clitoris advice

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It

The anatomy of the clitoris was first described in 1559 by Renaldus Columbus of Padua, who claimed that previous anatomists had overlooked the very existence of “so pretty a thing”.

And it remained overlooked until 1998, when Australian Urologist Helen O’Connell found there was much more to the clitoris than the ‘little hill’ (the meaning of the Greek root ‘Kleitoris’).

The ‘little hill’ was actually just the tip of an iceberg. That the true complexity of the clitoris wasn’t discovered until late into the 20th century says a lot about how female sexuality has been undervalued and misunderstood.

As the only organ in the human body solely dedicated to sexual pleasure and the epicentre of most women’s orgasmic world, the clitoris should never be undervalued or overlooked!

The clitoris is the most sensitive organ in the human body

Much, MUCH more sensitive than the tongue, fingertips or penis.

A good way for men to understand just how sensitive it is, is to imagine the sensitivity of their penis x 2 , compacted into the size of a pea – pow!

The clitoral tip, also known as the glans, is what most people know, and refer to as, ‘the clitoris’.

Clitoris picture
The Anatomy of the Clitoris

It lies beneath the fold of skin (called the clitoral hood) at the top of the inner vaginal lips. The tip and the hood are the only parts of the clitoris that lie outside the body.

Internal Clitoris

Internally, the hidden parts of clitoris are two wishbone-shaped shafts (clitoral legs) and 2 bulbs of erectile tissue that lie either side of the vaginal opening.

The urethral sponge (The G-Spot) is also likely to be part of the internal clitoral structure and appears certainly inter-connected. Debate still rages about its existence, with preciously little proper research, so until that is done, we’re going on our own evidence of talking to thousands of women about their special spot

When you become turned on, your clitoris swells with blood and becomes erect.

It can even double in size.

When you become really aroused, the clitoral tip retracts under its hood and may no longer be visible or even twiddlable..

The clitoral tip can retreat, and return to play, several times during sex, but during orgasm your clitoris is always retracted.

The different parts of the clitoris produce different sensations and only by exploring, and honing in on what feels good, will you  discover the full pleasures your clitoris has to offer you.

Touching the tip gives the most intense sensation which many women don’t find very  pleasurable.  If the touch is too firm, it can actually be painful.

Most women find stroking around the sides of the clitoris, rather than directly on it, far more pleasurable.

Women have incredible complex sexual responses and can take a long time to orgasm. This is great news for the intensity of our orgasms (the longer the build-up, the better the orgasm) but it can mean hands, tongues and lovers can tire…

This is where the orgasm-busting power of a great vibe can come into its own.

Playing with a vibrator, whether with a partner or solo, can allow you to discover new ways to feel pleasure and new ways to orgasm.

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Clitoral Pleasure Vibe

Clitoral Pleasure Vibe – Exclusive to Sh!

The Clitoral Pleasure Vibe may be a little crab-like in appearance, but it’s been cleverly designed to reach the parts of the clitoris most receptive to stimulation: the sides.

Many of our customers report that their clits are far too sensitive for direct contact – and with 8000 nerve-endings on its very tip, this is no surprise. With this clitoral toy, exclusive to Sh!, soft silicone prongs hug the clitoris whilst 10 different settings tease and pulse around it, all controlled with a quick flick of the finger.

Specially shaped for dedicated clitoral pleasure ( hence the name!) its dual 2.75 inch vibrating arms  can also deliver tingling sensations to other erogenous zones, such as your nipples or lower lips , they can even wrap around toes, if that’s your thing!

A great starter vibe, or an excellent addition to an already bulging toy box, whatever you sex-toy-status, the Clitoral Pleasure Vibe works for all, as you’ll see from the reviews links below.

Tickle Her Pink Clitoral Stimulating Gel Tester £3
Tickle Her Pink Clitoral Stimulating Gel Tester £3


To super-charge sensations, try adding a gently enhancing clitoral stimulating gel, which works  by increasing blood flow to the genitals, causing the clitoris to swell and become extremely sensitive


It’s a great clitoral vibe for partner play too

Despite it’s name, Clitoral Pleasure Vibe is not just for women and can be used on a male partner too.

A great tip would be to run the soft prongs down over his shaft and scrotum (“party bag”) on a low setting, perhaps whilst performing oral sex, for mind-blowing pleasure.

The Clitoral Pleasure Vibe is a fantastic all-round vibe that can also be used for sexy nipple play; simply use the soft silicone arms for teasing on and around the nipples for waves and waves of arousal.

Handing over the controls to your partner is another great trick – let someone else be in charge of your pleasure for a short while. Lay back and relax, and just go with the flow. This is a great way of introducing a shy partner to sex toys – by making your favourite clit vibe a couples toy, they’ll feel included in, or even ‘in charge’  of all the fun!


