How to Use a Double Dildo

How to Use a Strapless Dildo- Strap-On Sex without a Harness

A Strapless  dildo is essentially a double dildo, designed for a couple to play with together,  to offer strap-on style sex without one partner having to wear a harness to keep a dildo in place.

Where this totally different kind of dildo differs for a regular double dildo is in shape – rather than being long and straight, a Strapless is curved , which can range from a pronounced U-shape  to more of a subtle upward bend…

And unlike a traditional double dildo, which has two ends that are equal(ish) in size, the two ends of a Strapless dildo are very different: there’s a smaller egg-shaped dildo at one end and a longer external dildo at the other.

A strapless dildo is a sex toy designed to be ‘worn’ by a woman – she slides the smaller egg/bulb-shaped dildo inside her vagina, gripping the narrow neck with her pc muscles to keep it in place. The counter-balancing weight of external dildo means that the egg rests against the front wall of the her vagina, massaging her G-Spot area.

The larger external dildo then stands out in front of her, ready to satisfy her female lover vaginally or anally, or her male lover, anally, hands-free.

Most popular in store as a lesbian sex toy, Strapless dildos can also be enjoyed for pegging.

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Best Position for Strapless Dildos

Even with a powerful PC Muscle grip, it can be tricky for the wearer/operator of a strapless dildo to keep it inside herself.  Lube, natural wetness, gravity and her partner’s body and movements pulling the dildo away from her, can all combine and conspire to to create a situation where even the fittest PC can’t body-builder can’t combat.

The easiest position to combat any frustrating ‘slippage’ is receiver on top and this is definitely the position we recommend for beginners to strapless play.

The ‘operator’  lies on her back, and slips the smaller dildo inside herself. This works because she’s not fighting gravity trying to grip hold of the dildo and she can also clamp her legs together, preventing it from slipping out.

Her partner climbs aboard the external dildo and the couple move together, enjoying simultaneous penetration, close body contact and, if the strapless dildo features a bullet vibrator,  added vibrating thrills on top.

 

Pros of a Strapless Dildo

  • There’s little interruption of sex and no struggling into a harness.
  • You both get to experience the same feelings of penetration.
  • Hands-free pleasure – meaning your hands are free to pleasure, stroke and tweak elsewhere!
  • Strapless dildos offer fabulous body to body contact with your lover and can feel incredibly intimate as you have to stay close to prevent it slipping out!
  • Strapless double dildos are great for grinding together.

Cons of a Strapless Dildo

  • Strapless double dildos can be tricky to use. They are quite heavy for the operator to grip inside – practice by walking around with your strapless in place (…or when doing the housework!) – it’s a great way to acquire strong  PC muscles you’ll need to be a strapless queen.
  • Even for strapless queens, they are not best suited for wild thrusting. For feverish strokes you really need the security of a harness. Luckily, all strapless dildos can be worn with a Strap on Harness, giving you the option to ‘strap it on’ to extend your repertoire.
  • Pegging / anal play is more difficult to pull off with a strapless, than vaginal pleasuring, simply because of the strong sphincture muscles – make sure you spend lots of time relaxing anal muscles before you go in!

Different Kinds of Strapless

  • Feeldoe Strapless: We can thank Tantus, a US-based company, for being the first company to conceive of a totally novel double dildo, designed by a woman, for women, way back in 1997.  Called the Feeldoe, it was the world’s first strapless double dildo.

Tantus Feeldoe Different Size ComparisonWe carry 4 different Feeldoe. The bulb/egg end is the same size and shape across the range (2.5 x 1.5 inch) It is the external dildo that changes in size and, thus weight*

*Size queens should remember the heavier the external dildo, the more difficult it is for the operator to keep inside herself, especially standing or on-top positions. We give all vital statistics, including weight, in the Technical Info tab, on each Strapless product page.

Designed with a semi-realistic style, each Feeldoe has a removable bullet vibrator in a pocket in the base, which adds a subtle vibrating thrill for both the giver and the receiver.


 

  • Sh! Strapless: We designed our strapless after trying the Feeldoe and finding it a bit too heavy to keep a grip upon and unwieldy to operate.  We loved the concept, but felt the egg to external dildo ratio balance could be improved.

