Hi I am looking for an anal plug with at least 4 inches of insertable length which I can insert prior to going into the office and leave in for 3-4 hours. Can you assist? Thank you. Also, do you think it is possible to insert a toy into my vagina at the same time and leave them both in as I work in the office? Your advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you,
Many thanks for your email.
Many people like to play kinky or sexy games at work, enjoying the secret thrill of knowing what they are wearing underneath their smart work outfit.
We have a selection of soft silicone butt plugs that might be just what you are looking for, like this beginner’s butt plug. There are other sizes and shapes to choose from, but we’d recommend opting for a slimmer butt plug if you are intending to wear a vaginal toy at the same time. And – don’t forget about the all important lube!
There are a quite a few options for toys that can be worn internally, but top of the list for fun “work wear” are love balls. Simply slip them in, vaginally ( never, EVER use love balls anally) and you are all set! You’ll feel the balls jiggle as you move, which can be incredibly sensual.
The added benefit of wearing love balls is that you are working your pc muscle at the same time, which in turn will increase the strength of your orgasms. Bonus!
Buzzing at Work
If you fancy a little buzz every now and then, you might choose a remote control vibe like We Vibe Classic. The We Vibe Classic offers clitoral stimulation, as well as internal stimulation – all controlled via the handy remote. Or, more discreetly, via the free app that you can download to your phone. These days, sex toys are so quiet, you needn’t worry about your colleagues hearing the tell-tale buzz either…
If you have any questions please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org, if you’d like help from our sex and relationship expert Sarah Berry please add the subject like, ‘Ask Sarah’.
Team Sh! xx
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A dildo has a regular girth (though it can be slightly flared or ribbed for pleasure), which delivers smooth anal penetration.
A butt plug has a sphincter-stop at its base, which makes it stay-put, so whilst it offers special anal pleasures, it’s not designed for sliding in-and-out moves…
Choosing an anal dildo is all about size, with width being more important than length…
Unless you are totally confident you know the perfect size for your anal dildo, it’s best to start off with a slim dildo.The width is the most important dimension to consider, as you can always control how deep a dildo goes, but one that is too wide, will make relaxing anal muscles an uphill, if not impossible battle!
The anus is a delicate flower where everything, particularly size, feels magnified. So choosing a first dildo for anal sex for is not the time to be greedy or have your eyes bigger than your bum!
The flower metaphor works perfectly for anal pleasure because the bum-hole starts out as a tight bud, but with lots of gentle and loving cultivation, slowly opens up …. Certainly as you become turned on, you may desire more and slight ‘stretching’ might feel good, but for most of us, whopping anal dildos are the stuff of fantasy and porn films, rather than reality. Wide dildos can, in real life, be difficult to take, even for experienced anal-players.
If you plan to use your anal dildo in a strap-on, however, you may need a longer dildo than than you think. Once a dildo is slipped into a harness, a couple of centimetres of insertable length is lost, plus tummies can get in the way…
A slightly longer anal dildo is also good for pleasuring your guy’s prostate gland.
Any dildo destined for your bum needs to be ‘anal-safe’
That’s why the wide base that is a feature on every Sh! Dildo makes it safe to use as anal dildo, as, no matter how passionate your moves become, it cannot slip all the way inside and potentially get lost up there!
Made from 100% silicone, a Sh! dildo is non-porous, neither absorbing nor disclosing any substances and can be completely sterilized.
Silicone is also soft and flexible. This is important in order for it to bend with the natural curves inside.
The anal canal curves about 4 inches inside, so any dildo longer than that needs to be soft enough to bend…
This is why long, hard dildos may not be comfortable for anal sex.
We make over 40 different sizes and styles, which means we can match you with your perfect dildo; from anal beginners to anal experts and everyone in between!
All Sh! dildos can be used in a strap on harness for anal play too, and many lesbians are au fait with its pleasures.
