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Top 3 Sex Trends in 2017

The world of sex is one that is always evolving, and we are always excited to discover new toys (often), new positions (less often) and all sorts of excellent tips & tricks for getting off.

Sex may not seem like something that should be ‘trendy’ but much like the latest pubic hair style (fluffy, if you’re asking – it’s cold!) or knickers (tummy-hugging – still cold!), different types of sex goes in and out of fashion.

2017 has been a particularly juicy year for sexual discovery, but we have managed to narrow it down to three major trends during 2017 – check it out:

Men Enjoy Anal Stimulation

Going by what our customers are asking about, it seems to us that men are becoming more open to the idea of having their back entrances played with.

However, when journalist and all-round badass Violet Fenn recently wrote an article about pegging, readers of Metro were quick to shut down the notion that the prostate gland could indeed be a pleasurable body part, with one reader suggesting Ms Fenn should be sacked for such an outrageous suggestion. We, of course, salute Violet & Metro for their ballsy approach – and not just coz we’re in the article! :p

‘Pegging’ is a term that has been used for some years now, originating in the U.S (take that, Mr President!), and it has slowly made its way over here. By definition, pegging is when a woman wears a strap-on and anally penetrates her partner with the dildo. It may not be for everyone, but we can reveal that more couples than ever are getting their rocks off this way.

Our Vibrating Strap On Dildo Kit (below) has everything you need to get started, so why not see the year out with a bang and try something new?

Best Pegging Dildo Set

Suction Sex Toys Are Blowing Minds

You might have read the word suction and have been instantly put off, but bear with us:  these marvellous air tech toys have been true showstoppers in the world of sex toys of 2017.

Suction sex toys feature a small, round-ish silicone tip that nestles around the clitoris, creating a rumbling effect with vacuum-style suction for quick, high-intensity orgasms. With 8000 nerve-endings at the very tip of the clit, these toys offer incredibly pleasurable stimulation and are very reliable for banging orgasms.

We sent a member of staff home with a couple of different designs, as we wanted an unbiased comparison between market-leaders Womanizer and Satisfyer Pro (it’s a hard job, but someone gotta do it!). Read her post on the differences between the Womanizer vs Satisfyer Pro here.

If you’re looking for something slightly smaller and cuter looking, we recommend taking a look at Satisfyer Pro Penguin Clitoral Suction Toy below.

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Beyond the Binary

‘They’ are becoming more common as ‘her’ or ‘him’ doesn’t feel right for everyone, and is often seen on social media profiles to ensure correct pronoun be used. It will take a while yet, but maybe it’s time to introduce a specific word like the Swedish “hen” (which fits in nicely with hon/her and han/him).

A large portion of our shop customers identifies as queer in its newer meaning (it has evolved from ‘gay’ or ‘lesbian’ to encompass a wider reference of gender and/or sexuality) and we expect this group will continue to grow.

The term ‘pansexuality’ has been used a lot this year and it seems we are reaching a point where more people feel comfortable being attracted to a person regardless of their gender. We realise this could be a result of cosmopolitan living and it may not be the case where you live; input from non-Londoners would be interesting.

We have always been big advocates of fluid sexuality and we’re embracing this new wave of acceptance and exploration of gender. Let’s hope there is plenty more in store for 2018!

 

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Penis vs Dildo: Can You Smell Them Apart?

An intrepid journo recently sent us a few questions about similarities between penises and dildos, and the likelihood of a person being about to tell the two apart.

We’re not all into penises (maybe we’re all into dildos but for the purposes of comparison, we needed someone who regularly handles the male pleasure package), so we asked our penile expert; a woman with several years active service in the field under her belt.

Here’s what she had to say:

Smell The Difference

A  penis does have a faint odor of Eau De Dick about it, just like a vagina has a distinctive scent. It’s a mix of musk and sweat, which is rather pleasant for a genuine cock-connoisseur.

Washing handsA freshly-washed peen will smell strongly of soap with a hint of male in the fleshy folds.

