prostate massage & pleasure

How to Use a Prostate Massager

Guys have their own erotic pleasure spot called the prostate – a gland that is comparable to the female G-Spot. This spot is often referred to as the ‘male G-spot’ – although we like to call it P-spot, as this better refers to the prostate.

We meet many men & couples in-store, who are interested in exploring  prostate massage & pleasure.

Gone are the days when playing with his bum was taboo – these days it’s widely acknowledged that the entire anal area is one big pleasure zone.

And for men, the orgasmic rewards of prostate play are apparently mind-blowing. They describe it a totally different sensation, and often report their orgasm to be much more intense than the solely penis-inspired kind. Some men need / enjoy their front bits stimulating too whilst others can get off just with prostate massage.

It can be very tricky for a man to stimulate his own P-spot internally, and partners may have short fingers – leaving only one solution: get a prostate massager.

But, before you go in swinging, remember that rectal tissue is very delicate and does not self-lubricate.

 

Sh! Pure Plus £10
Sh! Pure Plus £10 – Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant

Lots of lube and lots of foreplay is essential to pleasurable prostate massage.

Make sure your partner is properly turned on before going anywhere near his bum. There’s a widely-accepted believe that anal sex essentially hurts, but this simply isn’t the case. Not using lube will hurt. Going too fast and not giving anal muscles time to relax into the sensations will hurt. Not letting your partner be fully in charge of the pace will make him tense up and that may hurt too. But, by following our advice on first time anal play, you’ll both be prepared and his body will be ready to accept pleasurable prostate play.

 

How to use a Prostate Massager

Prostate massagers have been designed to reach in and connect with the P-spot.

Keep stimulating his front parts (shaft and party bag) whilst slowly inserting the prostate massager. Go gently; a slow pace and communication is key.

Prostate massagers have a curve, which needs to be inserted very gently. A good trick is to point the curved tip towards his belly button (on the inside). This means that if he is laying on his back, you insert the prostate massager in a gently upwards curve, but if your man is on all fours, you’ll want to point it downwards…

This will ensure you follow the natural curve of the anal canal, thus eliminating any accidental pain.

Rock the massager gently back and forth – this will stimulate his P-spot. The prostate will swell and harden, and become more receptive to firmer stimulation.

If the massager offers vibration, this is the time to turn the buzz on. Start off gently – the bum is very sensitive so vibration will feel far more intense in his tush, compared to how it feels in your hand. At the point of orgasm, your man will likely feel that he’s climaxing from both ends – explosive!

 

Top 3 most popular prostate massagers, as chosen by male customers:

Naughty Boy Prostate Massager
Naughty Boy £49

Naughty Boy by British toy designers Rocks Off is our most popular prostate massager. Slimmest out of the prostate toy collection, the tip isn’t much wider than a finger. Suitable for newbies, Naughty Boy gently increases in girth, offering a slightly fuller feeling when it’s in place. The flatter part sits comfortably in the “taint” – the area between the balls and the anus. Naughty Boy comes with an upgraded 7-speed version of the popular RO-Bullet, meaning you have several speeds and patterns to experiment with.

 

 

Njoy Fun Wand
Njoy Fun Wand £72

The Njoy Fun Wand is a heavy stainless steel massager with a  long handle for easy use. You have the option of using either end, making this prostate toy very versatile. Weighty toys are incredibly sexy and usually work very well for both P-spots and G-spots and because Fun Wand is made from high-grade steel, it can be sterilized.

Use the slimmer end with three bulbs for warm-up and teasing – the opening and closing of the sphincter muscle feels so good – and try the larger bulb when you feel ready for more.

 

 

Lelo Bob Prostate Massager
Lelo Bob Prostate Massager £29

Lelo Bob is a non-vibrating prostate massager. Super-stylish and so smooth in silicone, Lelo Bob has a strong curve to ensure a full feeling and accurate P-spot pleasure. Lelo Bob is for the more advanced player; the girth can be a little intimidating if you are new to anal play.

When massaging the prostate with a toy, explore different sensations

You can slowly and gently twist the toy around, or try a rocking back and forth motion, or why not give a gently sliding in and out motion a go? Let the partner on the receiving end dictate the pace – it’s their bum, after all!

