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Q&A: I don’t orgasm during penetration – what can I do?

Hi Sh!
I would like some advice if you can.
I do not have orgasm by penetration, but I  do by clitoral stimulation. The strength and pleasure of the orgasm is vastly increased by penetration. Is there anything I can do to improve vaginal sex? Can you help me?
Hello there,
Many thanks for your email – and we’ll certainly try! 🙂
This is one of the most common questions we get asked, and the good news is that there are several ways to increase pleasure and orgasm-potential during penetrative sex.
Around 75% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. This means most of us need our magic beans rubbed in just the right way, or the climax won’t happen.
Having orgasms during penetration is absolutely possible, but takes a bit of work. It makes sense that your orgasms are more intense when the vagina has something to clench around – this is often the case.

Positioning

Try positions that offer more clitoral contact. This could be the woman-on-top position, which lets your bump and grind in ways that feel good for you.

 

Another great position for this is the CAT-aligned, which is sensual and sexy. Your partner positions themselves on top (missionary position) but lifts themselves a bit higher on your body, making sure that they pubic bone grinds against your clitoris. Instead of thrusting, they then go on to treat you to a grinding, rubbing rollercoaster of pleasure, and you might find this takes you all the way to orgasm.

Vibration

A small, non-intrusive vibrator can make all the difference.  A small bullet or finger tip vibe can be a fun addition, but if you prefer something hands-free, we recommend giving Satisfyer Partner a go.

 

This clever vibe has been designed to fit against the G-spot and the clitoris, whilst still allowing space for a penis or dildo to slip in too. It’s a bestseller in our shop, and we can see why: Satisfyer Partnet won the Red Dot Design Award last year!
At only £45, it won’t break the bank and as it’s fully waterproof, you can enjoy it in the bath or shower too.
Satisfyer Pro Partner

Pelvic Floor

A strong pelvic floor helps increase both the number and intensity of orgasms so make sure to practice your kegel exercises regularly.  If (like us) you find kegels too boring or you forget to do them, we have a great idea for making it more fun: do them whilst you masturbate!
Doing your squeezes whilst playing with your clit at the same time will likely result in an orgasm (win!) and a stronger pelvic floor too (double win!).
Using a pair of love balls adds to your exercise regime as well as adding pleasure for your G-spot. Which brings us neatly to…

G-spot Stimulation

The G-spot often plays a big part for those who enjoy vaginal orgasms. Located at the front wall of the inside of the vagina, it’s a rough-feeling area that grows in tandem with arousal.

 

By stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot simultaneously, you can go on to enjoy what is known as ‘blended orgasms’.  Rabbit vibrators do this job marvellously, but you can use fingers too. Or fingers on the clitoris, and a penis or dildo internally – there are many variations, so pick whichever suits you best.

 

Over time, you cut down on the clitoral stimulation, a couple of seconds at a time.  As you are about to climax, you stop stimulating the clitoris earlier and earlier but still carry on stimulating the G-spot firmly. Over time, you’ll learn how to have G-spot orgasms, or vaginal orgasms this way.

 

Enjoy your ‘homework’! 😉

 

Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx

 

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Polish the pearl: Methods of masturbation

Masturbation is healthy, perfectly natural and a wonderful way of getting to know your own body.

There are several methods of clitoral masturbation, from a go-it-alone approach to adding a partner or a few toys into the mix to really get the party started!

What works for one person may not float the boats of others, so it really is a matter of personal preference and practice to see what works best for you.

If you are just getting started and haven’t yet worked out a self-love routine, we suggest picking a time when you have the house to yourself as few things ruin a good sesh as much as a nosy flatmate!

Next, you need to know where your clitoris is located. Grab a mirror, gently pull back the clitoral hood and you should be able to see a small ‘pea’ nestled in amongst the folds – this is the outer part of your clitoris. Hiding inside your body are two clitoral legs, spanning apporimately 8 cm each on either side of the vaginal opening. Cool huh!

Clitorises come in a variety of sizes, but a larger sized clit doesn’t necessarily mean a better orgasm – it’s just easier to find.

So, what are the best methods of female masturbation? Here are a few techniques to get you started…

Pleasure at Your Fingertips

Start getting to know your body better by using your fingertips to gently tap the pubic bone just above the clitoris. This will help wake your vulva up and start to get things moving. As your body starts responding to your touches, blood will flow into the area, making your bits feel juicier.