A clean silicone dildo is odourless, but a used one will smell of the lube used (raspberry can be rather refreshing) and also of lush lady-box (if that’s the orifice in which it was used).

A used dildo that’s been thrown under the bed after use will probably smell unpleasant – I’m not quite sure and I’d rather not find out.

A jelly dildo will have a noxious, toxic smell, especially if it’s brand new and straight out of the packaging. It will also feel rather “sweaty” to the touch and the pungent smell is offensive to most people.

A used jelly-dil  hasn’t graced my bedroom in the last 10 years so I can’t comment on the smell of that.

In conclusion: a person with some experience of peens should be able to smell the difference.

Look-A-Likey

Modern ‘realistic’ dildos are made from dense silicone with details like vein and head colour,  added by hand. The shaft may, from a distance and if you are squinting, be mistaken for the ‘real thing’ if it is poking out from the zip of someone’s jeans.

realistic vibrator

However, if you were to take a closer look at a realistic-looking dong, you’ll notice the following:

  1. The balls are not floppy and lack pubic hair/stubble
  2. It’s not attached to a living, breathing person (a particularly good hint)

A living, breathing dick has blood pumping through it and will twitch and bob around (a clever dick can do this on command).

A  penis can and will lose its erection every now and then. That’s just how they work and you shouldn’t be offended by this. A dildo has a constant hard-on which, in my opinion, can be very useful.

A penis leaves ‘evidence’ before, during and after sex, supposing a condom is not used.

PackersNote: a flaccid packing-dildo (often used by Trans Men) poking out of a pair of briefs can be harder to spot – up close, you might notice it is covered in corn flour to avoid stickiness though.

Packing dildos are not for having sex with, they are far too floppy for that. The purpose of a packer is to create a nice bulge in the groin area.

In conclusion: a person familiar with penises and/or dildos should be able to tell the two apart (especially if found in a box under the bed).

Heating System

A real-life dick has a built-in radiator (blood flow) and a dildo does not.

A dildo can be warmed up, for sure, but it lacks blood flow and therefore feels “dead” in your hand. It doesn’t react to handling like a peen does. Its glans does not grow just before popping its cork and whilst there are squirting dildos, most do not offer this action.

In conclusion: a dildo can be warmed up but not from the inside like  a penis.

To the untrained eye, it may be tricky to tell them apart from a distance but as a general rule, dildos do not look, smell or behave like homegrown peens.

And if it’s shoved at the back of the wardrobe, it’s definitely a dildo!

Strap-On Sex For Lesbians

Strap-On Sex For Lesbians

Whilst we know strap-on sex isn’t for everyone, we want to highlight all the fun that can be had with strap-ons for those who of you who are interested in giving it a try. Using a strap-on is a learned skill – but we’re sure you’ll agree the time it takes to master is time well spent!

Why would you use a strap-on?

Well, there’s a simple answer to that: coz it’s fun!

A dildo worn in a strap-on creates a toy for any couple who enjoy penetrative sex together
A dildo worn in a strap-on creates a toy for any couple who enjoy penetrative sex together.

Using a strap-on is a magnificent way of getting close to and pleasuring your partner in a whole new way. Wearing a strap-on is super-sexy, and there is every possibility that the wearer may orgasm from the sensual rubbing of the harness against her labia and clit as she rocks and rolls against her partner.

Flipping the coin, the partner on the receiving end gets to enjoy pressure, thrusting and rocking, and may well orgasm from this stimulation too.

Bonus: both partners has hands free to play with nipples, clits or any other body part within easy reach!

A little bit of anatomy and biology is needed here: when a woman becomes aroused, the outer third of the vagina narrows and becomes tighter, whilst the inner two thirds balloons and ‘lifts’. This lifting effect can make the woman feel like she wants something inside, something that fills her. At this point it can feel fantastic to have something to squeeze against, like a finger or a dildo.

Squeezing the PC muscle around a dildo can help heighten arousal and likelihood of reaching orgasm, and the pressure of a dildo against the G-spot could potentially result in a wet orgasm. This is nothing to worry about – just put a towel on the bed and carry on coming!

