Q&A

Will a G-Spot Vibrator Find My G Spot?

Dear Sh!

I’ve heard about the G-Spot but have never found mine and I’m wondering if a G-Spot vibrator will find it for me?

Thanks

Sue

[Names have been changed for anonymity] 

 

Hi Sue,

G-Spot vibrators don’t have built-in pleasure radars for instantly finding and satisfying your G-Spot – sorry!

There’s lots of disagreement and conflicting evidence about the G-Spot – check out the wiki page to see just how much doctors, scientists and researchers are tying themselves up in knots about it. ( grab a cuppa first because it’s quite a read!)

It’s great ( and about time!) that female anatomy, sexuality and pleasure is finally being researched but we have to remember that this is all incredibly recent – the internal clitoris wasn’t discovered until 1998 and it still took another 10 years before French doctors Odile Buisson and Pierre Foldes created the first three-dimensional sonography of the female pleasure system, which showed that the structure of the clitoris was a LOT larger than the external little pea most of us think of and actually it is mostly internal.

[To put this into perspective, the first sonography of the penis was conducted in the 1970’s]

After centuries of ignoring female pleasure and arousal in the medical world ( and millennium of desexualizing  it into female hysteria ) it seems the race is ON to make conclusive statements about our bodies and how they respond.

Whilst the hoo-haw rolls on, we prefer to go on our own evidence of chatting to 1,000’s of women over the years and conclude that whether or not the G-Spot is indeed a specific spot inside that produces a very different kind of orgasm or is actually part of the internal clitoris and thus basically a clitoral orgasm, is, in the end, immaterial.

You’ll see from the article that many medical & scientific peeps believe that the G-Spot is an imagined holy-grail of female pleasure that doesn’t actually exist. But this doesn’t tally with our experience or ’empirical research’! It seems to us that most ‘experts’ haven’t actually talked to women about their experiences, as we have.  Nor have they experienced G-Spot pleasure or the squirting, AKA female ejaculation associated with it…

Many ( we’d say most) women feel there is a certain area on the front wall of their vagina that feels a kind of ‘Oh! wow!’ very different to rest.  For some women this is every time, but for most it’s a very-hit and miss affair.

The real question is whether we all respond to G-Spot stimulation in the same way?

The answer is a very obvious no  ( we’re resisting putting a duh! here)  How turned-on we are, what kind of pressure or stimulation, whether we’re feeling safe and relaxed or anxious or hurried or a million other different factors…

The one thing we think we can say for certain is that the G-Spot is an elusive little beast and its awakening is very much dependent on how aroused you are, how firm the pressure it receives, for how long and how much you are able to relax into its sensations…

We’ve met lots of ‘medical experts’ ourselves who believe that the G-Spot is a myth and we’ve had many a passionate debate about it.

We believe that it’s more than likely that all/most women do have the capacity to orgasm from inside, but whether the orgasm is coming from their G-Spot or internal clitoris, who knows…

And it the end, does it matter what it’s called?

The place where we agree with many experts is that no woman should feel inadequate or a failure because she doesn’t spontaneously combust at the stimulation of any pleasure spot.

Finding your G spot should be a pleasurable journey of sensations

…with meanderings off the path as your passion dictates, not a single-minded search without deviation.

Taking yourself on any journey of sexual discovery is worthwhile ( in fact highly recommended!) but embarking with grim determination on a hunt for your G-Spot or becoming hung up on not finding it, nor having a G-Spot orgasm, certainly isn’t!

It’s also counter-productive, because, whilst orgasm may feel like a build-up of beautiful tension, being relaxed enough to be swamped by the build-up  is the key to female orgasm.

That’s why no toy can guarantee an orgasm, especially not a G-Spot orgasm!

G-Spot Vibrators are shaped, with either curved or bulbous heads, to make G-Spot for stimulation easier, but they don’t contain any radars or magical G-Spot awakening qualities…

They’re simply fabulous tools to add to the journey and may make discoveries easier…

Being receptive to G-Spot pleasure generally takes a long build-up, and using your fingers can be tiring.

All our vibrators for the G-spot feature the firm texture, extra reach and curved or swollen head which should make finding and massaging your G-Spot easier.

The G-Spot seems to respond better to pressure and motion than to vibration; A G-Spot vibrator offers you the option of adding a buzz, which your clitoris will likely enjoy, adding to your arousal and making everything swell and become more receptive…

(  if you are taking yourself on a G-Spot journey, it better to not allow yourself to orgasm, clitorally, if you can help it! )

Honey 3 silicone dildo £58
Honey 3 Silicone Dildo £58

There’s not a great deal of size options with G-Spot  vibes, so it’s also worth considering a  Silicone Dildo – with  over 30 different shapes and sizes our hand-poured range, they may offer you more bespoke and fulfilling choices than the vibes.

 

advice g spot

Where is the G-Spot? How to Find it & Have a G-Spot Orgasm

‘Will a G-Spot toy help me find mine?’

‘I bought a G-Spot vibrator and played with it, but nothing happened – why?’

We’re asked these questions, and countless other G-Spot queries, all the time in-store.