9/10 Clitoral Pleasure Vibe Review from Lightweight Toucan ( CaraSutra Pleasure Panel)

8/10 Clitoral Pleasure Vibe Review from Little Switch Bitch

8/10 Clitoral Pleasure Vibe Review from Minxy Mischief ( Cara Sutra Pleasure Panel

7/10 Clitoral Pleasure Vibe Review from Joannes Reviews ( Cara Sutra Pleasure Panel)

‘The ideal starter bullet’ – Clitoral Pleasure Vibe Review from Sex Toys Buzz

Featured in Marie Clare’s Sex Toys for Women 10 of the Best (Dec 2015)



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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.


Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129







You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.


Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure







Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm



One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!


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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls


Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms


The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure


There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’


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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure


Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…


Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…



Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…


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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy


Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.





A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse


A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,




Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.




Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves


Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…


Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45




For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.


Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!



Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits


Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99


They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.





Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89







For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

How To Choose A Vibrator

Choosing a vibrator is a very personal thing and what works for one woman, whether in shape, size, feel or even colour, may not work for the next.

With so many different styles of vibrators, let alone different materials and settings, we know it can feel a bit overwhelming trying to choose a vibrator, especially if it’s your first vibrator and have no idea what to look for…

So we’ve put together a simple guide, covering the basics for those starting out on their journey of vibrator discovery.

The 1st question to ask yourself is; ‘What do I want my vibrator mostly for…?

This is the most important starting point. Like a zen diagram, from here you’ll be able to whittle down or open up your possibilities…

It’s easy to get distracted by a pretty vibe but if it’s not designed to stimulate the bits of you, or your partner, that you would like to thrill, then it may not be the right toy for you. Just like the other kind of DIY 😉 finding the tool for the job is a good starting point.

The good news is that many vibrating toys can be pressed into action to stimulate lots of erogenous zones and are pretty versatile. Others, though, are ergonomically designed for a specific kind of stimulation and it’s these toys you need to look to, if you are looking for that kind of pleasure.

I’m looking for external/ clitoral pleasure – Which vibrator should I choose?

Clitoral vibrators are specially shaped to pleasure externally
Clitoral vibrators are specially shaped to pleasure externally

Did you know that for solo sessions (aka masturbation) most women (around 80%) play with their vibe on the outside only,  using it externally to pleasure their clitoris and vulva?

This is because most women need ( and enjoy!) clitoral stimulation to orgasm and clitoral O’s are the most common type of female orgasm.

If you’ve never had an orgasm or find them a bit hit-or-miss, we recommend the first type vibrator you choose should be for exploring clitoral pleasure.

We’ve selected our range of clitoral vibrators because they’re brilliantly shaped  or particularly fab at delivering external clitoral stimulation.

But the good news is that whatever their size or shape, ALL vibrators, can be used to pleasure your clitoris so feel free to choose ANY vibe, from any category, that catches your eye. Just because a vibrator is shaped for penetration, it doesn’t mean you have to use it that way…

Any toy that vibrates, whether pebble-shaped or 6 inches long, can be held against the external clitoral and vulval areas to tease these highly responsive spots.

So, if clitoral pleasure/orgasm is your goal, you have the choice of every vibrator we carry – Lucky you!

We’ve written more about how to choose a clitoral vibrator and how to use one  and we have a whole section giving advice about the clitoris so if you’d like to read more – head over there…

Small clitoral vibrators, the kind that are designed to lay-on the clitoral/vulval area, have the added advantage of being a good toy for introducing a vibrating toy to sex play with your partner, as they are not intimidating and, because they are not shaped for penetration, there can be no hurt feelings or bruised egos..



I’d like a vibrator for internal or G-Spot pleasure…

A toy with a curved and/or bulbous head can find the G Spot more easily
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous head can find the G Spot more easily than a straight one…

If you’re looking to buy a vibrator for vaginal stimulation, including G-Spot play, choosing the right shape and size IS important.

Width is the vital statistic to get right as a toy that is too wide can feel more uncomfortable that pleasurable.

Length is less important as you can always control how deep inside it goes.

The best way to determine what’s a comfortable width for you is to experiment with fingers first; either your own or your lover’s. Don’t go in cold, though, as arousal is absolutely key to penetrative and G-Spot pleasure As you get really turned-on, blood-flow rushes to the area, your vagina balloons and your G-Spot swells, making everything more responsive to pleasure.

For most women this means at least 20 minutes of non-penetrative pleasure;  kissing, licking and teasing touches of nipples, lips ( upper and lower!) and clitoris; stroking thighs, squeezing buttocks tickling toes – whatever combination works for you and for however long you want it ( 20 minutes is only an average – many women will want, need and desire much longer…)

(BTW whilst ‘foreplay’ is the given term for the above, it isn’t one we like to use because it suggests that everything has to lead-up to, and end in intercourse, which isn’t the case and often doesn’t do women any orgasmic favours)

So, once you are well and truly turned-on ( and only if / when your body is crying out for something inside) delve into your vagina with fingers; Is one finger enough? Two? Three? More…?