It could be that your vulva is already plenty wet, but we recommend drizzling some lube on to your fingers before the next step. Lube makes fingertips softer and smoother and enhances sensations in a delicious way.

Begin to press down and use slow and circular movements – and if it feels good then don’t stop, instead, find a rhythm that feels great and keep going!

The best thing with masturbation is that there is only one person to pleasure: you! Take as much time as you need; a great orgasm often requires a build-up of neuromuscular tension (sexual tension) and the hotter you feel, the more intense the resulting orgasm will be.

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The Scissor Sisters Technique

Another popular method of female masturbation is the ‘scissor sister’s’ technique.

Using one hand, make a kind of peace sign with your index and middle fingers and place a finger on each side of your outer labia.

Add a little pressure and gently move the two fingers together in a scissors motion and lift your labia up slightly to increase the sensation whilst finding a speed that works for you. Again, lubed up fingers will add to the slidey sensations. It’s a very soft way of stroking yourself with no real intensity to the stimulation of the clitoris. This is a great way of masturbating if you’re not keen on over-stimulation.

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This technique is similar to how a clit clamp works, which is the advanced but oh-so-amazing level.  Using a clit clamp isn’t as scary as it sounds and should always be pleasurable, not painful.

A clit clip ‘clamps’ the two inner labia lips together, thus squishing over the clitoris and limiting blood flow. This makes you feel more aware of your delicate area and it often helps to build arousal.

Fancy giving it a go? Lube up the labia lips before sliding the clit clamp down and along the inner labia lips. When positioned correctly, the clitoral hood + clit should rest in the rounder part of the top of the clip.

Polish the Pearl

Having a clitoris is awesome, so show it some self-love with our next masturbation technique.

With your dominant hand, start by slowly dragging your index or middle finger from the base of the vaginal opening to your clitoris. Once you reach this little pearl of pleasure, gently circle it before starting the process again.

You may find that your clitoris can get a little sensitive if touched directly, so just work around it and find a motion that you enjoy best.

A little silicone-based lube can help make this technique super-hot and ramp up the pleasure! Silicone lube is longer-lasting than water-based lube and works wonderfully well for long sessions, or when playing in water.

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The shower head or faucet of the bath are both good tools for solo play. Many learn how to orgasm with the help of a quality power shower, aiming the warm jets just so, and others let the water splash down on to the clitoris straight from the tap. Depending on your bath tub, this may involve some acrobatic moves trying to position yourself – legs over the edge is a common one.

Bump, Hump & Grind

Positioning is key when it comes to masturbation and working out what rocks your boat could and should involve a few different positions.

One fun position to try is the bump & grind, or ‘humping’. We know women who build themselves a little mountain of pillows for mounting and grinding their pelvic area against. This doubles as an excellent workout for the thighs – mixing business with pleasure!

If all that moving around seems too tiresome, you could treat yourself to a Ruby Glow, the vibrator for seated satisfaction! Featuring two motors (one for the clitoris and one for the vaginal opening), you rock yourself against the thrilling vibrations. The clever design of Ruby Glow works equally well on beds, sofas and wheelchairs, and you can even rub one out without taking your clothes off!

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Next Level Pleasure

Once you’ve tried these techniques and worked out what works best for you, you might want to think about a few toys to treat yourself to or to share with a partner as you carry on exploring what works for you.

Vibrators are magnificent pleasure-makers and despite what porn may want us to believe (‘bigger is better’), we sell way more small vibes for clitoral teasing than bigger toys for internal use.

Small finger-tip toys are great fun and can easily be shared with a partner. Slightly bigger bullet-style vibes are easy to hold and pack a  stronger punch. Egg-shaped vibrators mirror the shape of the labia and can be enjoyed in numerous ways.

Vibrators can sometimes lead your clitoris to feel overstimulated, especially if it’s been held right at the tip of the clit. To avoid this, circle the vibe around your pleasure pearl, tease the labia lips, invite the nipples to your buzzin’ party… There are lots of sensitive nerve-endings in and around the opening of vagina, so li’l stroke here often increases the desire for more.

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Every so often customers ask if it’s ‘bad’ to masturbate too often or if it’ll ruin sex with a partner. To this, we say: What is too often anyway? There are no rules – you can play as often or as seldom as you like!

And as for partnered sex, finding out your individual likes and dislikes makes partnered sex better and hotter, as you can teach your partner what you like, and how you like it.

