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Best Sex Toys For Couples

Sex toys aren’t just for singletons, they’re fab for enhancing sex as a couple too.  As toys loose their stigma, more and more couples are discovering that playing with sex toys together can turn good sex into GREAT sex.

Introducing a sex toy into your relationship can feel intimidating, if you are unsure of your partner’s response, but it’s important to remember that a toy is simply a TOY … not a replacement or comment on your sex life.

For women, toys can add an intensity that better guarantees an orgasm and for men they can add different kind of thrills…

For new couples, toys are a great way to explore all the different ways to delight each other and start the relationship the way you mean to go on, with a creativity that goes far beyond the missionary position..

And for long-term partners, toys are a brilliant way to spice up sex and re-kindle the excitement of new-lust fever…

But what makes a great sex toy for a couple?

In our London store, we advise and match couples to the right toy everyday, and understand what are the turn-ons and the turn-offs – here we bring you the top 5 toys for couples to share.

1. Best for Every Couple & Every Kind of Sex!

 

Sh! Pure Lube £10
Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together…

 

Our No 1, all-time best ‘toy’ for couples is lube. Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together, bringing a new slipperiness, and sensitivity that natural wetness simply doesn’t match – no matter how copious!

From erotic massage, breast-play, hand-jobs to intercourse, by way of every intimate touch in between, lube makes your two bodies connect and glide sensually together and liberates all worries of staying wet, no matter what you get up to or for how long!


 

2. Best Discreet Couples’ Toys.

Every toy in our website can be shared by couples – there are no rules, so if something catches your eye together, go for it!

But if you are just starting out on the toy-front, it’s best to choose something that doesn’t feel like you’ve imposed a threesome.

A couples’ sex toy shouldn’t make either one of you feel inadequate or left out. Nor should it be intimidating – we don’t recommend surprising your partner with a large penetrative toy!

Lelo Lily £99 Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex
Lelo Lily – £99 – Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex

 

Designer vibrators are popular among couples as they add stylish buzz to the bedroom without either one of the couple feeling replaced or intimidated. A luxury vibrator is simply beautiful pleasure object that feels like a sophisticated addition to the love-life you share together. They are beautifully packaged too, which makes them the best toy to buy your partner as a gift.


 

 

 

Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator!
Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator for skin-on-skin thrills
Feelztoys Tongue Toys - £26 - Two tiny tongue vibes, one for each of you!
Feelztoys Tongue Toys – £26 – Two tiny tongue vibes (one for each of you!)

 

A vibrator slipped onto a finger or tongue makes a great toy for couples, adding a tingly vibe wherever it touches…

These toys simply add a different sensation to oral or manual play; a sensation your finger or tongue ( no matter how expert!) can’t deliver on its own. Playful and novel, they are made for couples sex!


 

Dual Bullet Vibrator - £24 - Tiny, intense and one each!
Dual Bullet Vibrator – £24 – Tiny, intense and one each!

 

Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches..
Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches…
Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator – £10 – Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex

An egg or bullet vibrator also makes a good toy for couples to share. Small and discreet they can be cupped in the hand, held against the cheek or nuzzled against your clitoris during sex, without ‘getting in the way’

Less of a financial investment than a luxury, designer vibrator, these toys are ideal if you would like to explore adding a buzz without breaking the bank.


 

 

3. Best Hands-Free Toys to Enhance Intercourse.

Intercourse features top of the menu for most M/F couples, but less than 20% of women can climax through penetration alone. This isn’t anything to feel inadequate about, just a fact that women usually need external clitoral stimulation in order to reach the Big O.

So any toy that stimulates your clitoris during intercourse makes a great sex toy.

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65

An intercourse vibrator is specially designed for you wear inside, whilst still leaving enough room for him to slip inside too

Toys such as the We-Vibe or Noa will stimulate your clitoris and G-Spot at the same time, delivering amazing hands-free, dual stimulation.

 

 

LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9
LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9

These toys are an investment, so another good option is a vibrating ring worn on his penis will vibrate your clitoris during penetrative sex, adding that all-important extra stimulation. For him, they deliver a pleasurable squeeze to keep his erection stronger, for longer.

Both of these toys will give him a vibrating thrill as well – now that’s sharing!


