A new month and a new fantastic competition with a prize that’ll make your toes curl:
Meet Womanizer 2Go!
As far as orgasms go, initial testing showed that an impressive 98% of women reached climax in less than 5 minutes when using the Womanizer 2GO Lipstick Suction Vibe. This is far beyond any other sex toy-testing stats we know of, but we can well believe it – air suction toys haven’t been out on the market for all that long, but they have created a panty-flapping stir for sure.
We have one of these fantastic toys to give away and YOU could WIN it!
Womanizer 2Go is part of brand new sex tech for women – toys that don’t necessarily make contact with the super-sensitive clitoris but still manages to bring on orgasms strong enough to wake the neighbourhood!
The magic behind Womanizer 2Go is air suction; a gentle vacuum that sucks and thrills the 8000 nerve-endings on the clitoris. Some say it feels akin to a really great oral sex session, others say it’s indescribable. Either way, everyone agrees it’s marvellous!
Key Features of Womanizer 2GO
Sophisticated clitoral suction vibe with 6 levels of intensity
100% waterproof for fun pleasure sessions in the bath or shower
USB rechargeable and made from body-safe material
Comes with 2 silicone nozzles for best fit over clit
2 years guarantee
Suction toys are amazing tools for women who find it difficult to orgasm – the intense suction can help tip a temperamental clit into orgasmic bliss.
For women who like lots of pleasure (well – that’ll be most of us!), Womanizer 2Go can help you become multi-orgasmic. As it doesn’t directly touch the clit and over-stimulate it, many women find they can keep going and going and going…
The classy lipstick design makes this toy easy to store and perfect to take away on travels. Orgasms ‘2GO’ have never been easier 😉
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Taking the plunge and buying your very first sex toy is exciting and a little bit scary – what if you don’t like it? Or what if you like it too much?! (We promise that “liking it too much” is a not thing when it comes to pleasure, so no need to worry about that!)
We have compiled a list of our Top 5 Sex Toys for Newbies: whatever the style of toy you think you might like, we have something that’ll suit your desires.
These toys are all rated 5-star on our website, so you can relax in the knowledge that someone has already bought one of these toys and thought it was ace!
All the toys on our Top 5 list are of course body-safe and very affordable – because a great orgasm shouldn’t cost an arm & a leg!
First Sex Toy For Clitoral Stimulation
Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. It’s no surprise – the clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings on its very tip so it is a massively important part for pleasure. An estimated 75% of women say they need the right kind of stimulation in the right place on the clitoris for the right length of time to orgasm – and that can be hard work! Which is where a great vibrator comes in. 🙂
Its discreet design and petite size means you can take it everywhere, including on holidays. Store it in your make up bag and no one will be the wiser!
Despite the small size, the Lipstick packs a punch – it’s incredibly powerful and with 8 different settings to explore, you are almost spoilt for choice. This vibrator is USB rechargeable, so you can easily charge it up whilst you are working or surfing your favourite social media sites.
Oh, and it’s fully waterproof!
First Sex Toy For G-spot Stimulation
The G-spot is an area located a couple of inches up on the inside of the vagina. There are doubters, but we say “bah!” to them – the G-spot is an actual area and with the right kind of stimulation, marvelously deep orgasms could come your way!
Our Mini Pink G-spot Vibe is small, slim and quiet, but works
wonders when applied to the sensitive G-spot area. The bump at the tip of the Mini Pink is there to help find and stimulate the G-spot. A good trick to try is “juicing” the G-spot – rather than sliding the vibe in and out at breakneck speed (often seen in bad porn), slowly work it back & forth on the G-spot itself. The G-spot likes firm pressure, so don’t be shy.
It may feel like you need to go for a pee which can be distracting, but relax into the sensations and you might find that waves of pleasure soon follow.
First Rabbit-Style Vibrator
Rabbit vibrators of old were mainly made out of less-than-great materials and for some unfathomable reason, designed to be huge.
These days, Rabbit vibrators come in body-safe materials and a range of sizes to suit all tastes. The 5-star toy we’ve added to our Top 5 list of sex toys is Cute Rabbit, a dual-stimulation vibe made from strokeable silicone, which is USB rechargeable and fully waterproof.
The internal shaft is short and smooth, and delivers delicious pressure to the G-spot. The clit stimulator, which has its own motor, reaches over and offers direct stimulation to the clit.