Many women love having their cervix stimulated, and this is best done with the help of a longer toy. The C-spot has become a “thing” and we have a guide to the A-Z of Hot Spots if you fancy learning more about erogenous zones.

First things first: for strap-on sex, you’ll need a well-made harness.

Here are a few helpful tricks for choosing a harness for strap-on sex.

Choosing a harness may seem tricky – we know this from conversations with customers in our shop; there are so many different types to choose from! So therefore, we have put together a short handy guide to help you find one that’ll work for you.

2-strap harness
Adjustable 2-strap harness
  • Are you likely to share the harness?

If the answer is yes,  you need to choose an adjustable harness. The harness needs to fit the person with the wider hips; the other person can easily tighten the straps to make the harness fit them too.

  • Do you want to wear your harness under clothes?

If you want to be ready for action at a moments notice, Superman-style, a thong harness or a panty-style harness is for you. These types of harnesses can only be shared if you are the same size, otherwise the harness will be too small for one and too large for another. They are great for occasional use, but if you want to use your strap-on regularly, we’d suggest investing in an adjustable harness as they’ll work even if you put on a few pounds.

  • Do you have lovely curvaceous hips?

If you or your partner are curvy, we recommend getting a harness with a wider back as this will sit more comfortably over your nice upholstering. There are even harnesses with beautiful corset-features to choose from!

  • Do you want to wear a large, heavy dildo?

Choosing a harness with a wider back will offer more support for your tool. Wearing a slim-backed harness with a heavy dildo may cause what we like to call dildo-droop – i.e, the dildo will point downwards.

  • Have a bad back?

Opting for a thigh harness is your best option. Your girl can easily sit on your knee and rock her way to fantastic orgasms… Also, by wearing a thigh harness each, you can easily penetrate and pleasure each other simultaneously.

Once a harness has been chosen, it’s time to move on to choosing a dildo.

How to choose a dildo?

Freshly Made DildosChoosing the right size dildo may seem mind-boggling, but we have a few handy tips.

Always choose a silicone dildo. Silicone is hypoallergenic and non-porous, and by far the best material for sex toys. Silicone is easy to keep clean, it warms up to body temperature in no time and it feels pretty much like skin.

So that’s easy to remember. But what about choosing the right size?

  • How big?

Actually, a dildo doesn’t need to be big to feel great; a small-size dildo can be equally pleasurable. It depends on the desires of the person on the receiving end, and these should always be taken into account – even if the wearer fancies herself wearing a King Dong…

We measure toys in fingers, so if you know how many fingers feel “just right”, we can help you find a dildo that fits. Is it one finger? Or maybe two fingers? A whole fist? Consider this, and you’ll be well on your way to finding the best dildo for you.

  • What about shape and length?

Again, the person on the receiving end needs to have a say in this. Do they fancy a long dildo or a short dildo? A girthy one? A  dildo with a built-in clitoral stimulator perhaps? The great thing about dildos is that they come in so many shapes and sizes, and there is one that’ll fit your needs perfectly!

Choosing a dildo that is slightly longer usually works well – an inch or so will be lost once the dildo has been placed in the harness. Factor in space between the bodies too, and a short dildo may become too short.

  • Good vibrations!

Millions of women rely on vibration to get off,  and if you belong to this group, it’s well worth upgrading to a vibrating dildo. With our vibrating dildos, you’ll both feel the beneficial buzz: a small bullet vibe slips into the base of the dildo, quickly transforming it into a silicone love wand of magic proportions! The wearer will feel the thrills over her pubic area, and the receiver will feel the vibrations inside. Yum!

  • Do you want a dildo to enjoy too?

No problem – we’ve got you covered! A dildo accessory allows the wearer to enjoy the feeling of penetration during strap-on sex too. Choose a slightly shorter dildo as it’ll be tightly strapped to you – a long dildo may be uncomfortable. The dildo accessory is also a great option if the wearer wants vibration, but the receiving partner doesn’t fancy it.

If you feel inspired and thinking about buying your first strap-on kit, we have a great selection on our website. Also, if you find yourself in East London, you may want to come along to one of our fun strap-on sex erotic classes – not only will we help you choose a strap-on, but we’ll serve bubbly and cup cakes too!

