Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

Beginners Guide to Anal Beads – How to Use & Enjoy Them to the Max!

Anal Beads, along with butt plugs, are one of the most popular anal sex toys for beginners. They also having a large fan-base among more experienced anal-players, who enjoy the unique sensations they deliver.

Anal beads, sometimes known as Thai Beads,  are a string of bead-shape balls, either completely round, or elongated,  which usually start small and become increasingly larger, with each next bead.

Starting with the smallest bead, they are designed to be ‘popped’ into the anus one by one…

The anal sphincter muscles contract and relax around each new bead, which is a sensation many people find pleasurable.

Anal beads range in size from the slim and incredibly user-friendly Fifty Shades of Grey Anal Beads, through to mid-sized proportions of the Bendy Silicone Anal Beads to the strapping Rombee.

Most anal beads graduate in size which allow the anus time to get used to to the proportions and sensations before you introduce the next, slightly larger bead…

Using lots of lube, slowly insert the anal beads one by one.

Go slowly and communicate if you are playing with a lover.

As each bead is inserted, the super-sensitive sphincter muscles close around it and this is the special feeling that anal bead aficionados enjoy.

Anal beads are not a ladder you have to climb, but a journey of sensations.

Anal sex should never be painful, and relaxing anal muscles is key to enjoying the exquisite sensations offered by anal beads, so only go onto the next bead when you’re good and ready….

The best thing about anal beads is that you can go as slowly as your pace, pleasure and confidence dictates..

Using lube is essential in all anal play and it greatly enhances the sensations and experience of anal beads.....
Using lube is essential in all anal play and it greatly enhances the sensations and experience of anal beads…..

Gradually introducing each bead into the anus is the name of the game, teasing and tantalizing and of course, for most people this is just the way they like it.

As with any other type of anal play, using lots of lubricant, and enjoying a slow pace as you insert the balls, makes the anus most receptive to their pleasures.

 

A word about anal bead safety

All anal sex toys, including beads, should have a guard, or some sort of ring at the base, so that the person “in charge” of the beads can be sure to keep a firm grip on them.

We’ve seen ( and rejected!) plenty of anal beads which don’t have a proper or sturdy means of keeping a grip,  so choose your anal beads wisely. Things can, and do, get stuck up peoples bottoms and painful, embarrassing trips to A&E are best avoided.

There are many anal beads on the market ranging from cheap hard plastic beads to pricey quartz beads.

The problem is many of these anal beads are moulded with a ridge around them, which can be sharp.

And lots of anal beads are strung with knotted string which isn’t going to look pretty after a couple of goes… (We don’t wish to alarm, but we have also heard of instances when the string has snapped!)

Like all our products, we choose our anal bead range with care and obviously reject any anal beads we feel are unsafe, sharp, unhygienic or tricky to clean.

Sh! Silicone Anal Beads £14
Sh! Silicone Anal Beads £14

 

For us,  silicone is the best material for anal beads, especially for beginners, as it is soft,  smooth,  flexible and warms quickly to body-temperature.

Silicone is non-porous, so it is incredibly body-safe and easily cleaned/sterilized, which is important if you plan to share your beads with someone special…

 

 

 

 

 

Njoy Fun Wand £89
Njoy Fun Wand £89
Glass Dildo with beaded shaft (£37)
Glass Dildo with beaded shaft (£37)

 

For more experienced anal-players, a glass or stainless steel toy, with a beaded shaft, offers the same sphincter-squeeze sensations, along with a delicious weightiness that can be hard to beat…

Both these materials are also easy to clean/sterilize.

 

 

 

 

Vibrating Anal Beads (£30) - Adding vibration to the mix can help relax any tension...
Vibrating Anal Beads (£30) – Adding vibration to the mix can help relax any tension…

 

Vibrating anal beads combine two different sensations. The anus is packed with sensitive and super-responsive nerve-endings which makes every activity there  feel magnified.

Adding vibration can help tense tushies relax, as well as spreading a thrilling buzz throughout the whole genital area.

 

Anal Bead Tips & Tricks

Anal beads can be enjoyed by any gender or sexuality. Those with a prostate may find they stimulate the Male G-Spot to orgasm 

An infamous anal beads sex trick is to insert them one by one into your guy’s bum and to pull them out at exactly the same time he ejaculates. The feeling of both beads and sperm bursting forth simultaneously is supposed to be out of this world.  Obviously we can’t personally confirm this (thou various B’friends seem pretty happy). What we can say for sure is that it’s a great extra trick for your repertoire!

