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My vagina is a penetration-free zone – here’s why…

Non-penetrative sex.

Yes, it exists. And it can be better than what you might think of as “normal” sex.

Your largest organ is your skin and that skin is packed with erogenous zones all over your body. From your armpit to your knee, arousal can be experienced through different types of stimulation, yet many of us grow up believing that getting busy centers around one action… We’re talking about penis in vagina sex, P-i-V.

The hetero-patriarchal society that typically grooms us has cultivated the belief that sex in its most basic sense involves penetration. Whether that be anal or vaginal, other forms of sexual activity are traditionally regarded as mere precursors to the grande finale. Like the Superhero blockbuster sequel you never asked for, this sequential narrative of a beginning, a middle and an end is anything but penetrating. We find it rather predictable.

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It’s not newsworthy that the majority of women struggle to orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, and without a toy. But who says that you have to have penetrative sex to seal the deal? Often, clitoral simulation provides a sure-fire way to reaching orgasmic peaks. This being the case as long as your mood, the ambiance in the room you’re in, and your overall state of relaxation are all cooperating.

There are many other ways to enjoy yourself once you drop these ideas of sex as a screenplay. Sexual activity is a whole playground of sensation that you can start, end or continue with at any lubed-up point you desire. Placing end goals on sex can do way more harm than good. It can prove exasperating for individuals who experience Vaginisimus or orgasmic/erectile difficulties, for example.

We like to call sexual activity “play” for a reason, and namely, that’s because it doesn’t need a lesson plan. “Play” doesn’t require an erect penis or a moist vaginal canal for it to be erotic and more-ish. “Play” is pleasure-focused and it doesn’t end just because someone had an orgasm – in fact,  sex lasts much longer because typically, everyone involved enjoys as many orgasms as they can handle.

For uterus owners – your vagina may be the most powerful thing you own, but don’t overlook your vulva. Your vulva is important. It deserves unwavering attention in the form of Caring, Loving, Intimate Tenderness (C-L-I-T).

Now, let’s be real. There is no better way to worship your clit than with a suction toy. In a new era of sexual pleasure, these toys are designed to simulate a sucking sensation. Add in a splash of lube and it’ll feel like someone’s lips are tending to your luscious front-garden. Whether you prefer the ultra deluxe Womanizer variety or the more affordable Satisfyer range, suction toys have the critics raving in a matter of minutes.

Zero penetration required.

A common myth we’ve noticed circulating is that penetrative sex is more intimate than other types of sex.

Who decided this?

How exactly did they measure it?

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Our sexperts have never personally whacked out measuring tapes to decipher this. Surely, someone who is keen and willing to smother your backdoor in smooches deserves some credit? A gold star, perhaps! Anything less and it’s surely a slap in the face?

But what is non-penetrative play and how do I do it with a partner?

Good question.

­Non-penetrative play can involve sensual massages, teasing touches and, of course, hours of oral play. You can spend days and days exploring each other’s bodies and getting to know what exactly makes your partner(s) tick. You can rub and grind on each other, kissing deeply, and don’t forget to go to town on breasts and nipples – those are awesome for playing with!

Turn it into a game with the help of one of ours, such as the Tease & Please Kinky Heart game. Take turns to pick out tasks that will leave you begging for more! Use your imagination and embrace exploration. Why not leave the bedroom and fool around in the bathroom, the kitchen, the hall? Buy an O Wand and you’ll forget penetration is even a thing!

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Plus, if you are a vagina-owner and you are self-conscious around the sheets when on your period, you can simply pop in a menstrual cup (see Mooncup or Fun Factory’s Fun Cup) and enjoy yourself stress-free. This is the perfect chance to introduce new, fun games into the mix. Focus your attentions on skin and sensitive areas, take turns to enact sexy activities on each other or role-play saucy fantasies. Invest in some handcuffs and restrain your partner to the bed or explore the art of rope-play…

Removing the pressure of putting one body part into another opens up a world of possibilities. It’s hot and erotic, and it’s likely to boost sexual satisfaction. Whether the reasons for saying ‘no, ta’  to penetration are long-term or short-term, there is only one thing to remember:

There are so many ways to explore your sexuality without ramming a plug in the socket.