We give advice about buying a dildo for anal play/pegging everyday in our London store and know that it is a very individual, personal choice…
Buying over the internet is much trickier, so here are the top 3 anal dildo, as chosen by customers, instore, where they can see, feel and measure-up our full range, as well as ask any us any questions about anal play.
Best-selling anal dildos – as chosen by our customers..
Wirly Girly 2 is our best-selling anal dildo, particularly for beginners to anal play and pegging.
At 5.25 inch long with rounded head and supple, slim 1.1 inch shaft, which makes it flexible to bend
The ribbed shaft delivers extra sensations as it slides in-and-out, At 5.25 inches long it has enough length to deliver satisfying strokes, without feeling overwhelming.
Cupid 2 is another very popular shape and size for anal-play.
The 4.5 inches long shaft is slightly tilted with rounded head for easy entry.
The curvy 1.25 inch shaft offers gentle penetrative pleasure.
Because of the upward curve of this dildo, it is great for targeted prostate massage. On their back, use it with the curve pointing upwards; if your partner is on all fours, its best to swivel the dildo round and use it ‘up-side-down’ , with the head of the dildo pointing downwards…
This will align with their body better, ensuring no accidental ‘bumping’ occurs.
Wirly Girly 3is a good choice if you plan to wear your dildo in a harness.
At 7 inches long with a gently rounded head and supple, ribbed 1.25 inch shaft makes this a user-friendly and popular dildo for longer strokes anal play
Firm but very flexible, it follows the natural curve of the anal canal.
A little bit longer than Wirly Girly 2, it reaches deeper inside with ease.
Dildos for anal pegging play
More and more straight couples are also discovering the delights of ‘pegging‘ – the term given for when a women straps-on a dildo to anally-pleasure her man.
In the last 10 years pegging has become increasingly popular and nowadays about 35% of the strap on dildos we sell at Sh! are sold for pegging play.
Pegging your man, using an anal dildo, is likely to pleasure his prostate glandand give him amazing orgasms.
Any dildo can be coupled with a strap on to create the perfect pegging toy for you, so feel free to browse our silicone dildo collection. It is always best to choose your dildo first and then add a strap-on…
For easy-off-the-shelf pegging toys, we have 2 great products;
Using a strapless dildo is something that takes practice. They are best suited for close, intimate moves, rather than wild thrusting as, without the security of a harness, the dildo has to be kept in place, just by the operator holding the larger egg-shaped dildo inside her, gripping it with her PC Muscle.
The smaller shaft ( 3.75 x 1 inch ) extends out of her and its small, slim proportions make it user-friendly for anal and pegging pleasure
A Butt Plug is an anal sex toy which is designed to be ‘worn’ rather than moved in-and-out. It provides the wearer with a continual feeling of fullness, pressure and arousing awareness of the area.
The nerves that surround the anus are super sensitive and a butt plug also offers constant stimulation to them.
Butt Plugs Pleasures For Women & Men
For women, a butt plug delivers pressure to the vaginal walls and sensations can feel super-intense when both front and back doors are filled.
Men have their own special spot, the Prostate Gland, located 1.5 – 3 inches inside and a butt plug can put pleasurable pressure on this.
Butt plugs are diamond shaped; From the top a small tip flares our to a wider middle before sweeping into a a narrow neck (for the anal muscles to close around) and finishing with a wide base which prevents the toy slipping inside the anus. Some also have a ring on the base to slip your finger in and keep hold of.
How to Use a Butt Plug for
To enjoy the sensations of butt plug play, the recipient should be really aroused, so give lots of attention to all other erogenous zones before going near the butt!
Find a position that’s comfortable for anal play – on all fours, on your back with legs raised or crouched over the plug.
Go slowly and communicate, if you are playing with a lover.
Apply a nice, thick anal lube to the anal area and sensually massage & stimulate the anus with your fingers, or just the tip of the butt plug.
Lots of us impede great sex by shallow breathing or holding our breath, which staves the body of oxygen and makes muscles tense up.