 Learn More about Prostate Pleasure

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, is THE go-to guide on learning all about the incredible orgasmic potential of this very special male pleasure spot, with advice on massage, pegging, positions, toys, building trust, communicating desires, plus illustrated tips and techniques about achieving supercharged orgasms…

Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure £11.99
Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure £11.99
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Glass Dildo Questions

Many customers are intrigued by toys and dildos made of glass, being drawn to their glittering smooth forms in-store, like magpies…

Not only are glass dildos beautiful to look at, but they are also amazing to play with. Glass delivers uniquely sleek and weighty sensations that many G-Spots & Prostates respond to with aplomb!

But glass, as a sex toy material, also raises a lot of queries and some worries around their use, so, here, we answer the most common questions we are asked about glass dildos.


 

Are Glass Dildos Really Safe?

The number 1 question we’re asked about toys made out of glass, is whether they’re 100% safe to use as sex toys – little wonder, as putting anything that could cut or hurt your most delicate area is an understandably scary notion.

Rest assured peeps, glass toys are perfectly safe and will not crack inside you, no matter how passionate your moves become.

Any glass dildo you purchase from Sh! is extremely tough and durable and will not break when used to massage your soft areas.

But saying that you do need to handle glass dildos carefully, away from the body. Even toughened, Pyrex glass is will chip or break if bashed about.  Handle carefully around hard surfaces, such as taps,

Glass G-Spot Dildo (£37) Our Best-selling Glass Dildo
Glass G-Spot Dildo (£37) Our Best-selling Glass Dildo

when cleaning. Be careful not to drop it, especially onto a hard floor. Store your glass dildo in its padded bag after use. With careful handling and safe storage, you should have no problems at all with your glass toy.

However, for your own peace of mind, we recommend checking your dildo before and after every use.

Run your hands and eyes over it, examining for any chips or cracks, before getting down to play. In order to fully enjoy any toy, you need to be confident that it couldn’t possibly hurt you, so checking your glass dildo is still as strong, tough and undamaged as the day you bought it,  is important physiologically as well as physically.


 

Are Glass Dildos Hygienic?

Any sex toy or dildo made out of glass is super-hygienic and body-safe.  Glass is 100% non-porous, which means it won’t absorb any body substances or lube residue, making these toys very easy to keep clean.

You can even sterilize a glass dildo, which is useful if you plan to share your toy with a partner or play with it anally, as well as vaginally ( you can go from vag to bum in one session, but never the other way around in the same session)


 

Do I Need to Use Lube with Glass Toys?

We always recommend using a good lube with any toys, including those made from glass. Even though it’s sensually sleek to start with, a drop of lube will transform your glass dildo into a divinely silky plaything, quite unlike any other…

Because glass is non-porous, you can use any lube type like; water-based lube or silicone based.

Just a small amount will go a LONG way; turning  your glass dildo into a super-slippery pleasurer provider AND making your lube bottle last a long, long time!


 

Glass Eggs for Kegel Exercise

Kegel Glass Eggs £20
Kegel Glass Eggs £20

Love balls made of glass can be used for your daily PC Muscle Exercise with great effect. Glass is heavy, and you have to do extra-tight squeezes to keep these weighty balls in.

These love balls, in a beautiful teardrop shape, are also great fun for sexy pleasures – pop them in, squeeze in time with masturbation or clitoral stimulation, and you may well find you hit that orgasmic peak sooner than usual.


 

Glass Dildos for G-Spot Play

Flower Glass Dildo £39
Sh! Flower Glass Dildo £39

Glass dildos are versatile toys and you can have great fun with them. Glass dildos are amazing for G-Spot stimulation, for example. The G-Spot tends to prefer the firm pressure that hard toys deliver, so glass is perfect.

Choose a glass toy with a gentle upwards curve or a bulbous end for more accurate stimulation, and use a ‘juicing’ motion (round and round constant massaging) rather than an in & out motion.


 

Glass Toys for Anal Play

Sh! Rose Glass Butt Plug
Sh! Rose Glass Butt Plug £34

Glass Butt Plugs clearly have been designed for delivering anal pleasure.

Glass dildos, too,  can be used for anal play, as long as they have a flared base or long handle to hold on to, for safe anal play.

Even with these safety features, it’s still important to be very careful keeping a very firm grip on a glass anal toy, simply because they can become SO super slippy, so much so that they can slip away from you.

Wipe lube from fingers and the base of the toy before play and keep extra vigilant on your grip…

As toys made of glass are firm and inflexible, they may feel a little overwhelming for anal play newbies.  We would recommend beginners to anal play start with something softer and more flexible, like butt plugs made of silicone.