Our tip would be to book a night in, get the lube and any favourite toys out and get down to some mutual masturbation. It is super-hot to watch each other get off and you’re bound to learn something new about your partner’s fave moves, like a certain grip, pump or slide!

Have a good tip or trick to share with us? We’d love to hear, so drop us a line below!

 

 

 

MultiOrgasmic Blog Post

A quick guide to multiple orgasms

Anyone who’s ever experienced an orgasm knows just how ruddy marvelous they are:  Your heart races, toes curls and breathing speeds up while the feeling builds in waves all over your body until you reach the point of climax and a feeling of intense pleasure and relief washes over you…

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Yes, orgasms are pretty fantastic, but have you ever wondered how it might feel to have more than one?

You might be keen to learn about how you can increase your chances of experiencing one (or more, coz let’s be honest, once you’ve had one you’ll want to do it again).

Either way, this short guide to multiple orgasms should give you all of the information that you need to know about multiple orgasms.

What are multiple orgasms? 

Bodies are amazing in that there is almost no limit to how much pleasure they can experience and the female body, in particular, is amazing in the sense that it can produce numerous orgasms in any one session (provided it gets the right stimulation).

A multiple is effectively when a woman experiences more than one orgasm during a sex play, either on her own or with a partner.

Can everyone experience them?

Like most things, multiple orgasms are different for everybody and some people are finding hard to have one orgasm, never mind several. Don’t beat yourself up over it – learning more about what your particular hots spots are, and spending a lot of time playing & teasing them, will help you closer to the first orgasm and after that, the world is your oyster!

It is common for the clitoris to become too sensitive for touch after the first climax, but we hear there are women (or female-bodied persons) who have experienced multiple orgasms after working through the period of uncomfortable over-stimulation. If you reckon you can handle it, you may have more than one treat waiting for you on the other side…

A different approach is to work with your G-spot, as this tends to be far more comfortable for continued stimulation.  Women who enjoy G-spot play are often in a far better position to become multiple orgasm:ers, as their G-spot doesn’t become overstimulated in the same way the clitoris does. In fact, the G-spot enjoys attention so much, it becomes bigger and firmer, the more you stimulate it!

How to become multi-orgasmic

We’re focusing on the female body in this blog post, but men can also become multi-orgasmic if they are into prostate play.

Once you have mastered the art of one orgasm – or maybe two – you can kick it up a notch and try for a third.

Having the first orgasms by clitoral stimulation (any way you like it: tongue, fingers or toys), before moving on to a blended orgasm is a good middle. A blended orgasm is clitoral & G-spot stimulation at the same time (you’ll need fingers, G-spot toys or a penis for the internal stimulation).

Once you have mastered the blended orgasm, it’s time to practice G-spot orgasms only. For this, you need to be super-turned on, and tease yourself for up to an hour without allowing an orgasm to happen, Take yourself almost there, and then back off, go back up the peak, and then back off… This technique is called edging and works wonders if you want to increase the intensity of your orgasm.

Once you have mastered this (we know, it’s a lot of “homework” involved!), it’s time for the multiple…

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After the first G-spot or blended orgasm, give yourself a few seconds before resuming firm stimulation of your G-spot area. Glass toys or steel dildos are particularly good for this, but any G-spot toy should be able to provide the stimulation needed.  Once you’ve had a second orgasm, give yourself another few seconds to rest and then carry on…

 

 

 

 

VQ blog

VQ: A Women’s Health, Sex & Pleasure Shop

As part of International Women’s Day celebrations this month, we are thrilled to be part of VQ, a one-day pop-up sex & health shop taking place in Birmingham on Thursday 22nd March.

Vagina Quotient, or ‘The VQ,’ will bring together some of the country’s best female-led independent sexual health businesses and organisations to Birmingham’s city centre, providing a fun, safe and sex-positive space for women of all ages and backgrounds, to learn and talk about their sexual health and wellbeing needs.

A UK first, academics at Birmingham City University are opening a pop-up sex and health shop as part of IWD. The project is co-led by Dr Annalise Weckesser, a medical anthropologist whose research explores issues of gender and health, and Dr Keeley Abbott, a critical social psychologist who specialises in sexuality, gender and sex education.