P.S: Don’t forget about the lube. Adding a drizzle of a lovely water-based lube to the strap-on dildo will only enhance and heighten the experience!

New Giveaway! A Unique Dildo, Inspired by Trans Pride

New Giveaway! A Unique Dildo, Inspired by Trans Pride

It’s been a little while since we had a giveaway but we’re super excited about this one…

We’ve been super arty ( and super patient!) in our studio and created an absolutely one-of-a kind-dildo, which could be yours!

 

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This very special silicone dildo is inspired by Trans Pride Flag.

The flag design was was created in 1999, by US trans-activist, Monica Helms, who explains;

trans-colours-dildo 220px-Transgender_Pride_flag.svg“The stripes at the top and bottom are light blue, the traditional colour for baby boys. The stripes next to them are pink, the traditional colour for baby girls. The stripe in the middle is white, for those who are intersex, transitioning or consider themselves having a neutral or undefined gender. The pattern is such that no matter which way you fly it, it is always correct, signifying us finding correctness in our lives’
July is pretty big in the trans calendar with both Sparkle the National Transgender Celebration and Trans Pride Brighton happening this month and we wanted to do something special to honour this.

We’ve recently introduced some new trans-related products such as binders and the Mr Fenis stand to pee device, and will be adding more as we source, and even create them – so watch this space…

And if there is something you’d like to see added to our range, just let us know!

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Q&A: Dildo dilemma

Q&A: Dildo dilemma

Hello, I’m so glad I can ask for advice. I feel a little embarrassed and don’t want to even tell my best friend. I recently ordered a dildo from your store to be shipped to the U.S. I ordered a large one because I thought it would be more filling and satisfying to try. I was having sexual urges to be filled. Mind you, I haven’t been sexually active in 10 years, still flying solo and didn’t realize how tight I would be from years of inactivity. I tried inserting my dildo but it is so painful I cannot even get the tip in. I added some of the lube that came with my order but still it really hurts and I cannot proceed. I have a really small vibrator but it’s too thin and never satisfied me. Now I think the girth is too large on my toy. I never had a problem with pain when I was sexually active in my younger years. I’m 38 years old now and had mostly female partners until I went celibate 10 years ago. Do you have any tips? If a vagina can open for a baby, why can’t i enjoy my masturbation? I just had a physical with my doctor too and she had to check my vaginal canal by inserting her fingers. We both agreed everything felt normal.

Thanks for any tips!

 

Hello here,

Many thanks for your email.

On this occasion, it may be that your eyes and fantasies were a bit bigger than your vaginal canal – this can sometimes happen…

The best way of gauging size is by using your fingers: how many fingers feel just right? One, two, three, or more? That’s the size toy to choose! This an be tricky to do when looking at photos on a website, but you can call us and we’ll be happy to help you with sizing.

Twista 2 Silicone DildoRather than just throwing away your new toy, you could try this: start off your play session by using just fingers and lube until you feel ready for penetration. Your body will tell you when this happens; you’ll recognize it as a deep ache of wanting to be filled. When that happens, the vagina starts expanding to make space for “more”. Invite your smaller-size vibe to join you, and tease yourself into a rampant state of readiness. At this point, and only at this point, try introducing your new dildo. Try different positions – it could be that you are more “open” when sitting on top for example, or with your knees pulled up to your chest.

If it’s still uncomfortable, the dildo is likely too large for you. The idea with a dildo is that you should feel filled and perhaps a little stretched,  but it shouldn’t be uncomfortable or painful.

Sometimes it could be the shape of the dildo – does it have a round, blunt tip? If so, a tapered tip dildo may work better for you.

Another thing to bear in mind is that our bodies change as we get older. The vaginal membranes naturally start to thin out and the vagina becomes drier and tighter – this is perfectly normal. Use lots of lube, and make sure to work on your arousal before attempting penetration.

Good luck!

Team Sh xx

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity.

