Which Vibrator Should You Buy?

Which Vibrator Should You Buy?

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How to Use a Clitoral Vibrator

Many clitoral vibrators are shaped to mirror the shape of your lips (labia), so they can be rested, externally long-ways to stimulate the whole vulval area –  an often overlooked region, that is, in fact, highly sensitive.

Learning all about your clitoris and how to pleasure it is key to getting the best from your vibrator, because much of the clitoris is hidden beneath the surface.

We’ve written about how what to consider, when choosing a vibrator for your clitoris, so here we’re going to give you  some tips on how to use it to get the maximum pleasure.

How to Stimulate Your Clitoris with a Vibrator

Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator
Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator – Egg or bullet-shaped vibe are great to stimulate your whole vulva…

 

Rather than just diving directly for your clitorial tip ( the ultra sensitive pea-shaped button at the top of your inner lips, that we all know as ‘The Clitoris’ ) , start by using your vibrator to stimulate around the whole outer region.

Beneath here, there is lots of erectile tissue so stimulation will cause blood to pump into the area, making  you very aroused , wet and swollen.

 

 

For most women the best place to stimulate the clitoris is not directly on the clitoral tip itself as this can sometimes feel far too intense to be pleasurable.

 

Clitoral Pleasure Vibe - Shaped to stimulate the sides of the clitoris...
Clitoral Pleasure Vibe – Shaped to stimulate the sides of the clitoris…

 

Try slightly off to one side – image your clitoris as clockface and explore the areas around then 11 ‘ clock or 1 O’clock – many women say these times feel really good for them…

 

 

How to Use a Rabbit Vibe
How to Use a Rabbit Vibe

One of the main reasons Rabbit Vibrators are popular is because the split bunny ear of the clitoral simulator deliver tingles to the super-sensitive sides..

 

Everyone feels things differently, but if you are trying a clitoral vibrator for the first time, try “approaching” your clitoris from the side, starting with your vibrator on a lower setting.

Explore the whole area, focusing on where feels really good before working up to high powered, mind-blowing crescendo…

 


 

 

The Pros & Cons of Strong Clitoral Vibes

Sh! Secret Vibrator (£35) Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings
Sh! Secret Vibrator (£35) Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings

 

Clitoral vibrators are often really powerful which many women find great for clitoral stimulation, especially if they have difficulty achieving orgasm.

 

 

 

But strong vibrators, can sometimes de-senstitize the your clitoris …

Wand Massagers are the strongest clitoral vibrators know to woman...
Wand Massagers are the strongest clitoral vibrators know to woman…

They can also give you numb fingers if you handle the vibrating element too much. If this happens, just nestle the vibrator between your lady-lips, lie back and explore the wide variety of vibrations and sensations on offer.

To tone-down too-strong vibrations, cup the vibrator in the palm of your hand and enjoy subtle vibrations through your fingertips.

If you find the vibrations too strong for your clitoris to enjoy, you can  wrap your vibrator in some fabric or a towel, which will tone down the intensity.

 


 

How to take care of your clit vibe

Aphrodisia Dual Vibe
When cleaning or handling, be careful not to water inside or, if it has a separate batter pack, not to loosen the connections…

Make sure you clean your clitoral vibe after every outing. Unless you have chosen a waterproof vibrator, be careful not to get any water inside the battery area or where the connecting wire (if your vibe has one) attaches to the toy.

Vibrators with separate battery packs may seem clumsy or a bit ‘old school’ but actually they are great for being able to lie back, close your eyes and control sensations from your hand, rather than having to fumble for the faster/slower buttons between your legs. For some women, this can help with the ‘switching the mind off’ that’s essential to orgasm.

They also make handling the controls over to your partner easier.

If your clitoral vibrator does have a separate battery pack,  it’s important not to put pressure on the connection. If a vibrator is constantly dangled by the wire, the connection will weaken over time and you may find it delivers a frustratingly intermittent buzz or even stops working all together.

 

 

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5 Reasons to Love Clit Toys

Clit toys are popular with customers and staff alike – nothing beats a small vibe with strong vibrations for having your first orgasm, or even your 100th orgasm!

Here are our top five reasons to love clitoral vibrators:

 

Clitoral Pleasure Vibe £24
Clitoral Pleasure Vibe £24

1. Clitoral toys help women orgasm

About 75-80% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. This make the clitoris the most important part of our pleasure centre.  Stimulating it with fingers can be tiring – especially if you need a longer time for building up arousal. It’s not uncommon for women to need up to an hour of continuous stimulation to climax, and luckily –  a clit vibe will happily buzz away for as long as you need it to!

 

 

Rippled Finger Vibe £18
Rippled Finger Vibe £18

2. Clit toys are not intimidating

Clit toys can be used solo or with a partner. A small toy is easier to introduce to a vibrator-shy partner, and they can be used for unobtrusive clitoral stimulation during couples’ play. Using a clit toy on your own can be a fantastic way of finding out your likes and dislikes – experiment with different positions and pressure to find out what works best for you.

 

3. Clit toys are small and discreet

The smaller size makes clit toys easy to store and travel with. You may not want everyone knowing about your buzzy best friend and the discrete size of a clit toy makes it easy to hide away. If you are travelling to countries where sex toys are illegal, we recommend opting for a lipstick-style vibe that can easily be kept in your make up bag to avoid raising suspicion. Being smaller in size, clit vibes are usually quieter – which could be important if you live in a shared household, for example.

 

Sh! Secret Bullet Vibrator £35
Sh! Secret Bullet Vibrator £35

4. Beneficial for General Wellbeing

An orgasm will make you feel energised, healthy and happy. This is due to all the happy-hormones whooshing around in your body. Orgasms can help your cardiovascular system, burn calories (if you enjoy your sex vigorous, that is) and promote a harmonious menstrual cycle. Taking charge of your own orgasms is liberating and empowering – plus all the sexy action will put a healthy glow on your cheeks!

 

Sh! Bullet Vibe £9
Sh! Bullet Vibe £9

5. Many clit toys are inexpensive

There is no doubt about it, many clit vibes are price effective. There is no need to spend all your savings on a vibrator; for less than £10 you can get a vibrator that’ll deliver intense orgasm after intense orgasm. Thousands of women have long, hot relationships with their pocket size bullet vibes – look after your clit toy well and it will pleasure you for years to come.

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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.

 

Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.

 

Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure

 

 

 

 

 

 

Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm

 

 

One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!

 

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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls

 

Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms

 

The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure

 

There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’

 

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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure

 

Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…

 

Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…

 

 

Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…

 

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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy

 

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.

 

 

 

 

A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse

 

A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,

 

 

 

Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.

 

 

 

Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves

 

Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…

 

Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

 

For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.

 

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

 

 

Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits

 

Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99

 

They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.

 

 

 

 

Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89

 

 

 

 

 

 


For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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