Many products available at the VQ are only available online; the pop-up shop offers visitors an exclusive chance to see these products in-person and to learn more about them from the experts:

  • Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, the UK’s longest running, multi-award winning female-focused sex boutique from London will be around to talk sex and sex toys, and we’ll round off the day with one of our popular erotic classes.
  • OMGYES – trial  (or even purchase!) this research-based app (championed by actress Emma Watson) that teaches different techniques women use to find pleasure.
  • Precious Stars – check out these eco-friendly reusable sanitary products – a social enterprise started by Bryony Farmer who runs a popular YouTube channel on menstrual health for young people.
  • A unique opportunity to take part in an original art piece with Kaye Winwood Projects:  make a cast of your hands in the positions you use to masturbate. Anonymised casts will be used to make a display representing the diversity of women’s pleasure techniques (we love this!).

Come to a Sex Class!

For one night only, Team Sh! will spread their message of sexual empowerment and pleasure to the women of Brum!

Enjoy a guided tour of pleasurable peaks and orgasmic delights. Learn how to locate and stimulate the G-spot, and how to tell the time on your clit-clock. Learn about anatomy, hot spots and female ejaculation.

We’ll finish with Q&A session so you can ask any questions you have about increasing your orgasmic ratio.

Full of practical advice and sexpert tips, this class is playful whilst still providing insight and information. You’ll leave feeling inspired and empowered, ready to take charge of your next orgasm.

Book your ticket to our one-night-only sex class in Birmingham here. 

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Win Prizes!

A raffle will also be taking place on the day which includes prizes such as limited edition Eros candles, gift vouchers, Spa vouchers and a voucher for two macaroons and a glass prosecco for two people at Miss Macaroon’s patisserie in Great Western Arcade.

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Donate Sanitary Products!

Donations of sanitary products will be collected on the day for The Bloody Good Period and Homeless Period.

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Here’s What the Organisers Have To Say

Dr Annalise Weckesser, Senior Research Fellow at Birmingham City University, said:

“We have communication taboos around menstruation, sex and menopause in Britain. Time and again, research shows that this silence and stigma leads to negative consequences and health risks for girls and women.”

“With this initiative, our hope is to create a space for open conversation where we can help begin to break down these taboos.”

Visitors to ‘VQ: A women’s health, sex and pleasure shop’ can speak with sexual health and women’s health experts while they discover and purchase unique sex and health products.  Such products include the latest sex apps and toys, alternative sanitary products (period pants, mooncups and more) and aids for menopause.

Dr Keeley Abbott, Lecturer, Birmingham City University, added:

“We rarely talk about the sex and relationship education needs of adults.”

“We need to start discussing the needs of women, and in a way that acknowledges desire and pleasure. We want to hear about women’s sexual, menstrual and reproductive health needs.”

James Roberts, centre manager at Great Western Arcade, said: “We are always eager to partner with unique events and refreshing projects, and this is no exception. VQ is a fantastic initiative and serves as a great way to push the boundaries surrounding women’s sexual needs. We are really looking forward to welcoming VQ and its visitors to the arcade.”

 

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Sh! at the Planet London IWD Extravaganza

We are thrilled to announce our talk at the Planet Nation IWD Extravaganza on Sunday 11th March.

For one day, come along to Planet London’s fantastic community space for women & their guests. Enjoy the showcase of talent and diversity of the LBQ community, where access starts from free – and from there you can build your perfect day. Try something new, find out what the LBQ community in London has to offer, perhaps even meet new people outside of your current social circles!

This amazing day offers:

1 venue, 6 rooms, and more than 20 different activities from over 40 amazing cis & Trans LBQ women and non-binary people within our community!

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Date: Sunday 11th March 2018

Time: IWD Extravaganza – 1pm – 2am

Time: Sh! Talk: 7.30-8.30pm

Venue: The Bedford, 77 Bedford Hill, Balham, London SW12 9HD

Entry Policy: Women & Guests

Event Cost: From £0 upwards – pay per activity you are interested in only

Ticket Availability: In advance only

Accessibility: Accessible toilet


Let’s Talk Pleasure!

Activities_ShOur talk will take place in the Green Room at 7.30pm. We’ll talk female anatomy, feel & taste our way through a selection of lubes (we’ll invite guests to join us!) before sharing our best tips & tricks for choosing and using sex toys.

Also, we’ll set aside some time to take sex-related questions from the audience after our talk.

Looking forward to seeing you there!

Ticket Prices: Early Bird = £3 | Standard = £5 | Late = £7

For full line up, please visit the Rainbow Society Website.