So we designed a  strapless with a more pronounced U-shape and larger egg, ergonomically-tilted and shaped for G-Spot massage and with a more pronounced neck to keep it inside.

Weight is also a factor in being able to keep a grip on a strapless, so we designed our strapless to be the lightest of all.

At 257 gms, it is much lighter than the smallest strapless in both other ranges; Feeldoe Slim (452gm) and Fun Factory Share XS ( 300gm)

Sh! Strapless Dildo

We also wanted to offer a strapless that wasn’t even remotely ‘dick-shaped’.

A strapless extending out from between your legs can certainly be hot for playing with gender or role-play games, but it’s also simply a toy that offers close, intimate hand-free penetrative pleasure for both partners, so we wanted to offer an alternative to the more ‘realistic’ styles of Feeldoe and Fun Factory strapless dildos.

We based the external dildo of Sh! Strapless on our best-selling cupid dildo , with a curvy, sensual shape shaft  that 1000’s of you enjoy…

Designed and hand-produced in our London studio,, we offer it as a vibrating Sh! strapless, with a removeable bullet in its base or regular non- vibrating Sh! strapless, for peeps who don’t want to be fiddling with added vibration.

 


Fun Factory strapless are called Share; a unique range conceived, designed and manufactured in Germany.

Fun Factory Share Strapless Size Difference
Fun Factory Share Strapless Size Difference

There’s a difference in the feel of the silicone used in Share strapless; whereas Feeldoe and Sh! Strapless use silicone that is glossy and sleek, Share feel soft, dry and velvety…

Share comes in  3 very different sizes, a bit like the 3 bears!

The smallest Share is the smallest strapless available and, in our opinion it’s the best strapless made for pegging

The XL Share is the other side of the spectrum and is the largest strapless available  – you will need powerful PC muscles to keep a grip on this beast!

At 6 inches long, the regular Share is the best-selling size in Fun Factory’s strapless range.

Fun Factory also offer a unique vibrating strapless, called ShareVibe, which is more based on a vibrator, than a dildo, and offers different vibration setting, including throbbing and escalating patterns to take both partners on a journey of sensations together.

 

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Different Types of Dildos

People often get confused about the difference between a dildo and a vibrator. At Sh! we distinguish simply;  Any toy with the primary purpose of penetration, we call a ‘dildo’. It can sometimes vibrate, but internal pleasure, rather than vibrating thrills is its main job spec.

Stroked in and out, a perfectly shaped and sized dildo will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings that surround the vaginal and anal entrances and further inside there’s the G-Spot  and Prostate to explore. These female and males ‘sweet spots’ offer orgasmic potential that is quite different to clitoral and penile orgasms.

But with so many different types of dildos,  which is right type for you?

Silicone Dildos

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 40  different sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

Whether for solo or partner-play, Sh! Silicone dildos are the best, most versatile dildo you can buy.

Yes, we admit we’re biased! But our artisan range, which is  hand-poured in our London studio, using pure silicone means there’s a bespoke, ethically-made dildo for everyone…

 

Body-safe, sensual and very easy to clean, they can be held in your hand or worn in a strap on harness.

Their wide bases also makes them totally safe to use as dildos for anal play.

Buying a dildo is a very personal choice, of course.  ‘One size’ most definitely does NOT fit all and that’s why we make almost 40 different sizes of silicone dildos from petite upwards.

Only you can know if you, or your lover would prefer a short dildo, or a long dildo, a  slim dildo, or a wide dildo, but we can give you the following dildo buying advice:

 

What Size Dildo?

  • Width is the most important measurement to get right, as a dildo that’s just too ‘girthy’ will not please.
  • Length is less important, as you can always control how far to put it inside.
  • If you plan to wear your dildo in a harness, however, you should opt for a longer one than you may think as a couple of usable inches are lost when a dildo is ‘strapped on’

If this is you are a first-time buyer, read up on how to choose your first dildo.

 

 


 

Dildos For Two

Double Ended Dildos
Double-ended dildos are extra-long, with a dildo at each end for each partner to enjoy…

Double dildos  come in two types: traditional and strapless.