Dual stimulation toys, i.e toys with a shaft for internal pleasure as well as a built-in clitoral pleaser, are great for bringing on what’s known as blended orgasms: pleasure waves from both clit and G-spot simultaneously. *swoooon*
First Sex Toy For Couples
The Ovo Cock Ring is a stretchy vibrating ring for couples. Worn around the base of the manhood, it enhances erections and provides additional thrills during penetration.
Ovo is a a little gem for beginners – it is so easy to use. Add a little water-based lube to his semi-erect shaft for comfort, before sliding the ring over the penis and all the way down. The ring stops back-flow of blood and makes the erection both firmer and more sensitive. Switch on the one-speed bullet before she positions herself on top – this way she can grind against the vibration in ways that feel best for her.
Cock rings are the perfect accessory for introducing toys into the bedroom; small and non-threatening, and with enough functions to keep you both happy.
First Sex Toy For Anal Play
Cute beginners butt plug with removable mini bullet – perfect for first time anal play. This small, ergonomically curved butt plug has a sensual, shapely body designed in harmony with the curves of your body and a narrow neck for comfort.
The tiny vibrating bullet fits into a hole hidden in the base, and the vibrations can help relax tense tushies.
An absolute must for the ‘gal on the go.’ Zero to orgasm in about three minutes flat! The Satisfyer Pro2 is so quick and effective, everyone with a clitoris should own one.
It is really easy to use – I can easily cope with just one button! The best thing is you don’t really have to do anything, just pop it on the clitoris and let it do its magic.
There are a few settings, each more stimulating than the last. At first I wasn’t so sure, it seemed a bit too intense and just tickled, then suddenly my thoughts of, ‘this isn’t going to work for me’ and ‘It is doing nothing, just tickling’ were over powered by one of the most powerful orgasms I have ever had, not only that but it made me squirt, for the first time ever! One of my lives ambitions completed!
The only downsides are that it looks a bit like a hairdryer for a doll and the fact that it is pretty noisy. You soon get over both of those things when you feel what it can do (just maybe wait for the flatmates to leave!).
Satisfyer Pro2 is fully waterproof and makes an excellent shower buddy.
Being unable to orgasm is given the scary medical term of Anorgasmia, but weprefer to use “pre-orgasmic” instead – a more proper definition and much more positive! Anorgasmia may sound like something our of a Woody Allen film, but the inability (or seeming inability) to orgasm effects millions of women.
The most important thing is to know you are not alone. From magazines and movies, it may seem like everyone else is multi-orgasmic and having super-easy, wall to wall orgasms, but this honestly isn’t the case.
There’s all sorts of statistics bandied. 10% of women say they’ve never had an orgasm, from any kind of stimulation. We’d probably put this higher.
Around 70-80% of women don’t orgasm through intercourse alone.
The second thing to note is that whilst we have a word for it, it’s actually really difficult to describe what an orgasm feels like and it is certainly not a universal shared sensation- far from it! We’re all unique and that goes for the kind of stimulation we like and how our body responds to it. Orgasm can vary from little peaks to crashing crescendos to a warm envelopment of satisfaction.
Satisfaction is the key word here.
However hard it maybe, it is best to take the focus off orgasm and put it onto pleasure, because pursuing orgasm as if it is the Holy Grail actually creates further problems, as disappointment is followed by frustration, lack of self esteem, lack of enthusiasm for sex and tension.
All these feelings that won’t help you to feel aroused and in that ready-to-orgasm state of relaxation in the first place!
The reality is that however much you may feel like you cannot reach climax, for the vast majority of women, learning to orgasm will be possible. But how?
Every year we advise 100’s of women who’ve told us they’ve never had an orgasm…
(And often they’ve come back to the store, beaming or written to us to tell us they now have!)
Masturbation is the key, because the full definition of Anorgasmia is the ‘inability to orgasm without adequate stimulation‘
We will always recommend pre-orgasmic women to get a vibrator. The intense stimulation that a vibrator delivers has helped thousands of women “get off” for the first time. We will talk through the different options and discuss how to choose a vibrator that suits them.
It can take a long time to get the ‘adequate’ stimulation to orgasm. and again every women is different. The average is said to be somewhere between 15-40 minutes – a wide window that’s only an an average, which means a lots of women take a lot longer!
Hands can tire (and minds can wander…) which is why the sustained stimulation of a vibrator can help.
