clitoris advice

How to Choose a Clitoral Vibrator

The size and shape of a clitoral vibrator is less important than the sensations it delivers.

Any vibrator can be used for clitoral pleasure and most women use their vibrator solely on or around their clitoris and vulva during masturbation. But we all have different sensitivities and responses, so getting the right kind of stimulation is key; A vibrator that is too powerful for one woman and desensitizes her might be just the thing for the next women, who needs strong intensity to get off.

So, when choosing a clitoral vibrator, it’s good to think about how much clitoral stimulation you need to become aroused or to orgasm.

If orgasms come easily to you through clitoral stimulation and you know the level of stimulation you enjoy; mild, medium, strong or wowser! – Use the ‘intensity’ filters (on the left hand side of our category pages) to take your pick of any  vibrator that takes your fancy.

If you are new to the whole idea of dedicated clitoral pleasure and have little idea of the kind of stimulation you might like, then we recommend exploring with your fingers and some lubricant first.

This way you can get some idea of the sensations you enjoy and how firmly or fluttery you might enjoy them.

If you are unsure of the kind of clitoral stimulation you enjoy, use your fingers and lube to explore and discover...
If you are unsure of the kind of clitoral stimulation you enjoy, use your fingers and lube to explore and discover…

 

It may seem like the most obvious statement in the book, but you will only achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation if that stimulation is pleasing to you!

In the same way that a milder vibe might be too subtle for some, a super powerful vibe can be a turn-off for for others. The wrong-type can lead to frustration or  even ( horrors!) vibrator-rejection but the thing to remember is, like women themselves, vibrators come in all sorts of intensities.

In general, vibrators with a ”higher pitched” vibration make for better clitoral toys and those with a lower, heavier, deeper vibration are better for penetration.

We have rated all our vibrators for these two types of intensity: High Intense  &   Deep Throbby.

DO YOU LIKE INTENSE CLITORAL STIMULATION?

For those who enjoy full-blast power, feel they need strong, firm clitoral stimulation or have reduced sensation ‘down there’, a vibrator with a ‘high intense’ rating is likely to be the best choice.

Vibrators with a ‘Strong’ or ‘Wowser’ rating are some of the most powerful vibes know to woman, and most likely to bring about a spontaneous clitoral orgasm.

Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Afordable, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator – £10 – Afordable, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Ultra 7 Egg Vibrator £30 Extreemly Powerful Vibrating Bullet: 7 Settings
Ultra 7 Egg Vibrator £30 – Extremely Powerful Vibrating Bullet: 7 Settings
Love Bullet Silver Lipstick £25
Love Bullet Silver Lipstick £25 – Discreet, Rechargeable Mini Vibe: 8 Vibrating Settings

 

 

Remember, whilst our clitoral vibrators have all been chosen because they are shaped or particularly recommended for external pleasure, ANY vibrator can be pressed into clit-pleasing service, so you may wish to browse our full range.

Filtering results on our main vibrator pages to show all toys with a ‘Strong’ or ‘Wowser’ rating, will give you the most choice, whilst doing the same on the sub categories ( clitoral vibrators/rabbit/wands etc) will whittle them down…

 

DO YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY IN ACHIEVING ORGASM?

Cordless Wand Massager £50 Rechargeable Magic Wand Vibrator with Soft Flexible head: 10 Settings
Cordless Wand Massager £50 Rechargeable Magic Wand Vibrator with Soft Flexible head: 10 Settings

If you are one of the many, many women who sometimes find their mind or body unresponsive to sex, keeping a really high-powered vibe buzzing away on your clitoris can be a good way of awakening your body’s response

And where the body leads, the mind will often follow…

Many Sexologists recommend a Wand Massager for women who find orgasm tricky or illusive because they offer so much more power and intensity than a battery-operated vibe.

 

 

 

 

IS YOUR CLITORIS SENSITIVE?

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 - Slim Dual Pleasure Bunny Vibe: 12 Vibrating Settings
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 – Slim Dual Pleasure Bunny Vibe: 12 Vibrating Settings

If you know that you are sensitive ‘down there’ and prefer a soft, subtle touch to caress your clitoris, try a soft-feel vibe that has the variety to offer gentler vibrations.