Keep up with the event via #IWDextravaganza + #RainbowSociety

 

 

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3 Sex Tips To Drive Her Wild

For many men, the female body can be a challenge to navigate around at the best of times, and pleasing a woman sexually can seem nay on impossible at the worst.

We know this, because our customers share so many intimate details with us. Sometimes customers share because they are over the moon (“I had my first orgasm last night!”), and other times they share out of frustration (“Why doesn’t he just do it the way I want it?!).

A common complaint is that male partners, in particular, are going at it too fast, too hard or in all the wrong places.

What many men haven’t yet realized, is that women need their parts stimulated in the right way for the right amount of time in order to orgasm – and the right way for the right amount of time varies from woman to woman, and even from one sexual encounter to the next.

A number of despairing female customers have asked us to put together a little print-out-and-keep-guide for their guys, so grab yourself a cuppa and settle down coz here we go!

(And, of course, these tips work for any lover of women – not just fellas!)

Nipples

Nipple sensitivity varies from woman to woman, but for most of us, the nipples are a great place to start. A word of warning here: a lot of guys like to handle the nip-tips like they’re tuning in a radio but trust us, few women enjoy this manhandling move…

Instead, start off gently, teasing, cupping and stroking her breasts. Treat them with the respect they deserve. Once she pushes closer to you, it’s time to get lips and tongue involved.

For added fun, why not drizzle some caramel or chocolate sauce over her nipples – you can then spend however long you like licking it off.

As her breathing increases, lick and suck faster for added intensity. If you really want to excite her, a gentle nibble every now and then will do the trick.

These hands-free nipple massagers are great fun and come highly recommended. They attach directly to the skin around the nipple and offer gentle suction whilst you work your way down her body…

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The Clitoris

The clitoris is the holy grail of sexual discovery for most women and it’s also the route to many toe-curling, pillow-grabbing orgasms.

While it is the one place most men head to when they want to pleasure their woman, many go about it the wrong way – thus chasing off the orgasm rather than encouraging it to come gushing on…

How to give her clitoral pleasure

First of all, no one likes a chafed clit so trim your nails, lash on the hand cream and crack open a bottle of vagina-friendly lube: this is all part of your prep.

The clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings sitting atop it, and these nerve-endings will cry out in pain if you go in all guns blazing: it simply doesn’t work.

Orgasms are a build-up of energy that is released, and therefore the best course of action is to go slow (very slow) (even slower than that) and build up. Think of it as an orgasmic marathon rather than a sprint – pace yourself.

Starting off with oral sex – if she is comfortable with this – is a good idea. The tongue is soft and moist, two things that most vulvas are partial to.

You can add a drop or two of the vagina-friendly lube to the labia lips, clitoris and opening, even if she is feeling rather juicy to the touch. Lube makes tongues, fingers, penises & toys more sensual, and that’s always a bonus!

The most important thing to do is to keep steady with whatever movement she seems to like best. Caress her clitoris using the whole of your tongue, and add in some sucking motions here and there. Nibble on the labia lips, blow gently on her clit (not into the vagina though) and keep your rhythm steady. If she seems to like it, do it again. And again.

Many women worry that they take too long, so reassure her by letting her know there is no place you’d rather be.

Fun Rabbit Ears VibratorWant her to have a truly delicious time? Our Fun Rabbit Ears Vibrator with its vibrating bullet works wonders in the clitoral region. Add a little lube to the soft ears of the rabbit, turn it on and stroke gently around the clit.

Think of the clitoris as a clock-face, and work out what time her Happy Hour is. Many women prefer stimulation of 10-11 or 1-2, but take your time (no pun intended) and work your way around the clit-clock. There will be one or two spots that are far more receptive to your soft touch, and this is where you should focus your attention.

Direct stimulation of the clitoris can be overwhelming, so unless she specifically tells you she wants direct pressure, always tease around the sides of it instead – and this is why the Fun Rabbit works so well, the flexible ears slide along the sides of the clit rather rather than directly on it.

The G-spot

There’s a lot of speculation surrounding the G-spot. Does it really exist or is it just a myth? Where is it located?

Well, we certainly believe in its existence, although it would be fair to say not all women respond the same to stimulation of it.

The area of the G-spot (the Grafenberg spot, named after the guy who ‘discovered’ it) is located about half-a-finger on the front wall of the vagina, a surface that feels less smooth than the rest of the vaginal walls. Blood flows to the area during arousal, and the G-spot becomes easier to locate and stimulate.

