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How to keep the juices flowing on the night of your wedding

Wedding days are hailed by many to be one of the most important in a person’s life. Meticulous planning goes into them and it’s not unusual for brides-to-be to pick over the smallest of details, and this is just as it should be – it’s your (and your partner’s obv) day after all!

From the outfit to the cake, to the music being provided by a carefully selected DJ and the food being served after the ceremony, no stone should be left unturned – you’re creating treasured memories to last a lifetime.

Despite all of the preparation that goes into the wedding day,  few couples turn their attention to planning the wedding night. It is just assumed that’ll great sex will happen once you are safely tucked away in your bed for the night, and couples are sent on their way to the hotel by friends & family winking and nudging each other indelicately.

Statistics have revealed that what newlyweds want and what they actually get on the night of their wedding vary somewhat.

More than half of all newlyweds choose sleep over a bed-bopping sesh. Common reasons include tiredness, being too tipsy and not having time to eat enough during the day, none of which are unexpected (anyone already married will know what we’re talking about!).

There’s also the added pressure of speaking to all of your friends and family, which often leaves couples with little time to actually spend together. Not such a biggie as you do have the rest of forever to enjoy each other’s company, but what can you do during your wedding day and the evening that follows to get those juices flowing and ensure that you start married life with a night of passion. Read on to find out…

Abstain for a few nights beforehand

Delayed gratification is sexy and we all know that having to wait for your cake before you can eat it, makes it taste so much sweeter. The same goes for sex. Tease and tempt and flirt and play, but leave it at that for a week or two before your Big Day and you’ll both be looking forward to tearing each other’s clothes off as soon as you get some time to yourselves. Anticipation will have you both gagging for a rumbunctious romp amidst the clean sheets of the wedding-night bed…

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Romance about it

There’s nothing better than sharing hot fantasies to get the juices flowing. Spend the lead up to your wedding talking about what you’d each like to happen during the wedding night. Lay down on the bed together and romance about it. Go into detail and be as explicit as you can. Do you want to try something new, or get down to something that’s saved for special occasions or do you want to go with your trusted favorite position?

Talking about sex and not actually having it is a massive turn on, and will get you both in the mood for a fun night when it eventually happens.

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Feel your best

Amazing sex happens when you are feeling truly comfortable and confident in your own skin. This is your wedding night after all, so why not treat yourself to some new undies? Depending on your preferred style and the preferences of your new spouse, you can build the heat during the day by dropping hints about what you’re wearing underneath your fabulous frock/sassy suit.

Before the day, spend some time pampering yourself if time; a massage, having your nails done or getting a new haircut are all excellent ways of feeling fantastic in your skin.  Spritz on your favorite scent and sashay around to whatever music gets your blood pumping and your hips bumping…

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Keep telling your partner how great they look

While your moments together may be few and far between on your wedding day (family & friends take up lots of time, trust us), so when you are together, be sure to make it special.

Let your partner know how gorgeous they look and how keen you are to get them alone so you can finally seal the deal, so to speak.

Pupils dilate naturally when we are looking at someone we’re attracted to, so make sure to eye up your partner regularly – let your eyes do the talking whenever your eyes meet across the crowded room – like so:

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Play before, during and after the ceremony

Handing over the reins to your new spouse for the day is a good way of ensuring their mind (and yours!) is firmly on what’ll happen after the party has ended.

Small remote controlled vibes are super-fun and great for couples. Tuck the vibe into your underwear and hand the remote to your partner. They are now in charge of giving you short, thrilling buzzes every now and then. This is guaranteed to heighten your arousal and keep a beaming smile on your face all day long…

Keep the day playful and flirty, go lightly on the refreshments and make sure to sneak off early – and we promise you’ll have energy left over for playing!

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3 Sex Tips To Drive Her Wild

For many men, the female body can be a challenge to navigate around at the best of times, and pleasing a woman sexually can seem nay on impossible at the worst.

We know this, because our customers share so many intimate details with us. Sometimes customers share because they are over the moon (“I had my first orgasm last night!”), and other times they share out of frustration (“Why doesn’t he just do it the way I want it?!).

A common complaint is that male partners, in particular, are going at it too fast, too hard or in all the wrong places.

What many men haven’t yet realized, is that women need their parts stimulated in the right way for the right amount of time in order to orgasm – and the right way for the right amount of time varies from woman to woman, and even from one sexual encounter to the next.

A number of despairing female customers have asked us to put together a little print-out-and-keep-guide for their guys, so grab yourself a cuppa and settle down coz here we go!

(And, of course, these tips work for any lover of women – not just fellas!)