Many women swear by the clit-pleasing bunny ears of Rabbit Vibrator as they stimulate the sides of the clitoris, rather  rather directly on it.

This is better if you prefer a more diffused clitoral touch or find direct clitoral stimulation actually turns your clit off…

Cute Rabbit Ears Massager £35 - Vibrating Pink Silicone Clitoral Bunny: 10 Settings
Cute Rabbit Ears Massager £35 – Vibrating Pink Silicone Clitoral Bunny: 10 Settings

Many women have told us they use their regular bunny vibrator purely for clitoral stimulation ( ‘I don’t even bother with the shaft thingy!’) so for a dedicated bunny-ear clit vibrator, there’s the Rabbit Ears Vibrator.

For advice on how to choose, use  and enjoy rabbit vibes, check out our rabbit vibrator advice.

If you find a vibe too intense, simply wrap it in a piece of fabric to soften the vibrations.

You can filter for ‘Gentle’ or ‘Medium’ intensity rating on our vibrator pages.

 

 

DO YOU LIKE VARIED CLITORAL STIMULATION?

Secret Vibrator £35 - - Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings
Secret Vibrator £35 – Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings

In general, most women need sustained clitoral stimulation to orgasm and on average, for 20 minutes or more.

A vibrator can certainly speed things up ( if you want it to!) but the other variant among women is the kind of consistency they need to orgasm.

Some need stimulation to consistent and changing the stimulation can, like a snakes and ladders game, take them back to square one.

Other can find they become too accustomed, or even bored, by lots of samey clit stimulation.

Thankfully, these days most vibrators offer different patterns of vibration, as well as a steady, regular buzz, as standard.

For women who want to be taken on a journey  of different sensations, a high-tech clitoral vibrator like Secret Vibrator offers 20 ( yes -20!) pulsating and escalating settings to keep you, and your clitoris, surprised and, we hope, delighted!

 

Lily Remote Control Bullet £34 - Vibrator Small, Slim Vibe Controlled by Wireless Handset: 7 Vibrating Patterns
Lily Remote Control Bullet £34 – Vibrator Small, Slim Vibe Controlled by Wireless Handset: 7 Vibrating Patterns

Or you could really rev up the anticipation by playing with a remote controlled vibe with your partner controlling the vibrator’s buzz – that will certainly keep your clitoris alert!

 

 


 

We hope this has helped you choose the best clitoral vibrator for you and be sure to read how to use a clitoral vibrator to get more ideas on how to play. 

If you would like any more advice, fee free to get in touch for individual advice and recommendations advice@sh-womenstore.com

 

 

best sex toy for couples advice

Best Sex Toys For Couples

Sex toys aren’t just for singletons, they’re fab for enhancing sex as a couple too.  As toys loose their stigma, more and more couples are discovering that playing with sex toys together can turn good sex into GREAT sex.

Introducing a sex toy into your relationship can feel intimidating, if you are unsure of your partner’s response, but it’s important to remember that a toy is simply a TOY … not a replacement or comment on your sex life.

For women, toys can add an intensity that better guarantees an orgasm and for men they can add different kind of thrills…

For new couples, toys are a great way to explore all the different ways to delight each other and start the relationship the way you mean to go on, with a creativity that goes far beyond the missionary position..

And for long-term partners, toys are a brilliant way to spice up sex and re-kindle the excitement of new-lust fever…

But what makes a great sex toy for a couple?

In our London store, we advise and match couples to the right toy everyday, and understand what are the turn-ons and the turn-offs – here we bring you the top 5 toys for couples to share.

1. Best for Every Couple & Every Kind of Sex!

 

Sh! Pure Lube £10
Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together…

 

Our No 1, all-time best ‘toy’ for couples is lube. Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together, bringing a new slipperiness, and sensitivity that natural wetness simply doesn’t match – no matter how copious!

From erotic massage, breast-play, hand-jobs to intercourse, by way of every intimate touch in between, lube makes your two bodies connect and glide sensually together and liberates all worries of staying wet, no matter what you get up to or for how long!


