Masturbation Month

How to Choose and Use Tongue & Finger Vibrators

Small and discreet, tongue and finger vibrators add extra zing to your manual and oral play! These small, discreet vibrators are great for solo play, but they also make excellent bedtime accessories for couples too.

Finger Vibrators

Finger Lovers Silicone Rabbit Vibe £18
Finger Lovers Silicone Rabbit Vibe £18

Finger vibes are perfect for adding extra thrills to any kind of play. Simply slide the small vibrator over your finger, turn it on and glide your buzzing finger all over your – or your lover’s – body.

Perfect for teasing necks, nipples, stomachs and clits on yourself or female partners. If you have a male lover, why not try sliding the vibe slowly lower and lower over his stomach, over his party bag (testicles) and up & down over his shaft.

Small finger vibrators are very popular with sex toy newbies – they don’t cost much,  they are easy to use and they are also very discreet.

Add a small amount of lube to your buzzing finger, then enjoy some slow sexploration!

If you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at advice@sh-womenstore.com. We’ll answer you privately. We may also share your question and our response on our blog, so others may benefit, but we promise it will always be anonymous, with nothing left it to identify you.

 

 

Tongue Vibrators

Vibrating Tongue Toys £26
Feelztoys Vibrating Tongue Toys £26

Oral sex is a hot activity and tongue vibes are a fun way to offer more than just licking, sucking and kissing. With a small vibrator strapped to your tongue, oral sex sessions soon become super-charged and even possibly multi-orgasmic!

Slide the small, stretchy band at the back of the vibe over your tongue. Turn it on and slowly lick your partner all over; slow long licks just as if you’re enjoying a particularly yummy ice lolly on a hot day.

The mouth is one of the most sensitive organs we own, and it can be used to deliver a sensual array of sensations. Go from soft, slow licking to hard and fast sucking. Place your warm, buzzing mouth over your lover’s nipples, clit or frenulum, and watch them squirm with pleasure.

But – don’t let the fun stop there! Use your hands to stroke and caress thighs, bottom, breasts and all other body parts your lover enjoys having touched – this adds multiple layers of sensations.

Use your tongue vibrator in the shower for a steamy morning session is guaranteed to wake up your partner in no time!

 

 

 

Q&A

Q&A: Rabbit or Finger Vibe?

Dear Sh!

Could you please advise a 62-year old widow (with neither the desire nor the prospect of “finding another man”) on the best vibrator to buy?

I’m completely new to this market and I’ve looked through your website, and am confused by the range available.

I’m tempted by a Rabbit-style Vibrator or a simple Finger vibe but would welcome your comments

 

Hi there,

Yes – we completely understand. There are so many different vibrators (and so little time…).

The first thing to think about is really whether you want a vibrator *specifically* for internal use (including G-spot) or for external (clitoral) stimulation – or for both?

A finger vibe offers precise clitoral stimulation

…but it is limited to providing purely clitoral stimulation.

A finger vibrator probably most comes into it’s own during partner sex, when it discreetly slips onto a finger to add extra clitoral stimulation during sex.

During solo sex, if your technique is to use only your finger on your clitoris, then a finger vibrator will add a buzz to this – and the clitoris usually loves a spot of vibration!

Sh! jessica side
Sh! Jessica Rabbit £40

A Rabbit vibrator offers internal stimulation as well as clitoral.

The  beaded shaft rotates around  ‘just inside’ which is an area rich in sensations. If you grip the shaft/beads using your PC muscles, the  sensations can be intense. Some women find their G-Spots with a rabbit vibe. The bunny ears then provide a lovely, tickly clit stimulator – so there you have it – all-in-one!

Many women tell us what they love about their rabbit is the clitoral bunny stimulator on the side of their rabbit vibrator. In fact, lots of women tell us they don’t always bother with the beaded shaft of their rabbit vibrator at all during solo sessions.

Most women are all about clitoral stimulation during masturbation.

The bunny ears are a fabulous design for this as they stimulate the sides of the clitoris rather than directly on it. For the majority of women, too intense/direct clitoral stimulation can actually be a turn-off.

