How to keep the juices flowing on the night of your wedding

Wedding days are hailed by many to be one of the most important in a person’s life. Meticulous planning goes into them and it’s not unusual for brides-to-be to pick over the smallest of details, and this is just as it should be – it’s your (and your partner’s obv) day after all!

From the outfit to the cake, to the music being provided by a carefully selected DJ and the food being served after the ceremony, no stone should be left unturned – you’re creating treasured memories to last a lifetime.

Despite all of the preparation that goes into the wedding day,  few couples turn their attention to planning the wedding night. It is just assumed that’ll great sex will happen once you are safely tucked away in your bed for the night, and couples are sent on their way to the hotel by friends & family winking and nudging each other indelicately.

Statistics have revealed that what newlyweds want and what they actually get on the night of their wedding vary somewhat.

More than half of all newlyweds choose sleep over a bed-bopping sesh. Common reasons include tiredness, being too tipsy and not having time to eat enough during the day, none of which are unexpected (anyone already married will know what we’re talking about!).

There’s also the added pressure of speaking to all of your friends and family, which often leaves couples with little time to actually spend together. Not such a biggie as you do have the rest of forever to enjoy each other’s company, but what can you do during your wedding day and the evening that follows to get those juices flowing and ensure that you start married life with a night of passion. Read on to find out…

Abstain for a few nights beforehand

Delayed gratification is sexy and we all know that having to wait for your cake before you can eat it, makes it taste so much sweeter. The same goes for sex. Tease and tempt and flirt and play, but leave it at that for a week or two before your Big Day and you’ll both be looking forward to tearing each other’s clothes off as soon as you get some time to yourselves. Anticipation will have you both gagging for a rumbunctious romp amidst the clean sheets of the wedding-night bed…


Romance about it

There’s nothing better than sharing hot fantasies to get the juices flowing. Spend the lead up to your wedding talking about what you’d each like to happen during the wedding night. Lay down on the bed together and romance about it. Go into detail and be as explicit as you can. Do you want to try something new, or get down to something that’s saved for special occasions or do you want to go with your trusted favorite position?

Talking about sex and not actually having it is a massive turn on, and will get you both in the mood for a fun night when it eventually happens.


Feel your best

Amazing sex happens when you are feeling truly comfortable and confident in your own skin. This is your wedding night after all, so why not treat yourself to some new undies? Depending on your preferred style and the preferences of your new spouse, you can build the heat during the day by dropping hints about what you’re wearing underneath your fabulous frock/sassy suit.

Before the day, spend some time pampering yourself if time; a massage, having your nails done or getting a new haircut are all excellent ways of feeling fantastic in your skin.  Spritz on your favorite scent and sashay around to whatever music gets your blood pumping and your hips bumping…

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Keep telling your partner how great they look

While your moments together may be few and far between on your wedding day (family & friends take up lots of time, trust us), so when you are together, be sure to make it special.

Let your partner know how gorgeous they look and how keen you are to get them alone so you can finally seal the deal, so to speak.

Pupils dilate naturally when we are looking at someone we’re attracted to, so make sure to eye up your partner regularly – let your eyes do the talking whenever your eyes meet across the crowded room – like so:

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Play before, during and after the ceremony

Handing over the reins to your new spouse for the day is a good way of ensuring their mind (and yours!) is firmly on what’ll happen after the party has ended.

Small remote controlled vibes are super-fun and great for couples. Tuck the vibe into your underwear and hand the remote to your partner. They are now in charge of giving you short, thrilling buzzes every now and then. This is guaranteed to heighten your arousal and keep a beaming smile on your face all day long…

Keep the day playful and flirty, go lightly on the refreshments and make sure to sneak off early – and we promise you’ll have energy left over for playing!

No sex on your wedding night?

No sex on your wedding night?

It’s officially wedding season! ‘Wedding night’ might conjure up images of luxurious hotel rooms and sensuous delights but are people actually having sex on their wedding nights?

According to a recent poll 52% of newlyweds don’t get around to having sex on their wedding nights and our informal research bears that out.

Common reasons seem to be:

  • We were too exhausted
  • LOL we didn’t even get time to eat
  • He was too drunk
  • I was too drunk

Less common reasons were :

  • My corset made me feel ill
  • All our family were camping in the same field
  • I cheated two days before the wedding and it made it kind of weird

Others bravely soldiered through with despite their exhaustion, showing a commitment to tradition that is admirable if not imitable.

So if you do actually want to get some action on your wedding night, what should you do?

1. Keep It Low Key

The most successful sex havers in our informal polling were those who were either on a second wedding, eloped or kept things deliberately low key. Do you want to sacrifice a fancy wedding for the sake of an amazing wedding night? It’s up to you! But the more people and effort involved in your special day they more likely you are to be exhausted by the end of it.

2. Remember to Eat and Drink

‘We were so busy trying to greet everyone and be everywhere that we didn’t even have time to eat.’ seems to be a surprisingly common refrain. Even if you have given up on an acrobatic night of carnal delights please remember to eat and drink, line up a friend to deliver you snacks on the go, order way too many canapes and shove all of them in your face whilst you meet and greet. You need to keep up your energy levels.

3. But Not Too Much

Ok, it’s you’re wedding. You probably want to drink and have a good time. You probably don’t want to drink so much that you trip over your stupid shoes and then vomit on your fancy wedding clothes. Your grandmother is here. Drinking like there’s no tomorrow is what Hen/Stag nights are for, so if you’re looking to have consummation sex keep a handle on the alcohol.

4. Don’t Get Over Ambitious

Slow, lazy fucks seem to be the order of the day. Save the bedroom acrobatics for your honeymoon.

5. Take Some Time Out

No matter what you do it’s going to be a tiring day, try and fit in some couple time with your partner. Arrive at the reception late and take a break for a couple of hours, or leave early. You don’t actually have to be present for every setting unless you actually want to.

And if it still seems like too much effort then you literally have the rest of your lives to have sex! Have a great day!


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