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Orgie’s Natural High: Hemp Seed Oil Lube

You wanted it – you got it!

Due to popular demand, we have searched high and low for our favourite hemp seed oil infused lubricant. Not only that, but we’ve gone and found an orgasm enhancer as well.

Wait…hemp oil in a sex product?

If you find yourself a tad bemused by this combo then simply read on to find out more. Perhaps, the Hemp Lube Tube could become your new slippery staple!

Scent and taste-free, the Orgie Hemp Lube feels smooth and lovely to use. As it’s a water-based formula, it’s suitable for use with all of your favourite toys as well. Just so you know though, the lube has a green tinge, which makes good sense when you think about it, but might raise an eyebrow or two when you squeezing some out and start applying to erotic areas…

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If you want to switch things up a little bit more, there is also a hemp oil orgasmic gel to try.

Just one small squirt onto the intended intimate area (suitable for poons, peens and in-betweens) will deliver multiple lovely sensations such as tingling, heating, and cooling. By encouraging blood flow to the area, this increases sensitivity and stimulation, meaning that orgasms are about to get toe-curlingly intense. Yas please!

The orgasm gel also has a green tinge (we see a pattern here) and it has a slight taste; nothing unpleasant, but it does make your tongue fizzle a bit.

What is hemp seed oil?

Hemp seed oil is one of three categories of hemp oil, with the other two being hemp essential oil and CBD oil. All three are sourced from specific parts of the hemp plant, aka cannabis sativa. Although often confused for CBD oil, hemp seed oil differs in that it comes mainly from hemp seeds (hence the name). These seeds have significantly lower amounts of cannabinoids in comparison to any other part of the plant. This means that despite sharing a lot of the same vitamins, minerals, and natural acids as CBD oil, hemp seed oil won’t make you remotely high…so instead, we’ll leave that up to your partner.

What’s more, as long as the type of hemp oil comes from one of the 63 industrially approved hemp strains under EU law, then it is totally legal. These oils are classed as hemp when containing less than 0.2% of THC (the psychoactive cannabinoid) – if above this level then they are officially classed as cannabis and are illegal. So don’t worry, we are not about to get you arrested.

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What are the benefits?

There are many widely recognised health benefits of hemp seeds. For one, they are nutritious – even more so than the favourites of numerous East London health stores: chia or flaxseeds. Specifically, they are mega-high in fatty acids and proteins and are considered to be a complete protein source, similar to quinoa. This means that they are packed with natural acids, such as amino acids. Altogether, hemp seeds are thought to boost your immune system and are better for you than a wide range of nuts and veg. Their high level of gamma-linolenic acid (GLA) has even been linked to aiding the physical and emotional symptoms of PMS and menopause due to the reaction between GLA’s production of prostaglandin E1 with the bodily hormone prolactin (it’s your body’s reaction to this hormone that causes such issues). This can reduce breast tenderness, plateauing moods and fluid retention amongst other symptoms.

A quick google and you can find numerous vitamins and minerals that hemp seeds are well endowed in.

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What has all this nutritional information got to do with sex? Is Sh! converting into a wellness blog?

No, we are not. But, these benefits do mean a great deal for your downstairs sex demons – vaginas especially. The amino acids that are found both within hemp seed oil and the vagina are specialised to balance PH levels and avoid infection inside your intimate area. The less lubed-up your vaginal walls are during any sort of penetrative play, the more likely you are to contract a yeast infection, a UTI or to irritate the skin with fissures – causing a breeding ground for bacteria and infection. The natural properties of hemp seed oil moisturise and soothe skin whilst being anti-inflammatory.

But what about oral play?

The above rules still apply; the more slippery your sex is, the more fun it’s going to be! Adding lube is a great way of ensuring all areas feel moist and lovely. You might think that saliva is enough and sometimes it is; however, we often find that a few drops of lube make things even smoother and if fingers are being inserted into orifices then lube is – in our opinion – essential.

