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Celebrating Solo This Valentine’s Day?

Traditionally a night for lovers to spend hours and hours sweating it out between the sheets, Valentine’s can be a little sore for those who find themselves without someone to bump & grind with.

You could organise a night out with other singletons, or set up a Tinder account specifically for hooking up on this one night of the year where the pressure to be part of a couple is on…

But what if you don’t want to? What if you want to take off your rose-tinted glasses and close the door on all the bouquets and teddy bears smugly making their way across town on public transport?

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There’s no good reason why you should miss out on orgasms just because you are single. In fact, celebrating Valentine’s Day is the perfect way to show yourself some tender loving care.

There are a couple of different ways of going about this.

  1. Romance yourself. Buy your own flowers, order in a meal and pop the cork on your favourite tipple. Queue up a series on Netflix and settle down in your finest lingerie. Make sure your sheets are fresh for what’s to come (you).
  2. Sod the romance. Get a bag of nachos, find some good porn, and settle down in all your naked glory. Who cares about fresh sheets – the sofa is perfectly fine for a hot wank every other night of the year so it’ll do for V-Day too.

Next: line up everything you need for a menage a moi.

  • Lube – check!
  • Sex toys – hmmm…
  • Toy cleaner – what?

Sex toys might not feature on your list of must-haves, but if you’re going to give it a go, we reckon one of the toys below will make a mighty fine lover on Valentine’s night.

First on our highly-recommended-list is Zalo Queen, an innovative and luxury toy that marries throbbing pulsation, a delicious sucking sensation and temperature-play technology to create a must-have that’s simply too good to share with anyone else (you might not get it back!).

Whoever said there can be too much of a good thing has never enjoyed the pleasures of Zalo Queen; heat it up to keep you nice n’ warm; keep your clit on full alert by switching between the 8 different vibration modes; add a slick of lube and tease your G-spot, add a bit more lube and slide the detachable hood over the shaft to create a suction toy… There’s very little this marvel can’t do in terms of offering pleasure!

Zalo Queen had our toy tester busy for several days (Hey gal – where’d you go?) and cross-eyed with pleasure. Check out her review of Zalo Queen here.

Treat yourself to a Zalo Queen in Wine Red before Valentine’s Day and as an extra treat, we’ll throw in a bottle of ON Arousal Oil (£15) for FREE!

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ON Arousal Oil is a clever blend of essential oils and just a drop or two of this stuff will start a warm, tingly build-up, leading to an incredible buzzing sensation that lasts up to 45 minutes. Many women (including us) swear by this oil and say that the buzzing sensation increases their arousal and make them extra wet.

This orgasmic offer is valid in store and online for as long as stock lasts, up to and including Valentine’s Day.

(Sch)longing for Love

Next on our recommended-list is something for those with penises.

Vertical Attack has a name that makes us wince, but the toy itself is dreamy.  A soft, textured masturbation cup with a small vibrator at the tip offers plenty of thrills as you simply glide or twist the sleeve over your long schlong. Its stretchy, body-safe material means Vertical Attack guarantees a smooth ride – especially if you add a little water-based lube beforehand.

Not only are masturbators great fun, but they can also help you last longer if you find yourself popping your cork like it’s 1999. The trick lies in regular practice. As soon as you feel that rumbling sensation in your party-bag, slip off the cup and give the base of your peen a firm squeeze as that’ll help it calm down. Once you have the naughty bugger under control, slip the cup back down over it and work that shaft until the rumbling starts again… Remove the cup and give your Johnson a firm squeeze. Repeat as many times as  you can stand it.

When you eventually let go, it’ll be an explosion to remember *wink*

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The Sex Toy That Sucks

Now, some of us have to work on Valentine’s Day – that can’t be helped. Perhaps you’re travelling for work even? Make the most of your hotel stay by inviting a li’l buddy to keep you company.

The Satisfyer Pro Traveller is perfect for anyone who lives out of a suitcase or needs to have their go-bag ready at a moment’s notice; it takes up next to no space and comes in a discreet travel case.