Some women enjoy the feeling of ‘stretching’,  whilst for others it can be a sudden halt to arousal and feel too overwhelming to be enjoyable, so the important thing to remember is that there are NO rules or expectations, only what feels good for you.

After your session measure around the finger(s) that proved satisfying, form it into a circle and then measure across – this will give you the diameter of a comfortable toy for you. We measure the width of all our toys in diameter (as this is the easiest to imagine) and always at their widest point.

One of the most common questions we’re asked in-store is will a G-Spot vibrator find my G-Spot? Sorry, but the answer to that is there are, and can never be, any guarantees. How a woman responds to any kind of pleasure is unique to her. We’re not robots with guaranteed pleasure buttons and that’s something to be celebrated!

Look at smooth, classic vibrators, as well as specially curved G Spot vibes, as both ranges have been chosen for being the best at delivering internal/G-Spot pleasure, and remember that you don’t have to use them internally – they are simply shaped that way to give you the option…

I’d like a vibrator to pleasure both inside AND out – Which is the best choice for that?

A Rabbit Style vibrator features a shaft for penetration and an external arm to stimulate the clitoris
A Rabbit Style vibrator features a shaft for penetration and an external arm to stimulate the clitoris

For clitoral and internal stimulation at the same time, your best vibrator-choice is definitely a rabbit-style vibrator.

Featuring a shaft for internal pleasure and a vibrating clitoral stimulator, rabbit vibrators offer amazing dual stimulation, inside and out.

It’s the world’s most famous vibrator because it offers simultaneous pleasure that can lead to a ‘blended orgasm’. This kind of orgasm, exactly as the name suggests, is a heady mix of climatic pleasure that appears to come from both inside and out; a blend of clitoral and g-spot orgasms all at the same time!


Rabbit vibrators have given more women more pleasure and more orgasms than any other style of vibrator and we have a wealth of rabbit vibrator advice, from how to choose a rabbit vibrator and how to use your rabbit, right through to sex tips and tricks to get the most out of your rabbit, so head over here for more info…

One of the more surprising things we’ve learnt from chatting to women at our store is how many of tell us ‘it’s ALL about the bunnies ears!’ – it seems a LOT of women don’t always ( or ever) use the shaft portion of their rabbit vibes. A dual-stimulation vibe may seem to be the ‘bells and whistles’ of the vibrator-world, but actually lots of women enjoy purely clitoral stimulation from theirs.

So, when choosing a vibrator for masturbation, these are your 3 main choices; A toy for external/clitoral pleasure; One for internal/G-spot stimulation; One that does both!

Choosing an anal vibrator is a different story, as safety is very important…

Any sex toy for anal pleasure whether it vibrates or not, must be shaped in such a way that it cannot slip inside and get lost. It’s always best to buy a dedicated anal vibrator or prostate massageras they have been specially designed as sex toys for safe anal play, and, whilst many can be sterilized, we recommend it’s best for hygiene reasons, to keep any/all anal toys dedicated solely to backdoor play.



I can’t orgasm during intercouse with my partner – is there a vibrator for that?  

An intercourse vibrator is designed to be worn by the woman, and enjoyed by both partners...
An intercourse vibrator is designed to be worn by the woman, and enjoyed by both partners…
A vibrating cock ring is worn on his penis & delivers clitoral stimulation during sex
A vibrating cock ring is worn on his penis & delivers clitoral stimulation during sex

You’re not alone! In fact the vast majority of women ( around 70% of us) find it difficult or impossible to orgasm through penetration alone, needing added clitoral stimulation during intercourse to climax.

So, for adding a buzz during sex with your partner, take a look at vibrators for intercourse and cock rings that vibrate – both are specially designed to be worn by one partner during penetrative sex with their partner.

A vibrating cock-ring is worn by the man ( you don’t say!) at the base of his penis, with the bullet positioned so that it stimulates your clitoris during sex.

Intercourse vibrators, such as the world-famous, million-selling We-Vibe, are specially shaped for the women to wear; with the larger pad externally stimulating her clitoris, with the smaller pad nestling against her G-Spot, whilst still leaving room for her partner to slip inside, where they too will feel the vibrating stimulation.

Vibrating cock-rings are a cheaper option to add thrills, whilst intercourse vibes are quite an investment. We’re not all ‘one-size’, so whether they work for you can be quite a leap of faith…

Remember, too that any lay-on clitoral vibrator as well as bullet and egg vibes are discreet enough to add an extra buzz to intercouse, without getting in the way…


The next vibrator-choices are quite practical…

Once you’ve decided on what kind of pleasure you’d like your vibrator mostly for, the next things to consider are the practicals of your toy.  How would you like it to feel – Do you want it to feel soft and squishy or prefer something hard and sleek?