Happy Hemping, people!

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Q&A: I don’t orgasm during penetration – what can I do?

Hi Sh!
I would like some advice if you can.
I do not have orgasm by penetration, but I  do by clitoral stimulation. The strength and pleasure of the orgasm is vastly increased by penetration. Is there anything I can do to improve vaginal sex? Can you help me?
Hello there,
Many thanks for your email – and we’ll certainly try! 🙂
This is one of the most common questions we get asked, and the good news is that there are several ways to increase pleasure and orgasm-potential during penetrative sex.
Around 75% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. This means most of us need our magic beans rubbed in just the right way, or the climax won’t happen.
Having orgasms during penetration is absolutely possible, but takes a bit of work. It makes sense that your orgasms are more intense when the vagina has something to clench around – this is often the case.

Positioning

Try positions that offer more clitoral contact. This could be the woman-on-top position, which lets your bump and grind in ways that feel good for you.

 

Another great position for this is the CAT-aligned, which is sensual and sexy. Your partner positions themselves on top (missionary position) but lifts themselves a bit higher on your body, making sure that they pubic bone grinds against your clitoris. Instead of thrusting, they then go on to treat you to a grinding, rubbing rollercoaster of pleasure, and you might find this takes you all the way to orgasm.

Vibration

A small, non-intrusive vibrator can make all the difference.  A small bullet or finger tip vibe can be a fun addition, but if you prefer something hands-free, we recommend giving Satisfyer Partner a go.

 

This clever vibe has been designed to fit against the G-spot and the clitoris, whilst still allowing space for a penis or dildo to slip in too. It’s a bestseller in our shop, and we can see why: Satisfyer Partnet won the Red Dot Design Award last year!
At only £45, it won’t break the bank and as it’s fully waterproof, you can enjoy it in the bath or shower too.
Satisfyer Pro Partner

Pelvic Floor

A strong pelvic floor helps increase both the number and intensity of orgasms so make sure to practice your kegel exercises regularly.  If (like us) you find kegels too boring or you forget to do them, we have a great idea for making it more fun: do them whilst you masturbate!
Doing your squeezes whilst playing with your clit at the same time will likely result in an orgasm (win!) and a stronger pelvic floor too (double win!).
Using a pair of love balls adds to your exercise regime as well as adding pleasure for your G-spot. Which brings us neatly to…

G-spot Stimulation

The G-spot often plays a big part for those who enjoy vaginal orgasms. Located at the front wall of the inside of the vagina, it’s a rough-feeling area that grows in tandem with arousal.

 

By stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot simultaneously, you can go on to enjoy what is known as ‘blended orgasms’.  Rabbit vibrators do this job marvellously, but you can use fingers too. Or fingers on the clitoris, and a penis or dildo internally – there are many variations, so pick whichever suits you best.

 

Over time, you cut down on the clitoral stimulation, a couple of seconds at a time.  As you are about to climax, you stop stimulating the clitoris earlier and earlier but still carry on stimulating the G-spot firmly. Over time, you’ll learn how to have G-spot orgasms, or vaginal orgasms this way.

 

Enjoy your ‘homework’! 😉

 

Best Wishes,
Team Sh! xx

 

Shop-Documentary

Documentary Series at Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium

A new sexual revolution is underway! Sex is no longer a subject to shy away from, and — you might have noticed — sex shops no longer have to be seedy man-holes.

Even gender itself has started to become redundant. And in the age of hashtags (#metoo #timesup), of swiping left and right to fix up dates, the rules of sexual engagement are being rewritten.

Sh! is at the epicentre of all these trends, and since opening 26 years ago has been ahead of the sexual curve — providing a hub for an uninhibited conversation about sex in a warm and safe environment, and championing the women’s perspective.

Which is why we, as a couple of documentary filmmakers, have approached Sh! to develop a TV series about the Emporium. We’d like to find out more about the Sh! clientele, why they shop here, what their experiences have been, and what journeys they’re going on.