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How to Stimulate Her G-spot

Add a drizzle of lube (see, we told you the lube would come in handy!) to one or two of your fingers, before sliding them into her. Curve your fingers upwards towards her G-spot and stroke in slow but firm come-hither motions. Remember to not go harder or faster until she asks for it.

If penetrative sex is on the cards, it’s worth noting that many women find that woman-on-top positions work best for experiencing intense sexual pleasure and orgasm.

Let her straddle you, and then tilt her hips backwards or forwards (whichever feels best for her). This will allow her to find that sweet spot and she’ll get the pressure she wants.


If you found this helpful and would like more tips & tricks on how to have her hollering the house down with pleasure, just book yourself a ticket to our Guy’s Guide to Female Pleasure!

 

 

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Top 10 Tips for National Orgasm Day

National Orgasm Day, celebrated on 31st July, is something we should all be shouting Oh-Oh-Oooh about!

Around 75% of all women (3 in 4) need sustained clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, so pleasing the clitoris should be the focus on this pleasure-filled day. In order to boost orgasm potential, we’re sharing our Top 10 Tips for climactic crescendos.

Top 10 Tips for Orgasm

  1. Happy Hour

clock faceThink of the clitoris as a clock face with 12 at the top and 6 at the bottom.

Most women report times 10-11 or 1-2 as their most sensitive times, i.e. Happy Hour.

Ascertaining the time of your individual Happy Hour sets you firmly on your way to a fantastic climax.

 

2. The Wetter The Better

It’s time to shake off the old myth about women not needing additional lubrication for sex. The wetter, the better is our mantra, and we recommend adding a bottle of lube to your drawer of tricks. Lube enhances sensations and makes all play more comfortable.

3. Letting Fingers Do The Talking

Time spent exploring your body is time well spent. Fingers are most accessible, tactile and always with you. Touching, stroking, and gentle teasing with finger nails along skin increases sensual awareness.

4. Squeeze, Squeeze, Squeeze

Exercising the PC muscle should be a priority whatever your age. Not only does it ensure a toned pelvic floor without leaky issues, but it also helps build and intensify orgasms.

Using a pair of Sh! Love Balls make exercising much more fun. Weighted Love Balls also helps amplify arousal as the balls roll against the G-spot when you move…

5. Positioning is Key

Women often find it easier to orgasm in one or perhaps two positions. This may be flat on the back, laying forward with the additional bonus of being able to grind against the sheets, or sitting up, rocking hips back and forth.

Discovering which position works best for you will make the climb to the pinnacle of pleasure so much easier!

6. Keeping It Rhythmic

sh_-pink-glass-double-dildo1Stroking on and around the clitoris whilst tensing and releasing vaginal muscles rhythmically can help build towards a fantastic climax.

Women often experience stronger orgasms by using an internal toy, like a solid glass dildo, to grip on to.

7. Every Breath You Take

Shallow breathing during sex works to stop an orgasm in its tracks. Instead, deep breaths into the pit of your stomach feels great and will carry you through to a thunderous finish.

8. Take a Walk On The Wild Side

For hyper-charged orgasms, investing in a new-generation Pleasure Air Technology toy like Womanizer 2Go is the way forward. This sophisticated lipstick-style toy creates pressure waves and light vibration around the sensitive clitoris.

Testing found that 98% of women experienced a orgasm within 5 minutes of using Womanizer 2Go!

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9. Let It Go

Go with the flow and enjoying sensations as they happen. Take your time and don’t rush it.

10. Orgasmic! Erotic Class at Sh!

Attending one of the popular erotic classes at our award-winning shop (57 Hoxton Square, N1 6PB) is the best gift you can give yourself. Expect to be taken on a guided tour of clitorises and climaxes, pleasurable peaks and techniques for creating them. Classes are fun, friendly, educational and inspirational.

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Q&A Ask Sh!

Q&A: Sex & Arthritis

Hi,
Over the last 4 years, I have had issues with my joints. Despite this,
until last year I was still able to enjoy sex and masturbation. Last year, after developing pain in my hip, I was diagnosed with arthritis in my right hip and knee. Since this, I have been unable to orgasm. I want to, I try too, using all the usual methods I would. But I get put off by pain in my joints. I’m currently not in a relationship and the few times I have tried to have sex since this, I have had to stop for the same reason. This is really getting me down – I’m only 35 and have always had a healthy attitude to sex. I don’t feel ready to not have a sex life. Any suggestions as to how I can get past this? Thanks in advance.

