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Best Sex Toys For Couples

Sex toys aren’t just for singletons, they’re fab for enhancing sex as a couple too.  As toys loose their stigma, more and more couples are discovering that playing with sex toys together can turn good sex into GREAT sex.

Introducing a sex toy into your relationship can feel intimidating, if you are unsure of your partner’s response, but it’s important to remember that a toy is simply a TOY … not a replacement or comment on your sex life.

For women, toys can add an intensity that better guarantees an orgasm and for men they can add different kind of thrills…

For new couples, toys are a great way to explore all the different ways to delight each other and start the relationship the way you mean to go on, with a creativity that goes far beyond the missionary position..

And for long-term partners, toys are a brilliant way to spice up sex and re-kindle the excitement of new-lust fever…

But what makes a great sex toy for a couple?

In our London store, we advise and match couples to the right toy everyday, and understand what are the turn-ons and the turn-offs – here we bring you the top 5 toys for couples to share.

1. Best for Every Couple & Every Kind of Sex!

 

Sh! Pure Lube £10
Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together…

 

Our No 1, all-time best ‘toy’ for couples is lube. Lube enhances every kind of sex you have together, bringing a new slipperiness, and sensitivity that natural wetness simply doesn’t match – no matter how copious!

From erotic massage, breast-play, hand-jobs to intercourse, by way of every intimate touch in between, lube makes your two bodies connect and glide sensually together and liberates all worries of staying wet, no matter what you get up to or for how long!


 

2. Best Discreet Couples’ Toys.

Every toy in our website can be shared by couples – there are no rules, so if something catches your eye together, go for it!

But if you are just starting out on the toy-front, it’s best to choose something that doesn’t feel like you’ve imposed a threesome.

A couples’ sex toy shouldn’t make either one of you feel inadequate or left out. Nor should it be intimidating – we don’t recommend surprising your partner with a large penetrative toy!

Lelo Lily £99 Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex
Lelo Lily – £99 – Gorgeous design-led toy that can be cupped in hand or laid over your clitoris during sex

 

Designer vibrators are popular among couples as they add stylish buzz to the bedroom without either one of the couple feeling replaced or intimidated. A luxury vibrator is simply beautiful pleasure object that feels like a sophisticated addition to the love-life you share together. They are beautifully packaged too, which makes them the best toy to buy your partner as a gift.


 

 

 

Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator!
Jimmy Jane Hello Touch £46 Turns your hand into a vibrator for skin-on-skin thrills
Feelztoys Tongue Toys - £26 - Two tiny tongue vibes, one for each of you!
Feelztoys Tongue Toys – £26 – Two tiny tongue vibes (one for each of you!)

 

A vibrator slipped onto a finger or tongue makes a great toy for couples, adding a tingly vibe wherever it touches…

These toys simply add a different sensation to oral or manual play; a sensation your finger or tongue ( no matter how expert!) can’t deliver on its own. Playful and novel, they are made for couples sex!


 

Dual Bullet Vibrator - £24 - Tiny, intense and one each!
Dual Bullet Vibrator – £24 – Tiny, intense and one each!

 

Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches..
Secret Vibrator £35 can be cupped discreetly in the hand to deliver its thrill where it touches…
Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator – £10 – Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex

An egg or bullet vibrator also makes a good toy for couples to share. Small and discreet they can be cupped in the hand, held against the cheek or nuzzled against your clitoris during sex, without ‘getting in the way’

Less of a financial investment than a luxury, designer vibrator, these toys are ideal if you would like to explore adding a buzz without breaking the bank.


 

 

3. Best Hands-Free Toys to Enhance Intercourse.

Intercourse features top of the menu for most M/F couples, but less than 20% of women can climax through penetration alone. This isn’t anything to feel inadequate about, just a fact that women usually need external clitoral stimulation in order to reach the Big O.

So any toy that stimulates your clitoris during intercourse makes a great sex toy.

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65

An intercourse vibrator is specially designed for you wear inside, whilst still leaving enough room for him to slip inside too

Toys such as the We-Vibe or Noa will stimulate your clitoris and G-Spot at the same time, delivering amazing hands-free, dual stimulation.

