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The LOL Word Comedy Night at Sh!

Like comedy? Like queer women?

Then you’ll love The LOL Word!

That’s right: your favourite LGBTQ+ women and non-binary comedians, The LOL Word, are descending upon London’s finest sex emporium Sh! for a night of raucous, inclusive, sex-positive and hilarious comedy.

Not only will you see the comedy scene’s finest award-winning queer talent, but you’ll also get to spend the evening surrounded by solid gold pure smut with 10% OFF ALL PRODUCTS for ticket holders!

Comedians for the night include the entire LOL Word originals (Chloe Petts, Jodie Mitchell, Shelf, and Chloe Green) plus the most special of SPECIAL GUESTS…


Tickets are extremely limited so grab yours now to avoid disappointment!

Arrive at 6:30pm to start shopping with that sweet 10% DISCOUNT and the show starts at 7pm prompt.


So who are LOL then?

A bunch of best mates and accolade-brimming comedians, providing London, Manchester, Brighton, Edinburgh and beyond with the best LGBTQ+ comedy talent there is. Founded by Chloe Green, Jodie Mitchell, Chloe Petts and sketch duo Shelf, they pull together the very best talent the scene has to offer, to save you the faff. Previous line-ups have included Sofie Hagen, Fern Brady, Sophie Duker, Kemah Bob, Sarah Keyworth, Rosie Jones andmaaany more babes.

Shelf

Shelf are a comedy double act from South London.

Shelf is made up of Rachel WD and Ruby Clyde. Already lifelong friends, they started performing as Shelf in 2015. Shelf started out at open mic nights, honing a style that is “a winning hybrid of sketch show and standup” (Edfringe Review).

Since their formation, Shelf have performed at Bestival, London Pride, and been nominated for Sketchfest’s Best New Act award. Their work has appeared on BBC3 and LADBible. They are founding members of sell-out monthly night The LOL Word, which showcases queer women and non-binary comedians from across the London comedy circuit. They are board members of the cult hit Alternative Comedy Memorial Society, with whom they regularly perform in London and Edinburgh.

Shelf
The Skinny – “…cool and relevant”

Diva Magazine – “The talented twosome find belly laughs in heavyweight topics like mental health, sexuality and gender

The Broad UK – “What makes their show really stand out is the crackling chemistry between their on stage personae”

The Daily Info – “Everything they do is organic and fresh…the audience is given permission to join in with their friendship: they let us in to their lives, flaunting their flaws and thus showcasing their qualities. Their honesty encourages laughing along and their comic timing ensures it”

Bunbury Publishing – “The chemistry between Rachel and Ruby absolutely sparkled, from the writing to the performance, page to stage, everything feeds into each other perfectly. I will repeat, Shelf are going to be huge”

Scotsgay – “Lesbians”

Jodie Mitchell

Jodie-MitchellJodie Mitchell is a ‘blindingly obvious comedic talent’ (The Skinny) doing her best to simultaneously be as surreal and political as possible. In 2018, she was a ‘Funny Woman Awards’ Finalist, a ‘Leicester Square New Comedian of the Year’ Semi-Finalist, and shortlisted for the ‘BBC New Comedy Award’.  She has a hit comedy podcast, ‘Secret Dinosaur Cult’, which she co-hosts with Sofie Hagen, and is currently touring a new show as her male comedian alter-ego with the Drag King troupe ‘Pecs’, after a 5*, Offie-nominated, sell-out run at Soho Theatre. Jodie’s supported by Soho Theatre Young Company, and is a founding member of queer, all women and non-binary comedy collective ‘The Lol Word’.  If you’re her mate, then you laughed at her shouldering butchness to don a denim mini-skirt in BBC Scotland’s ‘Scotsquad’.

‘Jodie Mitchell…left me with actual tears of laughter running down my face’ – DIVA
‘[Her] set is so funny it makes all the comedy in my life up to this point redundant’ – Theatrebubble

Chloe Petts

Chloe Petts’ “inexhaustibly funny mind” (Diva Magazine) and “compelling presence” (Steve Bennett, Chortle) has established her as one of the most exciting new acts on the circuit.

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Chloe is an alumna of the prestigious Pleasance Comedy Reserve, has been shortlisted for the BBC Comedy Award, was a finalist in the most recent Leicester Square New Comedian of the Year Awards and came runner-up in the Funny Women Awards 2017.

She has appeared on Channel 4’s Random Acts and BBC 3 Quickies.