Nipples

Nipple sensitivity varies from woman to woman, but for most of us, the nipples are a great place to start. A word of warning here: a lot of guys like to handle the nip-tips like they’re tuning in a radio but trust us, few women enjoy this manhandling move…

Instead, start off gently, teasing, cupping and stroking her breasts. Treat them with the respect they deserve. Once she pushes closer to you, it’s time to get lips and tongue involved.

For added fun, why not drizzle some caramel or chocolate sauce over her nipples – you can then spend however long you like licking it off.

As her breathing increases, lick and suck faster for added intensity. If you really want to excite her, a gentle nibble every now and then will do the trick.

These hands-free nipple massagers are great fun and come highly recommended. They attach directly to the skin around the nipple and offer gentle suction whilst you work your way down her body…

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The Clitoris

The clitoris is the holy grail of sexual discovery for most women and it’s also the route to many toe-curling, pillow-grabbing orgasms.

While it is the one place most men head to when they want to pleasure their woman, many go about it the wrong way – thus chasing off the orgasm rather than encouraging it to come gushing on…

How to give her clitoral pleasure

First of all, no one likes a chafed clit so trim your nails, lash on the hand cream and crack open a bottle of vagina-friendly lube: this is all part of your prep.

The clitoris has around 8000 nerve-endings sitting atop it, and these nerve-endings will cry out in pain if you go in all guns blazing: it simply doesn’t work.

Orgasms are a build-up of energy that is released, and therefore the best course of action is to go slow (very slow) (even slower than that) and build up. Think of it as an orgasmic marathon rather than a sprint – pace yourself.

Starting off with oral sex – if she is comfortable with this – is a good idea. The tongue is soft and moist, two things that most vulvas are partial to.

You can add a drop or two of the vagina-friendly lube to the labia lips, clitoris and opening, even if she is feeling rather juicy to the touch. Lube makes tongues, fingers, penises & toys more sensual, and that’s always a bonus!

The most important thing to do is to keep steady with whatever movement she seems to like best. Caress her clitoris using the whole of your tongue, and add in some sucking motions here and there. Nibble on the labia lips, blow gently on her clit (not into the vagina though) and keep your rhythm steady. If she seems to like it, do it again. And again.

Many women worry that they take too long, so reassure her by letting her know there is no place you’d rather be.

Fun Rabbit Ears VibratorWant her to have a truly delicious time? Our Fun Rabbit Ears Vibrator with its vibrating bullet works wonders in the clitoral region. Add a little lube to the soft ears of the rabbit, turn it on and stroke gently around the clit.

Think of the clitoris as a clock-face, and work out what time her Happy Hour is. Many women prefer stimulation of 10-11 or 1-2, but take your time (no pun intended) and work your way around the clit-clock. There will be one or two spots that are far more receptive to your soft touch, and this is where you should focus your attention.

Direct stimulation of the clitoris can be overwhelming, so unless she specifically tells you she wants direct pressure, always tease around the sides of it instead – and this is why the Fun Rabbit works so well, the flexible ears slide along the sides of the clit rather rather than directly on it.

The G-spot

There’s a lot of speculation surrounding the G-spot. Does it really exist or is it just a myth? Where is it located?

Well, we certainly believe in its existence, although it would be fair to say not all women respond the same to stimulation of it.

The area of the G-spot (the Grafenberg spot, named after the guy who ‘discovered’ it) is located about half-a-finger on the front wall of the vagina, a surface that feels less smooth than the rest of the vaginal walls. Blood flows to the area during arousal, and the G-spot becomes easier to locate and stimulate.

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How to Stimulate Her G-spot

Add a drizzle of lube (see, we told you the lube would come in handy!) to one or two of your fingers, before sliding them into her. Curve your fingers upwards towards her G-spot and stroke in slow but firm come-hither motions. Remember to not go harder or faster until she asks for it.

If penetrative sex is on the cards, it’s worth noting that many women find that woman-on-top positions work best for experiencing intense sexual pleasure and orgasm.

Let her straddle you, and then tilt her hips backwards or forwards (whichever feels best for her). This will allow her to find that sweet spot and she’ll get the pressure she wants.


If you found this helpful and would like more tips & tricks on how to have her hollering the house down with pleasure, just book yourself a ticket to our Guy’s Guide to Female Pleasure!

 

 

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Sex In Your 50’s & 60’s

‘Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength’    Betty Friedan

Thinking of parents having sex can feel disturbing, and something most of us avoid like the plague. We know we should be adult enough about these things, but when your mum’s new boyfriend asks – across the dining table, no less – if you sell Viagra, you’ll be excused for having suddenly gone off your Sunday dinner. Some things are just too close for comfort.

