Guy’s Guide to Female Pleasure

Guy’s Guide to Female Pleasure

Introducing our new class!

For the first time  ever, we are opening up our famous erotic classes to the fellas!

In a new men-only class, attendees will be taken on a guided tour of pleasurable peaks and orgasmic delights of women’s sexuality, covering  female anatomy & arousal,  tips & tricks on how to locate the G-spot, how to choose and use the right sex toys to enhance her pleasure and also what to expect (or not) from female ejaculation.

Most men learn about the ins-and-outs of pleasure by watching porn, and this can lead to all sorts of issues in the bedroom. We have been teaching informative and fun classes for women & couples for many years, and one request kept popping up:  our female customers wanted a class they can send male partners to. By attending one of our guy’s classes in December, you can really give her the gift that keeps giving this Christmas: PLEASURE!

This is the sex education everyone wishes they’d received at school.


Our Top 5 Pleasure Tips for Men:

  • All women are created equal but sexual responses are individual and unique.
  • Always approach a new partner with an open mind, giving heart and warm hands.
  • Pay attention to her responses; every sigh and wiggle is telling you something.
  • The tiny tip of the clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings sitting atop it – this means she is hyper-sensitive so be gentle (for comparison: the glans of a man’s penis has 4000 nerve-endings).
  • Think of the clitoris as a clock-face with 12 at the top and 6 at the bottom. Every woman has her very own, personal ‘Happy Hour’ – a clitoral pleasure time that makes her tick every time…


The *fully clothed* classes will be held at  at 57 Hoxton Square N1 6PB, and guests will be invited to make the most of an exclusive 20% discount.

5th December, 6.30pm  (£35)

19th December, 6.30pm  (£35)




Dorrie Lane: Female Ejaculation

The Vulva-lution is here!

Led by Dorrie Lane, pioneering sex educator specialising in female sexual response, this evening will focus on female ejaculation: the facts, the myths and the secrets to making this happen for you!

Spaces are limited and we anticipate it’ll sell out quickly.

Join Us!

Where: Sh! 57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB

When: Thursday 19th October at 6:30pm

Price: £5 (includes bubbles & cake!)

Book Your Ticket Here: Dorrie at Sh! 

Dorrie Lane, a pioneer in sex-positive sex education classes since the 1980’s used her vision, her video camera, and her Wondrous Vulva Puppet to bring revolutionary information to women and men ready to go beyond mainstream assumptions.

Dorrie was one of the first to provide clear, direct, factual education at a time when few people had never even heard of the fabulous possibilities in the wide range of women’s sexual response. Her company, HouseOchicks produced some of the first “edutainment” videos, billed as, Sex through the Eyes of Women with titles that include, the Magic of Female Ejaculation, How to Find Your Goddess Spot, and the fabulous Masturbation Memoirs, featuring erotic luminaries Annie Sprinkle, Juliet Anderson (aka Aunt Peg), Scarlot Harlot, Dorrie Lane and many more.

She created the very first Sex Education online site in 1996, Vulva University, providing essential, award winning, free classes on women’s sexuality with intelligent and thoughtful information, designed by women, for women and those that love them.

She created the Wondrous Vulva Puppet in 1992 and continues to produce them today.

Follow Dorrie on Twitter and Facebook


Fancy getting your hands on a plush Wondrous Vulva? (Every home, school and Doctor’s office should have one!) Get yours in our shop at 57 Hoxton Square, or order one online. Each Vulva is lovingly handmade and utterly unique – much a like a human vulva. 🙂

Sh! Soirees at Lynda Wallis

Sh! Soirees at Lynda Wallis

Female Arousal, Orgasm & Ejaculation Class

Our Award-Winning Store Manager & in-house Sexuality Educator Renee will be giving two wonderful classes at Lynda Wallis’ glamorous barn location in Essex!

Lynda is a designer & maker of luxury silk lingerie like you’ve never seen before. Ronja, representative of luxe toy brand Lelo will join Renee & Lynda, for an hands-on demonstration of Lelo’s amazing toys.

The Art of Female Orgasm –  Covering all-important topics such as clitorises, G-spots and female ejaculation…
Thursday 9th March, 7:30 pm
The Old Stable Block
Pump House Farm
Kelvedon Hatch CM15 0LA

The Art of Seduction – Setting the scene, dressing (or undressing) for the occasion and tempting your partner into a heady night of pleasure…
Thursday 23rd March, 7:30 pm
The Old Stable Block
Pump House Farm
Kelvedon Hatch CM15 0LA

Luxury Silk Lingerie will be available to try on in the Boudoir
and experience the fragrances of ECoundray French Perfumes established in 1822.

