Many clitoral vibrators are shaped to mirror the shape of your lips (labia), so they can be rested, externally long-ways to stimulate the whole vulval area – an often overlooked region, that is, in fact, highly sensitive.
Learning all about your clitoris and how to pleasure it is key to getting the best from your vibrator, because much of the clitoris is hidden beneath the surface.
We’ve written about how what to consider, when choosing a vibrator for your clitoris, so here we’re going to give you some tips on how to use it to get the maximum pleasure.
How to Stimulate Your Clitoris with a Vibrator
Rather than just diving directly for your clitorial tip ( the ultra sensitive pea-shaped button at the top of your inner lips, that we all know as ‘The Clitoris’ ) , start by using your vibrator to stimulate around the whole outer region.
Beneath here, there is lots of erectile tissue so stimulation will cause blood to pump into the area, making you very aroused , wet and swollen.
For most women the best place to stimulate the clitoris is not directly on the clitoral tip itself as this can sometimes feel far too intense to be pleasurable.
Try slightly off to one side – image your clitoris as clockface and explore the areas around then 11 ‘ clock or 1 O’clock – many women say these times feel really good for them…
One of the main reasons Rabbit Vibrators are popular is because the split bunny ear of the clitoral simulator deliver tingles to the super-sensitive sides..
Everyone feels things differently, but if you are trying a clitoral vibrator for the first time, try “approaching” your clitoris from the side, starting with your vibrator on a lower setting.
Explore the whole area, focusing on where feels really good before working up to high powered, mind-blowing crescendo…
The Pros & Cons of Strong Clitoral Vibes
Clitoral vibrators are often really powerful which many women find great for clitoral stimulation, especially if they have difficulty achieving orgasm.
But strong vibrators, can sometimes de-senstitize the your clitoris …
They can also give you numb fingers if you handle the vibrating element too much. If this happens, just nestle the vibrator between your lady-lips, lie back and explore the wide variety of vibrations and sensations on offer.
To tone-down too-strong vibrations, cup the vibrator in the palm of your hand and enjoy subtle vibrations through your fingertips.
If you find the vibrations too strong for your clitoris to enjoy, you can wrap your vibrator in some fabric or a towel, which will tone down the intensity.
How to take care of your clit vibe
Make sure you clean your clitoral vibe after every outing. Unless you have chosen a waterproof vibrator, be careful not to get any water inside the battery area or where the connecting wire (if your vibe has one) attaches to the toy.
Vibrators with separate battery packs may seem clumsy or a bit ‘old school’ but actually they are great for being able to lie back, close your eyes and control sensations from your hand, rather than having to fumble for the faster/slower buttons between your legs. For some women, this can help with the ‘switching the mind off’ that’s essential to orgasm.
They also make handling the controls over to your partner easier.
If your clitoral vibrator does have a separate battery pack, it’s important not to put pressure on the connection. If a vibrator is constantly dangled by the wire, the connection will weaken over time and you may find it delivers a frustratingly intermittent buzz or even stops working all together.
Clit toys are popular with customers and staff alike – nothing beats a small vibe with strong vibrations for having your first orgasm, or even your 100th orgasm!
Here are our top five reasons to love clitoral vibrators:
1. Clitoral toys help women orgasm
About 75-80% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. This make the clitoris the most important part of our pleasure centre. Stimulating it with fingers can be tiring – especially if you need a longer time for building up arousal. It’s not uncommon for women to need up to an hour of continuous stimulation to climax, and luckily – a clit vibe will happily buzz away for as long as you need it to!
2. Clit toys are not intimidating
Clit toys can be used solo or with a partner. A small toy is easier to introduce to a vibrator-shy partner, and they can be used for unobtrusive clitoral stimulation during couples’ play. Using a clit toy on your own can be a fantastic way of finding out your likes and dislikes – experiment with different positions and pressure to find out what works best for you.
3. Clit toys are small and discreet
The smaller size makes clit toys easy to store and travel with. You may not want everyone knowing about your buzzy best friend and the discrete size of a clit toy makes it easy to hide away. If you are travelling to countries where sex toys are illegal, we recommend opting for a lipstick-style vibe that can easily be kept in your make up bag to avoid raising suspicion. Being smaller in size, clit vibes are usually quieter – which could be important if you live in a shared household, for example.
4. Beneficial for General Wellbeing
An orgasm will make you feel energised, healthy and happy. This is due to all the happy-hormones whooshing around in your body. Orgasms can help your cardiovascular system, burn calories (if you enjoy your sex vigorous, that is) and promote a harmonious menstrual cycle. Taking charge of your own orgasms is liberating and empowering – plus all the sexy action will put a healthy glow on your cheeks!
5. Many clit toys are inexpensive
There is no doubt about it, many clit vibes are price effective. There is no need to spend all your savings on a vibrator; for less than £10 you can get a vibrator that’ll deliver intense orgasm after intense orgasm. Thousands of women have long, hot relationships with their pocket size bullet vibes – look after your clit toy well and it will pleasure you for years to come.
Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.
Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?
It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…
For clitoral pleasure – choose a vibrator
The best toy, for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.
Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.
Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.
No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.
Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris, so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.
You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.
Read more from advice categories:
Read more specific advice:
For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo
You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.
Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.
The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.
The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and go for similar proportions.
Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.
For both inside and out – choose a Rabbit
One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.
Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.
Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!
- All Rabbit Vibrator Advice
- How to Choose a Rabbit Vibrator
- Q&A: Rabbit Vibe
- Q&A: Rabbit or Finger Vibe
For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls
The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.
They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’
Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)
The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.
Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.
For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure
There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!
It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…
So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.
A toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.
His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure
Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.
Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.
Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.
Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…
To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy
Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.
Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.
Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.
A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.
A stretchy ring that is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.
The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,
A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to introduce a sex toy to your partner.
Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.
Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.
Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.
For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.
Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.
Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.
The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .
For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator
Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!
We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’
Read More :
For Strap On Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness
For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.
We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!
Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.
That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.
Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.
Or choose one of our Strap On Kits
They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.
For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo
Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.
They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!
A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting
Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!
Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.
It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!