However some women do need more intense, direct clitoral stimulation. If you desire/require a a bit more “umph” then we’d recommend a bullet/egg style vibrator, over a finger vibe. A great clitoral vibrator of this kind is the Secret – offers 20 speeds and sensations (low-high, throbbing, pulsating etc) – the top ones are super-intense!

The “vibe” itself is an egg shape attached by a wire to the battery pack, which allows you to change the setting with a push of your finger rather than feeling around for buttons between your legs! A very good external vibe indeed.

We hope this has been of help, do feel free to phone us on 0333 444 005, if you’d like any more help.

Best wishes

Team Sh!

lesbian sex toys advice

Top 6 Lesbian Sex Toys

Most sex toys bought by lesbians in our store are bought as a couple, primarily to play with and enjoy together, though, as with most sex toys, many lesbian faves can be enjoyed for solo sessions as well.

Here’s the Top 6 lesbian sex toys sold at Sh!

1. Lube: A True Lesbian Essential.

Lube enhances every kind of sex and keeps the pleasure going on ...and on
Lube enhances every kind of sex and keeps lesbian pleasure going on …and on …and on!

Lube is one of the best lesbian sex toys there is and we’d say lube heads up our list of top lesbian sex toys by a mile.

Lesbian sex is circular and can go on and on and on… We’ve had many a lesbian couple at Sh! say they just got out of bed after three days of non-stop sex.

Women can have multiple orgasms: get two women together and the possibilities are endless!

However turned-on you are and however hot your lover, when sex can go on for days, no body’s natural juices can keep up with that kind of intensity and that’s why a bottle of good lube is standard fare beside most lesbian beds.

Choosing the right lube for your bodies, and for any sex toys you may be playing with, is key to loving it and we find that our lesbian customers are probably the most in-tune-with-lube customer group we meet.

2. Strap On: No Lesbian Fallacy!

Best Strap On Kit £99
Best Strap On Kit £99

A strap-on may be a stereotypical lesbian toy, beloved of porn films and ‘who’s the man?’  jokes.

The pleasures of a strap-on are many, but in our experience, most lesbian couples enjoy strap-on play simply because it provides intimacy and thrilling penetration whilst leaving both partners’ hands free for exploring elsewhere…

In our London studio, we hand-produce quality silicone dildos, soft, leather harnesses to strap on and specially selected strap on kits and we’re happy to say our famous strap-ons have satisfied thousands of lesbian customers worldwide.

 

 

3. Strapless Dildos: New Lesbian Sex Toy on the Block

Strapless dildos provide strap-on style sex without the need of a harness
Strapless dildos provide strap-on style sex without the need of a harness

Strapless dildos such as Sh! Strapless Vibrating Dildo, Tantus Feeldoe and  Fun Factory Share  are designed to give even more intimacy to strap on sex by removing the the need of a harness.

Strapless dildos were cautiously embraced by lesbian couples when they hit the shelves a few years back and, at first, they recieved mixed reviews from gay girl couples; some found using a strapless dildo tricky & frustrating, whilst other couples loved the intimacy and connection these sex toys provide.

The trick is to know how to use a strapless dildo and not to expect the same moves you can use with a regular strap-on.

Strapless dildos are better for grinding together rather than thrusting – they are hot sex toys for leisurely, intimate lesbian sex, rather than wild, rip ’em off lesbian sex!

 

4. Extra thrills for lesbian fingers & tongues

Pair Finger Tip Vibrators £15
Pair Finger Tip Vibrators £15
Feelztoys Tongue Toys £26
Feelztoys Tongue Toys £26

What three things do lesbians use most in bed? Their hands, their mouths and their imagination!

Manual-play and cunnilingus are often the bedrock of lesbian sex so choosing a finger or tongue vibrator for an extra buzz is a fun and inexpensive way to add playful new thrills to old favorites.

Vibrators for tongues or vibrators worn on a finger are a top ‘add-on’ purchase for lesbian couples instore (as once spied , imaginations soar!) with Feelztoys tongue and finger vibes topping the list as they come in pairs; one for each of you to  wear when hands or mouth are heading in the knicker direction!

