Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies

Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies

Taking the plunge and buying your very first sex toy is exciting and a little bit scary – what if you don’t like it? Or what if you like it too much?!  (We promise that “liking it too much” is a not thing when it comes to pleasure, so no need to worry about that!)

We have compiled a list of our Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies: whatever the style of toy you think you might like, we have something that’ll suit your desires.

These toys are all rated 5-star on our website, so you can relax in the knowledge that someone has already bought one of these toys and thought it was ace!

All the toys on our Top 5 list are of course body-safe and very affordable – because a great orgasm shouldn’t cost an arm & a leg!

First Sex Toy For Clitoral Stimulation

Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. It’s no surprise – the clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings on its very tip so it is a massively important part for pleasure. An estimated 75% of women say they need the right kind of stimulation in the right place on the clitoris for the right length of time to orgasm – and that can be hard work! Which is where a great vibrator comes in. 🙂

The Love Bullet Lipstick Vibe is a bestseller both in our shop in London, and with our website customers.top5_4

Its discreet design and petite size means you can take it everywhere, including on holidays. Store it in your make up bag and no one will be the wiser!

Despite the small size, the Lipstick packs a punch – it’s incredibly powerful and with 8 different settings to explore, you are almost spoilt for choice. This vibrator is USB rechargeable, so you can easily charge it up whilst you are working or surfing your favourite social media sites.

Oh, and it’s fully waterproof!

First Sex Toy For G-spot Stimulation

The G-spot is an area located a couple of inches up on the inside of the vagina. There are doubters, but we say “bah!” to them – the G-spot is an actual area and with the right kind of stimulation, marvelously deep orgasms could come your way!

Our Mini Pink G-spot Vibe is small, slim and quiet, but works top5_1
wonders when applied to the sensitive G-spot area. The bump at the tip of the Mini Pink is there to help find and stimulate the G-spot. A good trick to try is “juicing” the G-spot – rather than sliding the vibe in and out at breakneck speed (often seen in bad porn), slowly work it back & forth on the G-spot itself. The G-spot likes firm pressure, so don’t be shy.

It may feel like you need to go for a pee which can be distracting, but relax into the sensations and you might find that waves of pleasure soon follow.

First Rabbit-Style Vibrator

Rabbit vibrators of old were mainly made out of less-than-great materials and for some unfathomable reason, designed to be huge.

top5_2These days, Rabbit vibrators come in body-safe materials and a range of sizes to suit all tastes. The 5-star toy we’ve added to our Top 5 list of sex toys is Cute Rabbit, a dual-stimulation vibe made from strokeable silicone, which is USB rechargeable and fully waterproof.

The internal shaft is short and smooth, and delivers delicious pressure to the G-spot.  The clit stimulator, which has its own motor, reaches over and offers direct stimulation to the clit.

Dual stimulation toys, i.e toys with a shaft for internal pleasure as well as a built-in clitoral pleaser, are great for bringing on what’s known as blended orgasms: pleasure waves from both clit and G-spot simultaneously. *swoooon*

First Sex Toy For Couples

The Ovo Cock Ring is a stretchy vibrating ring for couples. Worn around the base of the manhood, it enhances erections and provides additional thrills during penetration.top5_3

Ovo is a a little gem for beginners – it is so easy to use. Add a little water-based lube to his semi-erect shaft for comfort, before sliding the ring over the penis and all the way down. The ring stops back-flow of blood and makes the erection both firmer and more sensitive. Switch on the one-speed bullet before she positions herself on top – this way she can grind against the vibration in ways that feel best for her.

Cock rings are the perfect accessory for introducing toys into the bedroom; small and non-threatening, and with enough functions to keep you both happy.

First Sex Toy For Anal Play

Cute beginners butt plug with removable mini bullet – perfect for first time anal play.  This small, ergonomically curved butt plug has a sensual, shapely body designed in harmony with the curves of your body and a narrow neck for comfort.top5_5

The tiny vibrating bullet fits into a hole hidden in the base, and the vibrations can help relax tense tushies.

A lot (a lot!) of people enjoy anal play and even more people fantasize about trying it. The trick is to go slow and use lots of lube – preferably a lube designed for the delicate rectal membranes.