Well-known for its lapping sensations, Satisfyer Pro Traveller is ideal for those who love-love-love oral sex during partnered play. The ‘mouth’ of Satisfyer Pro Traveller has been refined for maximum satisfaction; it cups your lust-button and enables contact-free stimulation, which you can increase or decrease thanks to two intuitive buttons. Using pressure waves rather than traditional vibration, Pro Traveller creates the feeling of gentle sucking that feels orgasmic when placed around the clitoris.

All you need to do is add a lick of lube, then lie back and experience 11 settings all the way from a gentle ‘lick’ to a super-powered ‘suck’ that will take your breath away!

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We mentioned toy cleaner earlier, and you should definitely get yourself a bottle of that stuff too. It might be only you using your toy, but it still needs to be cleaned. Spritz on, rinse off, and your fave toy will be ready for round two!

 

 

 

Seduce Yourself Class

10 Ways to Seduce Yourself – Workshop with Immani Love

Single, in a relationship, or simply want to get better acquainted with yourself? This course is for you!

Learning to seduce yourself can be easy if you understand the little details that matter. This workshop will give you 10 Ways to Seduce Yourself and perhaps some ideas for spicing up a relationship as well!

Immani-Love-Book-at-Sh!Immani Love, Author, Erotic Poet & Love Goddess will host this hot class on how to turn yourself on in no less than 10 different ways because let’s be honest: it’s always fun to change things up…

Following Immani’s recent party to celebrate the launch of her new book Adventures in Eroticism: Workplace (signed copies available in the shop!), we can’t wait for this second evening at Sh! before she heads back home the States.

If you missed her fierce performance the first time around, you gotta join us for this one!

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More about Immani Love

Immani-Love-POetryImmani Love was born in Philadelphia, Pa and is currently making her home in Florida, regularly performing in several places in the United States, United Kingdom, Europe, and Australia when booked.

Named 2013 Erotic Poet of the Year by the National Poetry Awards and invited to perform in the UK Black Pride in London, England, as well as EuroPride 2014 in Marseille, France and EuroPride 2016 in Amsterdam, Netherlands, now her popularity has grown! She has traveled throughout Europe every summer since 2014 and includes stops as far as Australia, England, Spain, France, Holland, Germany, Italy, and Greece.

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Top sex tips for newlyweds

With the wedding of Prince Harry and his fiancée Meghan Markle set to take place on the 19th May, spirits are high among royalists and anyone who’s a sucker for romance, including us.

Being newlyweds is an aphrodisiac in itself and couples tend to live in their happy, loved-up bubble for weeks or even months after the honeymoon has ended.  But eventually, the daily grind comes knocking and the after-wedding come-down sets in. It’s not unusual for one or both parties to feel a little low and wonder what happens ‘next’.

Luckily for newlyweds everywhere, we have some experience with this. Check out our top tips for remaining steamy between the sheets long after saying ‘I do’.

Have open discussions about what you want

Hopefully you’ve already done this, but needs & desires evolve and change over time and it’s important to keep conversations about sex ongoing. Being open to trying new things and instilling a sense of togetherness in everything that you do works to strengthen the bond between you.

Whether it’s attending a sex class or shopping for toys, you’re in a partnership now, so play and enjoy as a pair. Sex classes are not only liberating and great fun, but also the perfect place for couples to learn new ways of giving and receiving pleasure.

Up the ante when it comes to erotic connection

We’re conditioned to think that “real” sex is p-i-v (penis in vagina) but it’s time to put the kaboosh on this old fashioned thinking. Sex is whatever you want it to be! It can certainly involve a penis or dildo in a vagina if that’s how you and your beau roll, but it can also mean that nothing is inserted into any orifices. Like, ever. And it’s still sex!

Focusing heavily on penetration leaves out a long list of other delicious activities such as mutual masturbation (watching your partner bring themselves to orgasm is super-hot), tickling (yep, some peeps get off on that) and phone sex to name a few.

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Make it your mission to grow the erotic side of your play. A strong erotic connection increases sexual tension and excitement, it builds feelings of intimacy, and this should never be overlooked.

‘Erotic’ means different things to different people, but usually includes lots of eye contact, gentle touching, lips travelling slowly over naked skin, and words whispered in the dark… Take your time and savour each experience.

Long make-out sessions keep the panty-fires on full blast, so leave the wham-bam-thank-you-mam’s for the occasions you really are short on time.