Traditional double-ended dildos are extra-long dildos designed to use with a partner.

There’s a shaft at each end for each of you to enjoy, either vaginally or anally.

You move the double dildo between yourselves using a pull me/push me motion.

A double dildo offers simultaneous voyeuristic and physical pleasures as you both get to see AND experience penetration together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless dildos  are designed for strap on-style sex with a partner, without the need of a harness.

A U-shaped double dildo, featuring one internal (egg-shaped) and one external (longer) dildo.

The “operator” grips the internal dildo inside her (using her PC Muscles) whilst she penetrates her lover with the external dildo.

A strapless dildo is best for subtle moves, rather than wild thrusting, as it doesn’t offer the same security of a dildo worn in a harness.

 


 

Dildos To Strap-On

 

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A dildo worn with a harness offers more security & adaptability than a strapless; the harness holds the dildo securely to your body, meaning you can move more freely.

The other advantage is that you can interchange the dildo, up or down-sizing as the fancy (and your dildo collection) takes you…

One partner wears a dildo ‘strapped-on’ , either onto their hips, with a regular Strap-On  Harness or onto their leg, using a Thigh Harness.

The dildo is then ready to offer her partner penetrative pleasure, either vaginally or anally.

A Strap-On is a classic lesbian sex toy,  but it’s becoming increasingly popular with straight couples who are discovering the delights and orgasmic potential of pegging.

Dildos worn in a harness must have a flared/wide base to prevent them slipping out of the harness.

A flared base on a dildo is also crucial for safe anal play.

All Sh! silicone dildos are harness compatible and anal safe.


 

Dildos For Sensation

Glass G-Spot Dildo £37
Hard dildos, made of glass or steel offer amazing sensations that the G-Spot & Prostate particularly enjoy…

Dildos made from glass or metal offer a delicious weightiness that other dildos can’t…

It’s a weight and firmness that the G-Spot & Prostate respond to really well.

These dildos also feel super sleek and sensual. With just a touch of lube, they simply glide inside with unbelievable ease…

They can also be gently warmed, or chilled, to offer different temperature sensations.

Glass and metal dildos offer unique penetrative pleasure which is very different to a regular dildo and most of our customers who try them, rave about the exquisite sensations they deliver.

Designed to be hand-held, they cannot be worn as strap-on.

 

 

So that’s our run down on the main different types of dildos, but we have loads more advice about choosing and using a dildo

Check out these sections to discover more…

 

lesbian sex toys advice

Top 6 Lesbian Sex Toys

Most sex toys bought by lesbians in our store are bought as a couple, primarily to play with and enjoy together, though, as with most sex toys, many lesbian faves can be enjoyed for solo sessions as well.

Here’s the Top 6 lesbian sex toys sold at Sh!

1. Lube: A True Lesbian Essential.

Lube enhances every kind of sex and keeps the pleasure going on ...and on
Lube enhances every kind of sex and keeps lesbian pleasure going on …and on …and on!

Lube is one of the best lesbian sex toys there is and we’d say lube heads up our list of top lesbian sex toys by a mile.

Lesbian sex is circular and can go on and on and on… We’ve had many a lesbian couple at Sh! say they just got out of bed after three days of non-stop sex.

Women can have multiple orgasms: get two women together and the possibilities are endless!

However turned-on you are and however hot your lover, when sex can go on for days, no body’s natural juices can keep up with that kind of intensity and that’s why a bottle of good lube is standard fare beside most lesbian beds.

Choosing the right lube for your bodies, and for any sex toys you may be playing with, is key to loving it and we find that our lesbian customers are probably the most in-tune-with-lube customer group we meet.

2. Strap On: No Lesbian Fallacy!

Best Strap On Kit £99
Best Strap On Kit £99

A strap-on may be a stereotypical lesbian toy, beloved of porn films and ‘who’s the man?’  jokes.

The pleasures of a strap-on are many, but in our experience, most lesbian couples enjoy strap-on play simply because it provides intimacy and thrilling penetration whilst leaving both partners’ hands free for exploring elsewhere…

In our London studio, we hand-produce quality silicone dildos, soft, leather harnesses to strap on and specially selected strap on kits and we’re happy to say our famous strap-ons have satisfied thousands of lesbian customers worldwide.