Whether you’re straight, gay, trans, pan or bi; whether you’re old or young or something in between; whatever size you are, or shape, or religion, whether you’re able-bodied or indeed tick many of these boxes (Sh! customers assume pretty much every form) we’d love to hear from you.

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At this stage we’d like to have strictly off-the-record conversations to find out your story. All conversations will be treated in complete confidence and with absolutely no obligation to take part in any filming.

If you would like to set up a phone call or meet up then please get in touch with the production team at shthedocumentary@gmail.com

We look forward to hearing from you,

Carly & Nick

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Top sex tips for newlyweds

With the wedding of Prince Harry and his fiancée Meghan Markle set to take place on the 19th May, spirits are high among royalists and anyone who’s a sucker for romance, including us.

Being newlyweds is an aphrodisiac in itself and couples tend to live in their happy, loved-up bubble for weeks or even months after the honeymoon has ended.  But eventually, the daily grind comes knocking and the after-wedding come-down sets in. It’s not unusual for one or both parties to feel a little low and wonder what happens ‘next’.

Luckily for newlyweds everywhere, we have some experience with this. Check out our top tips for remaining steamy between the sheets long after saying ‘I do’.

Have open discussions about what you want

Hopefully you’ve already done this, but needs & desires evolve and change over time and it’s important to keep conversations about sex ongoing. Being open to trying new things and instilling a sense of togetherness in everything that you do works to strengthen the bond between you.

Whether it’s attending a sex class or shopping for toys, you’re in a partnership now, so play and enjoy as a pair. Sex classes are not only liberating and great fun, but also the perfect place for couples to learn new ways of giving and receiving pleasure.

Up the ante when it comes to erotic connection

We’re conditioned to think that “real” sex is p-i-v (penis in vagina) but it’s time to put the kaboosh on this old fashioned thinking. Sex is whatever you want it to be! It can certainly involve a penis or dildo in a vagina if that’s how you and your beau roll, but it can also mean that nothing is inserted into any orifices. Like, ever. And it’s still sex!

Focusing heavily on penetration leaves out a long list of other delicious activities such as mutual masturbation (watching your partner bring themselves to orgasm is super-hot), tickling (yep, some peeps get off on that) and phone sex to name a few.

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Make it your mission to grow the erotic side of your play. A strong erotic connection increases sexual tension and excitement, it builds feelings of intimacy, and this should never be overlooked.

‘Erotic’ means different things to different people, but usually includes lots of eye contact, gentle touching, lips travelling slowly over naked skin, and words whispered in the dark… Take your time and savour each experience.

Long make-out sessions keep the panty-fires on full blast, so leave the wham-bam-thank-you-mam’s for the occasions you really are short on time.

Make great sex a priority

There are gazillions of articles telling us how many times per week or month we “should” be having sex, but we think quality tops quantity every time. Isn’t having really great sex once or twice a month much better than having three or four lukewarm shags per week? Sex isn’t a competition so forget about keeping up with the Jones’s.

Juggling jobs, families and other commitments can mean that sex has to take a backseat from time to time and that’s ok, but don’t let it get stuck back there. Scheduling sex-dates might seem like a passion-killer, but clearing a couple of hours in your calendar for carnal pleasures is actually great fun.

Take it in turns to think up new scenarios, buy some sex toys or try seemingly impossible positions so the element of surprise is still there.

Stop counting how many times per week you have sex, and focus on the amount of pleasure you’re getting instead.

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Touch each other outside of the bedroom

It may sound obvious, but it’s important to remain tactile with your partner when you aren’t having sex. Focus on kissing and stroking each other, both of which will make you feel closer, more connected, and ensure that you enjoy a fiery sex life when you do get down to it.

Holding hands is romantic and sweet, and chaste pecks in public can  be crazy hot if you’re both looking forward to a long night in private later on.