Stressing about ‘taking too long’ is one of the most common barriers to orgasm. Over stimulation, where your clitoris either becomes too sensitive to be touched or actually feels numb is another.
Physical/practical pre-orgasmic questions to ask yourself:
Do I know where my erogenous zones like the clitorisand my G-Spot are? Do I know which bits of myself do I most like being stimulated, which what kind of intensity and for how long…?
Am I worried about letting go in case I pee? Many women stop themselves orgasming because of this. As you become aroused , but it could be the onset of female ejaculation.
Have I ever tried exercising my PC Muscle? Learning to rhythmically squeeze this muscle can help women learn to orgasm
Do I tense up when near orgasm? – Many women do, but learning to breath deeply, rather than taking shallow breaths can help.
What would make me feel more relaxed when I’m masturbating or having sex?
We will also recommend a bottle of lube. 9/10 women say lube makes sex better. Making everything super wet downstairs feels incredibly sensual, as well as heightening sensations and ensuring it stays that way for as long as you need…
Along with lots of unpressured ‘me-time’ with their lube and vibrator ( ensuring no chance of interruptions and with the shower or music on, if worried about neighbours or family hearing…) the other thing we’ll recommend is to fantasise.
Learning to ‘be in the moment’ is key to female orgasm and fantasising is a great way making your mind be on sex ( rather than worries or distractions) which can help tip you over the edge.
My Secret Garden is a ground-breaking collection of women’s fantasies and we’ll often recommend this book also because it covers every kind of fantasy your could ever thing of, plus a lot more, so it’s a great resource for fantasy-material.
Reading other women’s deepest desires and wild imaginings can also be incredibly liberating.
Note: If you’ve suffered any sexual assault. it does contain fantasies that could be triggers. In this instance, we’d always urge women to get help by contacting rape support.
In a world that teaches women to be the ‘givers’ rather than the ‘receivers’, that has been ignorant of female pleasure and anatomy for so long and where the taboo of female masturbation is still rife, our focus and expertise is on the physicality of learning to orgasm.
And physically giving yourself a break from a single-minded quest for orgasm, whilst putting yourself on a dedicated journey of self-pleasure is the best first step, which has worked for the many many women we’ve advised…
But there could also be environmental, psychological or medical factors that play a part, so…
Other questions to explore if you’re unable to orgasm;
Do I feel guilty about sex or have any negative feelings or attitudes towards sex?
Do I have a problem with my relationship – unresolved issues or dissatisfaction? Do I like the kind of sex I’m having with my partner? Do I feel embarrassed or nervous about what I’d like in case of rejection?
Have I got unresolved issues stemming from abuse or trauma?
Am I taking medication, using recreational drugs or perhaps drinking too much? These may make lubrication more difficult or may interfere with arousal and ability to orgasm.
Have I been affected by any surgery, trauma or illness that may have altered my physical responses?
Am I the sort of person who always needs to be in control? Am I afraid of losing control?
If you think any of these issues maybe at the core of being unable to orgasm, it maybe time to consult your doctor or get professional counseling.
Many clitoral vibrators are shaped to mirror the shape of your lips (labia), so they can be rested, externally long-ways to stimulate the whole vulval area – an often overlooked region, that is, in fact, highly sensitive.
Rather than just diving directly for your clitorial tip ( the ultra sensitive pea-shaped button at the top of your inner lips, that we all know as ‘The Clitoris’ ) , start by using your vibrator to stimulate around the whole outer region.
Beneath here, there is lots of erectile tissue so stimulation will cause blood to pump into the area, making you very aroused , wet and swollen.
For most women the best place to stimulate the clitoris is not directly on the clitoral tip itself as this can sometimes feel far too intense to be pleasurable.
Try slightly off to one side – image your clitoris as clockface and explore the areas around then 11 ‘ clock or 1 O’clock – many women say these times feel really good for them…
One of the main reasons Rabbit Vibrators are popular is because the split bunny ear of the clitoral simulator deliver tingles to the super-sensitive sides..
Everyone feels things differently, but if you are trying a clitoral vibrator for the first time, try “approaching” your clitoris from the side, starting with your vibrator on a lower setting.
Explore the whole area, focusing on where feels really good before working up to high powered, mind-blowing crescendo…
The Pros & Cons of Strong Clitoral Vibes
Clitoral vibrators are often really powerful which many women find great for clitoral stimulation, especially if they have difficulty achieving orgasm.