 

 

4. Best Toys to Spice-Up Dates.

Great sex is all about shared intimacy and playfulness, so what better way for couples to add an extra thrill to date-night but to play with a remote-controlled vibrator, with one of you controlling the buzz and the other receiving.

 

 

Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35

 

A remote-controlled vibrator or pair of remote vibrating panties can be worn, and played with, discreetly in public.

Operating with many meters of distance between you and delivering a  range of escalating and throbbing patterns to surprise, delight and tease, no matter how far you or your playmate wanders, you’ll both feel connected with a shared sense of secret ‘naughtiness’

… and there’s no reason why the bullet can’t be slipped into his Y-fronts and you control the remote!


 

 

5. Best for Long-Distance Love Affairs

We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
Kiiroo Onyx £150 Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Onyx –  Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator - Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator – Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women

 

Technology has finally caught up with the fact that many a modern relationship is often separated by miles between you or may even be a purely interweb affair.

Sex toys that can be controlled by and operated within secure apps address this by introducing intimate thrills and shared connection even when couples are continents apart.

Not cheap (and certainly not for technophobes!) these toys are playthings for a brave new world!

 

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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.

 

Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.

 

Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure

 

 

 

 

 

 

Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm

 

 

One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!

 

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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls

 

Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms

 

The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure

 

There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’

 

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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure

 

Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…

 

Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…

 

 

Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…

 

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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy

 

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.

 

 

 

 

A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse

 

A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,

 

 

 

Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.

 

 

 

Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves

 

Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…

 

Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

 

For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.

 

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

 

 

Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits

 

Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99

 

They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.

 

 

 

 

Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89

 

 

 

 

 

 


For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

How To Choose A Vibrator

Choosing a vibrator is a very personal thing and what works for one woman, whether in shape, size, feel or even colour, may not work for the next.

With so many different styles of vibrators, let alone different materials and settings, we know it can feel a bit overwhelming trying to choose a vibrator, especially if it’s your first vibrator and have no idea what to look for…

So we’ve put together a simple guide, covering the basics for those starting out on their journey of vibrator discovery.

The 1st question to ask yourself is; ‘What do I want my vibrator mostly for…?

This is the most important starting point. Like a zen diagram, from here you’ll be able to whittle down or open up your possibilities…

It’s easy to get distracted by a pretty vibe but if it’s not designed to stimulate the bits of you, or your partner, that you would like to thrill, then it may not be the right toy for you. Just like the other kind of DIY 😉 finding the tool for the job is a good starting point.

The good news is that many vibrating toys can be pressed into action to stimulate lots of erogenous zones and are pretty versatile. Others, though, are ergonomically designed for a specific kind of stimulation and it’s these toys you need to look to, if you are looking for that kind of pleasure.

I’m looking for external/ clitoral pleasure – Which vibrator should I choose?

Clitoral vibrators are specially shaped to pleasure externally
Clitoral vibrators are specially shaped to pleasure externally

Did you know that for solo sessions (aka masturbation) most women (around 80%) play with their vibe on the outside only,  using it externally to pleasure their clitoris and vulva?

This is because most women need ( and enjoy!) clitoral stimulation to orgasm and clitoral O’s are the most common type of female orgasm.

If you’ve never had an orgasm or find them a bit hit-or-miss, we recommend the first type vibrator you choose should be for exploring clitoral pleasure.

We’ve selected our range of clitoral vibrators because they’re brilliantly shaped  or particularly fab at delivering external clitoral stimulation.

But the good news is that whatever their size or shape, ALL vibrators, can be used to pleasure your clitoris so feel free to choose ANY vibe, from any category, that catches your eye. Just because a vibrator is shaped for penetration, it doesn’t mean you have to use it that way…

Any toy that vibrates, whether pebble-shaped or 6 inches long, can be held against the external clitoral and vulval areas to tease these highly responsive spots.

So, if clitoral pleasure/orgasm is your goal, you have the choice of every vibrator we carry – Lucky you!

We’ve written more about how to choose a clitoral vibrator and how to use one  and we have a whole section giving advice about the clitoris so if you’d like to read more – head over there…

Small clitoral vibrators, the kind that are designed to lay-on the clitoral/vulval area, have the added advantage of being a good toy for introducing a vibrating toy to sex play with your partner, as they are not intimidating and, because they are not shaped for penetration, there can be no hurt feelings or bruised egos..