 

2. Best Discreet Couples’ Toys.

Every toy in our website can be shared by couples – there are no rules, so if something catches your eye together, go for it!

But if you are just starting out on the toy-front, it’s best to choose something that doesn’t feel like you’ve imposed a threesome.

A couples’ sex toy shouldn’t make either one of you feel inadequate or left out. Nor should it be intimidating – we don’t recommend surprising your partner with a large penetrative toy!

Lelo Lily £99 Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex
Lelo Lily – £99 – Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex

 

Designer vibrators are popular among couples as they add stylish buzz to the bedroom without either one of the couple feeling replaced or intimidated. A luxury vibrator is simply beautiful pleasure object that feels like a sophisticated addition to the love-life you share together. They are beautifully packaged too, which makes them the best toy to buy your partner as a gift.


 

 

 

Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator!
Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator for skin-on-skin thrills
Feelztoys Tongue Toys - £26 - Two tiny tongue vibes, one for each of you!
Feelztoys Tongue Toys – £26 – Two tiny tongue vibes (one for each of you!)

 

A vibrator slipped onto a finger or tongue makes a great toy for couples, adding a tingly vibe wherever it touches…

These toys simply add a different sensation to oral or manual play; a sensation your finger or tongue ( no matter how expert!) can’t deliver on its own. Playful and novel, they are made for couples sex!


 

Dual Bullet Vibrator - £24 - Tiny, intense and one each!
Dual Bullet Vibrator – £24 – Tiny, intense and one each!

 

Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches..
Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches…
Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator – £10 – Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex

An egg or bullet vibrator also makes a good toy for couples to share. Small and discreet they can be cupped in the hand, held against the cheek or nuzzled against your clitoris during sex, without ‘getting in the way’

Less of a financial investment than a luxury, designer vibrator, these toys are ideal if you would like to explore adding a buzz without breaking the bank.


 

 

3. Best Hands-Free Toys to Enhance Intercourse.

Intercourse features top of the menu for most M/F couples, but less than 20% of women can climax through penetration alone. This isn’t anything to feel inadequate about, just a fact that women usually need external clitoral stimulation in order to reach the Big O.

So any toy that stimulates your clitoris during intercourse makes a great sex toy.

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65

An intercourse vibrator is specially designed for you wear inside, whilst still leaving enough room for him to slip inside too

Toys such as the We-Vibe or Noa will stimulate your clitoris and G-Spot at the same time, delivering amazing hands-free, dual stimulation.

 

 

LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9
LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9

These toys are an investment, so another good option is a vibrating ring worn on his penis will vibrate your clitoris during penetrative sex, adding that all-important extra stimulation. For him, they deliver a pleasurable squeeze to keep his erection stronger, for longer.

Both of these toys will give him a vibrating thrill as well – now that’s sharing!


 

 

4. Best Toys to Spice-Up Dates.

Great sex is all about shared intimacy and playfulness, so what better way for couples to add an extra thrill to date-night but to play with a remote-controlled vibrator, with one of you controlling the buzz and the other receiving.

 

 

Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35

 

A remote-controlled vibrator or pair of remote vibrating panties can be worn, and played with, discreetly in public.

Operating with many meters of distance between you and delivering a  range of escalating and throbbing patterns to surprise, delight and tease, no matter how far you or your playmate wanders, you’ll both feel connected with a shared sense of secret ‘naughtiness’

… and there’s no reason why the bullet can’t be slipped into his Y-fronts and you control the remote!


 

 

5. Best for Long-Distance Love Affairs

We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
Kiiroo Onyx £150 Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Onyx –  Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator - Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator – Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women

 

Technology has finally caught up with the fact that many a modern relationship is often separated by miles between you or may even be a purely interweb affair.

Sex toys that can be controlled by and operated within secure apps address this by introducing intimate thrills and shared connection even when couples are continents apart.

Not cheap (and certainly not for technophobes!) these toys are playthings for a brave new world!

 

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How to use a g-Spot Vibrator

How to Use an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

A vibrating egg or bullet vibrator is much smaller than a standard vibrator, and specifically designed for clitoral stimulation, though, of course it will deliver its thrills anywhere it touches, so they are great for nipples, toes and men’s bits too!