How to Use a Double Dildo

How to Use a Strapless Dildo- Strap-On Sex without a Harness

A Strapless  dildo is essentially a double dildo, designed for a couple to play with together,  to offer strap-on style sex without one partner having to wear a harness to keep a dildo in place.

Where this totally different kind of dildo differs for a regular double dildo is in shape – rather than being long and straight, a Strapless is curved , which can range from a pronounced U-shape  to more of a subtle upward bend…

And unlike a traditional double dildo, which has two ends that are equal(ish) in size, the two ends of a Strapless dildo are very different: there’s a smaller egg-shaped dildo at one end and a longer external dildo at the other.

A strapless dildo is a sex toy designed to be ‘worn’ by a woman – she slides the smaller egg/bulb-shaped dildo inside her vagina, gripping the narrow neck with her pc muscles to keep it in place. The counter-balancing weight of external dildo means that the egg rests against the front wall of the her vagina, massaging her G-Spot area.

The larger external dildo then stands out in front of her, ready to satisfy her female lover vaginally or anally, or her male lover, anally, hands-free.

Most popular in store as a lesbian sex toy, Strapless dildos can also be enjoyed for pegging.

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Best Position for Strapless Dildos

Even with a powerful PC Muscle grip, it can be tricky for the wearer/operator of a strapless dildo to keep it inside herself.  Lube, natural wetness, gravity and her partner’s body and movements pulling the dildo away from her, can all combine and conspire to to create a situation where even the fittest PC can’t body-builder can’t combat.

The easiest position to combat any frustrating ‘slippage’ is receiver on top and this is definitely the position we recommend for beginners to strapless play.

The ‘operator’  lies on her back, and slips the smaller dildo inside herself. This works because she’s not fighting gravity trying to grip hold of the dildo and she can also clamp her legs together, preventing it from slipping out.

Her partner climbs aboard the external dildo and the couple move together, enjoying simultaneous penetration, close body contact and, if the strapless dildo features a bullet vibrator,  added vibrating thrills on top.

 

Pros of a Strapless Dildo

  • There’s little interruption of sex and no struggling into a harness.
  • You both get to experience the same feelings of penetration.
  • Hands-free pleasure – meaning your hands are free to pleasure, stroke and tweak elsewhere!
  • Strapless dildos offer fabulous body to body contact with your lover and can feel incredibly intimate as you have to stay close to prevent it slipping out!
  • Strapless double dildos are great for grinding together.

Cons of a Strapless Dildo

  • Strapless double dildos can be tricky to use. They are quite heavy for the operator to grip inside – practice by walking around with your strapless in place (…or when doing the housework!) – it’s a great way to acquire strong  PC muscles you’ll need to be a strapless queen.
  • Even for strapless queens, they are not best suited for wild thrusting. For feverish strokes you really need the security of a harness. Luckily, all strapless dildos can be worn with a Strap on Harness, giving you the option to ‘strap it on’ to extend your repertoire.
  • Pegging / anal play is more difficult to pull off with a strapless, than vaginal pleasuring, simply because of the strong sphincture muscles – make sure you spend lots of time relaxing anal muscles before you go in!

Different Kinds of Strapless

  • Feeldoe Strapless: We can thank Tantus, a US-based company, for being the first company to conceive of a totally novel double dildo, designed by a woman, for women, way back in 1997.  Called the Feeldoe, it was the world’s first strapless double dildo.

Tantus Feeldoe Different Size ComparisonWe carry 4 different Feeldoe. The bulb/egg end is the same size and shape across the range (2.5 x 1.5 inch) It is the external dildo that changes in size and, thus weight*

*Size queens should remember the heavier the external dildo, the more difficult it is for the operator to keep inside herself, especially standing or on-top positions. We give all vital statistics, including weight, in the Technical Info tab, on each Strapless product page.

Designed with a semi-realistic style, each Feeldoe has a removable bullet vibrator in a pocket in the base, which adds a subtle vibrating thrill for both the giver and the receiver.