Cheeky little gropes when no one is watching is sexy and keeps you both hungry for more. A sly snog in the kitchen whilst you are checking on the Sunday roast is a classic, as is gentle nibbles of the neck whilst your new spouse is on the phone to their boss…

Grab the moment when it comes, and make it count!

Play together

Marriage is about more than sex – obviously – but you’d be amazed how much ‘playing’ together in other areas will spice things up.

Camping, or glamping if hot water and hair dryer are on the must-have list, is in season and a night out under the stars offers plenty of opportunity for togetherness and turn-ons. Bring a bottle of fizz in a cooler and play never-have-I-ever had sex outdoors.

Long-haul flights are great for mile-high fun and a night on a ferry will rock you both in more ways that one. You could play one-for-one (one orgasm for you, one orgasm for me) on long car journeys, or book a night in a hotel and live out a 24-hour sex fantasy.

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As the saying goes; a couple that plays together, stays together.

 

 

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Kinky Cupid’s Class For Creative Couples

Surprise your lover with a kinky date night at Sh! for Valentine’s Day!

We will be hosting an exclusive class for only 5 couples, and our Kinky Cupid promises that the evening will be ‘Hotter than a flaming Sambuca, spicier than a Cordon Bleu curry and more sizzling than a Teppanyaki hotplate’!

Be the top (or bottom) of your lover’s dreams and learn how to plan a ‘scene’, where one of you takes control and the other deliciously relinquish for a Valentine’s date that is off the Richter Scale.

Gentle restraining for sensual power play, erotic teasing with soft ostrich feathers and hot wax drizzled onto bare skin all makes for a fantastically sensory experience for both you and your date.

Prosecco and delicious truffles will be served by our friendly team as lovers take turns to thrill, tease & tempt each other.

Each couple will receive a bondage gift, lovingly handmade by our artisan team in our studio in London.

Spaces on this exclusive class are limited to five couples only, so booking early to avoid disappointment is advised.

Tickets are £120 per couple.

**TICKETS FOR THIS CLASS ARE NOW OFF SALE**

V-Day

 

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Satisfyer – The New Sexual Revolution

Satisfyer, the creators of revolutionary sex toys for women, have changed the way the world looks at sex toys.

Offering a whole new generation of toys for clitoris-owners, Satisfyer Pro toys use air suction technology to build amazing clitoral sensations and bring on eye-rolling orgasms. These toys can take you from zero to WOWZERS within minutes – extremely useful for women who lead busy lives or find it hard to climax (or both!).

Satisfyer Pro toys generate a unique stimulation of the 8000 clitoral nerve-endings through intense pressure waves, emulating the sensation of really good oral sex.

What Women Really Want

During the design process, Satisfyer has paid good attention to what women really want from their sex toys:

  • Toys made from body-safe materials
  • Toys that are 100% waterproof
  • Toys that are USB rechargeable

All Satisfyer toys are rechargeable, making them great travel buddies. The waterproofness makes bath time twice the fun, and body-safe materials are of course a given!

Satisfyer Pro Suction G-Spot Rabbit

satisfyer_pro_g-spot_rabbit_4 (1)Our brains almost melted when we got our hands on the brand new Satisfyer Rabbit; imagining all the pleasure unleashed by this rabbit-cum-clitoral-suction-toy was almost too much to contemplate!

Satisfyer’s philosophy of relentless female pleasure has lead to the development of the Pro Suction G-Spot Rabbit, an unbelievable marvel that is designed for ultimate sensation: clitoral stimulation through pressure waves combined with G-spot stimulation through vibration.

The smooth, girthy shaft is designed for penetration, fitting to the curves of your body and seeking the G-spot with its well-designed tip.

Meanwhile, the smaller shaft rests above your clitoris, which sits comfortably within the indentation of the clitoral stimualtor. Once positioned, there is no further need to move the toy, just relax and let the Suction G-Spot Rabbit bring you to an incredible climax…

Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples Suction Toy

satisfyer_pro_4_couples_2Designed to be worn during penetration,  Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples offers satisfying (pun intended!) suction to the clit whilst the internal tip rests against the G-spot.