Chloe Green

Chloe-GreenChloe Green is a queer comedian who makes jokes about life as a Labour Party staffer and the patriarchy. Sounds like a misnomer? It’s Ms. Nomer, thanks very much.

When she takes time off from being a “f*cking delicate snowflake”, Chloe likes to make jokes. Because her job staffing Labour’s Twitter account and navigating the minefield of sexism and homophobia in politics is surprisingly funny. Sharp political commentary meets confessional storytelling as Chloe tells us what it’s like to be “out” on the inside of the UK’s weirdest workplace.

Chloe is a co-founder of queer comedy collective The LOL Word, which had a sell-out run at the Edinburgh Fringe 2018. She’s also a member of the Soho Theatre Young Company, was named one of the top lesbian and bi comedians to watch out for by Pink News in 2018, and was a Semi-Finalist in the BBC New Comedy Award 2018.

As seen on LADBible and Pink News, seen at Latitude, heard on BBC Radio 4 Extra.

“Smart, insightful, hilarious, and completely relatable” – DIVA magazine.

“a quickfire stream of jokes that bounce pleasingly around a wide field of crowd-winning topics” – Bechdel Theatre

About LOL Word:

The Guardian: “a new generation of comics retaliating against the old template of comedy”
DIVA: “Smart, insightful, hilarious, and completely relatable”
Sofie Hagen: “My favourite comedy night in London”
Bechdel Theatre: “THE night to go to”

Shop-Documentary

Documentary Series at Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium

A new sexual revolution is underway! Sex is no longer a subject to shy away from, and — you might have noticed — sex shops no longer have to be seedy man-holes.

Even gender itself has started to become redundant. And in the age of hashtags (#metoo #timesup), of swiping left and right to fix up dates, the rules of sexual engagement are being rewritten.

Sh! is at the epicentre of all these trends, and since opening 26 years ago has been ahead of the sexual curve — providing a hub for an uninhibited conversation about sex in a warm and safe environment, and championing the women’s perspective.

Which is why we, as a couple of documentary filmmakers, have approached Sh! to develop a TV series about the Emporium. We’d like to find out more about the Sh! clientele, why they shop here, what their experiences have been, and what journeys they’re going on.

Whether you’re straight, gay, trans, pan or bi; whether you’re old or young or something in between; whatever size you are, or shape, or religion, whether you’re able-bodied or indeed tick many of these boxes (Sh! customers assume pretty much every form) we’d love to hear from you.

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At this stage we’d like to have strictly off-the-record conversations to find out your story. All conversations will be treated in complete confidence and with absolutely no obligation to take part in any filming.

If you would like to set up a phone call or meet up then please get in touch with the production team at shthedocumentary@gmail.com

We look forward to hearing from you,

Carly & Nick

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It’s #NationalComingOutDay, share your stories

Hey friends,

Today is National Coming out day so we feel like sharing a few happy coming out stories, please add yours in the comments or tweet us @Shwomenstore.

 

I told my mom I’m bisexual when I was 15. I was super nervous, I was having a hard time accepting it myself. She looked at me and said, “I know.” To this day I have no idea how she knew before I did.

Simple and straightforward, with supportive parents. Was in the back garden with my step-dad, my parents already had an inkling I was gay, and we were talking about a family member’s relationship with someone, and we started talking about what I want in life, can’t even quite remember how the conversation went, but then he just turned around to me and said “You know, I reckon you’re about 80% gay, and 20% you’re not quite sure”. I just said, “Yep, you’re probably right”. I was 16 at the time. He just walked over to me, gave me a big hug and said “I am so proud of you. You’re the best son anyone could ask for.”

My two stories from coming out (context: I am bi)

  1. Came out to two mates of mine, to which one exclaimed “That’s so cool; you can get a hard from anyone!”
  2. Came out to another friend of mine, to which he replied “Wait, your tell me you like women as well?”

I’ve got good friends.

 

Our favourite:

 

I told my dad. He said “Oh, I know! You’ve always loved musical theatre and brunch!” Then he gave me a huge hug.

For the record, I’m a lesbian and those are all the wrong stereotypes ( I do love them), but it made it very funny and much less nerve wracking to tell the rest of my family. Who were just like “yeah okay we know”.

Pride Alert: We raised $1,058 for the Pulse Victims Fund

Pride Alert: We raised $1,058 for the Pulse Victims Fund

Thank you so much to everyone who bid on our Pride Dildo’s or who donated or spent money with us over Pride Weekend.

