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Kink Month at Sh!

This November at Sh! is Kink Month!

Women & couples are invited join us for our very exciting month-long series of classes designed to introduce you to the wonderful world of kink!

Whether you’ve been wanting to incorporate BDSM dynamics into your sex life for a while, or you’re still figuring out what the letters stand for, these classes are the perfect starting point to spicing things up in (and out of) the bedroom.

Each week, our experienced Kink educators will guide you through different aspects of BDSM, so that come December you’ll be a natural kinkster, fulfilling all your fantasies!

Dom(me)/sub 101 – 6th of November at 7pm

Does the idea of giving your partner control in the bedroom turn you on? Or would you prefer to be the one in charge?

During this class, our resident kinksters will help you discover your inner submissive, Dominant (or switch!) and give you tried and tested tips to help you get the most from your kinky playtime and bring your fantasies to life.

We will cover every stage of fulfilling your perfect scene, from talking to your partner beforehand, all the way to taking care of each other after play, as well as giving you lots of inspiration for things to try.

Book your ticket to our Dom(me)/sub 101 class here.


All our classes are friendly, educational, inspirational, playful and interactive.

Bedroom Bondage – 13th of November at 7pm

Learn how to play with sensory deprivation to bring alive all the senses.

You’ll learn how to tie and tease, safely and consensually, to accentuate the sexual experiences for both you and your partner.

We’ll try out the different types of equipment available for erotic and sensory stimulation, before looking at how power exchange dynamics may be incorporated into the mix to further vamp up the thrills…

Book your ticket to our Bedroom Bondage class here.

There will be interactive parts of all the classes but they will be fully clothed and there is no obligation to do anything you don’t want to do; consent is sexy after all.

Erotic Spanking – 20th of November at 7pm

Be enlightened, educated and inspired with the fun activity of safe, sane and consensual spanking.

You will learn the pleasures of pain, how and where to spank safely and sensually, the different feel and effect of floggers, crops, spankers, and hands, contrasting sensations and aftercare.

For both spanker and spankee, this class will ensure you play your part confidently.

Book your ticket to our Erotic Spanking class here.

After each class ends, guests will be invited to make the most out of the 20% discount that’ll be offered on the night.

Temperature Play – 27th of November at 7pm

As the nights get colder, keep it hot in the bedroom with our temperature play class.

During this class, we will be looking at all things hot hot hot, as we show you how to incorporate everything from warm lube to wax play candles into your play and even how to heat up your toys.

Like to change it up? We will also be covering how to cool your play down too!

Book your ticket to our Temperature Play class here.

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Workshop: Human Drum Circle

We’re very excited to introduce this Human Drum Cycle workshop by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott. Never having attended such a class before, we are already imagining all the juicy sounds that’ll be created: slapping thighs, tapping shoulders, and bongo butt cheeks! AMAZING! (Can you tell we’re looking forward to this one!)

In this workshop, Lori Beth and Terence will start by covering percussion, and energy in percussion, before inviting guests to get more hands-on.

Topics that’ll be covered include:

  • Creating the human drum circle
  • Uses of drum circles and types of drum circles
  • Consent and negotiation
  • Choosing participants
  • Places to hit
  • Using instruments
  • Types of rhythm
  • Getting the energy to flow through and around the circle
  • Starting the circle and finishing the circle

Guests will practice drumming on surfaces and drums, and sending energy through the drums, creating and maintaining a rhythm first. Then there will be the opportunity to practice the parts of a human drum circle and the workshop will finish with a short human drum circle.

Book Your Ticket Here

More About Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott

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Lori Beth & Terence

Terence Scott is a cis-gendered polyamorous, bisexual sadistic leatherman who has been a percussionist since 1973 and has been beating anything that might create an interesting sound or build a rhythm since then. He teaches workshops on creating a human drum circle and raises sexual energy through rhythm and percussion.  He has been in an authority transfer based relationship for the past 10 years and married for the past 4 ½ to Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Pronouns: He, Him

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.comwhere both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

Energy-Class

Introduction to Energy Play – a class with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

People are often introduced to the idea of working with and playing with energy in spiritual practices like meditation, ritual, magick, yoga, reiki, tantra.

Sexual energy is the same as spiritual energy is the same as what some people call the subtle energies. The energy is raised in a different manner and used for a different purpose but it is, in essence, the same.

Energy play in Kink and BDSM is when people manipulate and exchange energy – usually through touch, as part of their sexual and BDSM play and scenes.