But strong vibrators, can sometimes de-senstitize the your clitoris …
They can also give you numb fingers if you handle the vibrating element too much. If this happens, just nestle the vibrator between your lady-lips, lie back and explore the wide variety of vibrations and sensations on offer.
To tone-down too-strong vibrations, cup the vibrator in the palm of your hand and enjoy subtle vibrations through your fingertips.
If you find the vibrations too strong for your clitoris to enjoy, you can wrap your vibrator in some fabric or a towel, which will tone down the intensity.
How to take care of your clit vibe
Make sure you clean your clitoral vibe after every outing. Unless you have chosen a waterproof vibrator, be careful not to get any water inside the battery area or where the connecting wire (if your vibe has one) attaches to the toy.
Vibrators with separate battery packs may seem clumsy or a bit ‘old school’ but actually they are great for being able to lie back, close your eyes and control sensations from your hand, rather than having to fumble for the faster/slower buttons between your legs. For some women, this can help with the ‘switching the mind off’ that’s essential to orgasm.
They also make handling the controls over to your partner easier.
If your clitoral vibrator does have a separate battery pack, it’s important not to put pressure on the connection. If a vibrator is constantly dangled by the wire, the connection will weaken over time and you may find it delivers a frustratingly intermittent buzz or even stops working all together.
The size and shape of a clitoral vibrator is less important than the sensations it delivers.
Any vibrator can be used for clitoral pleasure and most women use their vibrator solely on or around their clitoris and vulva during masturbation. But we all have different sensitivities and responses, so getting the right kind of stimulation is key; A vibrator that is too powerful for one woman and desensitizes her might be just the thing for the next women, who needs strong intensity to get off.
So, when choosing a clitoral vibrator, it’s good to think about how much clitoral stimulation you need to become aroused or to orgasm.
If orgasms come easily to you through clitoral stimulation and you know the level of stimulation you enjoy; mild, medium, strong or wowser! – Use the ‘intensity’ filters (on the left hand side of our category pages) to take your pick of any vibrator that takes your fancy.
If you are new to the whole idea of dedicated clitoral pleasure and have little idea of the kind of stimulation you might like, then we recommend exploring with your fingers and some lubricant first.
This way you can get some idea of the sensations you enjoy and how firmly or fluttery you might enjoy them.
It may seem like the most obvious statement in the book, but you will only achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation if that stimulation is pleasing to you!
In the same way that a milder vibe might be too subtle for some, a super powerful vibe can be a turn-off for for others. The wrong-type can lead to frustration or even ( horrors!) vibrator-rejection but the thing to remember is, like women themselves, vibrators come in all sorts of intensities.
In general, vibrators with a ”higher pitched” vibration make for better clitoral toys and those with a lower, heavier, deeper vibration are better for penetration.
We have rated all our vibrators for these two types of intensity: High Intense & Deep Throbby.
DO YOU LIKE INTENSE CLITORAL STIMULATION?
For those who enjoy full-blast power, feel they need strong, firm clitoral stimulation or have reduced sensation ‘down there’, a vibrator with a ‘high intense’ rating is likely to be the best choice.
Vibrators with a ‘Strong’ or ‘Wowser’ rating are some of the most powerful vibes know to woman, and most likely to bring about a spontaneous clitoral orgasm.
Remember, whilst our clitoral vibrators have all been chosen because they are shaped or particularly recommended for external pleasure, ANY vibrator can be pressed into clit-pleasing service, so you may wish to browse our full range.
Filtering results on our main vibrator pages to show all toys with a ‘Strong’ or ‘Wowser’ rating, will give you the most choice, whilst doing the same on the sub categories ( clitoral vibrators/rabbit/wands etc) will whittle them down…
DO YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY IN ACHIEVING ORGASM?
If you are one of the many, many women who sometimes find their mind or body unresponsive to sex, keeping a really high-powered vibe buzzing away on your clitoris can be a good way of awakening your body’s response
And where the body leads, the mind will often follow…
Many Sexologists recommend a Wand Massager for women who find orgasm tricky or illusive because they offer so much more power and intensity than a battery-operated vibe.
IS YOUR CLITORIS SENSITIVE?
If you know that you are sensitive ‘down there’ and prefer a soft, subtle touch to caress your clitoris, try a soft-feel vibe that has the variety to offer gentler vibrations.