Come join us for fun, educational and inspirational evenings, fully clothed, with a glass of bubbly, cup cake, a Sh! gift and 10% discount on all purchases on the night.

You will also be entered into the Lynda Wallis monthly draw!

For more information or booking please call 01277366388


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Review satisyer Pro2

Sex Toy Review: Satisfyer Pro2

An absolute must for the ‘gal on the go.’ Zero to orgasm in about three minutes flat! The Satisfyer Pro2 is so quick and effective, everyone with a clitoris should own one.

It is really easy to use –   I can easily cope with just one button! The best thing is you don’t really have to do anything, just pop it on the clitoris and let it do its magic.

There are a few settings, each more stimulating than the last. At first I wasn’t so sure, it seemed a bit too intense and just tickled, then suddenly my thoughts of, ‘this isn’t going to work for me’ and ‘It is doing nothing, just tickling’ were over powered by one of the most powerful orgasms I have ever had, not only that but it made me squirt, for the first time ever! One of my lives ambitions completed!

satisfyer-clitoral-stmulator-fully-waterproofThe only downsides are that it looks a bit like a hairdryer for a doll and the fact that it is pretty noisy. You soon get over both of those things when you feel what it can do (just maybe wait for the flatmates to leave!).

Satisfyer Pro2 is fully waterproof and makes an excellent shower buddy.

For other exciting airwave-technology toys, check out Satisfyer Pro Penguin, Womanizer and Womanizer Pro W500.



The Ultimate U-Spot Guide

The Ultimate U-Spot Guide

Most people have heard of the G-spot, but have you heard of the U-spot? Or better yet, explored the swoony, possibly orgasmic,  sensations it may offer you?

Possibly not, as the U-Spot is still a relatively undiscovered female pleasure zone. It certainly doesn’t get top billing, like Clitoris and her co-star G-Spot, and yet the U-Spot could hold the key to you experiencing female ejaculation – the climatic release of liquid that can accompany and often signify a G-spot orgasm.


The U-spot is a small area of sensitive erectile tissue, rich in nerve-endings, that surrounds the urethra.

It’s presumably called U-Spot for ‘Urethra’ because looking straight on, it’s actually ‘n’-shaped extending from one side of the urethral opening ( the tiny hole you pee from) around the top (toward the clitoris) and over to the other side.

This tissue fills with blood when you become aroused, making the area even more sensitive and receptive to stimulation.

Extending from the front vaginal wall, around the urethra, all the way to the pubic bone, this spongy tissue contain a group of glands; Skene’s Glands – so named after the two glands identified by Scottish Gynaecologist, Alexander Skene in 1880,  but more  glands around the Urethra ( ‘paraurethral’) have been discovered since and there is still a LOT more of research to be done!

What is coming to light is these area/ group of glands appears to be very similar to the male prostate and this confirms what Dutch anatomist Regnier de Graaf  first described way back in 1672!

It’s believed it’s the Skene’s Glands that produce the liquid, chemically similar to semen, that we all know as female ejaculate ( even if some researchers believe is a myth and simply just pee!)


How to stimulate the U-Spot

Lightly stimulating the area between the urethra and vaginal opening with a lubed-up finger or a warm, wet tongue can have explosive results…

Slow licks up and down, or round and round, makes for a nice warm up. Licking and teasing the area from the vaginal opening and up to the urethra, as well as grazing the clitoris “accidentally” every so often, feels great. If you want to try this, you should go slow and pay close attention to responses – avoid sensations becoming overwhelming with too much pressure or fast licking.

When she’s ready, slowly and lightly (it’s not a door bell so no firm pushing required) stroke, circle and pat the area with fingers covered in lube (dry fingers can feel rough).

Patting around and just under the urethra tends to work exceptionally well – she’ll feel the patting through to her G-spot. Magic!

Stimulation of the U-spot can potentially result in female ejaculation.

Despite (poorly researched) information from scientists declaring female ejaculation  a myth, this gush of fluid is very real and can absolutely happen. Just place a towel on the bed, and carry on exploring…

female ejaculation advice

Female Ejaculation and Learning How to Squirt

Female ejaculation, or ‘squirting’,  is a gush of liquid that women can expel on the point of a G-Spot or internal orgasm.