 

 5. Non-Phallic Toys

In our experience, most lesbian couples don’t want overtly phallic-shaped dildos and vibrators.

No wonder – many lesbians have been told that what they really need is a ‘good man to sort them out’!

We don’t stock “realistic” sex toys, so most of our sex toys, whether an interesting dildo or stylish vibe,  get the thumbs up from our lesbian customers.

 

6. Traditional Double Dildos for Sharing Lesbian Penetrative Pleasure

Double dildos offer lesbian couples simultaneous physical and voyeuristic pleasures!

Not quite as popular as mainstream lesbian porn films would have us believe, but double dildos still makes our top 6 lesbian sex toy list, as thankfully the sex toy design revolution has moved them on from the old-school sex toys of yore.

 

Ideal for couples who both enjoy penetration and would like to enjoy it together, a double dildo is simply an extra-long dildo with a penetrative portion at each end; one for each of you.

Not the easiest toy in the box, but once you learn how  how to use a double dildo  the mix of shared sensations and hot visuals can be a head mix.

best sex toy for couples advice

Best Sex Toys For Couples

Sex toys aren’t just for singletons, they’re fab for enhancing sex as a couple too.  As toys loose their stigma, more and more couples are discovering that playing with sex toys together can turn good sex into GREAT sex.

Introducing a sex toy into your relationship can feel intimidating, if you are unsure of your partner’s response, but it’s important to remember that a toy is simply a TOY … not a replacement or comment on your sex life.

For women, toys can add an intensity that better guarantees an orgasm and for men they can add different kind of thrills…

For new couples, toys are a great way to explore all the different ways to delight each other and start the relationship the way you mean to go on, with a creativity that goes far beyond the missionary position..

And for long-term partners, toys are a brilliant way to spice up sex and re-kindle the excitement of new-lust fever…

But what makes a great sex toy for a couple?

In our London store, we advise and match couples to the right toy everyday, and understand what are the turn-ons and the turn-offs – here we bring you the top 5 toys for couples to share.

1. Best for Every Couple & Every Kind of Sex!

 

Sh! Pure Lube £10
Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together…

 

Our No 1, all-time best ‘toy’ for couples is lube. Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together, bringing a new slipperiness, and sensitivity that natural wetness simply doesn’t match – no matter how copious!

From erotic massage, breast-play, hand-jobs to intercourse, by way of every intimate touch in between, lube makes your two bodies connect and glide sensually together and liberates all worries of staying wet, no matter what you get up to or for how long!


 

2. Best Discreet Couples’ Toys.

Every toy in our website can be shared by couples – there are no rules, so if something catches your eye together, go for it!

But if you are just starting out on the toy-front, it’s best to choose something that doesn’t feel like you’ve imposed a threesome.

A couples’ sex toy shouldn’t make either one of you feel inadequate or left out. Nor should it be intimidating – we don’t recommend surprising your partner with a large penetrative toy!

Lelo Lily £99 Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex
Lelo Lily – £99 – Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex

 

Designer vibrators are popular among couples as they add stylish buzz to the bedroom without either one of the couple feeling replaced or intimidated. A luxury vibrator is simply beautiful pleasure object that feels like a sophisticated addition to the love-life you share together. They are beautifully packaged too, which makes them the best toy to buy your partner as a gift.


 

 

 

Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator!
Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator for skin-on-skin thrills
Feelztoys Tongue Toys - £26 - Two tiny tongue vibes, one for each of you!
Feelztoys Tongue Toys – £26 – Two tiny tongue vibes (one for each of you!)

 

A vibrator slipped onto a finger or tongue makes a great toy for couples, adding a tingly vibe wherever it touches…

These toys simply add a different sensation to oral or manual play; a sensation your finger or tongue ( no matter how expert!) can’t deliver on its own. Playful and novel, they are made for couples sex!


 

Dual Bullet Vibrator - £24 - Tiny, intense and one each!
Dual Bullet Vibrator – £24 – Tiny, intense and one each!