A butt plug offers fullness and pressure, and the additional vibrations delivers super-thrilling sensations.

So there you have it – our Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies. Only one question remains: which sex toy will YOU choose?



Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

Buying Your First Sex Toy

Are you boggled with choice? Overwhelmed by all the different types of sex toys available? Don’t know where to start?

It’s usual for first-time sex toy buyers to feel overwhelmed, but don’t give up!

Follow these simple tips to get started on your sex toy discovery…

For your first sex toy; Go with what you know…

If you are totally new to playing with sex toys, we advise you choose a toy that suits the kind of pleasure you enjoy best… or if you want to discover a new kind of pleasure, choose a toy that is dedicated to that pleasure area.

[We’re keeping this article quite simple, and concentrating on the main ‘never bought a toy before’ questions that arise in our London Store and the advice we give, but if a style of toy or pleasure centre isn’t covered, click here for all our My First Beginners Sex Toy Guides ]

  • Ask yourself: What do I enjoy or what am I looking to explore?

clitoris advice

Clitoral Pleasure:  If you particularly enjoy clitoral stimulation (and most women do!) ,  never had an orgasm or find they can be frustratingly hit-or-miss, a vibrator is the best first sex toy for you.

The majority of women buying their first sex toy at our London store will buy a vibrator for clitoral pleasure.

Each of our  vibrator pages has advice articles ( on the left hand side of the page) which will guide you through what to look for when choosing a particular style of  vibrator.

The most important thing to remember is that ANY vibrator, whatever it’s size or shape can be used for clitoral pleasure, so you don’t need to get too hung-up on size and shape at this stage.

Vibration is a whole new and different type of clitoral stimulation and one that many, MANY women love and it’s not uncommon for women to have their first orgasm with added vibration.

Clitoral and Bullets & Eggs Vibes are the place to head for dedicated clit-pleasing vibrators.

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G-Spot Advice
G-Spot Advice

Penetration/G-spot pleasure:  If you’re more into internal stimulation, or would like to explore it, your first toy needs to be a penetrative shape (rather than a smaller vibrator designed for external/clitoral pleasure)

If you are playing solo, we  would advise the best first toy for penetrative or G-spot pleasure is also a vibrator (rather than a dildo)  because it will also give you option of vibration.

Rabbit and G-Spot vibrators are the places to head…

Again,  these pages give advice on choosing each style of toy, which is useful for newbies and seasoned buyers alike.

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Beginners anal advice

Anal pleasure:  We don’t give many commands, but safe pleasure is when we get bossy! Exploring backdoor play,  means buying a  dedicated anal toy – ie one that is specially designed for anal pleasure, with a shape that prevents it disappearing inside and potentially getting lost.

An anal toy must have a wise base, handle or finger-ring so you can keep a firm grip on it.  As an area rich in delicious sensations, but also one that can be painful if not done correctly, exploring anal pleasure can be a bit of a tightrope walk, so we would highly recommend reading through all our anal advice  to ensure yours is all pleasure and no pain.

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  • Beginners Guide: My First Anal Toy

Don’t feel like you have to spend ££’s on your first sex toy.

Until you’ve tried a toy, it’s impossible to know what will give you a thrill – and because every woman is different, there’s no magic one-toy-suits-all.

Like an expensive face cream, spending a lot on a first sex toy can give unreasonable expectations of what it will deliver.

If you are new to the sensations of vibration, for instance, starting with a simple battery-operated one will give you a introduction to what a vibrator feels like.

And there’s no point going for the poshest anal  toy on the block if you are going to back away from it every time it comes out of the box!


For your first vibrator; Think the 3 S’s – Sound, Sensations & Simple!

Sound: As a first-time toy explorer, a vibrator that is too loud may put you off enjoying it fully.  As a newbie, enjoying a buzzing bedfellow for the first time,  can feel embarrassing, especially in a shared house where kids, parents or housemates might hear.  No vibrator is completely silent (use the filter on the vibrator pages to show you quiet vibrators ) then lock the door, put on some music and enjoy!

Sensations: Some women need really strong stimulation to get pleasure, whereas others find this kind of touch desensitizing or even sometimes painful. The best way to cover all bases is to choose a toy with many different speed settings so you can explore. On each product page , the Technical Info Tab tells you what your vibrator offers.