A penis (or a dildo) can be inserted simultaneously, increasing the sensation of tightness and allowing the penis-owner to benefit from the powerful vibrations too.

Whilst designed for couples, there is no reason why you can’t use Satisfyer 4 Coupes for solo play. Simply add a bit of water-based lube, position the toy, switch it on and enjoy the sensations!

Satisfyer Pro Penguin Suction Clitoral Toy

satisfyer-penguin-clitoral-stmulatorFew can resist the super-cute charms of the Satisfyer Pro Penguin and as a result, Pro Penguin is one of the most popular toys in oue East London shop.

The handy design features a rounded body that rests comfortably in the palm of the hand, and the control pad is easily worked with only a thumb.

Many women tell us they’ve found a completely different way of climaxing with Satisfyer Penguin and we can believe it: the gentle suction brings on incredible orgasms.

As the clitoral tip isn’t directly stimulated, you might find that achieving one orgasm after another is far easier with Satisfyer Pro toys like the Penguin.

Satisfyer Pro 2 Clitoral Suction Toy

satisfyer-clitoral-sucker-with-pressure-vaccumThis Satisfyer Pro 2 toy resembles a facial cleanser, which is great for women who prefers discreet toys.

Chances are that an initial orgasm is fast and hard with Satisfyer Pro 2, but you’ll likely find that you can keep going and experience multiple orgasms.

Many of our female customers report that they experience wet orgasms with Satisfyer Pro 2, even if they are not regular squirters. There is a possibility that this could happen to you too, so it might be an idea to place a towel on the bed before getting down to the pleasures of Pro 2. Or, even better, take Satisfyer Pro 2 into the shower or bath and get as wet as you like!

Thanks to its clever air wave technology, Satisfyer Pro 2 is fairly noisy when switched on but rest assured the loudness becomes a manageable whirr when place against the body.

Satisfyer Partner Vibrator

satisfyer-partner-pro-vibratorPartner is Satisfyer’s version of the luxe We-Vibe couples vibrator, a more affordable version that essentially works in the same way.

Designed to fit inside the vagina during penetration, Satisfyer Partner offers the additional stimulation so often needed for a clitoris to climax.

Shaped like an elongated C-shape, the larger part of Partner sits against the vulva and clitoris whilst the slimmer prong slides in and rests against the G-spot. A penis or a dildo can fit in at the same time, and the idea is that the two of you can then rock & roll in all manner of ways with the additional benefit of vibration between your bodies.

The motor and therefore the vibrations, are housed in the external part, and this means two women can enjoy Satisfyer Partner together too. The tribbing position works particularly well if you want to experience thrilling throbs together with a female partner.

Cleaning & Storing

Satisfyer toys are very easy to clean: simply use a toy cleaner or wash with warm water and antibacterial hand wash.

We recommend storing Satisfyer toys in a fluff-free area, out of reach of both pets & kids.

Red Dot Awards For Satisfyer Pro Penguin & Partner

In 2017, Satifsyer Partner and Satifyer Pro Penguin each won a prestigious Red Dot Award for innovative designs.

The Red Dot Award dates back to 1955 and is one of the most prestigious design contests in the world. The coveted Red Dot Award is a symbol of outstanding design quality of international repute.

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How to introduce bondage into your bedroom

50 Shades-fans are excitedly waiting for the third and final instalment of the erotic romance Fifty Shades Trilogy by British author E. L. James, opening just before Valentine’s Day. No doubt, couples will feel inspired to try kinky play for the very first time, with spanking and bondage topping the list of sexy activities to try.

 

By definition, bondage is the act of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. Rope, cuffs, bondage tape and self-adhering bandage are all commonly used by more experienced players.

Bondage and kink can sound pretty daunting, especially if you’re not one to throw caution to the wind and jump into the unknown feet first.

To help you along, we have some useful tips and tricks that’ll help you get to grips with it.

Read on for our advice on the best way to introduce bondage into your bedroom.