 

 

I’d like a vibrator for internal or G-Spot pleasure…

A toy with a curved and/or bulbous head can find the G Spot more easily
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous head can find the G Spot more easily than a straight one…

If you’re looking to buy a vibrator for vaginal stimulation, including G-Spot play, choosing the right shape and size IS important.

Width is the vital statistic to get right as a toy that is too wide can feel more uncomfortable that pleasurable.

Length is less important as you can always control how deep inside it goes.

The best way to determine what’s a comfortable width for you is to experiment with fingers first; either your own or your lover’s. Don’t go in cold, though, as arousal is absolutely key to penetrative and G-Spot pleasure As you get really turned-on, blood-flow rushes to the area, your vagina balloons and your G-Spot swells, making everything more responsive to pleasure.

For most women this means at least 20 minutes of non-penetrative pleasure;  kissing, licking and teasing touches of nipples, lips ( upper and lower!) and clitoris; stroking thighs, squeezing buttocks tickling toes – whatever combination works for you and for however long you want it ( 20 minutes is only an average – many women will want, need and desire much longer…)

(BTW whilst ‘foreplay’ is the given term for the above, it isn’t one we like to use because it suggests that everything has to lead-up to, and end in intercourse, which isn’t the case and often doesn’t do women any orgasmic favours)

So, once you are well and truly turned-on ( and only if / when your body is crying out for something inside) delve into your vagina with fingers; Is one finger enough? Two? Three? More…?

Some women enjoy the feeling of ‘stretching’,  whilst for others it can be a sudden halt to arousal and feel too overwhelming to be enjoyable, so the important thing to remember is that there are NO rules or expectations, only what feels good for you.

After your session measure around the finger(s) that proved satisfying, form it into a circle and then measure across – this will give you the diameter of a comfortable toy for you. We measure the width of all our toys in diameter (as this is the easiest to imagine) and always at their widest point.

One of the most common questions we’re asked in-store is will a G-Spot vibrator find my G-Spot? Sorry, but the answer to that is there are, and can never be, any guarantees. How a woman responds to any kind of pleasure is unique to her. We’re not robots with guaranteed pleasure buttons and that’s something to be celebrated!

Look at smooth, classic vibrators, as well as specially curved G Spot vibes, as both ranges have been chosen for being the best at delivering internal/G-Spot pleasure, and remember that you don’t have to use them internally – they are simply shaped that way to give you the option…

I’d like a vibrator to pleasure both inside AND out – Which is the best choice for that?

A Rabbit Style vibrator features a shaft for penetration and an external arm to stimulate the clitoris
A Rabbit Style vibrator features a shaft for penetration and an external arm to stimulate the clitoris

For clitoral and internal stimulation at the same time, your best vibrator-choice is definitely a rabbit-style vibrator.

Featuring a shaft for internal pleasure and a vibrating clitoral stimulator, rabbit vibrators offer amazing dual stimulation, inside and out.

It’s the world’s most famous vibrator because it offers simultaneous pleasure that can lead to a ‘blended orgasm’. This kind of orgasm, exactly as the name suggests, is a heady mix of climatic pleasure that appears to come from both inside and out; a blend of clitoral and g-spot orgasms all at the same time!

 

Rabbit vibrators have given more women more pleasure and more orgasms than any other style of vibrator and we have a wealth of rabbit vibrator advice, from how to choose a rabbit vibrator and how to use your rabbit, right through to sex tips and tricks to get the most out of your rabbit, so head over here for more info…

One of the more surprising things we’ve learnt from chatting to women at our store is how many of tell us ‘it’s ALL about the bunnies ears!’ – it seems a LOT of women don’t always ( or ever) use the shaft portion of their rabbit vibes. A dual-stimulation vibe may seem to be the ‘bells and whistles’ of the vibrator-world, but actually lots of women enjoy purely clitoral stimulation from theirs.

So, when choosing a vibrator for masturbation, these are your 3 main choices; A toy for external/clitoral pleasure; One for internal/G-spot stimulation; One that does both!