Make great sex a priority

There are gazillions of articles telling us how many times per week or month we “should” be having sex, but we think quality tops quantity every time. Isn’t having really great sex once or twice a month much better than having three or four lukewarm shags per week? Sex isn’t a competition so forget about keeping up with the Jones’s.

Juggling jobs, families and other commitments can mean that sex has to take a backseat from time to time and that’s ok, but don’t let it get stuck back there. Scheduling sex-dates might seem like a passion-killer, but clearing a couple of hours in your calendar for carnal pleasures is actually great fun.

Take it in turns to think up new scenarios, buy some sex toys or try seemingly impossible positions so the element of surprise is still there.

Stop counting how many times per week you have sex, and focus on the amount of pleasure you’re getting instead.

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Touch each other outside of the bedroom

It may sound obvious, but it’s important to remain tactile with your partner when you aren’t having sex. Focus on kissing and stroking each other, both of which will make you feel closer, more connected, and ensure that you enjoy a fiery sex life when you do get down to it.

Holding hands is romantic and sweet, and chaste pecks in public can  be crazy hot if you’re both looking forward to a long night in private later on.

Cheeky little gropes when no one is watching is sexy and keeps you both hungry for more. A sly snog in the kitchen whilst you are checking on the Sunday roast is a classic, as is gentle nibbles of the neck whilst your new spouse is on the phone to their boss…

Grab the moment when it comes, and make it count!

Play together

Marriage is about more than sex – obviously – but you’d be amazed how much ‘playing’ together in other areas will spice things up.

Camping, or glamping if hot water and hair dryer are on the must-have list, is in season and a night out under the stars offers plenty of opportunity for togetherness and turn-ons. Bring a bottle of fizz in a cooler and play never-have-I-ever had sex outdoors.

Long-haul flights are great for mile-high fun and a night on a ferry will rock you both in more ways that one. You could play one-for-one (one orgasm for you, one orgasm for me) on long car journeys, or book a night in a hotel and live out a 24-hour sex fantasy.

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As the saying goes; a couple that plays together, stays together.

 

 

Spanking – Why do people really like it?

Spanking – Why do people really like it?

There is a fine line between pleasure and pain and for many that line is blurred entirely when it comes to spanking.

Whether performed as simply a playful pat on the behind, to pep up another sexual act or as a BDSM scene, there is no denying that some people just can’t get enough of spanking and / or being spanked!

So, just what is it about spanking that’s so irresistible?

It feels really good!

Lets start with the with the obvious; Spanking feels really good! The buttock area is a fairly well-protected muscular region and also home to fair few nerve endings, so it’s no surprise most of us respond with pleasure when our partner slaps our rear during a sex-sesh.

Although they may seem jiggly, our buttocks are actually where we hold a lot of tension.  Spanking, as the slap or paddle vibrates through the muscle, is actually just another form of buttock massage and a great way of releasing tension.

Considering we often sit on them all day, the bum-cheeks are actually very sensitive and responsive to a whole range of sensations; from the lightest tickle, through to warming smacks and onto teeth-clenching whacks… Contrasting sensations really builds-up arousal and is a sure-fire way to have your partner begging you for more.

Body Feather Pom Tickler £6
Body Feather Pom Tickler £6

Add even more sensation to your spanking session by bringing this Body Feather Tickler Pom into the mix and gently caressing their butocks and inner thighs between smacks.

And finally, whilst we’re on the physical feel-good factor of spanking, there are the Endorphins that are released as the body reacts to  the ‘pain’ and sends in the natural pain-killers to help ( the name “endorphin” comes from “endogenous morphine”)

Spanking allows us to relinquish control …. or gain it.

For those in high-powered or taxing jobs, where it’s wall-to-wall decisions and/or stress all day, the chance to relinquish  control, bend over and be on the receiving end  of a good, old spanking is an opportunity to cease the usual top-dog position  or stressed-out situation and give into the commands and actions of somebody else.

Similarly, those who perhaps feel that they don’t have much control over circumstances in day to day life may relish in the opportunity to ask their beau’s to bend-over.

Getting down with some hanky-spanky  allows players to perform in a way they may not get the chance to, in everyday life, and this switching or exploring of new roles can be huge turn on.

