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Anal for everyone! How to ease into it your first time and every time – a class with Lola Jean

Following her sold-out classes, Lola Jean is back with more! For all bodies and genital varieties.

There’s definitely a rise in attention on the booty and rightfully so! Ass play isn’t for everyone but how do you know if it’s for you? Some simply don’t enjoy the sensation but what if your fears are pain, poop or other?

Those are items that can be navigated around. How do you prepare? Do you need to prepare? How do you know you’re ready? Whether you have a vulva or a penis, everyone has a butt and there are many pleasure zones we can access safely and with care. In this class we will discuss the difference between anal stretching and stimulation, the variety of sensations that can occur in and around the butt as well as anal penetration.

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Anal play is SO much more than just sticking something inside a butt. There is an easing-in process to make this enjoyable for all parties. Learn to understand the prostate from both internal and external stimulation as well as why stimulating different parts of the vagina can be more pleasurable via the anal canal.

And yes, we will go over poo and pain extensively.

More About Lola Jean

Lola Jean at Sh!
Lola Jean at Sh!

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder (wowzers!).

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!

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Impact Play: a 360 on Spanking – a class with Lola Jean

Following two sold-out classes with Lola Jean earlier this year, we are delighted to announce her return to Sh!

This time, Lola Jean will present three classes at Sh! and if you missed her last visit, you really gotta get in quick coz we’re expecting tickets to sell quicker than 99-Flakes in the sunshine!

Lola Jean at Sh!

The first class, Impact Play: a 360 on Spanking will take place on Friday 28th of June and if you read on, we’ll tell you all about it.

IMPACT PLAY (N.): Impact play is a practice in which one person (the bottom) is struck (usually repeatedly) by another person (the Top) for the gratification of either or both parties.

Learn when and where impact play can be more useful/beneficial.

Whether someone is a pain slut or a beginner, impact play can be a reward just as much as a punishment. Bring the art of the tease into your impact play.

We will answer questions like: do you have to like pain to like impact play? Who is impact play for? Is it the same as spanking and whipping? How can I use impact play?

Based on methods your impact play can feel like a massage or like pins and needles. In this class, we review different toys and methods of impact play on the feet, butt, back, chest and genital area. From floggers to canes to a good old fashioned hand spanking, learn how to utilize each tool on multiple parts of the body.

The class will conclude with designated time to demonstrate different types of aftercare for appropriate situations. This class is open to Doms, subs, or none of the above and all genders and orientations.

Join Us!

Who is Lola Jean?

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and Volume Squirting World Record Holder. (And with a sex-CV like that, it’s no wonder women of all ages flock to her classes, keen on learning from the best!)

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

More Classes with Lola Jean This Summer!

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Unlock Your Squirting Sexcess with Lola Jean

Squirting – What is it? Where does it come from? How do I do it?

These are a few of the most common question we get in our East London boutique and it seems that for our customers, squirting is the Holy Grail. Some do, some don’t, but many try, try, and try again.

Eagerly pursued, wet orgasms have a reputation of being ‘better’ than any other kind and those who have yet to master the art of filling a wine glass in just a few seconds (don’t worry, we too felt like we were under-performing when a friend shared this nugget with us) all want to know the secret of making it happen: Can every woman squirt? Is it pee? And – the biggest conundrum of ’em all – does squirting always mean orgasm?

To get answers to these questions, and many more, we have booked in an evening with the Squirting Queen herself, Lola Jean!

Learn more about the science, mechanics and what products can help you on your squirty journey

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and self-proclaimed Olympian Squirter. And with a sex-CV like that, it’s no wonder women of all ages flock to her classes, keen on learning from the best!

Lola-Jean-Squirting-QueenAlso known as ‘The Squirting Queen’, Lola Jean learned to understand and harness her ability to squirt not only with a lover but on her own through masturbation. It wasn’t an overnight sensation, but an Olympian squirter she became.

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

 Book Your Ticket Here!

Expect a refresher on anatomy and a window into the experience of squirt performances. Though involuntary squirting is not the focus of this class, Lola will explain techniques and what to look for during both solo and partnered exploration.

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Squirting & Masturbation Class with Lola Jean (aka the Squirting Queen)

The elusive world of squirting is having its time in the sun—and for good reason! What is it? Where does it come from? How do I do it?

 

Sex Educator Lola Jean learned to understand and harness her ability to squirt not only with a lover but on her own through masturbation. It was not an overnight sensation, but a journey to the Olympian squirter she became. Learn the science, mechanics and what products can help you on your squirty journey.

 Join Us!

Can every woman squirt? Is it pee? Lola finally puts a rest to these questions and any others you may have for a brief Q&A.

Expect a refresher on anatomy and a window into the experience of squirt performances. Though involuntary squirting is not the focus of this class, Lola will explain techniques and what to look for during both solo and partnered exploration.

More About Lola Jean

Lola-Jean-Squirting-QueenLola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer and self proclaimed Olympian Squirter.

Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.
Sh! Soirees at Lynda Wallis

Sh! Soirees at Lynda Wallis

Female Arousal, Orgasm & Ejaculation Class

Our Award-Winning Store Manager & in-house Sexuality Educator Renee will be giving two wonderful classes at Lynda Wallis’ glamorous barn location in Essex!

Lynda is a designer & maker of luxury silk lingerie like you’ve never seen before. Ronja, representative of luxe toy brand Lelo will join Renee & Lynda, for an hands-on demonstration of Lelo’s amazing toys.

The Art of Female Orgasm –  Covering all-important topics such as clitorises, G-spots and female ejaculation…
Thursday 9th March, 7:30 pm
The Old Stable Block
Pump House Farm
Kelvedon Hatch CM15 0LA
£30

The Art of Seduction – Setting the scene, dressing (or undressing) for the occasion and tempting your partner into a heady night of pleasure…
Thursday 23rd March, 7:30 pm
The Old Stable Block
Pump House Farm
Kelvedon Hatch CM15 0LA
£30

Luxury Silk Lingerie will be available to try on in the Boudoir
and experience the fragrances of ECoundray French Perfumes established in 1822.

Come join us for fun, educational and inspirational evenings, fully clothed, with a glass of bubbly, cup cake, a Sh! gift and 10% discount on all purchases on the night.

You will also be entered into the Lynda Wallis monthly draw!

For more information or booking please call 01277366388

 

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Teenage Boys & Sex

Brook, Teenage Boys & Sex

“You’ll see me, I have an orange plastic bag on my head”

The lovely Tahnee of Brook had us in fits of giggles even before the working day had started. The rain was pouring down and it was quiet.

Those of you familiar with Sh! will know that teenage boys aren’t exactly our target market. In fact, our experience of this sometimes tiresome group is mainly over the phone, when they do their best to out-do each other by making “funny” phone calls during school holidays (“How is your glory hole today, madam?”). And then there was that one time when one boy managed to sneak in and we found him in front of a painting of a naked woman, reverently stroking her muff with one hand whilst eating chips with the other… You can see why we were feeling apprehensive.

Following Tahnee to the back of a work shop on an easily-missed side street, we saw a greenhouse (which turned out to be the venue), a small sandwich shop and a row of festival-like toilets with non-lockable doors (and an opened bottle of baby oil). None of these did much to reassure us.

But we needn’t have worried.

Once the group of lads, aged between 16-23, tumbled in, we realized it was going to be just fine. Well-behaved, polite and genuinely interested in the topic of female anatomy, sexuality & orgasms. Phew!

Keen to break the ice and get everyone comfortable, we charged ahead and asked their names, and their preferred words for male & female genitalia, and penetrative sex. Dick, pussy and sex were the main ones (no surprise), but the word “beat” threw us a little. “Beat” is (apparently) East London slang for sex. We image a conversation would go something like this:

“Whatcha doin’ tonite, bro?

“I’m gonna beat my girl, innit.”

“Cool bro – enjoy!”

The mind boggles.

Vulva PuppetBefore bringing out our secret weapon, a plush vulva called Rosie, we asked how many of the guys watch porn on regularly. Hands rose tentatively, but it’s fair to say the answer was “all of them”. And herein lies a big part of the problem. Youngsters receive very poor sex education in schools; mainly about reproduction, and little to no info on STI’s, pleasure, masturbation and consent. Instead, they learn mostly from watching porn. Which isn’t great. Where are the condoms? Where is the lube? Where is the *genuine* pleasure?

One of the guys asked how to make women experience multiple orgasms, and we think he was both a little disappointed and a little relived when we explained that most of the multiple orgasms he sees on the screen are faked.

Not learning about ‘real’ sex puts a huge amount of pressure on teenagers. On the guys; to be well-hung stallions that can keep the man-sausage up for hours on end; and on the girls to wax themselves bare, have orgasm after orgasm, and squirt on command.

It is so easy to buy into the finished package, especially if it’s glossy and well produced. It’s a bit like an adult version of Disney – make believe. Enjoy watching it, but remember that the dancing, talking mice aren’t real.

Clitoris

We started off with a show & tell of basic female anatomy, using the plush vulva and some print-outs. We talked about the 8000 nerve-endings that sits atop the clitoris and how to stimulate them in ways that are pleasurable rather than painful (it’s not a door bell, guys – no need to ring it!).

The guys felt, smelled and tasted their way through a selection of water-based lubes, and giggled at the flavoured ones. We were delighted to see that they were keen on the lube, and a loud cheer went up when they saw that we’d brought along freebie samples for them.

We looked at small but effective toys for the clitoris, and toys for the G-spot. The plush vulva comes complete with a G-spot of her own, so the group had a go at locating and stroking it with expressions of deep concentration on their faces.

Mothers of teen boys; stock up on Tenga Eggs for your lads!

We discussed male anatomy as well, the glans, shaft, prostate and party bags (scrotum is such an unsexy word). That some men have only one testicle rather than two came as a surprise, as did the fact that circumcised men have less sensitivity and so need more stimulation in order to get off.

