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Fun ways that you can play with handcuffs

If you enjoy the feeling of being dominated and restricted during sex, you should definitely consider investing in a pair of handcuffs.

Not only are they fun and relatively easy to use, you can also use them in a number of different ways to spice up your bedroom activity.

Read on for our top suggestions of games you can play whilst being handcuffed.

Handcuff your wrists in front of you

If you still want to have an element of access and control, ask your partner to cuff your wrists in front of you. This will allow you to still reach down and play with yourself while your partner is penetrating you or giving you oral sex. Stroking and playing with your clitoris during penetration is brilliant, because it’ll likely help you to reach orgasm much more easily. For this, we recommend a pair of soft silicone restraints as they’ll feel both comfortable and safe. Try it!

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Handcuff your wrists to your partner’s wrist

This one is great for those times when you’re feeling super-hot and experimental. Once you’re handcuffed to each other, see what new and exciting positons you can try out. Being restricted makes it challenging in the best way possible. You never know, you might just find a new position that you can’t get enough of!

If you want a little bit more movement, you can easily attach rope to the D-rings of these leather cuffs.

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Leave them on the bedside table

We know what you’re thinking. What’s the point in having beautiful satin restraints if you aren’t going to use them? Bear with us: restraints can be a great way to tease and tempt your partner. When you are getting into things, try climbing on top of them and telling them that if they don’t do exactly as you say, you’re going to tie them to the bed and have your wicked way with them. They might beg you to do just that, but either way the mental image of being dominated is enough to get both of you going…

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Handcuff your partner to a chair

Ensure that they have no way of getting away, and then perform a sexy striptease for them in lingerie that makes you feel and look amazing. They’ll be begging you to free their hands so that they can run them all over you.

You could even handcuff your partner to the sink while you take a shower. The image of you with water running all over your body is sure to get their heart racing. Once you get out of the shower, take the handcuffs off and tell your partner that you want them to take control. Wowzers!

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V-Day Blog POst

Kinky Cupid’s Class For Creative Couples

Surprise your lover with a kinky date night at Sh! for Valentine’s Day!

We will be hosting an exclusive class for only 5 couples, and our Kinky Cupid promises that the evening will be ‘Hotter than a flaming Sambuca, spicier than a Cordon Bleu curry and more sizzling than a Teppanyaki hotplate’!

Be the top (or bottom) of your lover’s dreams and learn how to plan a ‘scene’, where one of you takes control and the other deliciously relinquish for a Valentine’s date that is off the Richter Scale.

Gentle restraining for sensual power play, erotic teasing with soft ostrich feathers and hot wax drizzled onto bare skin all makes for a fantastically sensory experience for both you and your date.

Prosecco and delicious truffles will be served by our friendly team as lovers take turns to thrill, tease & tempt each other.

Each couple will receive a bondage gift, lovingly handmade by our artisan team in our studio in London.

Spaces on this exclusive class are limited to five couples only, so booking early to avoid disappointment is advised.

Tickets are £120 per couple.

**TICKETS FOR THIS CLASS ARE NOW OFF SALE**

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How to introduce bondage into your bedroom

50 Shades-fans are excitedly waiting for the third and final instalment of the erotic romance Fifty Shades Trilogy by British author E. L. James, opening just before Valentine’s Day. No doubt, couples will feel inspired to try kinky play for the very first time, with spanking and bondage topping the list of sexy activities to try.

 

By definition, bondage is the act of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. Rope, cuffs, bondage tape and self-adhering bandage are all commonly used by more experienced players.

Bondage and kink can sound pretty daunting, especially if you’re not one to throw caution to the wind and jump into the unknown feet first.

To help you along, we have some useful tips and tricks that’ll help you get to grips with it.

Read on for our advice on the best way to introduce bondage into your bedroom.

Bringing up the subject with your partner

When it comes to sexual excitement, the element of surprise can often work wonders, but this isn’t always the case when it comes to bondage.

Being tied up can, for some people, result in panic, so it’s always better that you let your partner know that this is something that you want to do before you get started.

Have an open discussion where you talk through your desires with them, and ask them how they would feel about trying these things out with you.