( they are not ok for anal-play, though, as we explain later..)

Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator (£10) Small, Strong, with a simple, single speed

Starting at just £10 with single, strong speed, bullets and eggs are some of the most affordable and easy to operate vibrators available.

Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator (£19) Strong and quiet, with stimulating soft sleeve, 3 speeds + pulse settings.
Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator (£19) Strong and quiet, with stimulating soft sleeve, 3 speeds + pulse settings.

And because they are ALL about clitoral pleasure, bullets and eggs are often the kind we recommend as a beginners vibrator to women coming to our store for first orgasm advice.

Their discreet size also makes them a great couples toy and because they are purely external pleasure providers, there’s no chance of your partner feeling threatened or ‘replaced’ ( which can happen with more penetrative-shaped toys)

How to Use an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

Warning! Bullet and egg vibrators can be STRONG!

This is because of 2 reasons:

  1. Their petite proportions means the vibrations from the motor inside don’t have far to travel, making them bundles of buzzing jumping beans!
  2. They are often made of  plastic; a sex toy material that doesn’t absorb vibration ( like softer materials can) so a lot of power is transmitted, with super-efficiency, along its smooth, sleek surface.

This is great news if you need / enjoy intense stimulation but can  blow the socks of you, if you are new to vibration.

Everyone feels things differently, but if you are trying a vibrating egg or bullet vibrator for the first time, try approaching your clitoris from the side, starting on the gentlest vibrator setting.

Many women are most responsive to clitoral stimulation on the sides of their clitoris, rather than directly on it, which can actually feel too intense to be pleasurable and some women even find painful.

Imagining the clitoris as a clock-face,  this means 10-11am or 1-2pm on the ‘clit-face’ rather than high noon!

Explore the whole area, focusing on where it feels really good.

Sh! Secret Vibrator (£35) Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings
Sh! Secret Vibrator (£35) Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings

A really powerful vibrating egg, like the Sh! Secret, can be great for clit stimulation, especially if you can find it difficult to orgasm – we’ve recommended this vibrator to many pre-orgasmic women, who have since experienced their very first orgasm.

How to Hold an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

Holding a super-powerful egg-shaped or bullet vibrator can sometimes turn your fingers numb – we call this ‘getting vibrator-hand’. If this happens to you, simply nestle your vibe between your lady-lips, lie back and enjoy the vibrating sensations hands-free.

Or, if the sensation offered by your vibrating egg or bullet vibrator feels too powerful for your clitoris, try cupping the toy in the palm of your hand and enjoy subtle vibrations felt through your fingertips instead.

If your vibrating egg or bullet vibe has a cable running from the bullet to the battery pack, remember to treat it gently. Pulling to hard at the cord can cause it to loosen and will eventually damage your toy.

Tips & Tricks to Try with an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

  • A vibrating egg or bullet  is small and discreet enough to cup against your clitoris to offer the extra stimulation you may need to orgasm during intercourse with a partner.
  • A good trick is to rest the egg or bullet length-ways, allowing the vibrations to diffuse over the whole vulva area. You’ll likely find this builds arousal and gets you very excited – the outer lips, (Labia Majora), are an oft-overlooked area, but are highly sensitive.
  • These vibrators feel good to men too. Place the small bullet vibe at the base of his penis, or run a vibrating egg along his perineum for thrilling orgasms!
  • Egg vibes haven’t been designed for use internally, but if you’d like to slip it inside anyway: simply slide the egg into a condom so you can safely remove it without pulling on the cord.
  • Egg vibrators with a cord leading to a separate battery pack may seem cumbersome but actually it can be easier and more seamless to operate the settings with a controller in your hand, rather than trying to find the +/- buttons on a toy between your legs! Another advantage is that you can hand the control to your partner and let them take you on a vibrating journey – a great way to discover new ways to play… and orgasm!

 

Please Note: Egg-shaped or bullet vibrators are not safe for anal play

Even when covered in a condom. They are too small and may easily get sucked up by the very strong muscles inside, leaving you needing a trip to A&E, sharpish. If you would like to try anal pleasure, please choose an anal vibrator instead, as these have guards on the base making them totally safe for anal play