Female ejaculation is most likely to happen when you are very turned on, at the peak of passion and usually at the receiving end of some pretty hearty G-Spot stimulation.

Some women do report ejaculating through clitoral stimulation alone, though this seems to be a lot less common.

For some women, squirting happens every time they have sex. For others, it’s a much rarer beast.  Many haven’t experienced it and too many have stopped it happening altogether…

We have talked to hundreds of women who have felt intimidated by the sensations of squirting or so embarrassed that they have wet the bed that they don’t allow their bodies to go there in the first place or stop their bodies going there again.

When we explain all about female ejaculation, their relief is enormous and they often skip out of Sh!, newly informed and empowered.

It’s amazing in this day and age that female ejaculation is still shrouded in such mystery, but it’s not that difficult to understand.

Firstly women’s sexuality and sexual pleasure is so far down the medical establishments list of priorities, that there is precious little research on the matter.

Secondly, we learn to control our bodies from such an early age so as to NOT wet the bed, that letting go can be a tricky hurdle to get past.

Probably millions of women have tuned their bodies away from female ejaculation when it is actually one of the most sexually satisfying experiences a woman can have.

Why  is female ejaculation the cause of so much anxiety? Why do we hold back when, if we learn to let go and female ejaculate it will send ourselves and our lovers wild with delight?

There are physical reasons why the stirrings of female ejaculation feels scarily close to the onset of an embarrassing case of incontinence.

The nerve that sends G-Spot sensations to the brain also broadcasts messages from the bladder and this is why the onset of female ejaculation can feel scarily similar to the urge to pee.

Female ejaculation has been clinically analysed and found definitely NOT to be urine.  It is, in fact, an ejaculate “fluid” – like male ejaculate, but without the sperm.

Learn How to Squirt

There’s no sure-fire ‘this will definitely work for you’ instructions for learning how to female ejaculate, and it may be that not every woman is physically capable of it. Female sexuality is excitingly complex and it’s often as dependent on what is going on in our heads, as much as our bodies.

Going for a squirting orgasm with  single-minded determination may well end in failure, so forget all that and simply enjoy the journey.

Here are our top tips to squirting success:

Glass G-Spot Dildo £37
Glass G-Spot Dildo £37

Arousal is top of the list in learning how to squirt – if you are not turned on enough, it’s likely not to happen.

Have a clitoral orgasm first to get you really aroused before going for the G-Spot.

A dab of  G-Spot Gel will help stimulate bloodflow to the G spot; making it swell and become more sensitive.

Using your fingers initially means you can feel for the slightly different texture of the G-Spot and feel when it swells.

A G-Spot orgasm and female ejaculation is not likely to happen quickly. It can take a lot of time/patience which means fingers can tire. This is when a good G-Spot vibrator or the smooth, firm sensations delivered by a glass G-Spot dildo come into their own. It’s worth having one at hand…

If you are exploring your G-Spot/learning how to squirt with a lover, be vocal! It can be a very precise spot that feels very different (often triggering those feelings like you want to pee) and your partner needs to know when they’re hitting the right spot. Don’t be shy about saying ‘there!’

  • Worrying about taking a long time or stressing about not ‘getting there’ will inhibit your chances of success. If you are prone to having such worries pop into your head, try fantasing, or even watching some porn, to keep your mind focused.
  • Giving yourself  permission to ‘let go’, or having your lover give it, is crucial. Try being vocal about this. Sometimes just hearing the words ‘go ahead drench the bed!’ is enough to make you squirt.

3 good positions for G-Spot stimulation and squirting success are:

 On Top:
She controls angle, thrust and speed. Perhaps try leaning back for more intense G-Spot stimulation?

 From behind:
Being on all-fours allows her to angle her hips for best G-Spot sensations.

On her Back:
Perhaps with pillows (and a towel!) under her bum – this elevates her to a good position for G-Spot stimulation. 


Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot
Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot £14.99

Finally, it’s always good to read up and one of the best books on the subject is Female Ejaculation and the G Spot, by the high-priestess of squirting, Deborah Sundahl

We have twice had the pleasure of welcoming Deborah to teach erotic classes on the subject at Sh! and she and this book are a wealth of knowledge and come highly recommended.

We know from our experience talking to women in store that women have all sorts of secret and special squirting tips. If you have any of your own, please share – we, along with our visitors, would love to hear them.