The anus, when really relaxed and aroused starts to open up (like a lovely flower!). Work the plug inside in harmony with this, ie never force it, but keep massaging around the area until it lets the plug slip effortless inside.
Angle the butt plug toward the front of the body as you slide it deeper.
Once inside the anal sphincter muscles will close around the narrow neck, thus holding the plug in place.
Every kind of sexual stimulation can feel heightened whilst wearing an anal plug; oral sex, clitoral stimulation, nipple stimulation, a hand-job – you name it!
How long can you use a Butt Plug?
A plug can be “worn” for as long as you want; our customers have told us they’ve even gone to work or cleaned the house whilst wearing one.
Wearing a butt plug outside of the bedroom can be incredibly arousing (just as most ‘naughty secrets’ are!) and a great way to keep the wearer focussed on their anal pleasure.
Once your body is accustomed to the feeling, a butt plug is likely to stay in place but for extra security, slip on your tightest pants (rather than baggy boxers or bloomers) and you’ll feel confident wearing a butt plug ‘in public’.
If you are planning a long butt-plug session, we recommend regularly removing your anal plug to apply more lube, just to be sure that you don’t get a sore bottom!
Most of the butt plugs we carry are made of silicone and we also hand pour our own range of silicone butt plugs, in our London studio.
Silicone is a great material for all anal sex toys because it’s smooth, feels sensual and is super easy to clean, which is particularly important for backdoor toys! Our silicone butt plugs can even be sterilized.
Our Top Butt Plugs, as chosen by customers in our London store:
With just a couple of insertable silicone inches to play with, the Dinky Butt Plug is massively popular with our customers.
A really great butt plug, it’s fulfilling without being even remotely overwhelming.
The base is perfectly safe for play, but still small enough to be able to walk around with, if that’s what you like.
Vibration can help relax, as well as delivery waves of thrilling sensations throughout the whole genital area.
You can either choose one with a bullet in the base, which is best if you’d like constant and even stimulation.
Or choose one with a separate controller handset, which is easier to operate, if you would like your partner to ‘take charge’ of the sensations or if you would change intensity of vibration, throughout play…
Remember always use lube for all anal play!With butt plugs, we advice you apply it to your bum-hole and the tip/ main shaft of the toy, but wipe it off the base, just to be sure you can get a grip for removing it…
Is a Butt Plug the Right Sex Toy for You?
A butt plug is best for anal sex play that requires little or no movement. Whether enjoyed as a side dish to other sexual activities or as the main event, it simply fills you with an ever-present feeling of fullness, as well as focussing your mind on back-door sensations…
If you are looking for a toy for a sliding-in-and-out anal sex, an anal dildois better than a butt plug, as the regular girth offers smoother penetration.
Whilst making love, my lover likes me to slip a finger in their ass but my nails are long and I’m worried I’ll hurt them – Have you got any advice or tips on how to satify my partner, without doing any harm?
Good question! And it’s really great that you’re thinking about this, rather than simply delving in, as ass-fingering with talons is tricky!
The anus is very delicate and easily torn so all nails (whether long or short) should be well groomed and smooth before going anywhere near a delicate tush.
We recommend using latex in all anal play as it adds a silky smooth touch as well as keeping things safe.
The anus is protected by only very fine skin and is easily scratched so ass-fingering is best done by latex-covered fingers.
We recommend you wear latex gloves for ass-fingering because you can squish cotton wool balls under long nails before covering them in latex, you’ll take the edge off your talons as well as protecting the glove from potential tears.
This will protect your lover’s anus but there are more reasons to rubber-up for ass fingering….
– Lubeis easier to apply and doesn’t get as easily absorbed when you wear latex glove for ass fingering.
Anal pleasureis a long leisurely journey, not a speedy sprint, and ensuring everything stays nicely lubricated for the full duration is key it’s all pleasure and no pain.
-Latex-covered, your fingers will feel sleeker, so you can feel more and be more in tune with whats going on.
– They help to take care of any cleanliness issues – both your fingers and their anus…
– And just the sight and sound of you snapping on a latex glove will make your lover tingle with excitement and anticipation!