 

Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches..
Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches…
Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator – £10 – Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex

An egg or bullet vibrator also makes a good toy for couples to share. Small and discreet they can be cupped in the hand, held against the cheek or nuzzled against your clitoris during sex, without ‘getting in the way’

Less of a financial investment than a luxury, designer vibrator, these toys are ideal if you would like to explore adding a buzz without breaking the bank.


 

 

3. Best Hands-Free Toys to Enhance Intercourse.

Intercourse features top of the menu for most M/F couples, but less than 20% of women can climax through penetration alone. This isn’t anything to feel inadequate about, just a fact that women usually need external clitoral stimulation in order to reach the Big O.

So any toy that stimulates your clitoris during intercourse makes a great sex toy.

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65

An intercourse vibrator is specially designed for you wear inside, whilst still leaving enough room for him to slip inside too

Toys such as the We-Vibe or Noa will stimulate your clitoris and G-Spot at the same time, delivering amazing hands-free, dual stimulation.

 

 

LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9
LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9

These toys are an investment, so another good option is a vibrating ring worn on his penis will vibrate your clitoris during penetrative sex, adding that all-important extra stimulation. For him, they deliver a pleasurable squeeze to keep his erection stronger, for longer.

Both of these toys will give him a vibrating thrill as well – now that’s sharing!


 

 

4. Best Toys to Spice-Up Dates.

Great sex is all about shared intimacy and playfulness, so what better way for couples to add an extra thrill to date-night but to play with a remote-controlled vibrator, with one of you controlling the buzz and the other receiving.

 

 

Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35

 

A remote-controlled vibrator or pair of remote vibrating panties can be worn, and played with, discreetly in public.

Operating with many meters of distance between you and delivering a  range of escalating and throbbing patterns to surprise, delight and tease, no matter how far you or your playmate wanders, you’ll both feel connected with a shared sense of secret ‘naughtiness’

… and there’s no reason why the bullet can’t be slipped into his Y-fronts and you control the remote!


 

 

5. Best for Long-Distance Love Affairs

We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
Kiiroo Onyx £150 Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Onyx –  Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator - Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator – Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women

 

Technology has finally caught up with the fact that many a modern relationship is often separated by miles between you or may even be a purely interweb affair.

Sex toys that can be controlled by and operated within secure apps address this by introducing intimate thrills and shared connection even when couples are continents apart.

Not cheap (and certainly not for technophobes!) these toys are playthings for a brave new world!

 

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Masturbation Month

Finger Vibrators Buyers Guide

Here we’ll give you the lowdown on finger vibes and what to look for when you are considering buying a finger vibrator.

Lots of women loooove direct finger stimulation and most of us use fingers when we’re masturbating. Adding a finger vibe combines the best of both worlds. Finger vibes are small, discreet, and can be anywhere from fluttery to super-strong – there’s a finger vibe to suit every sensation preference!

Using a Finger Vibrator on Yourself

Rippled Finger Vibe £18
Rippled Finger Vibe £18

If you prefer your fingers for masturbation, then adding vibration is a great way to add an extra thrill, as well as a useful tool if you take a long time to orgasm: fingers can tire and adding the extra vibration is likely to tip you over the edge.
– Try out a textured vibe like the Rippled Finger Vibe for extra stimulation.
Lelo Picobong Ipo offers a bigger body for more contact and multi-speed options if you like lots of variety.

Using a Finger Vibrator with Your Lover

This kind of vibrator is discreet enough for sex with your lover; simply slip one onto your finger and use your fingers to explore, exactly as usual, but with the added benefit of vibration.
– The innovative Finger Tingles is an extra-powerful vibe which is also amazingly versatile – use it for direct stimulation, or slip it on and your finger becomes the vibrator! Great for introducing a nervous partner to the fun of vibrations.
– Enjoy the super-smooth sensations of the Feelztoys Finger Tip Vibe with your lover. The box comes with two finger tip vibes, so you can have one each!

There’s lots of finger vibes to chose from, so check out our finger vibe page for more info. Any questions? Email us here and we’ll provide the very best advice – Sh! style!