Despite the hype, for most of us, our G-Spots are not easy to find or stimulate, so don’t think you are the only woman in the world unable to have wall-to-wall G-Spot orgasms or to experience female ejaculation.

If you haven’t felt your G-Spot, or more specifically pleasure from your G-Spot, you are, in fact, in the majority.

Follow our advice below, and read our other advice on the G-Spot to help discover yours, but please keep in mind; this is meant to be a pleasurable journey of exploration, not a grim expedition to the G-pole!

 

Arousal is No1 key to responding to G Spot sensations…

There’s absolutely no point or pleasure in going after a G-Spot orgasm without being very, VERY aroused.

Certainly, as you become aroused, the spongy area around the G-Spot will become swollen and engorged with blood.

But G-Spot sensations don’t always necessarily feel pleasurable which is why it’s important to be really turned-on. Only then, can you be responsive to G-Spot sensations and the pleasure this can give you.

So read erotica, watch a sexy movie, enjoy a sensual massage from your partner, tease your nipples and your clitoris, but don’t let yourself orgasm.

Finding your G-Spot with fingers…

We recommend trying to find your G-Spot with your fingers first as they will feel the different texture of the G-Spot.

Firstly,  find a position that’s comfortable for you and for reaching inside yourself; try lying on your back with your knees drawn up, on all fours or squatting.

With your palm covering your vulva and clitoris, slowly slip 1 or 2 fingers inside yourself. We highly recommend using lubricant to really enhance your sensitivity.

Your fingers will naturally curve forwards, as you slip them inside, but crook them forward some more, towards your pubic bone.

G-Spot picture
G-Spot picture

Your G-Spot may not be as far inside as you think…

Feel for a slightly bumpy/ridged area on the front wall of your vagina, approximately half a fingers’ length inside.

It could be less, or slightly more. Somewhere between an inch (or less) up to 3 inches inside – so don’t go delving too deeply!

The texture and surface of the G Spot feels different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina.

The bumpy ridges are erectile tissue that swells and hardens when you become aroused.

Some women find that their G-Spot can actually be stimulated from the outside – try firm rubbing or patting around the urethral opening (where you pee from) to see if this works for you.

 

Using Sex Toys or Vibrators to Find Your G-Spot

Whilst we recommend learning to identify the spot using your fingers, it can be difficult and tiring to stimulate it to the point of orgasm solely by hand.

This is where a great G-Spot toy, with a curved, probing end, can help bring on the fireworks.

But there is nothing magical about a G-Spot toy; it’s simply a good tool to keep on the pressure!

There are three types of G spot toys;

 

G-Spot Dildo
G-Spot Dildos £28 – £130

G-Spot Dildo

Firm yet user-friendly with an ergonomic shape and smooth, rounded head for applying pressure on the right spot, these Sh! dildos have been specially designed for G-Spot pleasure.

 

G-Spot Vibrator
G-Spot Vibrators £15 – £134

G-Spot Vibrator

Whilst the G-Spot responds to firm sensations, rather than vibration, a G-Spot vibrator, with its  curved, angled end is specially shaped for exploration, plus it gives you the option of adding a buzz to your play.

Look for a head with a large surface area  to give you the best chance of locating your G-Spot.

 

Glass Dildo
Glass Dildos £28 -£74

Glass Dildo

Smooth, sleek, intensely firm and weighty, a dildo made of safe glass is probably one of the most G-Spot awakening toys there is.

 

 

How to Pleasure Your G-Spot

The G-Spot responds best to firm pressure and as it swells and hardens (as you become even more aroused) it can take firmer and firmer rubbing.

Stimulate it inside using a ‘come here’ motion of your fingers and circular swirling movements.

With a dildo or vibrator, keep the toy pressed firmly on the spot and move it around in small circular motions.

We call this motion ‘juicing the G-Spot’ and its key to success.

As you ‘juice’, with your other hand, use a finger to press and stimulate the area around your urethral opening.

G-Spot Gel

Tickle Her G Spot Pleasure Gel
Tickle Her G Spot Pleasure Gel (£18)

There is a special cream Tickle Her G-Spot Gel, which receives great reviews from customers and Team Sh! alike.

It is formulated to swell the G-Spot and make it more sensitive; in a world of hype, this stuff really does seem to work…

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to a G-Spot orgasm is feeling like you want to pee.

This feeling is the main reason why women stop themselves having a G-Spot orgasm. You need to get past this feeling, if you are to experience a G-Spot orgasm. Visit the loo before you start, put a towel underneath yourself, and if a worry pops-up, just keep fantasising until it goes away…

Love balls £10 -£129
Love balls £10 -£129

Love Balls are a great way to get yourself a a strong PC muscle, that if you squeeze rhythmically during sex, will also improve your chances /strength of orgasm – both G-Spot and clitoral.

We hope we’ve helped you better understand how to find and pleasure your G-Spot… Now, over to you!

If you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at advice@sh-womenstore.com. We’ll answer you privately. We may also share your question and our response on our blog, so others may benefit, but we promise it will always be anonymous, with nothing left it to identify you.