Simple: A toy that’s complicated to operate or one that requires you to read a 10 page manual before you start, may put you off. We recommend beginners should start with one that has simple, intuitive operation.  We’ve rated each of our toys as Easy/ Middling or Tricky ( but worth it!) and we advise your first toy should definitely be ‘easy’!


For penetrative first toys; Think small!

Until you know your perfect size,  it’s better to think small.  This isn’t a competition! A toy that is too big will feel more uncomfortable than sexy.

Length: With a penetrative toy, you can always control how deep it goes inside, so one that is too long is not necessarily a problem…

Width: A toy that is too wide for you is likely to feel intimidating, thus unpleasurable and unlikely to get many 2nd outings. Certainly there maybe times when we may want to upgrade ( though in our experience talking to customers, not half as many as size-jokes and porn films would have us believe!) but for a first-toy newbie, start slim.


Remember, your first sex toy needn’t be ‘The One’ !

This is just the beginning of your journey, so don’t get too hung up on finding your perfect sex toy.  We know that the biggest obstacle to buying your first sex toy can be because you’re overwhelmed by choice ( even though we’ve cherry-picked the best for you!)  but, like any adventure, it’s best to just take the plunge and find a starting point.

That’s why we recommend starting small, inexpensive and simple. then later, if you find you want something stronger / gentler /  larger, your first choice will point you in the right direction for when you want to upgrade.

couples sex toy advice

lesbian sex toys advice

6 Tips for Buying a First Sex Toy for Partner

  • If you’re buying a toy to use with a partner, especially if they are new to toys, read How to Introduce a Sex Toy  which gives advice on how to bring up the conversation.
  • Partners can feel sensitive around sex toys, so it’s important to ensure that they feel included, and not replaced!
  • Browsing our website or visiting the Sh! store together is a great way to introduce the idea of sex toys to your relationship and it allows you to pick something you’d both like to try.
  • If you’re planning to surprise your partner, go for something playful and approachable.
  • If your partner is male, we would advise against introducing a first toy that is penetrative in shape as it can feel confusing (do you want to use it on him?!) or a criticism ( isn’t he enough for you?!)
  • A small external vibrator he too may enjoy or a cock-ring you can enjoy together during sex are both good first toys for playing with male partners.

Buying a first vibrator for a friend

6 Tips for Buying a First Vibrator for Friend

  • Buying a beginners vibe as a present can be THE best gift for a friend, especially if your friend might be shy about buying one for herself.
  • Receiving a first vibe as a present can help a friend discover new pleasures without feeling any embarrassment about having bought it for herself.
  • A first-toy gift should be fun and non-scary.
  • The Clitoral Appetizer Set contains everything needed to start enjoying a buzz all packed up in a gift box, ready to unwrap and enjoy…
  • We know of lots of women who recieved their first rabbit vibrator as a gift from a friend – to their eternal gratitude.
  • If you are giving a first vibrator or sex toy as a gift, only you know how is best to give it, but we’d never recommend making her unwrap it during a family dinner! Give sex toy gifts with the discretion they deserve!


If you have any questions or want advice on buying your first toy, please do Email Us or call us on 03333 444 005.

Pleasure Gels to Enhance Sex & Orgasm

What Does an Orgasm Feel Like?

There are two physical changes that must happen before you have an orgasm:

Firstly the blood must start pooling in your breasts and genitals – this will make your bits engorged and you’ll start getting wet.

The second is neuromuscular tension, or sexual tension. Energy builds up in nerve-endings and muscles of the entire body. Many women find it difficult to ‘let go’ if there is a lot of strong sexual tension in their bodies, hence the horny-but-no-orgasm experience.

Many women ask us what an orgasm feels like.

This is very difficult to explain; all orgasms are organically the same, but not all women experience them the same. They can be short and sharp or strong and long and anywhere in between…

About 80% of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm and  many have their very first orgasm with the help of a clitoral vibrator.

Women tend to need consistent stimulation to build up to an orgasm, whereas men can often come from go-stop-go style stimulation.

That’s why vibes are good – with the best will in the world, fingers and tongues get tired out but with a vibrator the stimulation keeps on going for as long as you need it to.