If you’d like to take anal exploration further than fingers, which are the best toys?
Sometimes it’s hard to reach round and give your lover the anal pleasuring they desire with just your fingers, so if you need extra reach or would like to try something other than fingers, take a look at our range of Butt Plugs and anal-safe Silicone Dildos.
Hope this info is helpful. If you’d like any more advice, just get in touch.
Both me and my partner are curious to try anal sex and the idea of it really turns me on but also I’m really scared it’s going to hurt. It seems like a common acceptance/joke that anal is always painful and yet lots of people also seem to be doing it, so I’m really confused – do they just grit their teeth or is there really pleasure ( as in my fantasies) to be had?
Maybe it’s a pain/pleasure thing? If so, I’d really like to know before I get any deeper ( so to speak!) as pain really isn’t my thing!
I’d be grateful for any advice you can give.
You’re right, from jokes and sitcoms to more highbrow knowledge imparting there’s an accepted ‘truth’ that anytime anything goes up the bum is going to hurt like hell! And yet, from porn films to colonic irrigation, there’s plenty to suggest that anal can be pleasurable and completely pain-free.
The key to the difference is relaxation. Lets take this away from the sex for a minute and think about this in terms of colonic irrigation (where the practitioner puts a a pipe up your bum and washes you out from the inside) No one is going to pay good money to have this done if it’s painful, are they? The practioner knows you must be relaxed and creates an environment to ensure you are. She explains what will happen, so you are fully informed – no sudden movements or nasty surprises! She’ll use lube and patience and most crucially, you will be in charge.
So, take all and transfer it over to anal sex and you’ll see there are 3 elements to ensure it is pain-free;
Without all three, anal sex will hurt. The biggest barrier for first-timers is the anxiety that it WILL hurt, which, of course tenses everything up and ensures it does – a viscous cycle if ever there was one!
The problem is that the receptive partner doesn’t actually have any conscious control over relaxing this muscle. If it constricts involuntarily, forcing anal sex will hurt. This is why you must try to be really in-tune with what your body is telling you and able to communicate it to your partner.
It’s crucial that the receptive partner of anal sex controls the pace…
At the beginning it may feel really alien to your body to have something going up your bum and we’d suggest that before you try with a penis or dildo, you experiment first with a finger, a small, slim butt plug or anal vibrator.
Avibrating anal toyis a great way to explore your derriére desires for the first time as vibration is excellent for relaxing those extra sensitive anal nerve endings as well sending pleasurable thrills throughout the whole pelvic area.
We also think it’s better for newbies to explore the sensations on your own, rather than with a partner, as this removes any pressure or impatience to ‘get on with in’ because, when you’re aroused, you may feel ready to involve your partner before you actually are. Playing solo ensures you can concentrate wholly on yourself and the sensations you’re feeling…
Anal lube is simply extra thick and/or super slippery so toys, fingers or penises stay coated for longer. The key is to ensure everything glides and never drags; gliding is the physical equivalent of relaxing, whilst dragging is the equivalent of tensing ( remember, tensing = possible pain) which is why using lube, and LOTS of it, frequently re-applied, is essential.
It can take a long time for your body to become accustomed to, and really relax into the sensations of anal play, so never think of it as a race, but more like a meander…
Once you feel ready to involve your partner, communication needs to be added to the mix. We know that talking about sex can be hard but it is key to ensuring anal sex is a positive experience for both partners and one you’d like to try again and again…
You could start off giving them a one woman performance on your newfound anal confidence with your toys or fingers. This will show your partner the kind of pace and depth you find most arousing. Before inviting them to become involved in a more ‘hands on’ (or penis/dildo in!) capacity, talk and agree together that you are in control of the action and pace. If you need to slow down or stop altogether, it’s much better to do so. Gritting teeth or soldering on is totally counter-productive because that’s likely to be the very last time you ever want to try anal sex!