Many women also enjoy the sensation of feeling the beads ‘popping out’ on the moment of climax and find wearing them during penetrative sex can give a special feeling of fullness.

 

Just like every sexual activity, being really turned-on will enhance your experience and enjoyment of anal beads, so…

  • In between ‘insertions’, massage the anus with small circular movements…
  • Use your other hand to stimulate  other erogenous zone – nipples, clitoris, penis…
  • Take your time to really heighten the moment…Try sliding each bead in and out for a lovely, repetitive, sphincter-squeeze!
  • Keep breathing – deeply! Lots of us impede great sex by shallow breathing, or holding our breath, which staves the body of oxygen and makes muscles tense up. This is especially important in anal sex where tense muscles are no fun.
  • Go slowly, sensually and enjoy the journey! Doggedly going for quick insertion followed by a tricky-to-coordinate withdrawal at point of orgasm may make you miss the appeal of anal beads.
  • Talking of withdrawal – try not to whip them out, but sensually draw them out evenly.

Whether as a sexual side dish to other activities or totally focused as the the main dish,  anal beads can give great pleasure – enjoy!

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How To Choose The Right Sex Toy

Whether a sex-toy virgin, looking for a first vibrator or budding sexpert seeking new toys, the most important thing to think about, when choosing a sex toy, is what you want to get out of your toy.

Ask yourself; What is the main type of pleasure I want from my sex toy ?

It’s easy to get boggled or diverted by all the different styles of playthings available, but in order to find the right sex toy for you, one that will meet your expectations and deliver the kind of pleasure you’re looking for, the best starting point is to zone in on exactly what you want its main job to be…

For clitoral pleasure –  choose a vibrator

The best toy,  for intense stimulation of the external clitoris and vulva is a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose...
If you’re looking for a sex toy to give dedicated clitoral pleasure, a vibrator is the best toy for you to choose…

Many people assume the way to use a vibrator is inside, replicating intercourse, but actually 80% of women only use theirs externally on or around their clitoris, during masturbation.

Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It...
Your Clitoris & How to Pleasure It…

Clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.

No wonder, then, that vibrators are the most popular sex toy choice for most women shopping at Sh! and the kind we advise most about.

Any toy that vibrates will stimulate your clitoris,  so feel free to choose any vibrator that appeals to you.

 

Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Sh! Bullet Vibrator £10
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129
Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy £129

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can spend as little as £10, up to well over £100. Choosing the right vibrator is a very personal choice and we have LOTS of advice to help you. If you’d like tailored advice, give us a call and we’ll be happy to talk through the best options for you.

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For internal pleasure: choose a vibrator or a dildo

You’ll see from the picture above, your clitoris has two shafts that loop inside and hug the vagina. Your vaginal entrance is also packed with sensitive nerve-endings, so intense pleasure can come from inside too.

Choosing the right shape and size of a penetrative toy IS important.

The right toy for penetrative pleasure is something of a Goldilocks choice; One that’s too big or wide for you will feel uncomfortable, just as a toy that’s too small or slim will feel unfulfilling.

The best way is to think of ( or measure!) the size of your preferred penetrative pleasure object ( fingers? penis? another sex toy?) and  go for similar proportions.

 

Desire Vibrator £49
A vibrator with a shaft can be enjoyed for penetrative, as well as clitoral pleasure
Cupid 3 Vibrating Dildo £50
A dildo is also a good choice if you are looking for penetrative pleasure

 

 

 

 

 

 

Despite the jokes, size isn’t everything. Every woman is different, which is why we stock penetrative toys, whether a dildo or a vibrator, from tiny size up.

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For both inside and out  – choose a Rabbit

Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a 'blended' orgasm
Sh! Rabbit Vibrator £25 A Rabbit vibrator delivers combined internal and clitoral stimulation, offering the possibility for a ‘blended’ orgasm

 

 

One of the most famous sex toys in history, the rabbit vibrator offers amazing dual sensations.

Internal massage is combined with intense clitoral stimulation.

Millions of women agree that it’s a winning combination!

 

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For stronger orgasms through PC Muscle/ Kegal workout – choose love balls

 

Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time  will give you stronger orgasms
Love balls are 2 weighted spheres designed to strengthen the PC muscle, which, in time will give you stronger orgasms

 

The key to stronger, longer, more certain orgasms is a strong PC muscle, which you learn to flex during sex is key.

