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Sh! at the Planet London IWD Extravaganza

We are thrilled to announce our talk at the Planet Nation IWD Extravaganza on Sunday 11th March.

For one day, come along to Planet London’s fantastic community space for women & their guests. Enjoy the showcase of talent and diversity of the LBQ community, where access starts from free – and from there you can build your perfect day. Try something new, find out what the LBQ community in London has to offer, perhaps even meet new people outside of your current social circles!

This amazing day offers:

1 venue, 6 rooms, and more than 20 different activities from over 40 amazing cis & Trans LBQ women and non-binary people within our community!

IWD


Date: Sunday 11th March 2018

Time: IWD Extravaganza – 1pm – 2am

Time: Sh! Talk: 7.30-8.30pm

Venue: The Bedford, 77 Bedford Hill, Balham, London SW12 9HD

Entry Policy: Women & Guests

Event Cost: From £0 upwards – pay per activity you are interested in only

Ticket Availability: In advance only

Accessibility: Accessible toilet


Let’s Talk Pleasure!

Activities_ShOur talk will take place in the Green Room at 7.30pm. We’ll talk female anatomy, feel & taste our way through a selection of lubes (we’ll invite guests to join us!) before sharing our best tips & tricks for choosing and using sex toys.

Also, we’ll set aside some time to take sex-related questions from the audience after our talk.

Looking forward to seeing you there!

Ticket Prices: Early Bird = £3 | Standard = £5 | Late = £7

For full line up, please visit the Rainbow Society Website.

Keep up with the event via #IWDextravaganza + #RainbowSociety

 

 

Greta Garbo

Bi Visibility Day: Let’s talk about some interesting Bisexual people

So this Bi Visibility Day we decided to go the obvious root and about some visible bi-people.

There are plenty of great lists out there of current celebs talking about their bi status and refuting myths about bi sexuality. So for a slightly different angle, we’ve gone with some more historical characters. Obviously this is a very incomplete list but we’d love to hear your best additions in the comments.

Sound interesting? Great! Let’s get started:

Shakespeare

Shakespeare

People love to speculate about Shakespeare’s private life, because we know nothing and that makes it more fun. However, in his sonnets it seems pretty clear that he’s bixsexual. The first 126 sonnets are addressed to a young man; the last 28 to a woman. They are known, respectively, as the Fair Lord and the Dark Lady sequences. A nice example is Sonnet 20:

A woman’s face with Nature’s own hand painted
Hast thou, the master-mistress of my passion;
A woman’s gentle heart, but not acquainted
With shifting change, as is false women’s fashion;
An eye more bright than theirs, less false in rolling,
Gilding the object whereupon it gazeth;
A man in hue, all “hues” in his controlling,
Which steals men’s eyes and women’s souls amazeth.
And for a woman wert thou first created;
Till Nature, as she wrought thee, fell a-doting,
And by addition me of thee defeated,
By adding one thing to my purpose nothing.
But since she prick’d thee out for women’s pleasure,
Mine be thy love and thy love’s use their treasure.

There’s a little appalling sexism, but ignore that and it’s a nice love poem from one man to another.

Daphne Du Maurier

We said there might be a bit of a literary theme. Have you read Rebecca and Jamaica Inn? How about The Doll a rather gothic short story about a woman who becomes obsessed with a mechanical male sex doll?

Anyway, the point is that although she was married she appears to have had an affair with Gertrude Lawrence, an actress and singer about whom she said the following, ‘To be blatantly vulgar, anyone with a spice of imagination would prefer a divan with Gertrude to a double-bed with her.’  She was also said to be attracted to Ellen Doubleday the wife of her American publisher.

Greta Garbo

Greta Garbo

Greta Garbo never married and had relationships with men and women throughout her life. Her most famous relationship was with her co-star John Gilbert who asked her to marry him several times.

She was a friend and possible lover of the writer Mercedes de Acosta who was known for her out and proud sexuality. Additionally, the silent film actress Louise Brooks stated that she and Garbo had a brief liaison and there were several other rumored affairs.

1930 Garbo wrote to her friend Mimi Pollak, another actress, “We cannot help our nature, as God has created it. But I have always thought you and I belonged together” Darn if that isn’t a cute quote.

Lord Byron

Is this surprising? Is this not surprising?