Try A Clit Vibe

Aphrodisia Dual Vibe £26
Aphrodisia Dual Vibe £26

About 75-80% of women need continuous clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm and this is why clit vibes are so popular. Made of smooth silicone, the Aphrodisia Dual Vibe is very easy to use, making it ideal for anyone new to sex toys.

A control with four speeds lets you be in charge of intensity, offering the possibility of ramping it up as you get more aroused.  The shape of this vibe means it can be rested externally, long-ways, and used to stimulate the whole outer labia. Try stimulating the clit slightly off to one side—think of the clit as a clock-face and explore 11am or 1pm.

Use a water-based lubricant with for extra deliciously slippery sensations and to enhance sensitivity to your clitoral area.



Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

First Sex Toy Recommendations

Looking forward to purchasing your very first sex toy, but bewildered by vast amount of shapes, sizes and materials?  Or perhaps looking for something to share with a partner who’s never played with toys before?

Sex toy shopping can be daunting, as well as very exciting. In order to make it as easy as possible, we’ve put together a short beginner’s guide, giving you the rundown on the most popular categories.


My First Clitoral Vibe

Clitoral Pleasure Vibe £24
Clitoral Pleasure Vibe £24

The Sh! Clitoral Pleasure vibe is a great choice for women who prefer stimulation on the sides of the clit, rather than directly on the sensitive tip. The soft silicone prongs gently tease, and with 10 different sensations, there is lots to explore. The control unit is easy to work and by handing it over to a partner, you have a great couples toy.



My First G-spot Toy

Mini G-Spot Vibe £18
Mini G-Spot Vibe £18

The Sh! Mini G-Spot vibrator is small but perfectly formed. Also made from body-safe silicone, this vibe has a gently curved tip to better find and stimulate the G-spot. With 7 different settings, easily controlled with a quick flick of your finger, the Sh! Mini G-spot vibe can also be used for clitoral pleasure.

Adding a lube will greatly enhance your experience with any toy; here’s where you’ll find our recommendations for water-based lubricants.


My First Rabbit Vibrator

G-Spot Rabbit £39
G-Spot Rabbit £39

The Sh! G-Spot Rabbit vibrator is a slim rabbit-style vibe with two motors and a G-spot stimulating tip built in. Very easy to use, this vibe offers a variety of vibration, escalation and pulse patters for you to enjoy. The two bunny ears flicker and pulse around the sides of the clit, making it a fantastic toy for women who need clitoral stimulation in order to have an  orgasm. Made from phthalate-free silicone, the Sh! G-spot Rabbit is safe and sensual.



My First Anal Toy

Butt Plug 3 £15
Butt Plug 3 £15

When it comes to anal play, there are three rules to adhere to:  go slow, go small and go for a thick, viscous lube.

The cleverly-designed Butt Plug 3 is suitable for both women and men, and makes a good first toy for gentle introduction to anal play – along with that all-important lube, of course. The beads increase in size, making insertion a comfortable and exciting experience.

Hand-poured from medical grade silicone right here in our studio in east London, butt plug 3 is body-safe and easy to clean, and its heart-shaped base makes it safe for anal play.


My First Strap On Kit

First Strap On Kit £67
First Strap-On Kit £67

As sexuality and gender are becoming more fluid, we are noticing more and more couples wanting to experiment with Strap-On play. Choosing shapes and sizes can be daunting, so in order to make it as easy as possible, we’ve  created a First Strap-On Kit.

Coupling a medium-sized Cupid 2 silicone dildo with a Slip-On harness make a great first Strap On.

The popular Cupid 2 is 12cm in length and just over 3cm in girth at its widest, and the thong-style soft leather harness can comfortably be worn under clothing for quick access. The kit also comes with water-based lube and a selection of assorted condoms for extra hygiene.


My First Spanking Toy

Mini Rubber Whip £12
Mini Rubber Whip £12

The Mini Rubber Whip is small and easy-to-handle whip with rubber strands – ideal for trying out sensation play.  Unlikely to cause pain, the Mini Rubber Whip is perfect for those who like their pleasure with a tiny bit of sting.


If you’d like more information on toys suitable for beginners, feel free to call us  on 03333 444 005 or post a question below.