 

We promised to donate all the money raised along with 20% of our sales from Pride Weekend to the Pulse Victims Fund are we are so pleased and proud to have been able to donate $1,058 to the families and victims of the Pulse Nightclub shooting. We have so much love for everyone who helped us to achieve this.

 

It’s now a month on from the Pulse Nightclub shooting in Orlando and reports are coming in of another attack on a nightclub in Florida. Though the immediate attention might have died down we have all been deeply affected by this tragedy and it is still very present in our thoughts.

 

It was an event that was caused by an inability to accept difference, when we are inflexible and uncharitable in our attitudes towards others we are opening the door to hatred and violence. The only way to fight this is to be accepting, to be loving, to be brave and accepting of ourselves and others. To show in through our acts that we stand opposed to the values that cause such unimaginable pain and suffering. By donating to this cause and showing your support you are doing just that so, again, thank you.

 

We would like you take a moment to remember all of the victims of the Pulse Nightclub shooting and their families. The money you have donated will go to the families and survivors of the attack. The names of those killed in the shooting are listed below.

We believe it is important to remember the names and stories of the victims of this terrible event. They are the people who deserve to be remembered, forever, when we think of this tragedy:

Stanley Almodovar III, 23

Amanda Alvear, 25

Oscar A. Aracena-Montero, 26

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21

Martin Benitez Torres, 33

Antonio D. Brown, 30

Darryl R. Burt II, 29

Jonathan A. Camuy Vega, 24

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28

Simon A. Carrillo Fernandez, 31

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25

Luis D. Conde, 39

Cory J. Connell, 21

Tevin E. Crosby, 25

Franky J. Dejesus Velazquez, 50

Deonka D. Drayton, 32

Mercedez M. Flores, 26

Juan R. Guerrero, 22

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22

Paul T. Henry, 41

Frank Hernandez, 27

Miguel A. Honorato, 30

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40

Jason B. Josaphat, 19

Eddie J. Justice, 30

Anthony L. Laureano Disla, 25

Christopher A. Leinonen, 32

Brenda L. Marquez McCool, 49

Jean C. Mendez Perez, 35

Akyra Monet Murray, 18

Kimberly Morris, 37

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27

Luis O. Ocasio-Capo, 20

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25

Eric I. Ortiz-Rivera, 36

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32

Enrique L. Rios Jr., 25

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24

Christopher J. Sanfeliz, 24

Xavier E. Serrano Rosado, 35

Gilberto R. Silva Menendez, 25

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34

Shane E. Tomlinson, 33

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25

Luis S. Vielma, 22

Luis D. Wilson-Leon, 37

Jerald A. Wright, 31

Sex After Gender Reassignment – Guest Blog

Sex After Gender Reassignment – Guest Blog

Susie Tomlinson writes about post-op self-discovery in this great guest blog.

“So, have you had the big O yet?”

My surgeon looks enquiringly at me almost 10 weeks to the day since  carrying out my gender confirmation surgery. Proudly (and not a little bit relieved) I nod: it’s taken a bit of getting there but I did manage my first orgasm a few weeks ago. Phew!

One of the great taboo questions about gender transition is, will I
still be able to have sex? As transgender women we’re told by our peers the merest mention in psychological assessments puts our transition at risk, lest the spectre of autogynephilia raise its head (“a man’s paraphilic tendency to be sexually aroused by the thought of himself as a woman”). Still the questions remain, whispered furtively like we’re in the corner of a playground full of adolescents: Will I be able to orgasm? Can I still make love to my partner? Will I taste right? Can I self-lubricate?

The answers are uncertain: like a box of fanny-shaped chocolates, you never quite know what you’re gonna get.

 

Every single one of our bodies is different even before you factor in any techniques used in vaginoplasty, and my experiences here are no exception. Answers from medical professionals are hand-wavy at best and rarely serve to calm.

Still, in November 2015 I underwent my operation at Brighton Gender Clinic, and am pleased to report at least in my case there’s a sex life post-transition! Hurrah! Much relief! So here’s some insight on what happened afterwards…

Biologically the operation involves a substantial amount of reuse: parts of the penis and testes are ‘harvested’ to make new areas. We are told to dilate twice a day using 8″ long transparent perspex dildos to prevent the pelvic floor healing. Post-operative notes detail the technicalities of aftercare, and it’s all very clinical. Yet there’s
still a fun side: new parts, new sensations, oh my!