Soft Spanking Paddle £30
Soft Spanking Paddle £30

Want to explore the physiological pleasures of spanking without any real physical pain? This buttock-shaped Leather Heart Spanking Paddle with contrasting sides of silky leather and soft-fur is ideal for delivering a perfectly soft spanking, along with that all-important ‘thwack’-sound!

Spanking can increase intimacy

Whether light and playful or more impactful on the body and mind, negotiating a spanking session is all about communication and good communication increases intimacy.

One study revealed that couples who engage in power-play together will experience an increase in relationship closeness and a reduction in physiological stress.

Even if it’s just a playful bout, consent should always be sought and it’s easy enough to do. Simply ask the question ‘Do you like that?’

For more intense playtime, it’s time to talk about safe-words. The bottom is well-padded and so long as you stay clear away from bony areas like hip joints or base of the spine and your spanking implement is traditional paddle-shaped ( ie wide and flat) then you can’t do lasting physical damage. But it can still hurt, so the spankee  needs a safe word to ensure they are in full control of the intensity they receive.

To ramp things up this Fifty Shades of Grey Spanking Paddle is  delivers firm

Fifty Shades of Grey Spanking Paddle £30
Fifty Shades of Grey Spanking Paddle £30

It feels naughty!

Madonna’s ‘Hanky Spanky’,  movie moments – elements of popular culture have meant that spanking has gained traction and is more acceptable as quite a commonplace sexual behaviour, but there’s still something about a spanking session that feels ever so naughty….

Spanking is synonymous with chastisement, which comes from the old French word ‘chastiier‘ meaning “to warn, advise, instruct, admonish, punish dominate or tame’

There’s something incredibly hot about performing an act that you feel departs from the ordinary and perhaps even better when there is a hint of play-acting about it.

A crop, with it’s bendy stem and equestrian connotations is perfect for posturing and threatening to ‘tame’ a partner, but it’s a toy to use cautiously as the hard, narrow stem doesn’t diffuse sensation like a flat, wide paddle.

For anyone other than experienced BDSMers, the leather tip on the end of the crop is the place to focus your aim with.   Flicked quickly, rhythmically, across the buttocks and between thighs  the tip can provide a sensational chastisement that is light but effective.

 

Slap & Tickle Crop & Feather Kit £22
Slap & Tickle Crop & Feather Kit £22

 

Slap & Tickle Crop and Feather Kit couples a crop with a long ostrich feather for a double whammy of contrasting sensation sticks that can be used to deliver alternating sensations to send nerve-endings into over-drive.

 

There’s no denying that spanking is really enjoyable, and that’s really all any sex act should be. To keep it this way, make sure that you discuss your boundaries with your partner and are both clear about what you want to gain from the experience.

 

To learn more about the fine art of spanking, how to introduce it or how to perfect it,  come to our next Spanking Erotic Class and get the low-down on spank-down!

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5 Tips For Boosting Your Orgasm

There are different types of orgasms and bodies have the fantastic ability to experience different ones during a sexual lifetime. There are the great ones; you might know the kind – you can’t stay still, you’re wriggling and squirming, your legs are shaking until finally, an explosion erupts between your thighs and you’re left quivering and panting… We like those ones!

There are long & strong ones, there are short & sharp ones, cresting ones, wet ones, fast ones, multiple ones and also, the kind we like the least: the ones that are so weak you wonder why you even bothered. The last kind is pitiful little vaginal sneezes that leave you frustrated and disappointed rather than sleepy and satisfied. Blips on the orgasmic radar.

Luckily, there are a number of things that can be done in order to amp up the intensity and pleasure of orgasms, and we’ve got five of our top tips listed below.

Turn up the heat

Did you know that heat helps to increase the blood flow to the vulva, which in turn is great for stronger orgasms?

Relaxing in a hot, steamy bath before play is an excellent way of getting warmed up and ready for fun. A gentle stroke and feel of your labia lips whilst bathing will help kickstart blood flow to the area. You’ll know it’s working when warmth starts building from the inside, the labia lips darkens and feels “puffier”.

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Try using lube

Lube sometimes gets a bad rap; there are actually folks out there who still believe that lube is something “for old women”.

Bah!