They also seem to be imposrtant to learning how to female ejaculate or ‘squirt’

Love balls, made famous in Fifty Shades of Grey, are 2 heavy balls that you wear inside (vaginally)

The weight means that you naturally tense your PC muscle to keep them in place.

Many women also tell us they find them pleasurable to wear in themselves, as they twirl around in response to your movements.

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For your G-Spot – Choose a vibrator or dildo that’s specially shaped for G-Spot pleasure

 

There’s lots of hoo-haw recently about whether the G-Spot exists. We don’t believe there’s been enough proper ‘evidence’ of this and prefer to go on personal research!

It might be that we don’t all respond in the same way but, whether it’s part of the internal clitoris or indeed a special magical ( and illusive!) spot, many, many women report a difference in sensations and orgasmic qualities that come from inside…

Your G-Spot
Your G-Spot

So, we will continue to call it the ‘G-Spot’ and give advice that is gathered from talking to 1000’s of women.

A  toy that has a curved or bulbous head is best suited to finding and stimulating the G-Spot  more easily and more comfortably, than a straight-sided toy.

A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
A vibrator with a curved and/or bulbous tip can find & stimulate the G-Spot more easily, than a straight toy
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting
The G-Spot responds to pressure & firm massage, more than vibration, making a Glass dildo a great toy for G-spotting…
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage 'special spots'
Honey G-Spot Silicone Dildos are ergonomically curved to massage ‘special spot’

 

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His Prostate – Choose a vibrator or dildo that is specially shaped for P-Spot pleasure

 

Men have their own special spot, called the Prostate Gland, that can give them amazing orgasms...
The Prostate Gland, can give men amazing orgasms…

 

Whist we’re on the subject of ‘special spots’ men have their own, comparable to the G-Spot, called the Prostate.

Located in their bum, lots of men are are discovering the amazing orgasmic capabilities of their Prostate.

Like any toy destined for anal pleasure, a Prostate Massager must be a safe shape so it doesn’t get lots up there.

Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 - World famous 'hands-free' prostate massager for him
Rocks Off Naughty Boy £49 – World famous ‘hands-free’ prostate massager for him
Wild Swan £20 - Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too...
Wild Swan £20 – Any G-Spot Vibrator with a wide base can safely be enjoyed for prostate massage too…

 

 

Both your G-Spot and his Prostate respond to pressure and motion better than vibration. which is why a silicone dildo is great for G-Spot and prostate pleasure, plus with 30+ sizes & shapes, all with anal-safe bases, there’s also more choice…

 

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To enhance intercourse – choose a couple’s toy

 

Lelo Noa £65 - Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time...
Lelo Noa £65 – Designed to be worn during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris & G-Spot at the same time…

Over 70% of women find orgasm difficult or impossible through penetration alone and adding a clitoral buzz helps.

Intercourse enhancing toys are specially designed to address this.

Worn by the woman during penetrative sex, these C-shaped vibrators hug the clitoris ( the larger arm) and the G-Spot ( the smaller arm) , whilst leaving room for her partner too.

 

 

 

 

A Vibrating Cock-Ring delivers a clitoral buzz for you, plus a pleasurable squeeze for him, during intercourse
Vibrating Cock-Ring  is a fun toy for added stimulation during intercourse

 

A vibrating cock-ring is also a good sex toy for couples.

A stretchy ring that  is worn at the base of his penis, it will deliver at pleasurable squeeze to him and he’ll feel the vibration too.

The vibrating portion is designed to stimulate your clitoris during penetration,

 

 

 

Discreet toys to slip on your finger will not feel like you've introduced a threesome...
Discreet toys won’t feel like you’ve introduced a threesome…

A discrete toy such as a vibrator for your finger or a tongue vibrator are great if you want to  introduce a sex toy to your partner.

Stylish designer vibrators are also a good choice as they make non-threatening bed-fellows for couples to share and enjoy together.

 

 

 

Penis Extension Sleeves
Penis Extension Sleeves

 

Want to feel a little bit more? For years we’ve rejected penis extension toys for being both iccky and impractical, but finally some have come on to the market that get the Sh! seal of approval.

Designed to slip over his meat n’ 2 veg, they add extra girth to his penis, whilst giving him a stimulating sensation from the textured interior.

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For backdoor pleasure – Choose a specially designed anal toy.

It's important that a toy desined for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can't get 'lost' up there...
It’s important that a toy designed for anal pleasure is a safe shape, with a wide base, so it can’t get ‘lost’ up there…

 

Things can get lost up the bum so it’s very important to use properly designed anal toys, rather than regular ones.