Hey there,

Thanks for getting in touch.

We’re so sorry to hear how arthritis is affecting your ability to enjoy pleasure and sexual activity, but we have a few suggestions that we hope you’ll find helpful.

Planning Ahead For Sexual Pleasure

Planning sex may sound like a passion-killer for those who love nothing better than spontaneous encounters in random places, but when it comes to pain-free, pleasurable sex planning ahead is your best bet.

First of all – when is your pain least intense? If it’s in the morning, then this is the best time for you. Or if the evening is generally kinder to aching joints, opt for play sessions later in the day.

The Spanish tradition of an afternoon siesta is a great practice for storing vital energy before sex. Napping is activity that shouldn’t be frowned at – we could all do with a li’l rest every now and again.  🙂

We are guessing you are taking medication for the pain? Taking pain killers 30 minutes before sex will make sure the pain level is at its lowest and most manageable.

Having a warm bath or shower a short while before your play session will help keep your body and joints feeling warm, relaxed and more supple. If you choose to relax in the bath, you could use the time wisely by bringing a sexy book with you as reading erotica will help get you in the mood. The brain is really our biggest sex organ, and this should definitely be utilized!

Rethinking Sex

It may be that you’ve enjoyed a certain type of sex in the past, but the time has come to rethink what sex means to you. It could be that some positions are now out of the question, and that’s ok. Discovering new ways to play can really enhance intimacy and sex, and there’s potential for undiscovered pleasures!

Sex can be all manner of activities – kissing, touching, rubbing bodies together, mutual masturbation, masturbating each other… Great pleasure can be had from having something inside to squeeze against, for sure, but if bodily movements are too painful to contemplate it’s time to look at something different.

Massage and erotic touching are incredibly sexy ways of enjoying each other. For this, we’d recommend using massage candles. The wax melts into a lush, warm oil that can be drizzled directly onto skin, with the added benefit of keeping you warm.

Propping up yourself with pillows will help take some pressure off parts of the body that might  find sex extra stressful.

Pacing yourself: slow sex is very erotic, so forget about sweaty sprints and go for the long haul instead.

We have a couple of excellent toys for solo pleasure too:

Ruby Glowrocks-off-ruby-glow-ride-on-vibrator1 is a ride-on toy, and as such needn’t be held in place. This is a fantastic option if your hands get tired easily. Placing the flat base of Ruby Glow on a chair, bed or directly on the floor means you can watch or read something sexy at the same time… Perfect for anyone with mobility issues, Ruby Glow doesn’t require much in terms of hand or leg movement.

Womanizer Plus and Satisfyer Pro 2 clitoral toys are exceptionally reliable when it comes to orgasms. They belong to the very latest generation of sex toys – they ‘suck’ at the clitoris and with 8000 nerve-endings at its very tip, this goes down a treat!

We recommend looking into Wand vibrators too. The vibrations are deep and rumbly, and tends to wake up sleepy nerve-endings in next to no time. The Wands are usually of a longer size, so should be easy to hold and maneuver. A cordless wand means you ‘re not tethered to a wall socket and can position yourself in ways that works for you.

We hope this helps!

Love, Team Sh! xx

If you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at advice@sh-womenstore.com and we’ll answer you privately.

We may also share Q&A’s so others may benefit, but if we do it will always be anonymous, with nothing left in to identify you – promise!

 

 

10 Sex Commandments for 2017

10 Sex Commandments for 2017

    1. Thou Shalt Have More Orgasms

Make 2017 the Year of Your Vagina – celebrate its moist existence and let it out to play regularly. Stay in and feast by yourself or invite others to the party – as long as those climaxes keep coming, you’ll be able to face the grayest of Monday mornings.

Smash sexual boundaries and set yourself brand new challenges that’ll gently push you out of your comfort zone and we promise 2017 will be a daring, fun-filled and empowered year!

If you are not yet having orgasms, the challenge is finding out how to have one. If you are having clitoral orgasms, the challenge is to explore the G-spot. If you have G-spot orgasms, the challenge is to have a blended orgasm. If you have blended orgasms. the challenge is to have multiple orgasms…

And so on. (It’s gonna be a busy year, gurl – strap yerself in and let’s go!)