Lube can certainly be helpful if your muffkin is feeling dehydrated or uncomfortable for some reason, but actually, lube is very sexy and we recommend having a bottle handy.

Certain lubes, like ID Pleasure, can help increase the frequency and power of female orgasms as it contains a naturally occurring amino acid which encourages blood flow to the area, heightening sensations. ID Pleasure combines natural sensation-enhancing ingredients like Ginko Biloba, Red Clover, and Menthol to ensure blood flow to genitals is at peak performance. For penises, this means firmer erections and for vaginas, it means tingly sensations.

Add a vibrator into the mix

For about 75% of those with clitorises, the clit plays a major part in orgasmic pleasure.

As much fun as fingers, tongues, and toes can be, it’s not uncommon for the person focused on pleasuring said clit to run out of steam or develop jaw ache at a crucial moment.

This is when a vibrator comes in really handy.

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For the majority, the key to strong, long-lasting orgasms is sustained clitoral stimulation. Pair this with the vibrations of a sex toy and you’re in for a thrilling ride. We like the Rocks Off Twister Vibrator, which comes with 7 different vibration settings, is fully waterproof and suits all bodies.

For a truly toe-curling time, start on the lowest setting and work your way up. As the strength of the vibrations builds, so will your pleasure… Which neatly brings us on to the next tip:

Edging

‘Edging’ is a fancy word for ‘holding back your orgasm for as long as you can’ and you should add it to your sex dictionary sharpish.

This is a tried & tested method that may take a while to perfect but once you’ve got the hang of it, you’ll be able to ‘edge’ your way to orgasm over and over until you have no other option but to let the orgasm rock your body before leaving you spent and grinning. Good times!

As you get to know your body and how it reacts to the right kind of stimulation, you’ll know when an orgasm is near. At this point, stop the rubbing/patting/touching that feels so good and focus on another body part for a while. (We know, frustrating, right?!)

Once you feel in control after having reversed back down the hump of pleasure, start edging yourself closer to the top again. And stop just before climax again.

Carry this on for as long as you can stand it and when you eventually let go, you’ll be able to enjoy what’ll seem like a neverending, thunderous orgasm!

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Find out exactly what you like

If you’re really keen to enhance your sex life and make your orgasms as strong as can be, you need to focus on finding out what it is that really gets you off. Before you get down to it with a partner, try experimenting with different techniques on yourself with your fingers or toys.

Having some uninterrupted time will help you relax into your body and allow it to enjoy your touches. If you’re into erotic stories or films, you might like to get your brain aroused by reading or watching something – after all, our brains are our biggest sex organs. If you want to try porn without having to trawl through the many free-but-oh-so-unsexy clips on the web, we recommend giving Erika Lust a go. Lust is an award-winning, ethical, adult film-maker and you can check out her website here.

Knowing your own body and working out your pleasure points is a sure fire way of experiencing more pleasurable orgasms.

 

Sex Toys

Scarlet Ladies, Sex Toys & Sh!

We’ll be joining the fabulosities that are the Scarlet Ladies on Tuesday 13th March for an evening of fun sex toy talk.

Starting at 7pm, our talk will focus on sex toys; how to choose them and how to use them. Scarlet Ladies monthly social event  is reserved for members and special guests but if you are interested n coming along, you should take a peek at this page.

If you aren’t yet ready to commit to a membership, Scarlet Ladies also host regular Open House evenings where you can check out the shenanigans before signing up. Having been to a few gatherings ourselves, we know the meet-ups are for women who are keen on normalising the conversation around female sexuality, and maybe enjoying a glass of wine whilst doing it. 🙂

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The best sex positions for truly mind-blowing orgasms

When it comes to reaching one of those toe-curling, sheet-grabbing orgasms, some positions work better than others. These sex positions usually vary from person to person, depending on which muscles you need to tense in order to get off.

If you want to heat things up and ensure that your next climax is truly mind-blowing, read on for our top tips for best orgasmic sex positions:

Face Sitting

Oral sex is great for those who love nothing better than one intense orgasm after another. Straddling your partner’s face is good because it gives you more control; you can move your body so that all of your sensitive spots are being touched at the right time, bringing you to dizzying highs.

This is an excellent way for you to experiment with dominance too – you’ll feel like a Queen, rocking and rolling against your lover’s willing face.