 

  • Sh! Strapless: We designed our strapless after trying the Feeldoe and finding it a bit too heavy to keep a grip upon and unwieldy to operate.  We loved the concept, but felt the egg to external dildo ratio balance could be improved.

So we designed a  strapless with a more pronounced U-shape and larger egg, ergonomically-tilted and shaped for G-Spot massage and with a more pronounced neck to keep it inside.

Weight is also a factor in being able to keep a grip on a strapless, so we designed our strapless to be the lightest of all.

At 257 gms, it is much lighter than the smallest strapless in both other ranges; Feeldoe Slim (452gm) and Fun Factory Share XS ( 300gm)

Sh! Strapless Dildo

We also wanted to offer a strapless that wasn’t even remotely ‘dick-shaped’.

A strapless extending out from between your legs can certainly be hot for playing with gender or role-play games, but it’s also simply a toy that offers close, intimate hand-free penetrative pleasure for both partners, so we wanted to offer an alternative to the more ‘realistic’ styles of Feeldoe and Fun Factory strapless dildos.

We based the external dildo of Sh! Strapless on our best-selling cupid dildo , with a curvy, sensual shape shaft  that 1000’s of you enjoy…

Designed and hand-produced in our London studio,, we offer it as a vibrating Sh! strapless, with a removeable bullet in its base or regular non- vibrating Sh! strapless, for peeps who don’t want to be fiddling with added vibration.

 


Fun Factory strapless are called Share; a unique range conceived, designed and manufactured in Germany.

Fun Factory Share Strapless Size Difference
Fun Factory Share Strapless Size Difference

There’s a difference in the feel of the silicone used in Share strapless; whereas Feeldoe and Sh! Strapless use silicone that is glossy and sleek, Share feel soft, dry and velvety…

Share comes in  3 very different sizes, a bit like the 3 bears!

The smallest Share is the smallest strapless available and, in our opinion it’s the best strapless made for pegging

The XL Share is the other side of the spectrum and is the largest strapless available  – you will need powerful PC muscles to keep a grip on this beast!

At 6 inches long, the regular Share is the best-selling size in Fun Factory’s strapless range.

Fun Factory also offer a unique vibrating strapless, called ShareVibe, which is more based on a vibrator, than a dildo, and offers different vibration setting, including throbbing and escalating patterns to take both partners on a journey of sensations together.

 

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Different Types of Dildos

People often get confused about the difference between a dildo and a vibrator. At Sh! we distinguish simply;  Any toy with the primary purpose of penetration, we call a ‘dildo’. It can sometimes vibrate, but internal pleasure, rather than vibrating thrills is its main job spec.

Stroked in and out, a perfectly shaped and sized dildo will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings that surround the vaginal and anal entrances and further inside there’s the G-Spot  and Prostate to explore. These female and males ‘sweet spots’ offer orgasmic potential that is quite different to clitoral and penile orgasms.

But with so many different types of dildos,  which is right type for you?

Silicone Dildos

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 40  different sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

Whether for solo or partner-play, Sh! Silicone dildos are the best, most versatile dildo you can buy.

Yes, we admit we’re biased! But our artisan range, which is  hand-poured in our London studio, using pure silicone means there’s a bespoke, ethically-made dildo for everyone…

 

Body-safe, sensual and very easy to clean, they can be held in your hand or worn in a strap on harness.

Their wide bases also makes them totally safe to use as dildos for anal play.

Buying a dildo is a very personal choice, of course.  ‘One size’ most definitely does NOT fit all and that’s why we make almost 40 different sizes of silicone dildos from petite upwards.

Only you can know if you, or your lover would prefer a short dildo, or a long dildo, a  slim dildo, or a wide dildo, but we can give you the following dildo buying advice:

 

What Size Dildo?

  • Width is the most important measurement to get right, as a dildo that’s just too ‘girthy’ will not please.
  • Length is less important, as you can always control how far to put it inside.
  • If you plan to wear your dildo in a harness, however, you should opt for a longer one than you may think as a couple of usable inches are lost when a dildo is ‘strapped on’

If this is you are a first-time buyer, read up on how to choose your first dildo.