Though Byron was known in his time for being openly sexual and having many relationships with women that caused more or less scandal (one of his lovers, Lady Caroline Lamb, famously described him as ‘Mad, bad and dangerous to know’ and he was alleged to have had an affair with his half sister) his bisexuality was not understood and even now is often overlooked. He enjoyed relationships with young men at Harrow and Cambridge,  he experienced a “violent, though pure, love and passion” for John Edleston, a choirboy at Trinity who was two years younger than him. During his travels he became attached to Nicolo Giraud, a young French-Greek man who had been a painters model and to whom he left £7000 in his will.

 

Hans Christen Anderson Hans Christen Andersen Statue

Get ready for a real sad story here. You know how the Hans Christen Anderson version of The Little Mermaid ends with said mermaid jumping off the side of a ship after being spurned by her true love?

You didn’t? Well sorry, go watch the Disney version and try and pretend like we never told you that.

Those of you remaining, this story is about to get a bunch more depressing. That story was written in response to the marriage of Edvard Collin, the straight guy Hans Christen Andersen was in love with. He also had a habit of falling for unobtainable women and in his private writings he wrote about his refusal to have sexual relations. When he died a pouch containing a letter from his first (unrequited) love was found on his chest.

Life is not always a fairy tale :/

Let us end on a more cheerful note with some words from the wonderful Evan Rachel Wood. In an interview she stated that bixsexuality is, “a big part of who I am, and it always has been for as long as I can remember. …I’ve honestly fallen in love with a man and I’ve honestly fallen in love with a woman. …I don’t know how you label that, it’s just how it is.”

 

Bi Visibility & Celebration

Myths about Bisexuality, Dispelled By Sh!

Bisexuality is far from uncommon –  in the UK, a recent YouGov poll showed that 1 in 2 young people say they are not ‘100% heterosexual’.

In the US, 1 in 3 feel the same way and a recent study by the social dating site Her found that the number of users identifying as bisexual has risen from 16% to 27% in the last year alone

Sexual fluidity is on the increase and that can only ever be a good thing.  As people reject rigid labels and lifestyles and increasingly see sexuality as less set in stone, the more we’ll all discover about our own true sexual selves and that’s a cause for celebration everyday!

But today especially, as it’s Bi Visibility Day.

Ever since 1999, 23rd September is the special day,  also known as International Celebrate Bisexuality Day,  to pop corks and bang  drums for Bi visibility, as well as to highlight biphobia and help people find the bisexual community.

Despite more people feeling comfortable enough to identify as bisexual or sexually fluid, there are still lots of misconceptions about bi-lifestyle.

There are still a multitude of harmful myths about bisexuality that many people still buy into, in both the straight and LGBTQ worlds.

These myths can still make it really hard to come out as proudly and confidently as Bi so we thought we’d put them to rest, once and for all. Stand by for some home truths…

 

Bisexual=Confused - Myth!

Myth: Bisexual people are confused or indecisive

Plenty of people still buy into the idea that bisexual people simply can’t make up their minds whether they like men or women. They’re confused, can’t make up their minds or going through a phrase!  But ironically, theses concepts are put forward by other people, rather than those who identify as bisexual. In most cases, those who class themselves as bisexual are 100% sure of their sexuality – it’s only others who are confused by it!

 

Bisexuality=High Libido - Myth!

Myth: Bisexual people have incredibly high libidos

Incorrect! Bisexual people have just the same kind of sex drive as anyone else – which is to say, it’s individual and it fluctuates. The media has traditionally presented bisexual people as sex-crazed, but in reality, bisexual people are no more or less likely to have a high sex drive, than anyone else on the planet. Just because they can enjoy sex with all genders doesn’t mean they will sleep with anyone and this can be damaging myth.


Bisexual Threesomes - Myth!Myth: Bisexual people love threesomes

A threesome might be more enjoyable for a bisexual person than it would for someone who identifies as 100% straight. Being attracted to both men and women is definitely a bonus! But that doesn’t mean a bisexual person is going to enjoy threesomes in general. Many people, regardless of their sexuality, simply don’t see the appeal of sex with more than one person – so to assume that someone loves having threesomes purely because they’re bisexual is to put the ‘ass’ into assume!

 

Bisexual Cheats - Myth!Myth: Bisexual people are more likely to cheat

This is another totally unfounded idea. Bisexual people enjoy loving, monogamous relationships just like anyone else. Being sexually attracted to both men and women doesn’t mean someone is going to be a serial cheat – would being sexually attracted to just men or just women make someone more likely to be faithful? Of course not.

It’s these damaging misconceptions that show the world still has a lot to learn about bisexuality, and sexuality in general. Lets blow them out of the water and celebrate Bi visibility, because whoever you’re attracted to, in whatever combination, is fabulously freeing for all of us, as individuals and the world together!