Expect fireworks between your thighs!

Doggy Style

Whether your partner is male-bodied or you are using a strap-on, doggy style is great because it allows for deeper penetration that will stimulate your G-spot, delivering intense pleasure.

If you want to really ramp things up, ensure that your clitoris is seen to as well with our Satisfyer Pro Penguin Clitoral Toy. It has 11 settings to explore, making it perfect for building up pleasure. Start off slow and increase the suction as you near your peak.

Spooning

If you are also in a loving relationship with your play-partner, feeling closer to them can often help you reach more intense orgasms.

Feeling intimate and knowing that you are loved can be a powerfully pleasurable experience for some, and what elicits closeness more than a good spoon? It allows your partner to put their arms around you and hold you close while the entire length of each of your bodies touches. Amp up the experience by asking them to stretch their arm around you and stroke your clitoris while they thrust slowly.

Legs in the air

It’s a favourite for many, and it’s easy to understand why. When your legs are in the air and swung over your partner’s shoulders, it allows for the deepest penetration possible, perfect for when you are trying to achieve a screaming oh-ooh-oooh!

Reach down and rub and play with yourself while your partner penetrates you deeply. This not only ensures your clit is teased in the way you like best, but it also offers a super-hot visual for your partner.

Here’s another blog post on exciting ways to spice up sex positions.

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Good News, Your Sex Toy Isn’t Faulty – It Just Needs New Batteries

The most common reason for customers to bring back sex toys is that they believe their toy to be faulty. Whilst vibrators occasionally break or malfunction, most of the toys we get returned or sent back to us aren’t faulty at all – they just need fresh batteries or a slightly longer press of the ON button to switch it on.

Whilst we are always happy to see returning customers, our short guide on vibrator care could save you a trip across London, so read on.

Here’s a list of the most common issues with non-working vibrator:

  • The battery has run out of power
  • The battery has been put in the wrong way
  • The charger hasn’t been left on for long enough
  • The on/off switch hasn’t been pressed for long enough
  • The travel lock has been activated
  • There is small paper disc under the lid

Below are some very easy checks you can do at home.

No Battery Power

Some sex toys absolutely eat battery power, especially if it is the all-singing, all-dancing version with super-strong vibrations. A rabbit vibe, for example, uses up more power than a gentle, single speed clit vibe.

The Sh! Waterproof Rabbit needs 3 x AAA batteries (two at the top of the battery compartment and one battery underneath), preferably Duracell or another similar, strong brand.

Waterproof Rabbit battery

The beads need the power to spin around, the bunny ears need the power to flicker & tease, and the vibration needs the power to deliver pleasing thrills & throbs, and  £1-batteries from Poundland aren’t going to cut it. These types of batteries are great for the TV remote as it doesn’t require much power to do its job, but for a rabbit, you’ll need stronger batteries.

Also, leaving the batteries in when you store your toy will allow greedy rabbits to suck up more battery juice, so we recommend taking the batteries out when playtime is over.

The Batteries Are Upside Down

Easy Egg Battery CompartmentThis is a common mistake and one that is very easy to make.

Here’s a handy tip: the flat side of the battery (minus) usually needs to sit right against the spring inside the battery compartment. This may mean that a toy that takes two or more batteries face the same direction, or opposite direction, depending upon the design. The toy will often have a small plus or minus to help you put the batteries in the right way.

Mixing old and new batteries isn’t a good idea, your toy will work better with fresh batteries.

Recharging a Sex Toy Takes A While

We understand that you are keen to get down to business with your new vibrator, cock ring or plug, but a rechargeable toy needs time to get juiced up.

Some toys take 2 hours, some take 4 hours, and some take 8 hours for a full charge. The instructions should give you more information on this.

FF Magnetic ChargerIt is very important that the charger is fully connected to the toy and the power source. If either of these isn’t plugged in properly, your toy won’t get the power it needs to do its thang. And, if you are using a pc or laptop to charge your vibe, the source needs to be switched on (not in standby mode).

Magnetic chargers must be firmly attached to the vibe, pin charges must be fully inserted and toys with a charger base must be placed on it.

Check on the toy during charging – it is possibe for a magnetic charger to get knocked off if the toy falls over on its side, for example.