Choosing an anal vibrator is a different story, as safety is very important…

Any sex toy for anal pleasure whether it vibrates or not, must be shaped in such a way that it cannot slip inside and get lost. It’s always best to buy a dedicated anal vibrator or prostate massageras they have been specially designed as sex toys for safe anal play, and, whilst many can be sterilized, we recommend it’s best for hygiene reasons, to keep any/all anal toys dedicated solely to backdoor play.

 

 

I can’t orgasm during intercouse with my partner – is there a vibrator for that?  

An intercourse vibrator is designed to be worn by the woman, and enjoyed by both partners...
An intercourse vibrator is designed to be worn by the woman, and enjoyed by both partners…
A vibrating cock ring is worn on his penis & delivers clitoral stimulation during sex
A vibrating cock ring is worn on his penis & delivers clitoral stimulation during sex

You’re not alone! In fact the vast majority of women ( around 70% of us) find it difficult or impossible to orgasm through penetration alone, needing added clitoral stimulation during intercourse to climax.

So, for adding a buzz during sex with your partner, take a look at vibrators for intercourse and cock rings that vibrate – both are specially designed to be worn by one partner during penetrative sex with their partner.

A vibrating cock-ring is worn by the man ( you don’t say!) at the base of his penis, with the bullet positioned so that it stimulates your clitoris during sex.

Intercourse vibrators, such as the world-famous, million-selling We-Vibe, are specially shaped for the women to wear; with the larger pad externally stimulating her clitoris, with the smaller pad nestling against her G-Spot, whilst still leaving room for her partner to slip inside, where they too will feel the vibrating stimulation.

Vibrating cock-rings are a cheaper option to add thrills, whilst intercourse vibes are quite an investment. We’re not all ‘one-size’, so whether they work for you can be quite a leap of faith…

Remember, too that any lay-on clitoral vibrator as well as bullet and egg vibes are discreet enough to add an extra buzz to intercouse, without getting in the way…

 

The next vibrator-choices are quite practical…

Once you’ve decided on what kind of pleasure you’d like your vibrator mostly for, the next things to consider are the practicals of your toy.  How would you like it to feel – Do you want it to feel soft and squishy or prefer something hard and sleek?

Do you think you’d enjoy an intense buzz or prefer something gentler? Is size important?

Vibrator Material:

Concerned by chemicals? Don’t worry. We won’t stock sex toys that contain phthalates ( a potentially dangerous chemical softener found in PVC/  Jelly Toys)

All our vibrators are safe, but they come in a range of materials which bring different qualities to the toy; check our guides to sex toy materials to discover the pros & cons of each.

Briefly, a hard plastic vibrator is usually more powerful (and less quiet) as vibration isn’t absorbed by the material. Nor will it absorb any lubricant or your natural juices, which makes it feel strong and sleek.

Softer vibrators made from Elastomer will feel less intense as the soft material absorbs some vibration (as well some sound and lubrication) but these kind of vibrators generally feel more user-friendly…

A silicone vibrator is probably the best you can buy. Silicone is safe, soft and transmits vibration well, whilst keeping noise transference to a minimum.

Vibrator Intensity:

Secret Vibrator £35
Secret Vibrator £35

We know this is difficult – if you don’t have any experience with vibrators, how on earth do you decide what kind of vibrator intensity you will prefer!

The best way is to think about the kind of manual stimulation you prefer; is it a soft, gentle touch or do you need firm/intense stimulation to orgasm?

Most vibrators offer various speeds (often with escalating & pulse options) but if you’ve never had an orgasm, find orgasms illusive or feel like you take “too long”,  we’d advise you choose a vibrator that is rated ‘Strong’ or ‘Wowser’, such as the Secret Vibe or Sh! Bullet.

For a super-sensitive clitoris,  look for a ‘Very Gentle’ or ‘Mild’ rating, such as the Flexi Wand vibrator.

On top speed, we assess each vibrators  and give them an intensity-rating of:

  1. Gentle
  2. Mild
  3. Strong
  4. Wowser- High Intense
  5. Wowser – Deep Throbby

Remember, a vibrator that feels too strong can always be toned-down by using it through your knickers or a piece of material, so if you have any doubts, we recommend a stronger intensity vibe over one that offers a gentle or mild vibe.