Many women swear by the clit-pleasing bunny ears of Rabbit Vibrator as they stimulate the sides of the clitoris, rather rather directly on it.
This is better if you prefer a more diffused clitoral touch or find direct clitoral stimulation actually turns your clit off…
Many women have told us they use their regular bunny vibrator purely for clitoral stimulation ( ‘I don’t even bother with the shaft thingy!’) so for a dedicated bunny-ear clit vibrator, there’s the Rabbit Ears Vibrator.
If you find a vibe too intense, simply wrap it in a piece of fabric to soften the vibrations.
You can filter for ‘Gentle’ or ‘Medium’ intensity rating on our vibrator pages.
DO YOU LIKE VARIED CLITORAL STIMULATION?
In general, most women need sustained clitoral stimulation to orgasm and on average, for 20 minutes or more.
A vibrator can certainly speed things up ( if you want it to!) but the other variant among women is the kind of consistency they need to orgasm.
Some need stimulation to consistent and changing the stimulation can, like a snakes and ladders game, take them back to square one.
Other can find they become too accustomed, or even bored, by lots of samey clit stimulation.
Thankfully, these days most vibrators offer different patterns of vibration, as well as a steady, regular buzz, as standard.
For women who want to be taken on a journey of different sensations, a high-tech clitoral vibrator like Secret Vibrator offers 20 ( yes -20!) pulsating and escalating settings to keep you, and your clitoris, surprised and, we hope, delighted!
Or you could really rev up the anticipation by playing with a remote controlled vibe with your partner controlling the vibrator’s buzz – that will certainly keep your clitoris alert!
The anatomy of the clitoris was first described in 1559 by Renaldus Columbus of Padua, who claimed that previous anatomists had overlooked the very existence of “so pretty a thing”.
And it remained overlooked until 1998, when Australian Urologist Helen O’Connell found there was much more to the clitoris than the ‘little hill’ (the meaning of the Greek root ‘Kleitoris’).
The ‘little hill’ was actually just the tip of an iceberg. That the true complexity of the clitoris wasn’t discovered until late into the 20th century says a lot about how female sexuality has been undervalued and misunderstood.
As the only organ in the human body solely dedicated to sexual pleasure and the epicentre of most women’s orgasmic world, the clitoris should never be undervalued or overlooked!
The clitoris is the most sensitive organ in the human body
Much, MUCH more sensitive than the tongue, fingertips or penis.
A good way for men to understand just how sensitive it is, is to imagine the sensitivity of their penis x 2 , compacted into the size of a pea – pow!
The clitoral tip, also known as the glans, is what most people know, and refer to as, ‘the clitoris’.
It lies beneath the fold of skin (called the clitoral hood) at the top of the inner vaginal lips. The tip and the hood are the only parts of the clitoris that lie outside the body.
Internally, the hidden parts of clitoris are two wishbone-shaped shafts (clitoral legs) and 2 bulbs of erectile tissue that lie either side of the vaginal opening.
The urethral sponge (The G-Spot) is also likely to be part of the internal clitoral structure and appears certainly inter-connected. Debate still rages about its existence, with preciously little proper research, so until that is done, we’re going on our own evidence of talking to thousands of women about their special spot
When you become turned on, your clitoris swells with blood and becomes erect.
It can even double in size.
When you become really aroused, the clitoral tip retracts under its hood and may no longer be visible or even twiddlable..
The clitoral tip can retreat, and return to play, several times during sex, but during orgasm your clitoris is always retracted.
The different parts of the clitoris produce different sensations and only by exploring, and honing in on what feels good, will you discover the full pleasures your clitoris has to offer you.
Touching the tip gives the most intense sensation which many women don’t find very pleasurable. If the touch is too firm, it can actually be painful.
Most women find stroking around the sides of the clitoris, rather than directly on it, far more pleasurable.
Women have incredible complex sexual responses and can take a long time to orgasm. This is great news for the intensity of our orgasms (the longer the build-up, the better the orgasm) but it can mean hands, tongues and lovers can tire…
This is where the orgasm-busting power of a great vibe can come into its own.
Playing with a vibrator, whether with a partner or solo, can allow you to discover new ways to feel pleasure and new ways to orgasm.