Beam Me Up Scotty – Turning a Sex Toy On

Modern toys will require more than a quick flick to switch it on; you may need to hold down the ON button for 3 seconds, or even 5 seconds in some cases. This feature is to stop the vibrator being switch on by accident whilst being stored (another great reason for taking the batteries out).

Repeatedly clicking the button won’t switch the toy on – it will only get you worked up for all the wrong reasons.

If the toy has more than one button, we recommend taking some time to read the instructions before getting hot & heavy with it – we promise it will save a lot of frustration later on!

The Sh! Easy Egg and Sh! Mini Pink both require a firm 3-second press to turn on.

What To Do If Your Sex Toy Is Locked

Cordless Wand PinMany sex toys come with a built-in travel lock, which is excellent for storing and travelling.

If you’ve spent some time pressing all the buttons to get the vibe to work, it could happen that you’ve managed to activate the travel lock by accident. If this happens, all you need to do is unlock it and voila – ready to play!

The Sh! Cordless Wand (picture) has a small plastic pin that works as a travel lock. You won’t be able to turn on the Wand when the pin is in place. Removing the pin lets you play or recharge the Wand. Pop the pin back in for safe storage or travelling.

You should find instructions for locking and unlocking your vibrator on the packaging or inside the box.

What’s With The Paper Disc?

Twister paper DiscIf your toy came with the batteries already inserted, there is a good chance it has a small paper disc between the batteries and the connector on the lid. This is to ensure your toy doesn’t start vibrating unexpectedly, and it also saves the battery power for when you want to be buzzed up to orgasmic heaven.

Remove the paper disc, screw the lid back on and your vibe should be good to go.

Different Size Batteries

Not only do different brand batteries offer different strengths of power, different size batteries also hold different amounts of power.

A teeny-tiny battery holds about 25 minutes of power, a teeny battery holds about 1 hour of power and so on. It is difficult to say how long your batteries should last with vibrators that offer increasing intensity and settings – running a vibe on high intensity for a longer period of time will use up more battery power.

If you love long pleasure sessions, it’s well worth investing in a rechargeable sex toy.

I Have Tried All of The Above

If your vibrating toy still isn’t working or isn’t working in the way it should, come see us and we’ll take a look. Please bring with you proof of purchase and all packaging. If we find the vibrator has a mechanical fault, we’ll be very happy to exchange it for you. 🙂

 

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3 Top Tips For Injecting Some Fun Into Your Erotic Activities

Sex is one of life’s greatest pleasures, and something everyone should look forward to as a form of release, a way to connect with a partner and to increase self-confidence.

That is the dream, anyway.

We all know the reality can look very different. Busy schedules and long-term relationships often mean that couples find their sex lives become stagnant or even non-existent.

Whether it is due to a lack of excitement or adventure or simply not having the time to roll around in bed for a whole weekend, having a healthy and satisfying sex life can feel like a luxury that is somewhat unattainable.

If you’re feeling as though your sex life is dwindling, check out our tips for spicing things up and ensuring your fire is one that stays lit!

Explore an area that you haven’t before

Anal stimulation can be extremely erotic and if you’ve never tried this before, it’s well worth considering giving it a gentle go.

Thinking of it as a fun, new adventure and a chance for you both to explore yet-to-be-discovered parts of your bodies, will help to make it seem less intimidating.

Before dipping your fingertips in, so to speak, make sure to have smooth nails, a bottle of anal lube uncorked and lines of communication open.

Start off slowly by using only a finger for stroking, teasing and tapping around the anus before slipping deeper in.

As you both gain confidence and get hotter for more, lubed-up anal beads slipped into the tush one-by-one can offer amazing sensations for the partner on the receiving end.  For a truly mind-blowing experience, insert the anal beads and gently remove them just as they (or you!) are about to reach orgasm.

sh-anal-beadsPlay dress up

Our day to day lives are full of responsibility so sometimes it can be refreshing to pretend to be someone else for a few hours. Let this expand to your bedroom sessions by dressing up for your partner.