In this workshop, Dr Bisbey will start with exercises to feel and build energy, move on to non-sexual exercises to exchange energy, cover sexual and sensual energy exchange exercise, look at how energy play is integrated into BDSM activities (like flogging or spanking), cover the risks and benefits of energy play and end with further resources.

Book Your Ticket Here
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Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where b
In this workshop, Dr Bisbey will start with exercises to feel and build energy, move on to non-sexual exercises to exchange energy, cover sexual and sensual energy exchange exercise, look at how energy play is integrated into BDSM activities (like flogging or spanking), cover the risks and benefits of energy play and end with further resources. oth her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Join Dr Lori Beth Bisbey & Terence Scott at their new Munch
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There’s a New Munch in Town!

Are you into kink? Do you want to learn more about BDSM? Are you looking to meet like-minded peeps without having to take your clothes off?

If you tick those four boxes, you’re in luck: there’s a new munch in town and you are invited! (For those new to the lingo, a “munch” is a casual, social gathering for peeps who are into kinky stuff.)

Hosted by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott, the group will meet every 2 months, for 2 hours, and we’re delighted to share that their munch will be held right here at Sh!

Who is it for?

This group is for you if you are in a Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, Owner/property relationship or seeking to create a relationship of this type and wish to learn more about how to create and maintain these relationships.

All genders, sexualities, races, religions, and cultures are invited to join.

What happens at the Munch?

Each time the group meets, there will be a topic presentation and discussion for the first half of the group and the second half will be devoted to questions, answers, and discussions. Topics will be primarily focused on power exchange/ authority transfer based relationship and elements of the relationship. There will sometimes be demonstrations of types of play and techniques.

Book your place!
Meet the Hosts

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and Terence Scott has been involved in a power exchange (Master/slave) relationship for 10 years and been married for 4 ½ years. They both identify as part of the leather community.


Lori Beth & Terence

Lori Beth has been a slave or submissive part-time in relationships since 1978, surrendering in four long term relationships each lasting more than 2 years. Terence has been a dominant in a variety of relationships since his early 20’s.

Lori Beth regularly presents at conferences and seminars on relationships, relationship styles, sex, sexuality, and BDSM. They have presented as a couple on creating a human drum circle and creating ritual in power exchange relationships.

Lori Beth is a polyamorous cisgendered queer leather woman masochistic slave whose pronouns are she, her. Terence is a polyamorous cisgendered bisexual leather man sadistic dominant whose pronouns are he, him.

Please note: Despite the munch taking place at Sh!, one of Europe’s most long-standing erotic emporiums, this is not an open invitation to get your kit off and get the party started; this is a social occasion and guests are expected to remain clothed.

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Surrendering – a Workshop with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Does the idea of surrendering to a partner sexually, emotionally, or in a 24/7 relationship appeal to you?

Have you been submissive in relationships but found surrendering difficult?

Do you find letting go of control in other areas of life hard to do?

Surrender is extremely satisfying and is an essential ingredient in a power exchange relationship. It is often very difficult to do.

In this interactive workshop, we will explore surrender as a part of power exchange relationships. We will examine the different levels and depths of surrender. We will practice being present with a dominant partner. We will examine fears about being vulnerable, shame and learn methods of getting rid of these so that we can surrender more fully. We will cover in depth consent, surrender in a spiritual sense (surrender to a higher power, the divine). We will look at the role of trust in surrender. We will return to sexual surrender and do sensual exercises to deepen surrender.

Exercises will not involve sexual contact or any nudity.


TICKETS

All genders & sexualites welcome.


Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

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Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

More workshops with Dr Lori Beth
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Being Present During Sex: a workshop with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Join me, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey for a workshop on how to stay fully present during sex.

Mindfulness is the term often used to refer to being present. I prefer being present. The practice is spoken about in Buddhism and the term used is Sati.

Sati in plain speak means remembrance or recollection. However, when used in relation to meditation, it refers to an ‘a mental state in which one/recollects/remembers the activity that one is engaged in, in the present moment’ as John Peacock says.

For me, mindfulness is about staying fully present in the moment. When I say fully, I am speaking of thought, feeling, body, spirit. All awareness in the moment. In this way, to talk about being mindful doesn’t really sit well as the word seems to forgo emotion, physical sensation, and spirit.

I prefer to speak of staying fully present or becoming fully present. For many people, staying present is incredibly difficult. The mind wanders off or is triggered into some memory or other. The emotions are triggered and you begin to think/feel the past or think/feel about the future.