Vibrator Volume:

Everyone wants a totally silent vibe but unfortunately they don’t exist.  A vibrator has a motor & will always make some sound, however low.

You may need to forfeit power/functions for a really quiet or almost silent vibrator.

On top speed, we measure each vibrator with a sound meter and give them vibrator volume of;

  1. Extra Quiet / Almost Silent
  2. Quiet
  3. Medium
  4. Audible- But Worth It!

Size:

We measure toys ‘Actual Length‘ (full length of vibrator/sex toy – including battery case if its integral), and ‘Playable Length‘ (insertable bit).

Remember, just because a vibrator looks like it’s designed to go inside, it doesn’t mean you have to play with it like that!

If you do want a vibrator for penetration, you can always control how far to insert it, but one that’s too wide will always feel uncomfortable.

To assess the right fit, think how many fingers feel good for you.

It’s probably best to buy a vibe that’s a similar width, rather than being overwelmed by a vibrators girth and never getting it our to play.

If you are uneasy about penetration, start with a  slim vibrator and work your way up. Whilst browsing, have a ruler handy to give you an idea how long/wide a toy will be.

We list all important info such as vibrator material, dimensions, intensity, sound, as well as whether it is rechargeable or takes batteries etc on each product page.

Style:

Desire
Desire Vibrator £49

For most of us, how something looks is important. If it’s unattractive to you, a new vibrator may not be played with very often. Take a long, lusty look at each vibe and try to visualize playing it before you buy.

Each toy at Sh! is chosen because it’s good-looking, as well as practical and good quality, whatever it’s price range, but for top style, take a look at our luxury vibrators

How Your Vibe is Powered

Rechargeable or battery-powered? Each has it’s advantages.

A rechargeable vibrator is the greener alternative and means you’re not a slave to batteries  – no more raiding the TV remote-control of it’s batteries in the middle of the night!

But you do have to have access to a plug or USB port to fire up your vibe when it runs out of steam.

And you do have to forward-think/be organised. If you haven’t kept your vibe charged up, there’ll be a frustrating wait to use it…

Battery-powered vibrators, so long as you have batteries, can give you  instant gratification.

And battery-powered (so long as you have batteries!) toys can travel anywhere.

We hope this has helped whittle down which may be the best vibrator choice for you.

Remember, though, we’re here to give expert, tailored advice, whether in our London store, on the phone or by email, so do feel free to visit /contact us, if you’d like more help or some personalised recommendations – we’re really friendly, non-scary and unembarassable, we promise!

Lelo Noa Sex Toy Review

Lelo Noa Wearable Vibe

If, like most women, penetration on its own just isn’t enough to get you off, and this clever little toy provides the extra stimulation to pleasure your clitoris , as well as stimulate your G-spot,  which should help you reach orgasm during penetrative sex.

As Lelo Noa is so small and non-intrusive, your partner needn’t worry that he’ll somehow be made redundant in the bedroom  – this toy offers great pleasure for both of you.

Lelo Noa £65
Lelo Noa £65

Lelo Noa is great during any kind of play – let the toy do its thing to get you nicely warmed up, whilst you and your partner both have hands free to concentrate on other parts of the body.

How to ‘wear’ the Lelo Noa

The smooth, elongated bullet shape sits in between the labia lips and over the clitoral area, providing vibration in the area where it counts the most.

Meanwhile, the small internal vibe rests against the G-spot near the vaginal entrance, and the idea is that you can then fit in your partner at the same time and you’ll both feel the amazing vibrations.

If the thrusting gets vigorous enough for the toy to slip out, all you need to do is slide a hand down in between your bodies and press Lelo Noa closer to you.

Lelo Noa is waterproof, so it can join you in the shower for a quick morning blast, or perhaps the bath for a long, slow evening of luuurve.

Lelo Noa charges via USB which is really handy, especially if you travel a lot. Plug it into your laptop and voila – ready to go!

Not just for couples, Noa is also a fab solo sex toy too!

Noa makes a great toy for solo sex and because it stimulates you 2 pleasure centres at the same time, much like a rabbit vibrator, this dual stimulation can lead to a ‘blended orgasm’ which is an orgasm that feels like it comes from both inside and out.