 

 

LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9
LurveHeart Vibrating Cock Ring £9

These toys are an investment, so another good option is a vibrating ring worn on his penis will vibrate your clitoris during penetrative sex, adding that all-important extra stimulation. For him, they deliver a pleasurable squeeze to keep his erection stronger, for longer.

Both of these toys will give him a vibrating thrill as well – now that’s sharing!


 

 

4. Best Toys to Spice-Up Dates.

Great sex is all about shared intimacy and playfulness, so what better way for couples to add an extra thrill to date-night but to play with a remote-controlled vibrator, with one of you controlling the buzz and the other receiving.

 

 

Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Play Vibrator £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35
Remote Vibrating Knickers £35

 

A remote-controlled vibrator or pair of remote vibrating panties can be worn, and played with, discreetly in public.

Operating with many meters of distance between you and delivering a  range of escalating and throbbing patterns to surprise, delight and tease, no matter how far you or your playmate wanders, you’ll both feel connected with a shared sense of secret ‘naughtiness’

… and there’s no reason why the bullet can’t be slipped into his Y-fronts and you control the remote!


 

 

5. Best for Long-Distance Love Affairs

We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
We-Vibe connects to the We-Connect App for remote-control pleasure from anywhere in the world!
Kiiroo Onyx £150 Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Onyx –  Bluetooth 2-Way Interactive Internet Fleshlight Sex Toy for Men
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator - Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women
Kiiroo Pearl Bluetooth Vibrator – Interactive Internet Sex Toy for Women

 

Technology has finally caught up with the fact that many a modern relationship is often separated by miles between you or may even be a purely interweb affair.

Sex toys that can be controlled by and operated within secure apps address this by introducing intimate thrills and shared connection even when couples are continents apart.

Not cheap (and certainly not for technophobes!) these toys are playthings for a brave new world!

 

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Q&A Your Sex-Questions Answered

Q&A: Best vibrator to buy for my wife?

Dear Sh!

I’d be very grateful for some advice about the best vibrator to buy for my wife. I have been looking at your website, and many others, and I’m afraid I am bewildered by the variety of bits and pieces on offer. So, any guidance would be most gratefully received.

Basically, my wife has trouble relaxing and achieving orgasm regularly with me. She can, and does, achieve them, but quite rarely, and only when she is very relaxed and not thinking about the kids, the house etc. Now, as a rule, she does not masturbate, and has told me that she has never brought herself to orgasm on her own. But I know that she can get off when stimulated properly, and so I am keen to help her achieve it as often as possible. She is keen for that too, and is interested in trying anything that will help!

I did buy her a Rabbit Vibe 4 or 5 years ago, but she never got on with it (or ‘off’ with it!) and it has since gone by the wayside. When she does get off with me it is generally by grinding herself down on my pubic bone when I am inside her, so stimulating her clitoris seems to work (although if I rub her in that area it seems to have little effect).

Some of the vibrators I have read about are not like a penis at all  and there was also one called ‘Je Joue’. I think one of these ‘non penis’ type ones might suit her best.

Thanks

 


Hi There,

There are a few things we can recommend and you’ve come to the right place for a ‘non penis’ type toy as we don’t do them! 😉

Je Joue Mini Vibrator £78
Je Joue Mini Vibrator £78

There is indeed a very good toy called Mimi  from Je Joue

Its a pebble-shaped so it sits discreetly and comfortably in hand, making a great toy to add thrills to lovemaking.  Seamless, soft silicone ( so you wife can grind as hard as  she likes without any possible ‘ouch’ moments) and 10 different settings so there’s lots of different vibe intensities and patterns for you to explore … and for her to discover!

We’d also recommend the Rock Chick mini  vibrator, which allows a

Rock Chick Mini £32
Rock Chick Mini £32

style of stimulation very similar to the one you describe – it’s got an internal stimulator for G-spot play. Soft and flexible it allows the user to press down against the vibrating clit stimulator with as much pressure as she enjoys.

Both these  vibrators would be good for your wife to explore what does, and doesn’t, work for her during solo sex.

Masturbation is certainly something we would urge her to make time for. It’s really common for women to find it tricky to switch their minds off (and their bodies on) especially when they are used to spending so much of their time focused on children. If you do buy her a vibrator, could we also suggest you take the kids out for the day so she can have a leisurely, interruption-free introduction to her new toy?