In terms of positions, ‘doggy-style’ maybe the anal position that springs first to mind, but actually this isn’t the best, especially for newcomers. Being on top, where you can lower yourself onto your lover or toys is another way for you to feel and be in control of pace and depth.
We hope this has helped give you the confidence to go ahead and explore turning your fantasies into pleasurable anal reality!
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Please could you give me some advice on which is best toy for anal sex – a butt plug or a dildo?
I’m kind of new to all this and would appreciate some advice.
Thanks in advance…
So, choosing the right kind of sex toy for anal play depends on how you want to use the toy and the kind of pleasure you’d like to experience from it. But as a beginner it’s very difficult to know!
Probably the best way it to start your anal discovery with a finger, covered in a condom or latex glove, if you’d prefer….
Cover both your anus and finger with some lube and gently, with patience, start exploring.
Going in will essentially feel the same, but once up there, do you prefer simply the feeling of fullness of your finger staying put or do you prefer a sliding in and out motion?
Butt Plugs – Best For Feelings of Still Fullness…
If you more prefer a feeling of fullness, then a butt plug is a great anal sex toy for you as, after the initial insertion, it’s not designed for much movement, beyond a slight wiggle or tilt.
The narrow neck at a butt plug’s base is what makes it stay in place – your sphincture muscle will naturally close around where it is narrowest – so, whilst there are no rules to how you must play with any sex toys and you can make small in-out movements with it, it may feel jarring to try to slide a butt plug in-and-out once this muscle has tensed around the narrow neck portion.
A butt plug is a good toy to get a ‘feel’ of what it’s like simply to have something up your bum, which in itself can be very arousing.
Anal Dildos – Best for In-and-Out Strokes…
If you crave a feeling of stroking in-and-out, then a dildo is actually the best toy for this kind of anal pleasure, because they have regular shafts, with no pronounced narrowing.
Again, there’s NO rules and you can simply slide a dildo inside and hold it there with no movement. But, unlike a butt plug, you can’t really let go, as the anus’ natural instinct is to (ahem) ‘expel’ …so it will start to slide out.
Our dildos start from finger- size, like the Wirly Girly 1 Slim Dildo, so even if you are new to anal sex, you won’t be feel overwhelmed.
Both these styles are super popular anal dildos; slim enough for unintimidating anal sex, with gently ribbed shafts for stimulating the responsive nerve-endings in the anal canal and the extra length allows for proper strokes, without the toy slipping out altogether which can be frustrating!
The bases of all Sh! dildos & butt plugs are all safe for anal play as they flare enough to prevent dildos from slipping inside and getting lost inside.
Remember, whenever you play – lubricant is your friend and absolutely key to pleasurable anal sex, so whichever toy you choose, treat it and yourself with a lovely coat of lube to ensure maximum glide and pleasure.
Hope this helps and do give us a shout if you need any more advice
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If it does, you are taking things too quickly or not using enough lubricant.
Patience and a slow, teasing pace are essential to relaxing anal muscles and enjoying anal sex / anal sex toys.
Inside the anus are two sets of sphincter muscles; the first can be tensed at will, whilst the second constricts involuntarily.
This is why, even if you are trying to relax into the delights of anal pleasure, your body might resist. This is when anal sex can hurt and forcing the issue will only result in the muscles resisting further!
Only by taking as much time as the body needs to open up to anal pleasure, and by using plenty of lube, will delicate tushies be kept safe, happy and relaxed enough to enjoy anal sex/toys to the full.
All toys destined for anal play need to be ‘anal-safe‘
There’s 3 things to check for before introducing your tush to a sex toy
Anal -Safe Design. Just as – ahem – it’s an exit from the body, it can also be an entrance. Putting it bluntly, toys can get lost up there. So, make sure your anal sex toy has either:
a wide or flared base, which as a ‘stop’ no matter how excited you get
a long handle that you are sure you can keep a firm grip upon – (keep it and your fingers free of lube)
a ring in which to slip your finger and hold tight!