The small but mighty Sh! Bullet vibrator has been around for a long time and is still as popular as when it was first introduced. Single speed and dinky enough to keep in your pocket without raising eyebrows, the Sh! Bullet comes ready-loaded with three cell batteries. Coupled with a travel-size bottle of paraben-free Lush Pure lube, a tester sachet of the bestselling Tickle Her Pink enhancing gel for extra zing and a spray bottle of sex toy cleaner. Perfect size for travelling, wedding-night surprises or as a little pick-me-up treat after a long week.
The Clitoral Pleasure Vibe may be a little crab-like in appearance, but it’s been cleverly designed to reach the parts of the clitoris most receptive to stimulation: the sides.
Many of our customers report that their clits are far too sensitive for direct contact – and with 8000 nerve-endings on its very tip, this is no surprise. With this clitoral toy, exclusive to Sh!, soft silicone prongs hug the clitoris whilst 10 different settings tease and pulse around it, all controlled with a quick flick of the finger.
Specially shaped for dedicated clitoral pleasure ( hence the name!) its dual 2.75 inch vibrating arms can also deliver tingling sensations to other erogenous zones, such as your nipples or lower lips , they can even wrap around toes, if that’s your thing!
A great starter vibe, or an excellent addition to an already bulging toy box, whatever you sex-toy-status, the Clitoral Pleasure Vibe works for all, as you’ll see from the reviews links below.
To super-charge sensations, try adding a gently enhancing clitoral stimulating gel, which works by increasing blood flow to the genitals, causing the clitoris to swell and become extremely sensitive
It’s a great clitoral vibe for partner play too
Despite it’s name, Clitoral Pleasure Vibe is not just for women and can be used on a male partner too.
A great tip would be to run the soft prongs down over his shaft and scrotum (“party bag”) on a low setting, perhaps whilst performing oral sex, for mind-blowing pleasure.
The Clitoral Pleasure Vibe is a fantastic all-round vibe that can also be used for sexy nipple play; simply use the soft silicone arms for teasing on and around the nipples for waves and waves of arousal.
Handing over the controls to your partner is another great trick – let someone else be in charge of your pleasure for a short while. Lay back and relax, and just go with the flow. This is a great way of introducing a shy partner to sex toys – by making your favourite clit vibe a couples toy, they’ll feel included in, or even ‘in charge’ of all the fun!
I have never come very easily and NEVER through oral sex and it was only when I slept with a woman that she commented what a tiny clit I have. I guess this is my problem.
Does anyone know of anything that can help with a tiny clit?
I looked up cosmetic surgery but the only thing I can see is G-Spot augmentation – so has anyone had that or does anyone have any advice about a tiny clit – any ideas mucho appreciated…
We’re sorry to hear about your orgasmic problems, but the good news is:
There is absolutely no link between clit size and sexual responsiveness or function.
A tiny clitoris certainly does not mean tiny orgasms…or no orgasms at all.
Rather than looking at commercial cosmetic surgery sites – which will encourage a feeling of “abnormality”, take a look at educational sites, such as The Clitoris Site which should reassure you that your clit size is not abnormal and having a tiny clitoris does not mean you’re never likely to have an orgasm.
The clitoris is a very complex structure: the “tiny” part on the outside is just the tip of an iceberg.
Lots of women find orgasms tricky or illusive – you are not alone, we promise. And it has nothing to do with whether their clitoris is tiny, large or somewhere in-between.
Not being able to orgasm is usually down to 3 things:
Not being aware of how our body works
Not experimenting with what pleasures our body likes best
Learning how to ‘be in the moment’
We recommend a book called Becoming Orgasmic – a highly-respected, well-written and comprehensive guide to discovering your orgasmic potential.
Also a great book for you might be Clitoral Truth It explains in great detail exactly what the clitoris is and is not. It should also help you shed any hang-ups about what’s “normal” regarding clitoral size and help you find new ways of exploring your clitoris.
Lots of women tell us they have their first orgasm with a vibrator.
A vibe delivers steady, sustained and intense stimulation that is often enough to turn pre-orgasmic women into ‘yes! yes! yes! I can do it!’ – women.
Take a look at our clitoral vibes. Different vibes, for different folks, but for pre-orgasmic women we’d recommend getting a really “wowser” (ie super-strong) clit vibe like the intensely powerful Wand Vibrator.
You can always use the vibrator on the lowest setting (or even wrap it in some material) if you find the sensations too intense, but it will give you super-strong vibration if that’s what your body requires.
Remember, whatever you do – enjoy every minute of the discovery process!