 

 


 

Dildos For Two

Double Ended Dildos
Double-ended dildos are extra-long, with a dildo at each end for each partner to enjoy…

Double dildos  come in two types: traditional and strapless.

Traditional double-ended dildos are extra-long dildos designed to use with a partner.

There’s a shaft at each end for each of you to enjoy, either vaginally or anally.

You move the double dildo between yourselves using a pull me/push me motion.

A double dildo offers simultaneous voyeuristic and physical pleasures as you both get to see AND experience penetration together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless dildos  are designed for strap on-style sex with a partner, without the need of a harness.

A U-shaped double dildo, featuring one internal (egg-shaped) and one external (longer) dildo.

The “operator” grips the internal dildo inside her (using her PC Muscles) whilst she penetrates her lover with the external dildo.

A strapless dildo is best for subtle moves, rather than wild thrusting, as it doesn’t offer the same security of a dildo worn in a harness.

 


 

Dildos To Strap-On

 

Starts Manufacturing Artisan, Hand-Made Silicone Dildos & Strap-Ons

A dildo worn with a harness offers more security & adaptability than a strapless; the harness holds the dildo securely to your body, meaning you can move more freely.

The other advantage is that you can interchange the dildo, up or down-sizing as the fancy (and your dildo collection) takes you…

One partner wears a dildo ‘strapped-on’ , either onto their hips, with a regular Strap-On  Harness or onto their leg, using a Thigh Harness.

The dildo is then ready to offer her partner penetrative pleasure, either vaginally or anally.

A Strap-On is a classic lesbian sex toy,  but it’s becoming increasingly popular with straight couples who are discovering the delights and orgasmic potential of pegging.

Dildos worn in a harness must have a flared/wide base to prevent them slipping out of the harness.

A flared base on a dildo is also crucial for safe anal play.

All Sh! silicone dildos are harness compatible and anal safe.


 

Dildos For Sensation

Glass G-Spot Dildo £37
Hard dildos, made of glass or steel offer amazing sensations that the G-Spot & Prostate particularly enjoy…

Dildos made from glass or metal offer a delicious weightiness that other dildos can’t…

It’s a weight and firmness that the G-Spot & Prostate respond to really well.

These dildos also feel super sleek and sensual. With just a touch of lube, they simply glide inside with unbelievable ease…

They can also be gently warmed, or chilled, to offer different temperature sensations.

Glass and metal dildos offer unique penetrative pleasure which is very different to a regular dildo and most of our customers who try them, rave about the exquisite sensations they deliver.

Designed to be hand-held, they cannot be worn as strap-on.

 

 

So that’s our run down on the main different types of dildos, but we have loads more advice about choosing and using a dildo

Check out these sections to discover more…

 

How to use a g-Spot Vibrator

Why Use a Dildo?

A Brief History Of Dildos

Dildos are the oldest sex toys known to womankind and have a long, distinguished and global history.

Stone Dildo
Stone Dildo

The oldest known dildo was found in Germany. The highly polished stone dildo was 7.5 inch long and over 28,000 years old!

The Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian sex manual, mentions dildos made of gold, silver and buffalo horn.

Dildo’s made of leather and wood were worn by actors in classical Greek theatre where they were refereed to as ‘oblisbos’.

The ancient Greeks were the first to believe that sexual frustration caused hysteria (literally ‘wandering uterus’) in women; dildos were thought to be given to women, whose husbands were away at war from long periods, as a cure for hysteria.

The origins of the word “Dildo” are thought to derive from ‘dilatare,  Latin for “to open wide” and/or the Italian ‘diletto’ meaning “delight”!

 

Why Use A Dildo?

honey 3 silicone dildo £58
Sh! Silicone Dildo

Dildos are ‘delightful open-widers’ for many reasons!

*A woman’s vagina expands during sexual arousal and the right-sized dildo can provide feelings of fullness and pressure she craves…

* A dildo can provide the special shape and firm stimulation the G-Spot responds well to…

* A dildo offers alternative pleasures on top of our lovers’ fingers or penis – we can have it all!