And, it’s not just for bedroom or bathroom play either.

If you’re a mischievous and up-fer-it kinda gal, Lelo Noa is small enough (and quiet enough) to be worn inside knickers like a hands-free vibrator,  whilst perusing the frozen isles in Tesco…

Difference Between We-Vibe Models - A Comparison Guide

We Vibe Advice & Difference Between We-Vibe Models

So many of our customers love the We Vibe  – well, what’s  not to love?!

We-Vibe created the world’s first couples vibrator and it took the world by storm, winning multiple design and innovation awards from the start.

Conceived and designed by a Canadian husband and wife team in 2004, We-vibe has gone on to sell over 2 million in over 50 countries.

It was created to be worn by a woman whilst making love and designed to deliver the extra stimulation, specifically clitoral stimulation, that most women need to orgasm.

The We-Vibe is a Hands-Free Vibrator Worn During Sex

The We-Vibe is a flexible, c-shaped toy, which stays in place holding the larger arm against your clitoris, whilst internally the smaller arm nestles against you g-spot. Once in place, there’s room for your partner to slip inside too and they too will feel the extra thrills the We-Vibe delivers.

How to use the We-Vibe
How to use the We-Vibe

The two motors give simultaneous stimulation to both the G-Spot and the clit, and against your partner too. That’s right: this toy has been designed to offer an extra-special hands-free thrills during penetration.

Add splash of water-based lube to the We Vibe  and it will slip inside comfortably. (Just to be clear, the smaller end of the We Vibe snuggles inside, whilst the thicker part sits against the clit).

The Difference Between We-Vibe Models

We-Vibe produce 2 different models and at first glance it can be tricky to spot the differences.

  • We-Vibe Classic

We-Vibe classic is the same size and shape as the original. The technology and settings are updated but essentially the design is the same and it has won massive amounts of glowing praise and five star reviews from media and public alike.

With so many millions sold,  We-Vibe Classic is clearly a great toy for playing together. Playing apart, whether with the remote control or We-App, we think it’s probably best for private, at-home sessions.

We-Vibe Classic 2 is the original We-Vibe shape
We-Vibe Classic 2 is the original We-Vibe shape

 

  • We-Vibe 4

We-Vibe 4 is more compact and body-hugging in size and shape. It essentially has the same c-shape design, but it’s approx 25% smaller than the original. There maybe many different reasons why you’d choose a smaller fit but the size of you, or the size of your partner, isn’t likely to be one of them. There’s no evidence to suggest that smaller or shorter women have smaller, shorter or indeed ‘tighter’ vagjays!

But if you’re in any way uneasy or uncomfortable about penetration,  or adding toys during sex, smaller toys are best psychologically.

And if you plan to play remotely, out and about in public, the more compact size of We-Vibe 4 maybe worth the extra investment.

We-vibe 4
We-Vibe 4 is smaller than We-Vibe classic, created for those who wanted a body-hugging fit

Remote & Long-distance Play with the We-Vibe

Whilst the We-Vibe was originally designed to deliver extra pleasure when couples are locked together in the throws of passion, the introduction of a remote control fob, and most recently the We-App, means that couples can get connected, even when they are apart.

Both We-Vibes can be enjoyed as a remote-control vibe, where you wear it and your partner controls your pleasure from a few meters away.

For long-distance lovers, the We-Vibe app allows you to connect through smart phone video and chat.

 

 

We-Vibe Comparison

  We-Vibe 4 Plus We-Vibe Classic
Wireless remote control unit Yes Yes
Storage/Travel case Yes Yes
We-Connect Yes Yes
Smartphone remote control Yes Yes
Create custom vibration playlists Yes Yes
Share control from anywhere Yes Yes
Independent motor control Yes Yes
Intensity control Yes Yes
Modes 10+ 10+
Medical grade silicone Silky smooth Silky smooth
Form & Size Compact,
body-hugging

Length 2.9 inch

Width 1.2 inch

Between arms 1.6 inch

Original classic
fit, flexible

Length: 3.3 inch

Width: 1.1 inch

Between arms 2.2 inch