When mindfulness is first taught, people are often taught to focus on breath. Though many teachers find this the easiest access point, I do not. I prefer to have my clients learn to observe using their senses first. I prefer to talk about becoming grounded into the present.

In this workshop, we will practice a variety of methods of becoming and staying present in relationships, during conflict or difficult discussions and during sex.


Book Your Ticket For ‘Being Present During Sex’ Here

All genders & sexualities welcome

Ticket price includes Prosecco & cake


Who is Dr Lori Beth Bisbey?

Dr-Lori-Beth-Bisbey-Blog-PostDr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

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The DS in BDSM: Power Exchange/Authority Transfer Class with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

The DS in BDSM: Power Exchange/Authority Transfer Power exchange dynamics/ Authority Transfer-based relationships are ones in which one party is in charge (dominant) and the other party submits or surrenders to the person in charge (submissive). There are many names for this type of relationship: Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Owner/property, Top/bottom.

Does the idea of surrendering control to a partner turn you on? Have you wondered what it would be like to have a partner rush to fulfill your every desire or bow to your will?

Does an ‘old fashioned’ relationship where you obey your partner and your partner takes responsibility for looking after you turn you on? Do you find sex dull when it is soft, gentle and both of you are sharing equally? Do you crave rough intense sexual exchanges?

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If the idea of power exchange in your relationship is one that intrigues you, excites you, or if you have tried to create a dominant/submissive dynamic in a relationship but it was not successful or what you had dreamed it would be, then this talk by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is for you.

During this talk, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey will cover the following:
  • How this type of relationship works
  • Why a person would want to be in this type of relationship
  • The sexy and exciting bits of authority transfer in and out of the bedroom
  • Taking control of another person – the overview
  • Surrendering control to another person – the overview
  • A brief primer on consent and negotiation

Join us!

All genders & sexualities welcome


More about Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr-Lori-Beth-Bisbey-Blog-PostDr Lori Beth Bisbey is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach with over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups helping them to create and maintain their ideal intimate relationships. She has special expertise in working with the aftermath of trauma, working in the areas of gender and sexual diversity, and is kink and polyamory knowledgeable.

Lori Beth hosts a weekly podcast (the A to Z of Sex) and a weekly radio show: The A to Z of Sex ® with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey on the Sexy Lifestyle Network, one vlog on YouTube, has two blogs and writes for a variety of websites and media.

Lori Beth speaks regularly in the UK and USA on topics relating to relationships with sex. She can be found on http://drloribethbisbey.com where both her podcast and radio show can be accessed. She has consulting rooms in central London and sees clients from all over the world via Zoom.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a polyamorous CIS gendered queer leather woman, married and in a 24/7 power exchange relationship with her husband. She can be emailed at loribeth@drloribethbisbey.com

Pronouns: She, Her

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FemDom Class with Lola Jean

 You’re probably already Domming….and you didn’t even know it.

Someone who knows a little (a lot, actually!) about Domming is Lola Jean, a professional Pro Domme, Wrestler & Writer from the US. On a mission to share her sexpertise with the world, we are BEYOND thrilled to tell you Lola Jean will be joining us for an evening of Domming at Sh! on March 1st!

New to Female Domination and not sure where to start? You may think it’s all leather and whips but that’s only a very, very small portion of how domination can manifest. There is no single right way within FemDom. Every Domme has their own style, and every sub requires a different approach. Will you rule with the promise of reward? Or the threat of punishment?

Learn how to use your powers for good with the right intent and calculation. If anything, use this class to not only learn how to Dom/me but what good and ethical Domming looks like versus the opposite.

In this class, we will go back to the basics. Use building blocks like Honorifics and exercises to develop your Domme persona or their sub-persona.

Learn how to determine pain thresholds, reading your sub, aftercare and more…

Refine your skills, gain new inspiration, methods, and embrace your inner Domme.

Learn how to seduce your partner into playing submissively – after all, who doesn’t love a bit of worship?

Bringing your partner to sub space requires an immense amount of trust. Learn the lingo and gain all the tools to prepare you for the fun and exciting world of FemDom. You’re going to like it here.

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More About Goddess Lola Jean

American Lola Jean is Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme, Writer, and self-proclaimed Olympian Squirter. And with a sex-CV like that, it’s no wonder women of all ages flock to her classes, keen on learning from the best!

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Through both personal and professional experience, Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.