2. Smooth, Non-Porous Surface: Your bum is a delicate flower with thin, ‘nickable’ skin ( much more so that the vajay) so any sex toy for anal play needs to be smooth and seamless. For peace of mind, it should also be non-porous, so it can easily be cleaned/sterilized.
3. Flexible enough to bend with the natural curves of the anus. Around 4 inches inside, the anal canal bends, so any toy longer than this should be flexible, in order not to ‘bump’ and feel uncomfortable.
Anal Sex Toy Materials
Silicone: We believe this is the very best material for anal sex toys as it’s sensually smooth, soft, flexible, non-porous and super easy to keep clean. If the toy is non-vibrating, or contains a removable bullet, you can even sterilize it. Use water-based lube with silicone toys as silicone lube, over time, can start to degrade the smooth surface of your toy.
Glass:Smooth , cool and firm, glass delivers sensually sleek sensations like no other sex toy material. You can use any type of lubricant with glass and a little goes a long way. Glass toys can be warmed by running under that hot tap before you play. Can be sterilized.
Steel: Very similar to glass but has an added weightiness that can feel sensational anally. The weight also makes for incredible prostate massage.
All these materials are body-safe, which means they wont disclose any substances ( is chemicals) into you body as well as non-porous which means they won’t absorb anything from your body either.
Hygiene is clearly an important factor when we’re talking bum-fun, which is why the best anal sex toys are non-porous toys that you can clean/ sterilize thoroughly. Condoms can be used on any toys and make for quick, easy peace-of-mind clean up.
So, safety message over.
Now let’s take off into the wonderful world of anal sex toys.
There are essentially 5 types of anal sex toys
Understanding the different sensations delivered by different anal toys is key to choosing the right anal toy for you.
Each provide a very different kind of anal pleasure.
Choosing your first anal toy can be mind-boggling and intimidating, especially if you’re going in blind, so here we’ll briefly describe the different sensations they deliver.
A Butt Plug is a stay-put anal sex toy, designed to be ‘worn’.
The narrow neck of a butt-plug prompts sphincter muscles to squeeze around where it’s slimmest, thus holding it in place.
Butt plugs are not designed to be moved in-and-out, but eased inside where they stay put ( thou they will often need a hand to keep them in place as it’s the body’s natural reflex to ‘expel’ from this area! ) providing a pleasurable feeling of fullness and pressure.
Butt plugs are available in both vibrating and non-vibrating options, from the tiny-sized and up.
A dildo is best for a sliding-in-and-out feeling or for anal sex with a strap-on, whether with your female partner or ‘pegging’ your male partner.
Whether worn in a harness or used hand-held, a dildo ( rather than a butt-plug) is best for delivering smooth, penetrative sensations as there’s no sphincter-stop for the anal muscles to close in around.
In our anal dildo section, we list our most popular dildos bought at our store specifically for anal pleasure but feel free to choose any Sh! silicone dildo – their wide bases make every one totally safe for anal play.
The shape of an anal vibrator will give you a clue as to the kind of pleasure it will deliver; stay-put plug; ‘popping’ beads; in-and-out penetration; specific prostate massage but it will also vibrate.
The sensation of vibration around the super sensitive anal area can feel mind-blowingly intense. Plus the vibrations themselves can distract your body away any reflexes of resistance, ie the buzz physically helps relax tense anal muscles.
Essentially a cock-ring, designed for a man to wear on his penis, with the clitoral stimulator buzzing away on his female partner’s clit (in missionary and woman-on-top positions) whilst the lower dildo provides her with anal/double penetration.
It can be used in the same way, slipped onto a dildo during strap-on sex, too.
Lube is essential for all anal sex, including toys.
The anus doesn’t self-lubricate and naturally resists if stimulation doesn’t feel smooth and ‘resistance-free’.
Adding lube ensures that everything is kept super-sensual and deliciously slippery.
Anal lubricant is thicker and lasts longer than regular lube, which is why it is recommended for the gentle art of sensual anal pleasuring.