 

 

3. Strapless Dildos: New Lesbian Sex Toy on the Block

Strapless dildos provide strap-on style sex without the need of a harness
Strapless dildos provide strap-on style sex without the need of a harness

Strapless dildos such as Sh! Strapless Vibrating Dildo, Tantus Feeldoe and  Fun Factory Share  are designed to give even more intimacy to strap on sex by removing the the need of a harness.

Strapless dildos were cautiously embraced by lesbian couples when they hit the shelves a few years back and, at first, they recieved mixed reviews from gay girl couples; some found using a strapless dildo tricky & frustrating, whilst other couples loved the intimacy and connection these sex toys provide.

The trick is to know how to use a strapless dildo and not to expect the same moves you can use with a regular strap-on.

Strapless dildos are better for grinding together rather than thrusting – they are hot sex toys for leisurely, intimate lesbian sex, rather than wild, rip ’em off lesbian sex!

 

4. Extra thrills for lesbian fingers & tongues

Pair Finger Tip Vibrators £15
Pair Finger Tip Vibrators £15
Feelztoys Tongue Toys £26
Feelztoys Tongue Toys £26

What three things do lesbians use most in bed? Their hands, their mouths and their imagination!

Manual-play and cunnilingus are often the bedrock of lesbian sex so choosing a finger or tongue vibrator for an extra buzz is a fun and inexpensive way to add playful new thrills to old favorites.

Vibrators for tongues or vibrators worn on a finger are a top ‘add-on’ purchase for lesbian couples instore (as once spied , imaginations soar!) with Feelztoys tongue and finger vibes topping the list as they come in pairs; one for each of you to  wear when hands or mouth are heading in the knicker direction!

 

 5. Non-Phallic Toys

In our experience, most lesbian couples don’t want overtly phallic-shaped dildos and vibrators.

No wonder – many lesbians have been told that what they really need is a ‘good man to sort them out’!

We don’t stock “realistic” sex toys, so most of our sex toys, whether an interesting dildo or stylish vibe,  get the thumbs up from our lesbian customers.

 

6. Traditional Double Dildos for Sharing Lesbian Penetrative Pleasure

Double dildos offer lesbian couples simultaneous physical and voyeuristic pleasures!

Not quite as popular as mainstream lesbian porn films would have us believe, but double dildos still makes our top 6 lesbian sex toy list, as thankfully the sex toy design revolution has moved them on from the old-school sex toys of yore.

 

Ideal for couples who both enjoy penetration and would like to enjoy it together, a double dildo is simply an extra-long dildo with a penetrative portion at each end; one for each of you.

Not the easiest toy in the box, but once you learn how  how to use a double dildo  the mix of shared sensations and hot visuals can be a head mix.

Birthday Offer 13: FREE Lush Lubricant

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Deal of the Day:

Buy a Wirly Girly 36 Double Dildo and receive a bottle of our
bestselling Lush Lube for FREE!

Produced in super-safe silicone, the Wirly Girly 36 was designed by permanently fusing together two of our most popular slim dildos to form a flexible and user-friendly double dildo. The combined length is just right for the pull-me-push-me motion involved in double dildo play.

With one end offering a slimmer dildo and the other providing a little more girth, this double dildo offers choice for lovers who have different penetrative appetites (or for those who just fancy a change now and then!).

Hypoallergenic and non-porous, the Wirly Girly 36 is very easy to keep clean.

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Buy a Wirly Girly 36 Double Dildo today  and receive a FREE bottle of Lush Lube 250ml!

Made in the UK for Sh!, this is luxurious water-based lube has a non-greasy formula and a light, liquid texture that will make you feel wet and stay wet!

The small amount of silicone in its ingredients makes Lush lubricant feel more like a lotion than a lube until you use it that it; it’s long lasting, feels super slippery on the skin but never goes sticky or tacky – it simply absorbs into the skin.

Let us know you want the free bottle of Lush Lube 250ml, along with your purchase of a Wirly Girly 36 Double Dildo by sending us a Happy Birthday message in the comments box of your order!

 This offer is valid today only (April 13th). Check back tomorrow for a hot new deal!