* Whether an expert or a newcomer to anal pleasure, a dildo can be a safe, sensual and size-friendly choice..

* The ultimate safe-sex partner, a dildo requires nothing but your pleasure, is great to experiment with and a real boost your confidence, especially if you’re in anyway uneasy about penetration.

 

Why We Don’t Carry ‘Realistic’ Dildos

realistic vibrator
“Realistic” Vibrator

For such fab playthings, with such a long and noble history, dildos still struggle with a image problem, which swings between the comic and the pornographic.

Most mass-produced dildos are pretty scary representations of the male member in two sizes only; large and extra large.

We don’t stock these ‘realistic’ dildos at Sh! because, quite apart from being ugly and old-school, we know that ‘large’ and ‘XL’ most definitely does not fit all!

Our dildos start from as small and slim as a finger because penetrative pleasures should be available to all, whatever your size preferences.

How to Choose & Use a Dildo (For Lesbian Sex) advice

How to Choose & Use a Dildo (For Lesbian Sex)

Choosing the Right Size Dildo

The long and the short of it is: dildos can offer different pleasures in all kinds of lesbian strap-on situations.

You can always find ways to enjoy the delights that different length dildos can offer, so whilst it’s always good to get the “perfect fit” dildo for your strap-on, don’t get too hung up on length.

Width, however is much more crucial. A dildo that is too wide will be too uncomfortable and is most likely to spend time in the toy-box. If it’s a choice between two sizes, always go for the slimmer option.

In strap-on play, wanting more, not less, is best!

Most Sh! dildos come in two widths; a slimmer version and a wider version.

And there are are three lengths in each style.

Cupid 6 Silicone Dildo £50
Cupid 6 Silicone Dildo £50

So, taking our best-selling dildo range as an example, Cupid Silicone Dildos are available as follows;

• Cupid 1 is the same length, but slimmer than Cupid 4

• Cupid 2 is the same length, but slimmer than Cupid 5

• Cupid 3 is the same length, but slimmer than Cupid 6

Different length dildos lend themselves to different positions in strap-on play.

Shorter dildos work best for grinding together during strap-on sex. Because the whole length will be constantly inside her, a dildo that’s around four inches long should satisfy.

Shorter Dildos are Best For Grinding Together

Here’s a great grinding strap-on position to try. Your girl straddles your lap whilst you are wearing a strap on with a shorter dildo.

She can face you for steamy intimacy or face the other way and grant you a fabulous rear view! She then literally lap dances on your strap-on dildo!

Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo
Wirly Girly Silicone Dildo £31

Longer Dildos Are Best For Stroking In and Out

Any dildo six inches or longer are best for stroking in and out during strap-on sex.

As you get into your stride, this extra length is essential on the out-stroke to prevent the dildo slipping out of her altogether.

It can happen to the best strap-on studettes sometimes, but pumping away into thin air can be a bit embarrassing as well as very frustrating!

A Tip For Stroking In and Out!

Whilst wearing your strap-on dildo, form a ring with your finger and thumb around the bottom of the shaft of your dildo. Slide the dildo through this ring as you guide it into her…
• You can feel how far to pull out of her and ensure your aim is always true.
• It’s incredible sexy to feel your wet dildo dipping into her…
• The ring you form will push against her clitoris.
• You can lessen the penetrative length of any dildo by adding more fingers to the ring.

Try forming a ring with your thumb and up to four fingers to deliver short, shallow thrusts.

As most of the sensitive nerve-endings are around the entrance of the vagina, you probably won’t hear any complaints – and you can instantly subtract fingers should she murmur ‘deeper’.

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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.

 

Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.

 

Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure

 

 

 

 

 

 

Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm

 

 

One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!

 

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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls

 

Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms

 

The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure

 

There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’

 

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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure

 

Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…

 

Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…

 

 

Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…

 

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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy

 

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.

 

 

 

 

A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse

 

A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,

 

 

 

Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.

 

 

 

Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves

 

Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…

 

Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

 

For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.

 

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

 

 

Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits

 

Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99

 

They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.

 

 

 

 

Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89

 

 

 

 

 

 


For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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