Whether beads, plugs or vibrators, all our toys for anal pleasure are super-smooth and safe, with bases or rings to safeguard them from slipping all the way inside.

The wide bases and hygienic material of silicone dildos also make great anal toys .

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For His Pleasure – Choose a male masturbator

Cool male masturbators - no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.
Cool male masturbators – no fake lady lips, just great toys for male pleasure.

Whether it’s him to enjoy solo or for you to play with together, a male masturbator is a fabulous sex toy for men – a stimulating sleeve that will deliver a hand-job from heaven!

We don’t stock any ‘realistic’ toys and this extends, of course, to our male sex toys selection. So they make great gifts, without stirring up any weird feelings about them being ‘replacements or ‘replicas’ for the ‘real thing’

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For Strap On  Sex – Choose a silicone dildo teamed with a strap on harness

2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45
2 Strap Harness Hand-made in our London Studio & available in a wide range of sizes and colours £45

 

 

 

For sex with a strap-on, whether as a lesbian couple or for pegging, the most popular and versatile option is to buy a harness, along with a dildo.

We don’t rate ‘fused’ strap-ons as one size most definitely DOES NOT fit all!

Fused strap-ons ( where the dildo is permanently attached to a harness) are also impossible to clean the dildo effectively.

That’s why we hand-produce our own range of harnesses and silicone dildos in our London studio, giving you a huge range of sizes, so every preference is covered.

 

Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there's a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!
Sh! dildos are hand-poured in super safe silicone and come in a range of over 30 fifferent sizes, meaning there’s a perfect dildo, whatever your preference!

 

 

Choosing your harness and dildo individually gives the most bespoke strap-on possible.

Or choose one of our Strap On Kits

 

Best Strap-On Kit £99
Best Strap-On Kit £99

 

They are specially selected to contain everything you need to get started.

 

 

 

 

Pegging Strap On Kit £89
Pegging Strap On Kit £89

 

 

 

 

 

 


For strap-on style sex, without a harness, choose a strapless dildo

Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness
Strapless dildos are designed for strap-on style sex without a harness

Strapless Strap-Ons offer a different way to enjoy strap-on sex.

They require no harness but strong PC muscles to operate!

A strapless is better suited to close, intimate ‘grinding-together’ than wild thrusting

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Remember – Lube Enhances All Play!

Sh! Lube £10 - Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars
Sh! Lube £10 – Available in Hybrid, Paraben-free and Anal formulars

Once you have chosen your toys, remember to add lube.

It enhances all erotic play, reduces friction and making everything you do super-sensual, whether with a lover or solo, using sex toys, hands or body to body. We promise you wont regret it!

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Beginners Guide to Buying first Strap On

First Sex Toy Recommendations

Looking forward to purchasing your very first sex toy, but bewildered by vast amount of shapes, sizes and materials?  Or perhaps looking for something to share with a partner who’s never played with toys before?

Sex toy shopping can be daunting, as well as very exciting. In order to make it as easy as possible, we’ve put together a short beginner’s guide, giving you the rundown on the most popular categories.

 

My First Clitoral Vibe

Clitoral Pleasure Vibe £24
Clitoral Pleasure Vibe £24

The Sh! Clitoral Pleasure vibe is a great choice for women who prefer stimulation on the sides of the clit, rather than directly on the sensitive tip. The soft silicone prongs gently tease, and with 10 different sensations, there is lots to explore. The control unit is easy to work and by handing it over to a partner, you have a great couples toy.

 

 

My First G-spot Toy

Mini G-Spot Vibe £18
Mini G-Spot Vibe £18

The Sh! Mini G-Spot vibrator is small but perfectly formed. Also made from body-safe silicone, this vibe has a gently curved tip to better find and stimulate the G-spot. With 7 different settings, easily controlled with a quick flick of your finger, the Sh! Mini G-spot vibe can also be used for clitoral pleasure.

Adding a lube will greatly enhance your experience with any toy; here’s where you’ll find our recommendations for water-based lubricants.

 

My First Rabbit Vibrator

G-Spot Rabbit £39
G-Spot Rabbit £39

The Sh! G-Spot Rabbit vibrator is a slim rabbit-style vibe with two motors and a G-spot stimulating tip built in. Very easy to use, this vibe offers a variety of vibration, escalation and pulse patters for you to enjoy. The two bunny ears flicker and pulse around the sides of the clit, making it a fantastic toy for women who need clitoral stimulation in order to have an  orgasm. Made from phthalate-free silicone, the Sh! G-spot Rabbit is safe and sensual.