How to Use a Double Dildo

How to Use a Double Dildo

Double Ender. Double Headed. Double Dildo. Double Dong (eww!)…

Known by many names but a double dildo is quite simply a sex toy, designed for two to share, to deliver penetrative pleasure to each partner simultaneously.

They come in two distinct styles; either extra-long with a dildo at each end, or curved in shape, with one longer and one smaller dildo.

Each style offers offers quite a different sexual experience for both partners and each have their own pros, cons and best positions to enjoy them in…

How to Use a Traditional Double-Ended Dildo

A traditional double-ended dildo is extra-long with a shaft at each end for each partner to enjoy together, either vaginally and/or anally.
You lie, sit facing or back up to each other with your genitals close together. One end is for you, and the other is for your lover…

With either, or both, of you gripping the middle portion of the dildo, it’s moved between you using a pull-me/push-me motion.

Double Ended Dildos
Double dildos are extra-long,with a dildo at each end for each partner to enjoy…

Best  Position for Double-Ended Dildo Play: Scissors 

Prop yourselves up with pillows and position one leg over each others opposite leg, so that you can get really up close and personal in the pubic area.

Slip each end of the dildo inside each of you and take it in turns to reach one hand under your propped leg to move the dildo between you.

Pros of Double-Ended Dildos

  • Playing with a double-ended dildo is voyeuristic and sexy, as you see yourselves/each other enjoying action together.
  • Using a double-ended dildo can feel intimately close as you share exactly the same activity and sensations,  as your lover.

Cons of Double-Ended Dildos

  • They can be tricky to co-ordinate.
  • Most double-ended dildos have the same size dildo at each end, leaving no leeway for lovers with different penetrative appetites.
  • Not a huge choice – Often the stuff of lesbian porn, many styles of double-ended dildos are ‘flesh-coloured’ ( who’s??!) and ‘realistic’ – you won’t find them here but this does mean that sensual, stylish designs are a bit thin on the ground.

 

 How to Use a Strapless Double Dildo

A Strapless is a new-style double dildo, specially designed for strap-on style sex, without wearing a harness...
A Strapless is a new-style double dildo, specially designed for strap-on style sex, without wearing a harness…

A newer version of a double dildo is a Strapless or  ‘harness-free’) dildo.

A Strapless is a curved or U-shaped dildo with a smaller egg-shaped dildo at one end and a longer dildo at the other.

Strapless double dildos are designed to be enjoyed for strap-on style sex,  with no interruption to play and nothing between you, but the dildo. Like a traditional double dildo, they offer both players the pleasure of simultaneous double penetration, but with this style there is a ‘do-er’ and a ‘receiver’

The ‘wearer’ doesn’t need to put on a strap-on harness to hold the dildo in place but instead she uses her body to hold and operate the dildo.

She slips the smaller bulb/egg-shaped end inside herself,  gripping it with her PC muscle.

The longer shaft extends outside of her, ready for her female or male partner to hop on and enjoy,  either vaginally or anally.

Strapless double dildos offer close, body-to- body contact and are best suited for grinding together, rather than long penetrative strokes or wild moves.

We’ve written more about how to use a strapless dildo here. ..

Favourite Sex Toys This Week

Well, its monday again and time to give you a peek into what sex toy are our customer favourites this week!

Well. there are some new favourites to report – after a really busy day, the Sh! Girlz have counted up two clear favourite sex toys that have been flying g off our shelves…

1. The We Vibe II
The We Vibe II is an updated version of the original We-Vibe, but the We Vibe 2 has nine different settings of vibration! Deigned as a vibrator for couples to use during intercourse, lots of ladiez have told us it also makes a great solo clit and G-Spot vibe!

2. Double Dildo
We’ve also had a rush on double dildos today – a lesbian sex toy which is great for G-spot play. The Vibrating Double Dildo comes with a dual buzz, and can be separated to make sharing that bit easier! We’ve also seen lots of Flexible Double Dildos selling – a gorgeous dildo which can be bent into any shape you like, and stays that way, due to a flexible ‘spine’ within the dildo. They’ve both been very popular this weekend

So, those are a couple of today’s favourites – enjoy!