Enjoy the journey!


female ejaculation advice

Sh! Glass Dildo for Female Ejaculation

Beautiful enough to use as a paper weight, the Sh! Glass Dildo is a firm favourite with our customers. Petite, curvaceous with a decent handle, it  can be used for both vaginal and anal play

Overcoming Fear of Sex Toys Made of Glass

Glass G-Spot Dildo £37
Glass G-Spot Dildo £37

It’s well worth overcoming the fear of a glass toy breaking inside you (it won’t) for the effects it will have on your G-Spot. The G-Spot enjoys rhythmic pressure rather than wild thrusting and glass dildos, with their solid shafts, are perfect for this. This particular dildo has a strong curve upwards which stimulates with your G-Spot when used in the right area.

Drizzle your favourite lube over your glass dildo, and make sure you have plenty of time to explore (think marathon rather than race). If you’re not sure what lube to use, the Sh! Silicone Lube is a good match for glass toys.

If you’re not sure where the G-Spot is located, first take a look at our handy G-Spot guide, and then grab lube and a mirror to investigate your own G-Spot further.

Learn More About Female Ejaculation aka Squirting

Female ejaculation or “squirting” is a hot topic, and you can attend classes on the subject. G-Spot expert and author Deborah Sundahl recommends using glass toys when learning how to female ejaculate.  If you are keen to learn more, we recommend reading Deborah’s bestselling book Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot.







Q&A: Female Ejaculation but No Orgasm?

Dear Sh!

I was on top of my man last night and all of a sudden I was soaking.

I was literally pouring over him, in fact it was him who said I may have had a female ejaculation. It happened twice and I didnt orgasm. I feel embarrassed…

Is it possible to have female ejaculation but not orgasm?

Hi there,

You shouldn’t feel embarrassed (or guilty for that matter)!

Yes – it is possible to ejaculate without orgasm.

Orgasm and ejaculation can be separated in men who study Tantric sex, so it makes sense that we women can ejaculate without orgasm too.

Or perhaps you did orgasm, but you didn’t recognise it as such?

G-Spot orgasms do feel different to external/clitoral ones.

Either way, quite often, when we are really aroused – and particularly if we have a lot of G-spot stimulation (on top of your man is a good way to get this) – we can find ourselves squirting juices.

This can be anything from feeling a bit wetter than usual, to being so wet, so suddenly, that it is hard to accept anything short of a full-blown ejaculation.

If you are  in the throws of passion, then it’s most likely to  be ejaculation

….and not a sudden case of incontinence that many people mistake female ejaculation for – so go with the flow!

Maybe it would be good to nestle a vibrator against your clitoris (it’s easy when you’re on top) and explore the possibilities of a blended orgasm? This is when you experience both a clitoral and a G-Spot orgasm.


Team Sh!

Deborah Sundahl at Sh!

The Ground-breaking Guide to Female Ejaculation
Feamle Eaculation and the G-spot

WHAT: Deborah Sundahl, author of the ground-breaking Female Ejaculation and the G-spot, lectures on all things G-spot related!

WHERE: Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, Hoxton.

WHEN: 7pm, 19th of May

HOW MUCH: £30 for one ticket, £50 for two tickets

Learn about female ejaculation’s ancient history, current scientific studies, where the G-spot is located, how to have a G-spot orgasm, and how to get this wonderful feminine fountain™ flowing! Open to both men and women, Deborah’s Power Point lecture with pictures, movie clips and Q&A will tell you all you need to know about female ejaculation and the G-spot.

The G-spot is the female prostate. All women have one, as do all men. Therefore, all women have the ability to ejaculate! Attend this class, and learn how to Let Go and Let it Flow!

Female Ejaculation & the Censors

Just a quickie to say Congratulations Anna Span!

This female producer of “the hottest porn for women” (Comopolitan Magazine) has battled the British Board of Film Classification and won!

For years the BBFC has banned depictions of female ejaculation in adult movies as, in their wisdom, they’d decided the women were not gushing but weeing. Not surprisingly, depictions of women drenched in male ejaculation have for years been deemed fine; the censors are as sexist as the pornographers. Clearly porn is a man’s game and women simply pawns within it.

It could only be male censors who decide that female ejaculation is, and ignore the fact that female ejaculate has been chemically analysed as being similar to male ejaculate minus the sperm. No – it looks like peeing to them so that’s what  it is.

Tell that to the millions of women who female ejaculate during a G-Spot orgasm.

Read more about Anna’s victory in this Guardian Article, published 9/9/2009