Q&A Ask Sh!

Q&A: Best Toy for Anal Sex: Butt Plug or Dildo?

Dear Sh!

Please could you give me some advice on which is best toy for anal sex – a  butt plug or a dildo?

I’m kind of new to all this and would appreciate some advice.

Thanks in advance…

Alex

 

Hi Alex,

So, choosing the right kind of sex toy for anal play depends on how you want to use the toy and the kind of  pleasure you’d like to experience from it. But as a beginner it’s very difficult to know!

Probably the best way it to start your anal discovery with a finger, covered in a condom or latex glove, if you’d prefer….

Cover both your anus and finger with some lube and gently, with patience, start exploring.

Going in will essentially feel the same, but once up there, do you prefer simply the feeling of fullness of your finger staying put or do you prefer a sliding in and out motion?

 

Beginners Butt Plug £15
Beginners Butt Plug £15

Butt Plugs – Best For Feelings of Still Fullness…

If you more prefer a feeling of fullness, then a butt plug is a great anal sex toy for you as, after the initial insertion,  it’s not designed for much movement, beyond a slight wiggle or tilt.

The narrow neck at a butt plug’s base is what makes it stay in place – your sphincture muscle will naturally close around where it is narrowest – so, whilst there are no rules to how you must play with any sex toys and you can make small in-out movements with it,  it may feel jarring to try to slide a butt plug in-and-out once this muscle has tensed around the narrow neck portion.

A butt plug is a good toy to get a ‘feel’ of what it’s like simply to have something up your bum, which in itself can be very arousing.

 

 

 

 

Wirly Girly 2 - Our most popular anal dildo
Wirly Girly 2 – Our most popular anal dildo

Anal Dildos – Best for In-and-Out Strokes…

If you crave a feeling of stroking in-and-out, then a dildo is actually the best toy for this kind of anal pleasure, because they have regular shafts, with no pronounced narrowing.

Again, there’s NO rules and you can simply slide a dildo inside and hold it there with no movement. But, unlike a butt plug, you can’t really let go, as the anus’ natural instinct is to (ahem) ‘expel’ …so it will start to slide out.

Our dildos start from finger- size, like the Wirly Girly 1 Slim Dildo, so even if you are new to anal sex, you won’t be feel overwhelmed.

If you plan to  strap on a dildo for anal sex with your male or female lover, then you’ll need a longer dildo such as Wirly Girly 2 Slim Dildo  or, even Wirly Girly 3 Slim Dildo as some of the dildo’s length is lost once it’s worn in a harness.

Both these styles are super popular anal dildos; slim enough for unintimidating anal sex, with gently ribbed shafts for stimulating the responsive nerve-endings in the anal canal and the extra length allows for proper strokes, without the toy slipping out altogether which can be frustrating!

The bases of all Sh! dildos & butt plugs are all safe for anal play as they flare enough to prevent dildos from slipping inside and getting lost inside.

Remember, whenever you play – lubricant is your friend and absolutely key to pleasurable anal sex, so whichever toy you choose, treat it and yourself with a lovely coat of lube to ensure maximum glide and pleasure.

Hope this helps and do give us a shout if you need any more advice

Best Wishes

Team Sh!

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity

 

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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.

 

Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.

 

Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure

 

 

 

 

 

 

Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm

 

 

One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!

 

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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls

 

Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms

 

The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure

 

There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’

 

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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure

 

Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…

 

Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…

 

 

Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…

 

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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy

 

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.

 

 

 

 

A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse

 

A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,

 

 

 

Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.

 

 

 

Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves

 

Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…

 

Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

 

For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.

 

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

 

 

Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits

 

Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99

 

They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.

 

 

 

 

Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89

 

 

 

 

 

 


For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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Sh! Women's Erotic Emporium - Discover the Difference

British Made Sex Toys by Sh!

When we first started out way back in 1992, most sex toys were such awful quality and design that we simply *had* to start making our own!

We design and hand-make an exclusive range of products in our studio in east London. These UK-made pleasure products can never compete in price with those churned out in the Far East; Each  dildo, strap-on harness and bondage item is poured, stitched and studded all by hand,  so if you’re looking for high-quality, ethically produced, lovingly-made sex toys, you’ve come to the right place!

Silicone Dildos – Bristish-Made & Hand-Poured

Freshly Made Dildos!
Freshly Made Dildos!

Our silicone dildos are sold in stores as far away as Madrid & Tokyo, but in the UK you can only buy them in our london sex shop or here online.

Sh! was the first ever company to start producing silicone sex toys in the UK/EEC and we still offer that largest  range.

Our unique collection is hand-poured in silicone, the best sex toy material and, because we know that there’s no ‘one size fits all’ when it comes to dildos, we offer over 40 different shapes and sizes to suit every individual preference.

Each one is ergonomically pleasing  100% body-safe and phthalate-free, warms quickly to body temperature, non-porous, and super easy to keep clean or even to sterilize.