Lola’s background in the mental health field gives her a deep understanding to the mental blocks many individuals may face. A sex geek to the core, Lola continues to develop her teachings and avenues where she can spread her sexpertise to the world.

As featured in The New York Times, Elite Daily and Men’s Health, Lola offers a variety of FemDom, Wrestling, Squirting, and Masturbation classes and frequently makes appearances performing at House of Yes and The Box.

 Book Your Ticket Here!


Make the most of Lola Jean’s visit to London by booking a ticket to her Unlock Your Squirting Sexcess class on Tuesday 1st of March  2019 too!

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Janet W Hardy Talks Kink at Sh! in October

Exciting news, kinksters!

Janet W Hardy, Author, Speaker & Teacher is coming to town and she’ll be hosting a talk at Sh!

Here’s the class blurb: Mommy’s hard palm, Daddy’s big belt, Coach’s paddle, Mistress’s cane: few BDSM activities are as erotically and emotionally charged as spanking. Whether you’re a jaded aficionado or a nervous-but-excited novice, there’s always more to learn about the craft and art of butt-whacking. Come discover how to negotiate the scene you want, play the roles that excite you, pace a spanking for maximum pain and/or pleasure, understand your partner’s anatomy and physiology, surf the pain so you can accept the sensations you crave, choose implements for sensation and drama, select positions appropriate to your goals, and much more.

We are so excited our butt cheeks are practically quivering!

We’re expecting this talk to sell out quickly, so best be booking your ticket now:

Where: Sh! 31-35 Pitfield Street, London N1 6HB

When: Friday 5th October | 6:30pm

Price: £15 per person

Book your ticket here: Warm Hand, Warm Heart


For those of you new to or unfamiliar with sluthood or ethical kink, here’s what you need to know about Janet:

Janet-W-Hardy-Doing-Up-TieJanet W. Hardy is the author or coauthor of twelve groundbreaking books about relationships and sexuality, including The Ethical Slut (more than 200,000 copies sold to date, including the third edition published in 2017 by Ten Speed Press).

Janet has traveled the world as a speaker and teacher on topics ranging from ethical multipartner relationships to erotic spanking and beyond. She has appeared in documentary films (Slut, Beyond Vanilla, Vice and Consent, BDSM: It’s Not What You Think), television shows (SexTV, The Dr. Susan Block Show), and more radio shows than she can count.

Janet’s writing has appeared in publications as various as The Sondheim Review, Clamor and EIDOS. Her book Girlfag: A Life Told In Sex and Musicals was a finalst for both the Lambda Literary Award and the Bisexual Book Award, and her essay “Ex” was a finalist in the Event and New Letters creative nonfiction contests. “The Portal,” a very personal essay about vaginas and their relationship to gender (which is not necessarily what one might think), appeared in Best Sex Writing 2010 (Cleis Press, 2009), and “The Old Folks At Home,” an essay about aging in an ambiguously gendered relationship, appeared in Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation (Seal Press, 2010).

Janet serves as Editorial Director for Greenery Press, the firm she founded in 1992, as well as for Down There Press. She also runs The Active Voice, which offers editorial, event and promotional consulting.

She often fantasizes about being handcuffed to Stephen Sondheim’s piano.


With no less than 12 must-read books about relationships and sexuality written or co-written by Janet, it can be tricky to know where to start. Here are our top four picks:

Topping

Bottoming

The Sexually Dominant Woman

The Ethical Slut

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NEW: Kink 101 Erotic Class

Got kink on your mind?

Join experienced psychotherapist Deborah Fields of Greymatters Psychotherapy for an evening of delving deep into the psychology of kink: Why does it feel so good – or bad?

Debs, a qualified and experienced psychotherapist as well as an established workshop teacher on the kink scene, will share her extensive knowledge of the topic and she’ll probably have you giggling too!

This brand new workshop is for everyone who loves and or hates that word. More so for those curious. Take some first steps into the real 50 Shades and realise it’s an awesome rainbow versus grey. Let’s look at what you could want from sex and kink. This will explore the basics from a personal and professional perspective.

 

Debs-Kink-101An established workshop teacher, Debs is a therapist and supervisor with a successful private practice, who also happens to be human and a mum.

She is also known for running multiple workshops on the fetish scene and at therapy conferences.

Follow Debs on Twitter.

 

Sign up for some laughter with a woman with her own experience of life, sex, and kink, personal and professional.


Are you a psychology professional?

If so, attending this class will get you a CPD certificate!

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