From what you describe, it sounds like your wife probably enjoys/needs quite intense clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm and there’s nothing unusual in this; some women need a delicate touch; others need it super-strong. The one commonality is that all women need the stimulation to be sustained long enough for them to orgasm (whether that’s a minute or an hour).

Women who take a long time to orgasm often worry that they are taking too long, which then makes their orgasm even more illusive. It’s a horrible vicious circle that is only broken once a woman knows and has confidence in how her body responds. Lots more practice, both alone and with you, should help her have more guaranteed orgasms.

Taking of sex with you, there are lots of toys that can be used during partner-sex to help women have more orgasms. Over 80% of women find it tricky or even impossible to get off during penetrative sex alone, so you are by no means alone! A simple vibe could provide your wife with the extra “umph” she requires.

Small clitoral vibes have the advantage that they can be combined with intercourse and give both partners a thrill.

Dual Bullet Vibrator £24
Dual Bullet Vibrator £24

 We’d suggest Dual Bullets vibe which has two bullets that offer multiple speeds and stimulation-styles, and can be enjoyed unobtrusively during intercourse.

We-Vibe Classic (£106)
We-Vibe Classic (£106)

The We Vibe  also is a great couples toy that’s designed to offer combined G-Spot and clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex with a partner.

You also mention that your wife has trouble relaxing – we can also suggest some massage oil for a sensual build up to sex? Massage is great for re-connecting with your partner and giving you both time to relax and enjoy yourselves.

Hope all this helps – please do give us a shout with any more questions.

Best wishes

Team Sh!

New Vibes at Sh!

We’ve got some gorgeous new vibes in stock at Sh! this weekend…check these out!

Zini Ran G Spot Vibrator

Zini Ran G-Spot Vibrator
The Zini Ran is a luxurious G-spot vibe, with a slender neck and a curvy, asymmetric head, great for all forms of G-spot pleasure. With 15 different styles of vibration, it’s got a great selection of thrilling sensations to offer! Equipped with a keylock for travelling, and rechargeable, the Zini Ran is a fantastic new additoon to the Zini family.

Zini Seed Clit Vibrator
A mini vibe with a marvellous buzz! The Zini Seed is a small clit vibrator, but it’s still got lots to offer. Great as a first-time vibe, it’s got 15 styles of buzz, plus escalation and pulsation. Gorgeous in black and gold, it’s a luscious luxury vibe…

Green Vibrator...
Solar Powered Bullet Vibrator

Solar Power Bullet Vibrator
The first solar powered bullet vibe to arive here at Sh – and we love it! We set it charging on our windowsill on a not-so-sunny day here in London – and it charged up fully and produced a thrilling vibe when it was switched on! It’s got no need for batteries, it’s economical (only £30), it’s great for hiking, camping and festvals, as well as for anyone who wants to erduce bnattery usage. To add to our delight, there’s a little LED light on the bullet – great fun after lights out!

RO150 Golden Bullet has Arrvied!

Long Slim Bullet vibe with 5 speeds!
RO150 Gold Bullet Vibrator

The Sh! Girlz are very impressed with the RO150 Gold Bullet from Rocksoff!

From the people who created the RO120 bullet, the Rude Boy vibe, and the gorgeous Rock Chick G-spot vibrator, the new RO150 Gold Bullet vibrator is an update on the hugely popular RO80 bullet vibrator. It’s a long, narrow vibe, in smooth hard plastic, and has five speeds – a low and high speed, plus three speeds of escalating vibration for a fantastic buildup.

Since it’s slim and smooth, the RO150 Gold Bullet Vibrator is great as a beginner’s toy or a vibe for ladies who like length without too much girth – and it has a strong enough buzz to be a great clit toy too!

And there’s more good news – we’re expecting another of RocksOff’s great creations in stock soon! watch this space for details…

How to use a g-Spot Vibrator

How to Use an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

A vibrating egg or bullet vibrator is much smaller than a standard vibrator, and specifically designed for clitoral stimulation, though, of course it will deliver its thrills anywhere it touches, so they are great for nipples, toes and men’s bits too!

( they are not ok for anal-play, though, as we explain later..)