Do you think you’d enjoy an intense buzz or prefer something gentler? Is size important?

Vibrator Material:

Concerned by chemicals? Don’t worry. We won’t stock sex toys that contain phthalates ( a potentially dangerous chemical softener found in PVC/  Jelly Toys)

All our vibrators are safe, but they come in a range of materials which bring different qualities to the toy; check our guides to sex toy materials to discover the pros & cons of each.

Briefly, a hard plastic vibrator is usually more powerful (and less quiet) as vibration isn’t absorbed by the material. Nor will it absorb any lubricant or your natural juices, which makes it feel strong and sleek.

Softer vibrators made from Elastomer will feel less intense as the soft material absorbs some vibration (as well some sound and lubrication) but these kind of vibrators generally feel more user-friendly…

A silicone vibrator is probably the best you can buy. Silicone is safe, soft and transmits vibration well, whilst keeping noise transference to a minimum.

Vibrator Intensity:

Secret Vibrator £35
Secret Vibrator £35

We know this is difficult – if you don’t have any experience with vibrators, how on earth do you decide what kind of vibrator intensity you will prefer!

The best way is to think about the kind of manual stimulation you prefer; is it a soft, gentle touch or do you need firm/intense stimulation to orgasm?

Most vibrators offer various speeds (often with escalating & pulse options) but if you’ve never had an orgasm, find orgasms illusive or feel like you take “too long”,  we’d advise you choose a vibrator that is rated ‘Strong’ or ‘Wowser’, such as the Secret Vibe or Sh! Bullet.

For a super-sensitive clitoris,  look for a ‘Very Gentle’ or ‘Mild’ rating, such as the Flexi Wand vibrator.

On top speed, we assess each vibrators  and give them an intensity-rating of:

  1. Gentle
  2. Mild
  3. Strong
  4. Wowser- High Intense
  5. Wowser – Deep Throbby

Remember, a vibrator that feels too strong can always be toned-down by using it through your knickers or a piece of material, so if you have any doubts, we recommend a stronger intensity vibe over one that offers a gentle or mild vibe.

Vibrator Volume:

Everyone wants a totally silent vibe but unfortunately they don’t exist.  A vibrator has a motor & will always make some sound, however low.

You may need to forfeit power/functions for a really quiet or almost silent vibrator.

On top speed, we measure each vibrator with a sound meter and give them vibrator volume of;

  1. Extra Quiet / Almost Silent
  2. Quiet
  3. Medium
  4. Audible- But Worth It!


We measure toys ‘Actual Length‘ (full length of vibrator/sex toy – including battery case if its integral), and ‘Playable Length‘ (insertable bit).

Remember, just because a vibrator looks like it’s designed to go inside, it doesn’t mean you have to play with it like that!

If you do want a vibrator for penetration, you can always control how far to insert it, but one that’s too wide will always feel uncomfortable.

To assess the right fit, think how many fingers feel good for you.

It’s probably best to buy a vibe that’s a similar width, rather than being overwelmed by a vibrators girth and never getting it our to play.

If you are uneasy about penetration, start with a  slim vibrator and work your way up. Whilst browsing, have a ruler handy to give you an idea how long/wide a toy will be.

We list all important info such as vibrator material, dimensions, intensity, sound, as well as whether it is rechargeable or takes batteries etc on each product page.


Desire Vibrator £49

For most of us, how something looks is important. If it’s unattractive to you, a new vibrator may not be played with very often. Take a long, lusty look at each vibe and try to visualize playing it before you buy.

Each toy at Sh! is chosen because it’s good-looking, as well as practical and good quality, whatever it’s price range, but for top style, take a look at our luxury vibrators

How Your Vibe is Powered

Rechargeable or battery-powered? Each has it’s advantages.

A rechargeable vibrator is the greener alternative and means you’re not a slave to batteries  – no more raiding the TV remote-control of it’s batteries in the middle of the night!

But you do have to have access to a plug or USB port to fire up your vibe when it runs out of steam.

And you do have to forward-think/be organised. If you haven’t kept your vibe charged up, there’ll be a frustrating wait to use it…

Battery-powered vibrators, so long as you have batteries, can give you  instant gratification.

And battery-powered (so long as you have batteries!) toys can travel anywhere.

We hope this has helped whittle down which may be the best vibrator choice for you.

Remember, though, we’re here to give expert, tailored advice, whether in our London store, on the phone or by email, so do feel free to visit /contact us, if you’d like more help or some personalised recommendations – we’re really friendly, non-scary and unembarassable, we promise!