Sharing is caring! Your ultimate guide to group sex

Sharing is caring! Your ultimate guide to group sex

Group sex is a fantasy for many, but you’d be surprised at the number of people from all walks of life who enjoy playing out their biggest desires and participating in safe and satisfying encounters with two or more people.

From thrilling threesomes to organised group sex events, there are so many opportunities to explore your desires in the company of other like-minded people. But before you whip off those French knickers and arm yourself with your fave vibrator and plenty of lube, there are a few golden rules when it comes to sharing sexual experiences with others.

Safety first!

Before you get those juices flowing, the most important aspect of any group sex soiree is definitely safety. Any group sex aficionado will tell you that safe and hygienic group fun starts with the right products, so make sure that you have the right kit before you get your kit off!


Condoms are a must, so if you’re planning your own get together, then it’s up to you to be a good host and provide a good stash of them in easy reach.

Likewise, a few anti-bacterial wipes for giving those favourite toys a proper cleansing before and after your event are essential, so make sure that they are specially created for this purpose to protect your vibrators, love beads and strap-ons from germs. You’ll also need to ensure that they’re kind to your intimate parts too because it’s not going to much fun if your guests are too sore and itchy to join in!

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Do your research

If you know what you want but are currently unsure of how to find it, then doing research is paramount to ensuring you have a fun, positive and safe experience.

Most parties are organised when a group of friends (or friends of friends) with similar preferences come together. Sometimes, a host rents a large-scale venue and invites all those who are in the know. This means that if you find yourself on the edge without any connection to actually realising your fantasy, it can be tricky to find a legitimate event to attend with like-minded people. Fetlife, for instance, is a great resource for any kinksters wanting to unleash their inner dommes and subs.

If you’re looking to attend a group sex event organised by someone else, you’ll need to be 100% clear on what you can expect. There are so many get-togethers that cater for different tastes, so if you’re a newbie to the wonderful world of group sex, then it’s best to see if there are any ‘themes’ such as partner swapping, pegging or anything else that might pique your interest.

Many groups have also general do’s and don’t’s that their members must adhere to. This could involve rules about mobile phones, dress codes or who can/cannot attend specific events. Again, it’s important to be aware of all this beforehand to avoid any awkwardness upon arrival.

If you feel it’s not for you, politely decline and find something else.


Play nicely

You can’t just expect to turn up at a group sex event as many of them are by invitation only, or they at least want to get to know you a bit better before getting down to business. You might be asked to join them for a coffee (but remain fully clothed! This is a brew and a chat, not an orgy at this stage!) or have a chance to meet and greet a few other group members before the fun starts, so use this as your opportunity to discover a little more about them, their preferences and see if they’d be happy to enjoy some experiences with you later.

Remember that no matter how “loose” or beyond your usual realities a party gets, it is all about respect.