Start with small steps

satin_blindfold_black_3There are so many fun items available for you to practice bondage, but it’s best to go slowly and build yourself up to the more advanced products in time.

For first-timers, we recommend keeping it simple with a beautiful satin blindfold, for example. This will introduce you to sensory play and helps to build excitement, which is likely to encourage you and your partner to continue on your adventurous journey.

Restricting someone’s vision causes all their other senses to be on high alert, and every touch, lick and kiss will be felt much more intensely.

Avoid knot ties

quickcuffs1_1Bondage rope and other items that tie into a knot are popular with seasoned kinksters, but aren’t necessarily a good choice for those just starting out.

Instead, why not try the Quick Cuffs, which are simple yet effective? These cuffs are super easy to slip on and off, but lets you experience the feeling of being restrained in a safe way. Quick Cuffs are made from body-friendly silicone and doesn’t require keys or faffing with locks.

Whatever your choice of wrist cuffs or other types of restraints, always make sure to have medical scissors within reach. Should the restrained partner panic unexpectedly (and this can happen), you want to be able to release them quick-sharp.

Important: never leave a restrained person alone in a room. It’s neither funny nor safe.

Continue to communicate with your partner

When it comes to sex, honesty is always the best policy, so if you feel uncomfortable about something, be sure to let your partner know.

Equally, if you really enjoy something, being vocal is a great way to heighten pleasure and excitement for both yourself and your partner. Remember, sex is meant to be enjoyable, so relax, let go and see where your adventure takes you.Print

Wedding Gifts for Kinky Couples

Wedding Gifts for Kinky Couples

Spring and Summer are high season for weddings and whilst we all love receiving invites, they inevitably bring on gift-stress: what do you buy the couple that has everything?

Or perhaps you are a Bride or Groom looking to surprise your beloved with something different on the morning of the big day, an extra-special gift they won’t be expecting?

We’ve got you covered.

We love gifts that keep on giving, and we’ve cherry-picked the best surprise gifts for the wedding day.

Kinky Seduction Set in Black Satin

If you’re buying for good friends, the kinky seduction set in black is a great option. Presented in a black gift box, the set contains three essential and highly versatile toys: a satin blindfold, a pair of satin ties and a soft feather pom.
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The satin blindfold creates sensual darkness, throwing off inhibitions and welcoming gentle nibbling of soft skin. The blindfolds fastens with a bow at the back of the head, and is soft & silky enough to sleep comfortably in.

The satin ties with are extra long for versatility, and fastens easily with metal D-rings. At 39″ long and 2″ wide, they look as good as they feel – no chafing, but certainly strong enough to struggle against if that’s part of a bedroom game.

A cute feather pom in gold adds a fun finishing touch. It looks innocent, but works wonderfully when used for slow, seductive play. The fluttery feeling is light and delicate, making every centimeter of skin come alive under its touch.

Beautiful Steel Plug with Jewel Decoration

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If you are looking for a sophisticated yet kinky gift for your Bride, you can’t go wrong with a beautiful steel plug. Delivering sensory fireworks where the sun don’t shine, with a pretty jewel detail peeking out for instant WOW factor, it’s a morning gift that’ll keep her derriere looking and feeling fantastic throughout the day.

At only 2″ of insertable length, this plug isn’t overly big but the weight is what makes it feel so good. Steel butt plugs are sensual to wear, and the sumptuous ridges offer intense sensations when the wearer sits, stands or moves in a way that makes the anal muscles clench against the plug.

Don’t forget to include a bottle of anal lube – a tushie isn’t self-lubricating and needs all the extra lubrication it can get.

Steel Butt Plug with Diamante Handle

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Small enough to tempt an anal newbie, the steel butt plug with diamante handle makes a gorgeous gift. A tapered tip for easy insertion, great design for prostate stimulation and broad base for ultimate safety; there is nothing to not to love about this plug!

With its slightly longer neck, this steel plug is especially suitable for prostate play – just remember to add the all-important lube.

With 2.”8 of insertable length and sleek good looks,  the steel butt plug with a diamante handle is well-designed and a pleasure to use.

Luxury Whip with 18k Gold Dildo Handle

The ultimate in decadent gifts, this luxury suede whip has a stunning 18k gold handle and seductively soft tails.