Bringing up the subject with your partner

When it comes to sexual excitement, the element of surprise can often work wonders, but this isn’t always the case when it comes to bondage.

Being tied up can, for some people, result in panic, so it’s always better that you let your partner know that this is something that you want to do before you get started.

Have an open discussion where you talk through your desires with them, and ask them how they would feel about trying these things out with you.

Start with small steps

satin_blindfold_black_3There are so many fun items available for you to practice bondage, but it’s best to go slowly and build yourself up to the more advanced products in time.

For first-timers, we recommend keeping it simple with a beautiful satin blindfold, for example. This will introduce you to sensory play and helps to build excitement, which is likely to encourage you and your partner to continue on your adventurous journey.

Restricting someone’s vision causes all their other senses to be on high alert, and every touch, lick and kiss will be felt much more intensely.

Avoid knot ties

quickcuffs1_1Bondage rope and other items that tie into a knot are popular with seasoned kinksters, but aren’t necessarily a good choice for those just starting out.

Instead, why not try the Quick Cuffs, which are simple yet effective? These cuffs are super easy to slip on and off, but lets you experience the feeling of being restrained in a safe way. Quick Cuffs are made from body-friendly silicone and doesn’t require keys or faffing with locks.

Whatever your choice of wrist cuffs or other types of restraints, always make sure to have medical scissors within reach. Should the restrained partner panic unexpectedly (and this can happen), you want to be able to release them quick-sharp.

Important: never leave a restrained person alone in a room. It’s neither funny nor safe.

Continue to communicate with your partner

When it comes to sex, honesty is always the best policy, so if you feel uncomfortable about something, be sure to let your partner know.

Equally, if you really enjoy something, being vocal is a great way to heighten pleasure and excitement for both yourself and your partner. Remember, sex is meant to be enjoyable, so relax, let go and see where your adventure takes you.Print

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3 Sex Tips To Drive Her Wild

For many men, the female body can be a challenge to navigate around at the best of times, and pleasing a woman sexually can seem nay on impossible at the worst.

We know this, because our customers share so many intimate details with us. Sometimes customers share because they are over the moon (“I had my first orgasm last night!”), and other times they share out of frustration (“Why doesn’t he just do it the way I want it?!).

A common complaint is that male partners, in particular, are going at it too fast, too hard or in all the wrong places.

What many men haven’t yet realized, is that women need their parts stimulated in the right way for the right amount of time in order to orgasm – and the right way for the right amount of time varies from woman to woman, and even from one sexual encounter to the next.

A number of despairing female customers have asked us to put together a little print-out-and-keep-guide for their guys, so grab yourself a cuppa and settle down coz here we go!

(And, of course, these tips work for any lover of women – not just fellas!)

Nipples

Nipple sensitivity varies from woman to woman, but for most of us, the nipples are a great place to start. A word of warning here: a lot of guys like to handle the nip-tips like they’re tuning in a radio but trust us, few women enjoy this manhandling move…

Instead, start off gently, teasing, cupping and stroking her breasts. Treat them with the respect they deserve. Once she pushes closer to you, it’s time to get lips and tongue involved.

For added fun, why not drizzle some caramel or chocolate sauce over her nipples – you can then spend however long you like licking it off.

As her breathing increases, lick and suck faster for added intensity. If you really want to excite her, a gentle nibble every now and then will do the trick.

These hands-free nipple massagers are great fun and come highly recommended. They attach directly to the skin around the nipple and offer gentle suction whilst you work your way down her body…

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The Clitoris

The clitoris is the holy grail of sexual discovery for most women and it’s also the route to many toe-curling, pillow-grabbing orgasms.

While it is the one place most men head to when they want to pleasure their woman, many go about it the wrong way – thus chasing off the orgasm rather than encouraging it to come gushing on…

How to give her clitoral pleasure

First of all, no one likes a chafed clit so trim your nails, lash on the hand cream and crack open a bottle of vagina-friendly lube: this is all part of your prep.

The clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings sitting atop it, and these nerve-endings will cry out in pain if you go in all guns blazing: it simply doesn’t work.