Sh! Bullet Vibrator - £10 - Teeny, powerful and perfect for extra strong clitoral stimulation during sex
Sh! Bullet Vibrator (£10) Small, Strong, with a simple, single speed

Starting at just £10 with single, strong speed, bullets and eggs are some of the most affordable and easy to operate vibrators available.

Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator (£19) Strong and quiet, with stimulating soft sleeve, 3 speeds + pulse settings.
Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator (£19) Strong and quiet, with stimulating soft sleeve, 3 speeds + pulse settings.

And because they are ALL about clitoral pleasure, bullets and eggs are often the kind we recommend as a beginners vibrator to women coming to our store for first orgasm advice.

Their discreet size also makes them a great couples toy and because they are purely external pleasure providers, there’s no chance of your partner feeling threatened or ‘replaced’ ( which can happen with more penetrative-shaped toys)

How to Use an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

Warning! Bullet and egg vibrators can be STRONG!

This is because of 2 reasons:

  1. Their petite proportions means the vibrations from the motor inside don’t have far to travel, making them bundles of buzzing jumping beans!
  2. They are often made of  plastic; a sex toy material that doesn’t absorb vibration ( like softer materials can) so a lot of power is transmitted, with super-efficiency, along its smooth, sleek surface.

This is great news if you need / enjoy intense stimulation but can  blow the socks of you, if you are new to vibration.

Everyone feels things differently, but if you are trying a vibrating egg or bullet vibrator for the first time, try approaching your clitoris from the side, starting on the gentlest vibrator setting.

Many women are most responsive to clitoral stimulation on the sides of their clitoris, rather than directly on it, which can actually feel too intense to be pleasurable and some women even find painful.

Imagining the clitoris as a clock-face,  this means 10-11am or 1-2pm on the ‘clit-face’ rather than high noon!

Explore the whole area, focusing on where it feels really good.

Sh! Secret Vibrator (£35) Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings
Sh! Secret Vibrator (£35) Small Vibrating Silicone Clitoral Egg: 20 Powerful Settings

A really powerful vibrating egg, like the Sh! Secret, can be great for clit stimulation, especially if you can find it difficult to orgasm – we’ve recommended this vibrator to many pre-orgasmic women, who have since experienced their very first orgasm.

How to Hold an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

Holding a super-powerful egg-shaped or bullet vibrator can sometimes turn your fingers numb – we call this ‘getting vibrator-hand’. If this happens to you, simply nestle your vibe between your lady-lips, lie back and enjoy the vibrating sensations hands-free.

Or, if the sensation offered by your vibrating egg or bullet vibrator feels too powerful for your clitoris, try cupping the toy in the palm of your hand and enjoy subtle vibrations felt through your fingertips instead.

If your vibrating egg or bullet vibe has a cable running from the bullet to the battery pack, remember to treat it gently. Pulling to hard at the cord can cause it to loosen and will eventually damage your toy.

Tips & Tricks to Try with an Egg or Bullet Vibrator

  • A vibrating egg or bullet  is small and discreet enough to cup against your clitoris to offer the extra stimulation you may need to orgasm during intercourse with a partner.
  • A good trick is to rest the egg or bullet length-ways, allowing the vibrations to diffuse over the whole vulva area. You’ll likely find this builds arousal and gets you very excited – the outer lips, (Labia Majora), are an oft-overlooked area, but are highly sensitive.
  • These vibrators feel good to men too. Place the small bullet vibe at the base of his penis, or run a vibrating egg along his perineum for thrilling orgasms!
  • Egg vibes haven’t been designed for use internally, but if you’d like to slip it inside anyway: simply slide the egg into a condom so you can safely remove it without pulling on the cord.
  • Egg vibrators with a cord leading to a separate battery pack may seem cumbersome but actually it can be easier and more seamless to operate the settings with a controller in your hand, rather than trying to find the +/- buttons on a toy between your legs! Another advantage is that you can hand the control to your partner and let them take you on a vibrating journey – a great way to discover new ways to play… and orgasm!

 

Please Note: Egg-shaped or bullet vibrators are not safe for anal play

Even when covered in a condom. They are too small and may easily get sucked up by the very strong muscles inside, leaving you needing a trip to A&E, sharpish. If you would like to try anal pleasure, please choose an anal vibrator instead, as these have guards on the base making them totally safe for anal play