Remember, whichever toy you go for, put a generous dollop of lubricant on the tip of your toy and the anal area before you play, wiping any excess off handle/base to ensure it’s not too slippery to keep a firm hold on.
Sensual, pain-free anal sex is all about being super-relaxed.
If worrying about ‘you-know-what’ ( yes- we’re talking poo) will just make you tense, then starting your anal adventure in the shower is a good place to ensure you feel fresh and relaxed.
And whilst it’s by no way essential and is not an anal sex toy in the true sense (though it can feel very pleasurable) a douchewill give you extra confidence about being super-clean for your anal play.
Latex gloves turn hands and fingers into smooth operators.
Plus, they sound sexy when snapped on suggestively and are perfect for medical fantasy role-play.
Analingus or ‘rimming’ is using your tongue to pleasure the anal area.
A dam can be used to cover the anal area so you can probe and lick away without a care in the world.
Both participants can worry about not always being fresh as a daisy ‘down there’.
This is understandable, given the hang-ups and insecurities many of us have been given around this subject,
But worrying isn’t conducive to hot sex, just as rushing off to shower isn’t conducive to spontaneous sex. A dam is simply a cheap, easy and tasty (they come in different flavours) way to enjoy relaxed impulsive rimming.
These gorgeous jeweled butt plugs arrived in our shop towards the end of last year, and they have been so popular with our customers.
The smooth steel is cool to touch but warms quickly in your hands – which is just as well as cold toys aren’t great for sensitive bums! With a diameter of only 2.5cm, the Diogol butt plugs are perfect for beginners. As always with anal play, we recommend using lots of lubricant like Lush Pure + or Lush Silicone lube
Jewels Are a Girls Best Friend
If you’re feeling particularly cheeky, why not wear your butt plug on a night out? At an appropriate moment, flash your sparkly bottom at your lover for a secret thrill.
As a man ages, so does his prostate. The older it gets, the more likely it will incur some sort of ailment, or worst case scenario, prostate cancer. Now, don’t get us wrong – prostate problems can occur in younger men too, so it’s important to keep an eye on the P-spot at any age.
If you notice any of the following, it’s time to get booked in for a check-up:
– Frequent need to pee
– Getting up several times during the night to pee
– Dribbling pee
– Not being able to pee
– Pain or burning sensation when peeing
– Blood in urine or semen
– Painful ejaculation
-Frequent pain or stiffness in lower back, hips, pelvic/rectal area or upper thighs
A visit to the doctor will involve a latex glove and some lube, that can’t be helped, but it shouldn’t take long and it shouldn’t be painful.
The doctor will check for texture, any growths or abnormalities. Early detection is the aim of the game; prostate cancer grows quickly and it spreads to other parts of the body. Once the cancer has spread, treatment is much more difficult.
The good news is, awareness of where the prostate is, what it does, and its role is sex doesn’t have to be painful and medical.
Discussing the prostate is a good idea – as men learn early in life not to be too open about their bits (and especially anything bum-related!), it can be a real help to talk to a lover who’s open to discussing and exploring prostate pleasures.
Once a gent overcomes his reluctance, we hope he’ll feel more able to talk about the prostate in a health-related situation if he needs to – whether he tries prostate play and decides it’s not for him – or tries it and loves it!
What is The Prostate?
The prostate is a highly sensitive gland that surrounds a man’s urethra and plays a vital role in orgasm.
It can be stimulated by pressing on the perineum ( the strip of skin running between the base of his penis and his bum) or inside, through the wall of the rectum if he’s comfortable with gentle anal play.
Start with a well-lubed finger – and latex gloves if you’re concerned about hygiene (or have long nails) – and you’ll be able to feel the gland. The prostate is about the size of a walnut, and very sensitive. Gentle stroking and ‘come-hither’ finger moves can give a powerful sensations. Some men describe the feeling as like ‘orgasms in miniature’.
Couple prostate massage with a regular orgasm, and the fireworks can be explosive!