 

 

My First Anal Toy

Butt Plug 3 £15
Butt Plug 3 £15

When it comes to anal play, there are three rules to adhere to:  go slow, go small and go for a thick, viscous lube.

The cleverly-designed Butt Plug 3 is suitable for both women and men, and makes a good first toy for gentle introduction to anal play – along with that all-important lube, of course. The beads increase in size, making insertion a comfortable and exciting experience.

Hand-poured from medical grade silicone right here in our studio in east London, butt plug 3 is body-safe and easy to clean, and its heart-shaped base makes it safe for anal play.

 

My First Strap On Kit

First Strap On Kit £67
First Strap-On Kit £67

As sexuality and gender are becoming more fluid, we are noticing more and more couples wanting to experiment with Strap-On play. Choosing shapes and sizes can be daunting, so in order to make it as easy as possible, we’ve  created a First Strap-On Kit.

Coupling a medium-sized Cupid 2 silicone dildo with a Slip-On harness make a great first Strap On.

The popular Cupid 2 is 12cm in length and just over 3cm in girth at its widest, and the thong-style soft leather harness can comfortably be worn under clothing for quick access. The kit also comes with water-based lube and a selection of assorted condoms for extra hygiene.

 

My First Spanking Toy

Mini Rubber Whip £12
Mini Rubber Whip £12

The Mini Rubber Whip is small and easy-to-handle whip with rubber strands – ideal for trying out sensation play.  Unlikely to cause pain, the Mini Rubber Whip is perfect for those who like their pleasure with a tiny bit of sting.

 

If you’d like more information on toys suitable for beginners, feel free to call us  on 03333 444 005 or post a question below.

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Does the G-Spot Really Exist?

There is a lot of confusion surrounding the G-Spot, so we decided to take an expert look at a few of the most frequently asked questions.

I heard the G-Spot doesn’t exist.

Back in January 2012, the media declared that the G-Spot doesn’t exist, based on a study done by scientists at King’s College in London. The study in question was pretty flawed. For instance, lesbian and bisexual women were not invited to take part in the study, nor any women who hadn’t had heterosexual intercourse.  And –  the study largely ignored the 56% of women studied who said yes, they did indeed have a G-spot.

The study doesn’t prove much, except that the media will always distort results for a better headline and even scientists don’t necessarily ask the right people the right questions.

I’ve looked and looked but never found my G-Spot – is there something wrong?

Absolutely not. Maybe you’re not a G-Spot gal and that’s fine, some women just don’t get that thrill. But there’s lots of other sexy things to try – anal play, clit play and lots of other fun activities.

What is a G-spot?

A: What we can say is that it’s a sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina. No one seems to be sure of what it is biologically (and no wonder, when all the scientists are busy telling us we’re making it up). It might be:

1) The female equivalent of the male prostate gland, or P-spot.
2) The back of the clitoris (which is an impressive nine inches long and wraps itself around the vagina).
3) The urethral sponge, a collection of erectile tissue around the urethra.

G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation £12.99
G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation £12.99

There are many theories because it’s not something that gets studied a lot. Also, we suspect, because it’s often studied by doctors who come to this with their own preconceptions and assumptions. For really good, female-focused data, we recommend The Clitoral Truth or G-spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation.

So does the G-Spot does exist, then?

Only you can answer that. We’re not here to lay down the law about women’s bodies and experiences – every woman is unique and there’s no ‘one-size-fits-all’ answer. But, for what it’s worth, after 20+ years of cherry-picking (and testing) the best sex toys, and talking and listening to women, we reckon it’s a good bet there is a G-spot and it can produce amazing sensations.

Here’s a map on how to find the G-Spot.

Try some G-Spot friendly positions – doggy-style is very good because it allows fairly direct stimulation of the G-Spot with a penis or strap-on dildo.

If you’ve found your G-Spot, but it’s not as thrilling as you’d like, there are G-Spot enhancers available to add a little thrill.

G-Spot Curve Ribbed Vibe £28
G-Spot Curve Ribbed Vibe £28

There are lots of very good G-spot vibrators available, like the super-cute Mini G-Spot vibrator or G-Spot Curve Ribbed vibrator – there’s something to suit everyone.

If pressure works for you, rather than vibration, many rabbit-style dual stimulating vibrators have a steady rotation which can give a very nice rhythmic pressure on the G-spot.

You are the best expert on your body.

Above all, listen to your body – try what feels good to you and don’t worry about what the studies say.