 

How Should I Clean & Care for My Glass Toy?

Sh! Sex Toy Cleaner £5
Sh! Sex Toy Cleaner £5

Most glass toys will come in a soft, padded pouch – it’s best to keep your glass dildo safe and protected in these, when not playing.

The padding offers extra protection just in case you should happen to drop your toy or knock it about in your drawer…

Glass dildos are super easy to keep clean.

For instant bedside cleaning, you can give it a spitz of Sh! Sex Toy Cleaner and wipe off.

Or wash your glass dildo thoroughly with soap and hot water. Use an old, soft toothbrush if it has any nooks and crannies.  Rinse and either air-dry or polish dry with a lint-free cloth.

Only when absolutely dry should you store away in its padded bag.

Some glass dildos can be washed in the top rack of your dishwasher ( without soap or pots and pans!) but probably the easiest way to sterilize is to drop it in a plastic bowl of boiling water. Be very careful when taking it out though – glass will become very hot! Take it out carefully and allow your glass dildo to cool down fully before play.


 

5 Glass Dildo Sex Tips

  • On a hot day, why not pop your glass dildo in the fridge before use – this is sure to cool you down!
  • If it’s cold and you need to warm up, run your glass dildo under warm (not hot) water for a couple of minutes.
  • Add a vibrating ring for additional clitoral stimulation during play. Simply slide the ring over the shaft of your toy and voila! You have a new, exciting toy to play with.
  • Glass dildos have two ends, both of which are for use. Experiment with both ends – you may find one end more exiting than the other!

 

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The Male G-Spot & Erotic Prostate Massage

Men have their own erotic pleasure spot, called the Prostate – a gland that is comparable to the female G-Spot

…which is why it is sometimes referred to as the male G-spot.

Erotic prostate massage is highly pleasurable for lots men. Their orgasms are often more explosive when prostate stimulation is combined with sex. Some lucky chaps can orgasm through erotic prostate massage alone!

How to find and stimulate your man’s erotic hot spot – The Prostate Gland.

The Prostate Gland / Male G-Spot
The Prostate Gland / Male G-Spot

 

Massage the male G-spot /prostate by inserting a finger covered in anal lube or special prostate massager two to three inches into his anus and stroking towards the front of his body using a ‘come here’ gesturing motion, exactly like a G-Spot stroke.

Exactly like the female G-Spot, the prostate swells and hardens as it becomes aroused, making it easier to feel.

The more turned-on your man, the more his prostate will be receptive firmer stimulation.

If you are going to add erotic prostate / male G-Spot massage to your repertoire, you’ll need to understand how sensitive & slowly the journey to prostate pleasure should be.

anal sphincter muscles
anal sphincter muscles

Inside the anus are two sets of sphincter muscles; the first can be tensed at will, but the second set constrict involuntarily.

So even he wants erotic prostate / male G-Spot massage and is trying to relax, his anus might initially appear to resist.

Patience, a slow pace and communication are essential to relaxing both sets of anal muscles and enjoying prostate / male G-Spot stimulation.

Rectal tissue is very delicate and does not self-lubricate, so always be gentle when performing erotic prostate massage.

Lots of lube is essential in every kind of anal play, including, of course prostate play!

Make sure you don’t skimp – coat his anus, fingers and toys liberally and keep reapplying.

 

Many prostate massagers are ergonomically shaped for hands-free pleasure
Many prostate massagers are ergonomically shaped for male G-Spot  pleasure

Special Prostate Massagers like the Rude Boy and the Naughty Boy are specially shaped to take in the curves of the anus and find his erotic hot spot.

Probing with a prostate massager is a great way to give you man a great erotic prostate massage without using your fingers.

 

 

Using latex gloves for erotic prostate massage is also a great way to deal with any squeamishness or nerves. They are also brilliant if you have long nails and need to protect his delicate tush from your talons.

Go Forth! Give him the erotic prostate massage of his life!

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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.

 

Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.

 

Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure

 

 

 

 

 

 

Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm

 

 

One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!

 

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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls

 

Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms

 

The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure

 

There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’

 

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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure

 

Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…

 

Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…

 

 

Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…

 

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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy

 

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.

 

 

 

 

A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse

 

A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,

 

 

 

Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.

 

 

 

Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves

 

Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…

 

Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

 

For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.

 

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

 

 

Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits

 

Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99

 

They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.

 

 

 

 

Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89

 

 

 

 

 

 


For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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