Ergonomically designed to ensure a firm grip, the handle doubles as a dildo. The 18k gold handle/dildo with delicate Swarowski crystals offers both Dom/me & sub stunningly erotic play sessions.

The soft suede strands of this whip are great for sensation play; with slow sexy swishes, the submissive partner can be teased & tickled into a frenzy.

This luxury whip is great for beginners, as well as more experienced players and a must for anyone who likes their BDSM toys to be a cut above the rest.

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Presented in a luxurious white box, this suede whip really does make the perfect present for the kinky couple who has everything…

 

50 Shades Darker Mask Competition

50 Shades Darker Mask Competition

In spirit of Love & 50 Shades Kink,  Sh! is giving away an Ouch! Princess Masquerade Mask  for free to a lucky winner!

But if you really need it – and need it now, you can get it online here 

Perfect party or play wear for all International Women of Mystery. Stunningly intricate design in super lightweight metal with flirty diamante details. Moulded to comfortably fit your face and ties with black ribbon.
Available in Gold, Black or Silver

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Kinky World Book Night

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Xcite Books puts its own spin on World Book Night and encourages you to make it a kinky one. Come along to our Cardiff based event and share a love of erotic lit with fellow authors and readers alike. It’s free entry with complimentary book and the first 40 drinks will come with a free lube! The event will feature readings and Q&A sessions from KD Grace, Kay Jaybee and Lucy Felthouse.

  • K D Grace’s work includes the critically acclaimed erotic romance novels include, The Initiation of Ms Holly, The Pet Shop. Her paranormal erotic novel, Body Temperature and Rising, the first book of her Lakeland Heatwave trilogy, was listed as honorable mention on Violet Blue’s Top 12 Sex Books for 2011. Book two, Riding the Ether, is now available. K D Grace also writes hot romance as Grace Marshall. An Executive Decision, Identity Crisis, books one and two of her Executive Decisions Trilogy are now available.
  • Kay Jaybee, or the ‘Queen of Kink’, is the author of the Fem Dom novels, Making Him Wait and The Perfect Submissive, the threesome BDSM romance The Voyeur, and the erotic novella romances, A Sticky Situation and Digging Deep for the Xcite Secret Library.
  • Lucy Felthouse is a prolific short story writer of exciting erotica. She has appeared in some of Xcite’s favourite anthologies including Dead Sexy, Crimes of Passion and Dark Desires. She has also published a novella in our Secret Library range entitled Silk Stockings.

A selection of books will be available for purchase and all authors will be signing.

There will also be an open mic session for aspiring writers to take the stage. 5 minute slots (don’t feel like you have to fill all the time) and a chance to get your work aired in front of authors and publishing agents alike.

And all the while a sexy games room will be running with a chance to purchase some play things to round off your Kinky World Book Night.

Competition Time!

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Competition time! Love it or loathe it, the best-selling trilogy 50 Shades of Grey by British authoress EL James caused enormous waves across the globe throughout 2012. The Sh! Girlz read the books (and rather enjoyed them), and we can’t wait to see the kinky love-story on the big screen. We think ultra-handsome Matt Bomer would make an excellent Christian Grey, but we’ll just have to wait and see… Fingers crossed, girlz!


Before anyone gets their frilly knickers in a twist, we’d like you to overlook a small number of issues for the next 10 minutes: any unsafe BDSM practices mentioned in the book; whether or not it is fair that the book portrays Christian Grey as having become a Dominant due to childhood abuse and, lastly, whether or not it’s possible for someone new to sex to experience earth-shattering orgasms at the click of a Dom’s fingers (hey – it’s erotic fiction, anything can happen!). Please, disregard all of that. Right now, that’s not what we want to talk about. Instead ~ may we please draw your attention to The Official Pleasure Collection and our We Aim to Please competition.

These are the wickedly cool toys EL James imagined whilst writing the books, and not only can you stop by our li’l East London pink pleasure palace to look longingly at the Deluxe Wrist Ties, feel the thrilling vibrations of the Love Ring or paddle your partner’s shapely bum with the sexy satin Paddle –  you can actually purchase all of these and enjoy them in the privacy of your own bedroom!