There are too many options to count; you can be a sexy maid one day and a formidable Dominatrix the next… Choosing a roleplay persona that fits with your personality makes it a little easier to pretend, but choosing a persona who is your complete opposite is also lots of fun. If you are shy in real life, being a hard-ass cop for a couple of hours could spark all sorts of erotic fires!

Keeping it fun with a bit of roleplay will aid the excitement and mean that neither of you can wait to rip each other’s clothes off and get started…

Sexy Police Outfit

Read erotic books or watch films together

Seeing or reading about other people having sex can be a real turn on and is also a great way to learn a few new moves in the process.

Be sure to talk to your partner about it first and agree on something that you both find sexy. We stock a wide range of erotic books that will be perfect for some bedtime reading.

Tip: Setting your partner the task of finding something you’ll like will give them cart blanche to watch as much porn as they can possibly find time for, as they’ll be searching for something that’ll turn you on. Be as specific as possible – this’ll make it harder to find the right clip or film and they simply ‘have to’ watch lots and lots of sexy stuff – and they’ll be keen to gain your approval once the mission has been completed!

 

 

 

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Top 3 Sex Trends in 2017

The world of sex is one that is always evolving, and we are always excited to discover new toys (often), new positions (less often) and all sorts of excellent tips & tricks for getting off.

Sex may not seem like something that should be ‘trendy’ but much like the latest pubic hair style (fluffy, if you’re asking – it’s cold!) or knickers (tummy-hugging – still cold!), different types of sex goes in and out of fashion.

2017 has been a particularly juicy year for sexual discovery, but we have managed to narrow it down to three major trends during 2017 – check it out:

Men Enjoy Anal Stimulation

Going by what our customers are asking about, it seems to us that men are becoming more open to the idea of having their back entrances played with.

However, when journalist and all-round badass Violet Fenn recently wrote an article about pegging, readers of Metro were quick to shut down the notion that the prostate gland could indeed be a pleasurable body part, with one reader suggesting Ms Fenn should be sacked for such an outrageous suggestion. We, of course, salute Violet & Metro for their ballsy approach – and not just coz we’re in the article! :p

‘Pegging’ is a term that has been used for some years now, originating in the U.S (take that, Mr President!), and it has slowly made its way over here. By definition, pegging is when a woman wears a strap-on and anally penetrates her partner with the dildo. It may not be for everyone, but we can reveal that more couples than ever are getting their rocks off this way.

Our Vibrating Strap On Dildo Kit (below) has everything you need to get started, so why not see the year out with a bang and try something new?

Best Pegging Dildo Set

Suction Sex Toys Are Blowing Minds

You might have read the word suction and have been instantly put off, but bear with us:  these marvellous air tech toys have been true showstoppers in the world of sex toys of 2017.

Suction sex toys feature a small, round-ish silicone tip that nestles around the clitoris, creating a rumbling effect with vacuum-style suction for quick, high-intensity orgasms. With 8000 nerve-endings at the very tip of the clit, these toys offer incredibly pleasurable stimulation and are very reliable for banging orgasms.

We sent a member of staff home with a couple of different designs, as we wanted an unbiased comparison between market-leaders Womanizer and Satisfyer Pro (it’s a hard job, but someone gotta do it!). Read her post on the differences between the Womanizer vs Satisfyer Pro here.

If you’re looking for something slightly smaller and cuter looking, we recommend taking a look at Satisfyer Pro Penguin Clitoral Suction Toy below.

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Beyond the Binary

‘They’ are becoming more common as ‘her’ or ‘him’ doesn’t feel right for everyone, and is often seen on social media profiles to ensure correct pronoun be used. It will take a while yet, but maybe it’s time to introduce a specific word like the Swedish “hen” (which fits in nicely with hon/her and han/him).

A large portion of our shop customers identifies as queer in its newer meaning (it has evolved from ‘gay’ or ‘lesbian’ to encompass a wider reference of gender and/or sexuality) and we expect this group will continue to grow.

The term ‘pansexuality’ has been used a lot this year and it seems we are reaching a point where more people feel comfortable being attracted to a person regardless of their gender. We realise this could be a result of cosmopolitan living and it may not be the case where you live; input from non-Londoners would be interesting.

We have always been big advocates of fluid sexuality and we’re embracing this new wave of acceptance and exploration of gender. Let’s hope there is plenty more in store for 2018!

 

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