2. Thou Shalt Not Be Afraid of Asking for What You want

Putting up with lukewarm sex is so yesteryear. Make sure that the sex you are having is hotter than a sunburned British tourist abroad by throwing coyness to the wind and asking for what you want. If it feels scary, just start off small: “please kiss me there” soon builds up to “take me now” and you’re well on your way to managing your pleasure…

If you have been wanting to try a little light bondage play for example, now is the time to break open that box of luxury satin restraints. Nothing ventured is nothing gained. 🙂

3. Thou Shalt Not Be Afraid of Trying New Things

Dateless? No worries; these days you can swipe every which way on your Smartphone and a date magically appears. Or, if that sounds like too much hassle, we’ve heard there are saunas where women can go and play whenever the mood for fun strikes…

*Just remember to keep hydrated by drinking water and slapping extra lube on the muffkin.

Trying new things can mean a whole load of things, depending on who you are and what you have tried so far. Stepping out of our comfort zone is scary, but do you know what… Feel the fear and do it anyway!

4. Thou Shalt Not Overlook Unusual-Looking Toys

The latest trend for orgasmic pleasures are toys like Womanizer and Satisfyer Pro. These toys “suck” at the clitoris and create mindblowing orgasms that’ll have you seeing stars in just a minute or three (we’re not kidding).

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The incredible sensations are unlike any other sex toy and many women tell us they’ve found a completely different way of climaxing and/or experienced multiple-orgasms with clitoral sucking toys.

Toy designers are coming up with new concepts all the time, and just because a toy doesn’t look like a standard vibe doesn’t mean you should overlook them. Some of the most fantastic sex toys look nothing like you’d expect them to, like this cute body-forming silicone vibe.

5. Thou Shalt Always use Lube

benefit-lubeThe Aussies are well-known for their slip, slop, slap mantra and we wholeheartedly agree – although we’re talking about lube rather than sunscreen on this occasion.

Lube is the best thing and every bedside table should have a bottle displayed in a prominent place. Invest in a bottle of lube that suits your sexy needs and we promise you’ll never look back.

Lube makes sex sexier.

6. Thou Shalt Not Be Envious Of Thy Neighbours Sex Toys

Friends and neighbours may have impressive collections of sex toys but don’t let this make you feel less adventurous or “boring” – you’re not. Instead, book a day off and come along to Sh! where we’ll show you all the toys that would be suitable for you. Tailored advice and personalised service mean we are the go-to shop for women & couples who are looking to try something new and exciting.

7. Thou Shalt Swap Positions

Swapping positions for solo play encourages you to think of your pleasure in different ways. Try standing up, sitting astride a chair or why not bending over the kitchen counter? You’l find that you need to tense different muscles or move in different ways, which can change the way your orgasms feel.

Swapping positions and playing with gender roles can be a massive turn on for couples. Gender is fast becoming more fluent and old gender stereotypes are – thankfully – on their way out. Taking charge, swapping around and experimenting can enhance intimacy and bring you closer together.

8. Thou Shalt Keep One Day Each Week for Sex

The main reason for letting a great sex life go downhill is that it’s too easy to become wrapped up in the duller aspects of life: child care, housework and shopping for groceries are just three examples of unsexy-but-necessary activities that takes up far too much time in life.

Date nights have long been a thing, but it’s time to upgrade date night to “sex night”. Thinking and planning the sex you’ll be having is greatly arousing and will get juices flowing in no time.

If you’re not sure how to get the sex night going, why not come along to a sex class?  Our erotic classes are legendary evenings of fun: bubbles, cup cakes and the topic of choice… Learn about spanking, or strap-on play, or oral sex – again, stepping out of your comfort zone, taking the plunge and discovering new ways of experiencing pleasure!

9. Thou Shalt Not Fake It

Faking pleasure and orgasms is a no-no in 2017. Commandments 1 and 2 will help you get what you want, and also avoid lying to partners who think you’re having a marvellous time when you are not…

It can be difficult to break a habit of a life time, but remember this… You deserve great sex!

10. Thou Shalt Never Run Out of Power

Running out of battery power at inopportune moments ruins pleasure & orgasms, and must therefor be banned to yesteryear. In 2017, let’s make a pact to always have spare batteries in a drawer and chargers within reach.

Charge up all your favourite toys in advance, and you need never go without. Modern toys are USB chargeable, so you can easily plug ’em in whilst you are working and they’ll be ready just about the same time you are… *wink*