Orgasms are a build-up of energy that is released, and therefore the best course of action is to go slow (very slow) (even slower than that) and build up. Think of it as an orgasmic marathon rather than a sprint – pace yourself.

Starting off with oral sex – if she is comfortable with this – is a good idea. The tongue is soft and moist, two things that most vulvas are partial to.

You can add a drop or two of the vagina-friendly lube to the labia lips, clitoris and opening, even if she is feeling rather juicy to the touch. Lube makes tongues, fingers, penises & toys more sensual, and that’s always a bonus!

The most important thing to do is to keep steady with whatever movement she seems to like best. Caress her clitoris using the whole of your tongue, and add in some sucking motions here and there. Nibble on the labia lips, blow gently on her clit (not into the vagina though) and keep your rhythm steady. If she seems to like it, do it again. And again.

Many women worry that they take too long, so reassure her by letting her know there is no place you’d rather be.

Fun Rabbit Ears VibratorWant her to have a truly delicious time? Our Fun Rabbit Ears Vibrator with its vibrating bullet works wonders in the clitoral region. Add a little lube to the soft ears of the rabbit, turn it on and stroke gently around the clit.

Think of the clitoris as a clock-face, and work out what time her Happy Hour is. Many women prefer stimulation of 10-11 or 1-2, but take your time (no pun intended) and work your way around the clit-clock. There will be one or two spots that are far more receptive to your soft touch, and this is where you should focus your attention.

Direct stimulation of the clitoris can be overwhelming, so unless she specifically tells you she wants direct pressure, always tease around the sides of it instead – and this is why the Fun Rabbit works so well, the flexible ears slide along the sides of the clit rather rather than directly on it.

The G-spot

There’s a lot of speculation surrounding the G-spot. Does it really exist or is it just a myth? Where is it located?

Well, we certainly believe in its existence, although it would be fair to say not all women respond the same to stimulation of it.

The area of the G-spot (the Grafenberg spot, named after the guy who ‘discovered’ it) is located about half-a-finger on the front wall of the vagina, a surface that feels less smooth than the rest of the vaginal walls. Blood flows to the area during arousal, and the G-spot becomes easier to locate and stimulate.

Your G-Spot

How to Stimulate Her G-spot

Add a drizzle of lube (see, we told you the lube would come in handy!) to one or two of your fingers, before sliding them into her. Curve your fingers upwards towards her G-spot and stroke in slow but firm come-hither motions. Remember to not go harder or faster until she asks for it.

If penetrative sex is on the cards, it’s worth noting that many women find that woman-on-top positions work best for experiencing intense sexual pleasure and orgasm.

Let her straddle you, and then tilt her hips backwards or forwards (whichever feels best for her). This will allow her to find that sweet spot and she’ll get the pressure she wants.


If you found this helpful and would like more tips & tricks on how to have her hollering the house down with pleasure, just book yourself a ticket to our Guy’s Guide to Female Pleasure!

 

 

Easter Egg Hunt at Sh!

Easter Egg Hunt at Sh!

Join us for what will be an egg-stra fun Good Friday by hunting eggs at London’s best sex shop! Team up with your lover, BFF or make it a super-fun Tinder-date by swiping right on someone who looks like they’re up for an eggciting afternoon!

Hunters working in teams of two will unveil clues leading them to their next Tenga Egg – the adult version of Kinder Eggs – and the first team to bring back their filled basket will win a sexy hamper full of goodies.

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Dates:

  • Good Friday 14th April 2017 (Sold Out)
  • Easter Saturday 15th April 2017

Time: The hunts start at 3pm

Address: Sh! 57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB

The in-store Easter Egg Hunts are FREE to join, but spaces are limited so make sure to book in your team (of 2 hunters) now!

Book here:

Eventbrite Tickets to Easter Egg Hunt at Sh!  14th April (Sold Out)

Eventbrite Tickets to Easter Egg Hunt at Sh! 15th April 

 

*Participants must be 18 or over.