Non-Monogamy for Beginners

Thinking about opening up your relationship? Or are you perhaps the new amour coupling up with someone who already has a primary partner? Negotiating open relationships can be a minefield and it is not unlikely that you’ll set off a firework or two before you get it right.

Join us for an elightening introduction to polyamory & other non-monogamous relationships, open & honest communication and how to have more fulfilling relationships with the full consent and knowledge of your partner(s).

The evening will include a discussion on the various non-monogamous relationship styles and their terminology and practical application for those who have already begun their journey into non-monogamy or are curious about how to open a discussion with their partner about non-monogamy.

The talk will cover the following topics:

  • Monogamy is not for everyone and it doesn’t have to be
  • Why be non-monogamous
  • Non-monogamy myths
  • Recognising your own needs within a relationship
  • Open and honest communication with your partner(s)
  • Setting boundaries that you are comfortable with
  • Choose a relationship structure that suits you and your partner(s)
  • Feelings exist and they are ok to have
  • Other people exist and they are allowed to have feelings too
  • Miscommunication and betrayal
  • Love and other chemicals

The talk will be followed by an open and informal group discussion and Q&A for attendees to deepen their understanding of non-monogamous relationship practices.

Book your ticket to our talk on Non-Monogamy for Beginners here. 

This talk is for women & couples.

Meg Barker

New Class: Non-Monogamy 101 with Meg Barker

Class Date: Thursday 6th February 2014
Time: 6.30pm – 8pm
Venue: Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, 57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB
Tel: 020 7613 5458

This class is for all people who live full time as women as well as genderqueer, non-binary, intersex and transmasculine people who feel that they have links to women’s communities.


In this workshop Meg explores the different forms of open non-monogamy that have emerged in recent years, including swinging, open relationships, and polyamory. We will consider the different reasons for people opening up their relationships, and the various different ways in which they have done this (which might work for different people, and at different times). Particularly we’ll focus on where you are on a continuum of sexual fidelity and one of emotional fidelity, and what this means for your relationships. We’ll consider the kinds of contracts that people do, and don’t, use in openly non-monogamous relationships, and how these work. We’ll discuss communication levels that people prefer, and how to talk about these possibilities with partners and others in our lives. And we’ll tackle key issues of jealousy and time management and how people manage these.

Dr. Meg Barker is a writer, academic, therapist and activist who works for the Open University and as a sex and relationship therapist. Meg has been researching openly non-monogamous relationships for the past decade as well as working with openly non-monogamous people in therapy. Meg’s book and blog Rewriting the Rules covers many aspects of doing relationships differently, including opening up relationships beyond monogamy.

On purchase you will be emailed confirmation and further info.

Classes will only go ahead if there are 10 or more bookings. In the event of a class cancellation, anyone who has already purchased tickets will be contacted and refunded.


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Rude Magazine – Hot Monogamy Focus Group

Hot monogamy – how to keep things exciting in a long-term relationship

This focus group with Rude Magazine looks into ways to balance the sense of adventure/security within a long term relationship and having time apart. Feedback from the focus group will assist with the development of the Rude ebook series.

Nicci, at Rude Magazine is happy to share her own experiences in this focus group and look into way to keep your sexual energy high – like following Mantak Chia’s programme – The Multi Orgasmic Woman. There’ll be health tips on various practices and exercises that you can do at home and an online package exploring ways to keep in touch with the body (pelvic exercises, breast massage, yoga etc.).

You’ll also have the chance to discuss ideas for sex projects, like creating a sex space/dungeon together… adding a little fun and unpredictability as you have to be creative and create your own environment rather than going into a designated space/dungeon that someone has set up for you.

This is a free one-off chance to get together with a likeminded group of women, help develop an ebook and become more aware and conscious of our own and our partners needs and desires.

A little more info about Rude Magazine

A rather different women’s magazine… We aim to step away from the traditional women’s magazine format with its narrow focus on celebrity, weight, fashion, beauty and home and explore our inner lives and what it means to be a woman.

Rude is a celebration of femininity and power, a platform for different voices, and a means of supporting each other rather than knocking each other down. We value slow journalism – a reflective look at news and current affairs so have chosen to publish bi-monthly content around themes, which enables us to dig a little deeper into the issues affecting women through oral histories and storytelling.

Our key values are storytelling, community, curiosity, passion, pleasure and humour.

We publish features, interviews, reviews, profiles and lifestyle content around the following themes:
• Culture and Society
• Sexual Politics
• Women’s Issues
• Health
• Book Reviews – fiction foreplay, stories and oral histories
• Modern Parenting
• Sex and Creativity

Oct 2013 issue: ‘The Body’ – explores our bodies and minds, sexual health and sexuality as a reflection on the 1971 feminist classic Our Bodies, Ourselves published by the non-profit organisation Our Bodies, Ourselves and now in its 9th edition