Tenga Egg (£10) make fun, cool gifts for men

At this point we brought out the Tenga Egg and bright pink dildo we’d brought along to show how much fun toys for boys can be.

Tenga Eggs are, in our opinion, the best toy for guys EVER. All men should have one. (Or two!) The lads took turns testing it out on the pink dildo. Tenga eggs are amazing toys, whether a guy is single or in a relationship, and we dare say the lads will be making a few purchases *wink*.

We eventually worked our way to the back, as it were, and brought up anal sex. At which point they all fell silent and round-eyed.

Porn rarely show the use of condoms and lube, never mind what to do if things get unexpectedly messy – which can happen. We don’t know if this is something teenage boys are concerned about, but we certainly have many customers who bring it up. We talked about enema bulbs, and easy clean-up by using condoms which can just be thrown away.

Stressing the fact that a long-lasting lube should always be used (no, spit really won’t do) and that it’s essential to start small and take plenty of time to warm up the person on the receiving end – this may take several play sessions. A wham-bam-thank-you-mam can be painful and put someone off anal sex for life. When done right anal play should be pleasurable. To ensure comfortable play, it’s a good idea for the receiver to be in charge of depth and speed.

And never, ever pretend to slip in the wrong entrance ‘by mistake’. Not cool.

One of the guys admitted to having tried this technique, and agreed it wasn’t the best way…

Dental DamsWe broke open a dental dam for the guys to look at, and it turned out that only one of them had heard of dams before (shame on you, school sex ed!). Dams are latex sheets that are placed over vulva or anus before oral sex, and it creates a safer sex barrier between giver and receiver.  One of the lads tasted the dam (he correctly guessed strawberry flavour), and thus won himself a whole heap of man-points from the rest of the group.


Many thanks to Brook, the young people’s sexual health & wellbeing charity, for giving us the opportunity to come along to their new project  @ComeTruPleasure. We had such a great day!

 

header-logo-brookBrook’s vision is of a society that values all children, young people and their developing sexuality. We want all children and young people to be supported to develop the self-confidence, skills and understanding they need to enjoy and take responsibility for their sexual lives, sexual health and emotional well-being.

Brook provides free and confidential sexual health and wellbeing services for nearly 250,000 young people UK-wide, each year.

Guest Blog: FPA – Good Sexual Health for All

Guest Blog: FPA – Good Sexual Health for All

By Natika Halil, Chief Executive of the sexual health charity FPA

Why should a sexual health charity

In the summer of 2015 we launched FPA Pleasure to tie in with our 85th birthday.

At the time, some people asked if selling and talking openly about sex toys and all things pleasure was a departure from our normal work. We found this a bit of a bizarre question because sexual health isn’t just about avoiding ill-health. It’s not all about contraception or sexually transmitted infections.

Sexual health is a part of our overall health and wellbeing, and sexual pleasure is as important an aspect as any other.

When FPA first formed as the National Birth Control Council in 1930, there were just 20 family planning clinics. Evidence-based information and open discussion about sexual health was practically non-existent.

We have come a long way since those days in terms of sexual and reproductive health, but we’d be kidding ourselves to think we’re now all completely comfortable talking openly about sexual pleasure. And that’s not to mention sexual pleasure between people of different sexual orientations and gender identities.

Of course the same is not true for everybody. Lots of people are confident in their sexuality and enjoy buying and using toys to enhance their pleasure. Shops like Sh! have been brilliant for presenting sexual pleasure from a woman’s perspective and putting toys in a more welcoming and inclusive environment.

Sexual wellness and sex education.

But with our education system in the UK, it’s no wonder lots of people still aren’t that comfortable talking about what goes on between the sheets. Regardless of whether you left school five or 50 years ago, chances are what passed as sex and relationships education left something to be desired.

Young people are taught about prevention – how not to get pregnant, avoiding sexually transmitted infections, and recognising unhealthy or abusive relationships – but how often do we talk to teenagers about the fact most sex is not for reproduction, but for intimacy, desire and pleasure? And how likely is it that masturbation would be covered in class?

If they can’t get honest and accurate information from their friends and family, where will they turn for their education – the internet? Media? Pornography? The explosion of technology and instant access to anything and everything online has had many advantages, but for young people using it to make sense of sex and their sexuality, it can be a source of confusion and anxiety.

Sexual wellness for all.

And of course sexual pleasure doesn’t fall off a cliff once we get into middle-age, but sex in later years is not always acknowledged. At FPA Pleasure we talk about people’s sexuality across their whole life. It’s especially important that women, as well as men, are supported through changes to the body that come in later years, which can have a huge effect on sexual desire and libido.

While we want our information to be widely accessible to women and men of all ages and backgrounds, we are particularly mindful of people who aren’t usually targeted in sexual pleasure, or indeed wider sexual health, messaging. These also reflect our wider work as a charity, supporting people with learning disabilities, people living with HIV, women during pregnancy and after they have had a baby, people living with or recovering from life-changing or life-limiting illnesses.

Sexual pleasure is important and we shouldn’t trivialise the impact it, or lack of it, can have on our wider health and wellbeing.

FPA