Inner Goddess Luv-Balls

This year’s must-have, best-selling sexcessory! Ben Wa Balls, love beads, geisha balls, duotone balls – there are many names for them but only one pair that you need to own. The Fifty Shades of Grey Silver Balls are smooth, incredibly weighty and perfect for pleasuring your inner goddess!

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Who says no to 15 inches of pure pleasure? Not us, that’s for sure!

Silvery strands to caress and seduce soft skin, the 50 Shades of Grey flogger takes our breath away. Not all submissives enjoy painful play ~ many prefer a little bit of teasing torment instead, and this flogger delivers just that!

Something Forbidden Butt Plug

This Fifty Shades of Grey Butt Plug is small & smooth, non-threatening & stylish. The silicone plug tapers gently to only 1″ at its widest and at about the length of a finger, this plug is perfectly contoured to slip in easily and stimulate your most sensitive spots. (Oh – don’t forget to add a generous dollop of lush lube before inserting).

We Aim to Please Bullet Vibrator

Don’t be fooled by its size, this silver bullet vibe packs a zingy punch! Enjoyed solo or with one (or more!) sexy friends, this little wowser is great fun! And, coz we aim to please (see what we did there?) we have six (6) of these handbag-sized vibes to give away!

There are two ways of entering this competition:

  1. Tweet (or retweet) #WeAimToPlease @ShWomenstore before Friday 1st March at 6pm

OR

  1. If you are not on Twitter, just leave us a comment right here on the blog, before Friday 1st March at 6pm

Good luck!

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Mollena Williams at Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium

We are very (very!) excited to have Mollena Williams join us for Rough Sex for Good Girls & Nice Guys, a class exclusive to Sh! tomorrow night, Friday 23rd November

For those of you who aren’t familiar with the name (and the awesome woman it belongs to), here’s a bit of useful info:

Mollena (Mo) Williams is a native New Yorker, performer, actor, award winning writer and BDSM educator. She is International Ms. Leather 2010 and Ms. SF Leather 2009. Consciously kinky since 1993 and active in leather and BDSM since 1996, she travels extensively, speaking on topics including kink, BDSM, power exchange relationships and negotiating it all safely.

Read more about Mollena at The Perverted Negress, www.mollena.com.

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Mollena Williams on Rough Sex for Good Girls & Nice Guys:

Have you fantasized about rough sex, about taking control of your lover, about relinquishing yourself to the lusts of a partner, about the intersection of pain and pleasure?

Do you long to experience the sensuality of bondage, or perhaps the emotional thrill of role-playing? Perhaps you’ve had these fantasies for your entire life and had no idea such wild fantasies could ever be manifested.

It could be you’ve read some hot fiction and thought “Yes. This, this is what I need!” It may well be you’ve been too cautious or hesitant to explore them because you’ve been taught “Only abusers hit people!” or “If you’re submissive you are an emotional doormat.” or “People who engage in BDSM are damaged and emotionally unsafe.”

Well, hot kinky sex isn’t just the realm of brooding multimillionaires, online fantasy and overwrought erotica! Nice guys and good girls can get kinky, too!

Join long-time practitioner of Kink, BDSM and member of the Leather Community Mollena Williams, who identifies as a selective submissive, feminist, power slave, masochist, educator and Executive Pervert.

Sexually liberated since her first high school relationship where she explored polyamory and openly kinky since 1993, she travels the world speaking to the kinky and the kink-curious on topics ranging from the basics of negotiation to extreme “edge-play.”

This class will help introduce you to some of the groundwork you may wish to undertake before diving into rough sex and kinky fun! We will look at ways to examine your own desires and motivations, negotiating for success, striving for emotional safety, and advice about some of the challenges you may well encounter in your play.

Come explore in a safe and relaxed conversation, bring your questions and curiosities and leave you inhibitions at the door!

This class is open to women & couples of all genders and sexual orientations. *In line with the store’s female focus we ask that single guys come along with a female friend*

Tickets are £30 per person and include bubbly & cup cakes. Please book your space by calling us on 03333 444 005 extension 1 or by email to events@sh-womenstore.com

Please be at the store no later than 6.45pm for a 7pm start.