Encouraged to discover what my new undercarriage was capable of, a couple of weeks post-op I cautiously began to explore. The nerve
endings around the neoclitoris are a fraction of those found on
cisgender women but I found a variety of sensations from the word go, with total inconsistency: some days nothing, some days unbearably sensitive. Things took a long time to get going using just my fingers and I needed to be in exactly the right mood – getting horny is a bit tricky when you can’t quite identify what parts are making you feel good and where those feelings are coming from!

In true science-fair style, further experimentation was warranted based upon previous findings. I own a small toybox from pre-transition and discovered things with ridges really hurt and my tight pelvic floor prohibited anything larger than an inch in diameter. My clitoris was very, very sensitive – uncomfortably so but possible to get my rocks off with a small bullet vibe.

Silicone was a definite win, a splendid alternative to the solid clinical feeling of a surgical dilator but not too sharp or blunt – a fine balance. Using a personal lubricant was essential as for the first six months there was no moisture at all.desire-vibrator

Eager to supplement ‘me-time’ with something else and thanks to a review in DIVA Magazine, I was introduced to Sh! Womenstore  and bought a Desire.

 

This unintimidating toy ticked so many boxes – smooth, gentle curves, waterproof, rechargeable, a variety of speed settings, and solid enough without being too hard or soft so could occasionally be used in place of a dilator. Actually, I’d tip this as being the ideal post-op playtime toy! Personally I prefer a more intense vibration and found the Desire a little too gentle in that regard, but in combination with a bullet vibe reached my destination quite satisfactorily, thank you very much.

As time went on and my body healed, I discovered a capability to
self-lubricate when turned on. Well, I say I discovered it, my
girlfriend did as she whispered to me one lazy Saturday morning,

“Suze, I thought you didn’t get wet?”

Idle research led me to discovering Cowper’s Gland, previously responsible for carrier fluid and unbeknownst
to me, repurposed. Clever body reconfiguring itself!

The Desire triggered another revelation: while cisgender male g-spots are in a different place (back) to cisgender women (front), some sensitivity continues to develop where I’d have expected the female g-spot to be sited. It does feel as though my body is remapping itself on a continual basis. Oh, and my girlfriend reported that yeah, I taste just fine…

Lelo NoaSix months down the line what’s in my toybox?

My favourite investment so far has been a Lelo Noa.

 

Designed as a toy for couples the hook-on mechanism is absolutely perfect and hits exactly the right area at the top giving my fingers free reign, while applying the pressure. Damn fine right up until the point it shuts itself down, so remember to stick that battery on charge!

The Desire is used fairly regularly as well as the bullet vibes.
Anything with an uneven surface or ridges is definitely out though
because of the sensitivity as the skin heals – vulva can be quite thin
in places so I need to be careful. Occasionally I give it another go,
but the key word here is ‘smooth’.

The second key word is of course, ‘exploration’ – it’s my body and it’s
awesome, time we became reacquainted!

Susie Tomlinson is a post-op transgender lesbian and happy toybox
owner. She lives in Yorkshire, and it’s probably best not to disturb her on a Saturday morning when the girlfriend’s stopping over.

Sh! is very grateful to her for sharing her experiences.

Why Pride is still so relevant to me – Aphra @Sh!

Why Pride is still so relevant to me – Aphra @Sh!

Being a married gay woman living in London it is easy to think that the world has moved on in its understanding of love & sexuality. Yet the horrendous events in Orlando show how little things have really changed (And if you would like to donate please click here).

How very disappointing, depressing & shocking this feels.

What has been highlighted to me is the need for our gay family to meet, to know we have each others back. To feel the love, understanding and acceptance that it is so important, for all humans feel.

The truly upsetting thing to me is that we are still judged, criticised & hated. The progress we have made feels like it has been overwhelmed by this hatred.

The Orlando shooters experiences’ must have been so damaging that he felt it was better to lash out, to maim and kill, rather than accept himself for who he was.

In this case it seems hateful indoctrination was more powerful than love.

How do we explain this to our children? We must ensure that we show them that everyone deserves love. Enabling them to live a life of self love & empathy for others is the only way to escape the cycle of terror and violence.

I am so sorry to the young men & women of our community that we have not brought the world further in its understanding.

I wish our battle was won but we still have a long way to go and a lot left to fight for.

More work must be done to prove that consensual love is what makes the world go round. No matter what form it takes.

This year, even more than recent years, our community will get together stronger than ever with unity & love that will engulf us all with Pride for who we are & give us the fortitude to stand together & show the world this sort of action is unacceptable.