In every dildo design,  you can choose between a regular dildo or a vibrating dildo.  which comes with a bullet vibrator that slips in the base to offer subtle vibration and extra stimulation.

Each dildo features our signature heart-shaped base which makes it compatible and comfortable to wear in a harness as a strap on, as well as totally safe for anal play.

Our Best-Selling Dildo - Cupid 3 (£44)
Our Best-Selling Dildo – Cupid 3 (£44)

Our best-selling dildo is Cupid 3 which is available in 4 different colourways, including purple marbling which will give you a totally unique dildo as no two marbled dildos are ever the same.

It’s also available in 3 special edition colours of white with a tiny heart on its base, ideal as a  wedding present, white and red hearts for Valentines and a spooky glow in the dark!

 

 

 


 

Strap On Harnesses – British-Made, By  Hand

A dildo worn in a strap-on creates a toy for any couple who enjoy penetrative sex together
A dildo worn in a strap-on creates a toy for any couple who enjoy penetrative sex together

 

Like a horse and carriage, a dildo goes with a harness to create a strap-on marriage!

No wonder our strap on harness come a close 2nd to dildos in being the most popular toys we produce.

Hand-made using the highest quality leather and rubber, our strap on harnesses are world-famous and we send them all over the globe!

Designed by women who actually *use* strap-ons, we pride ourselves on providing you with your perfect harness; one that is comfortable to wear, practical and stable in use and incredible durable, with many customers reporting over ten years of strap-on play with a Sh! harness.

Whilst black is the most popular choice,  we also offer our soft leather strap on harnesses in a variety of beautiful colours; Purple, red,  pink and in some cases stunning white and gold leather, to satisfy those of you who really want a statement strap-on.

 

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

Sizes vary with styles, with each having a large adaptability within the size;

Our best-selling 2-Strap Dildo Harness has the widest sizes available; from XS ( up to size 10) – XXL ( 20-24)

 

 

Corset Strap On £62
Corset Strap On £62

Our Corset Strap On, is Sh!’s 2nd best-selling harness.

It features a wide, supportive back, with corset-style lacing, and is incredibly flattering and comfortable to wear.

Fully leather-lined, with an interchangeable dildo ring, it’s available in 8 colours and 2 sizes; SM  fits up to 12 / ML 14-20.

 

 

 

 

A strap-on is a classic lesbian sex toy of course, but it’s also becoming increasingly popular for straight couples who are into pegging , where the woman don’s a strap-on to satisfy her male partner.

 


 

 

 

 

Bondage Gear – British-Made, By Hand

We also hand-make our own range of super quality bondage cuffs , collars and spankers to ensure your restraint games are the best they can be.

 

Leather Bondage Wrist Cuffs (£30)
Leather Bondage Wrist Cuffs (£30)

 

Our crafted leather bondage cuffs are  handmade with tough leather hide and riveted, with strong nickle  & chrome fixings & buckles.

We then line them  in soft, premium quality faux fur

This ensures maximum comfort whilst providing much needed durability during play.

Our classic leather bondage collection comes in 3 colourways; of Black, Red and Pink and available as wrist and ankle cuffs as well as matching  2″ collar & slim studded and spiked ‘princess’ collar & bondage chain sets.

Our  Luxury Bondage collectio comes in  6 colours  of black, purple, Red, Cerise, Royal Blue & White. These are paddedand leather lined inside and are decorated with a flash suede trim to really make a statement. Available in wrist and ankle cuffs as well as matching  2″ collar.

 

Black maybe a classic for bondage, it can also be basic or intimidating which is why we offer our range in so many gorgeous colours. We aim to satisfy every preference, playful mood, bedroom or dungeon decor!

 

 

Spanking Paddles

 

 

For spanking and sensation play we also hand-make a range of sensual spanking toys.

Available in the same range of colours, to match all our bondage collections (we’re all about co-ordination!) our spankers come in heart-shaped and paddle-shaped.

They feature one side that’s studded leather ( leather range) or suede ( luxury range)  with the reverse lined with premium quality faux fur – perfect for stroking sore bottoms all better.

We also make classic tawse and school straps as well as padded and cut-out heart spankers, for those who want leave a romantic impression on a beloved bottom.

 

 

 

For those who prefer to steer away from leather, we also offer most of the above range of bondage gear, spanking items as well as tough and corset strap-ons in rubber too – Phew!

 

Crafts(wo)manship is alive and well in London and we are proud of the fact that we’re one of the few British manufacturers actually making sex toys in the UK. The Board of British Manufacturing were also quite impressed when they came to visit O_o!

We hope you too will be impressed and proud to own one ( or a few!) of them and that enjoy using them as much as we love making them.

 

Do you own any Sh! made goodies?

Anything you like the look of but have some questions?

Drop us a comment on the blog and let us know.