Having had some time (years) to get over said incident, and having spent even more time (years) thinking about it, we have come to a conclusion: sex is important to all of us, regardless of age. Even if it does involve your mum.

Finding yourself single in your 50’s or 60’s after decades as a firm twosome can be disorienting and scary.

Sex may or may not be the first thing a newly-single woman thinks about, but eventually the mind is likely to go there: What if? When? How? Could I even..?

As confidence grows, you might start thinking about dating again, and all of a sudden you realise that the options on what in the past may have been a very limited menu, are now all yours to pick & choose from – a virtual buffet of pleasure! Embracing your new-found status as a sassy singleton goes from being terrifying to right down exhilarating.

Blue rinses used to be a sign of having reached a certain age, of being ‘past it’, but these days it shows you’ve still got it: women of all ages are getting blue, pink or purple highlights, with many more choosing to rock their natural silver strands – which looks awesome, by the way!

Getting a cut & colour (upstairs & downstairs), taking up a new hobby and joining one of the many dating apps for the over 50’s are all things that can help a single woman feel more in charge of her budding love life. Because it is budding, a late awakening of sorts – it is new, fresh and exciting: doing all the things you’ve read about and finally have the confidence to not only ask for, but also try out.

We’ve had the pleasure of speaking to many of these feisty women during their visits to our shop in Hoxton, and we’re always thrilled. These women are having fun, and they are on the look-out for lovers or life partners who are equally keen on exploring sexual possibilities. They have spent far too long going without or making-do with someone else’s pleasure; they are ready to rumble around in the sheets with gusto.

Love FingersWe know one such lovely couple. They are both retired, and have plenty of time for their two hobbies: travelling and sex. They stop by from time to time, looking for new vibrating gizmos or sexy outfits to keep the fires burning. The husband buzzes around her like a hormonal teenager, and he is more than happy to buy anything and everything that piques her interest – he has a vested interest, after all. It is clear that sex is important to them and it is heart-warming to see how happy and in love they are.

Sex, in your mature years, is not only excellent for getting the blood pumping and putting a youthful spring in your step, but it has a number of other benefits too:

  • Sex reduces stress
  • Enhances your mood
  • Strengthens the immune system
  • Boosts self-esteem
  • Relieves depression
  • Revs up creative energy
  • Makes skin glow
  • Feels good!

There is one thing in particular the silver generation like to ask us about: orgasms.

They may have spent the better part of 2-3 decades tending to family, cooking, cleaning and perhaps even performing ‘wifely duties’ after dark with little to no expectation for pleasure of their own.

Often they feel they have a lot of catching up to do…

The first stop should always be the lube shelf. For most women, age & menopause causes the vaginal membranes to become thinner and drier which often makes for uncomfortable play. You may have heard that ‘women don’t need lube, they should be wet enough‘ but that’s an outdated belief that needs to be unsubscribed to sharpish.

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A bottle of viscous lube should be a staple, and as a modern woman in charge of her own pleasure, you should have a bottle handy for all sexual adventures. Plus, lube often double as excellent hand creams.

We often get asked if it isn’t ’embarrassing’ to bring out a bottle of lube and the answer is always, in one word: no. It really isn’t. It shows you are prepared for pleasure & play, and to be honest; you don’t want sex to get chafey… That really isn’t fun or pleasurable. We say: wield your bottle of lube with pride!

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Love Balls are essential – childbirth and ageing takes a natural toll whether we like it or not. Keeping vaginal muscles in good shape is important: it helps avoid leaky issues, and it’ll encourage stronger orgasms too.

Pop a pair of love balls in as you go about your day and you’ll find it’s a way of training that requires very little input, but still delivers maximum output. The balls will rock & roll against your G-spot as you move about, which can be very arousing…

Je Joue Ami, a set of three weighted pelvic floor exercisers encased in sensual silicone, is a fantastic kit. The idea is to progressively tone up the pelvic floor by using increasingly heavier weights. Over time, you’ll develop better control which means you’ll feel more during penetrative sex. It’s a win-win!

As the body ages, arousal can take a little longer, but with the help of a pleasure gel or oil  you’ll find that your vulva may still be exceptionally responsive. These products enhance blood flow to the lady garden, making labia lips and clitoris swell with pleasure.

Add a little bit of the enhancing gel or oil directly to your finger, and then massage it into the tissue around the clitoris. You’ll feel a warm, tingling sensation – this is the product working its magic.

Age can change how sexual pleasure feels, and clitoral sensitivity may increase or decrease.

If it’s the latter, a small but intense vibrator buzzing away on and around the clit can be a game changer. The Sh! Secret vibe offers 20 different settings and packs a real pleasure punch.

Sh! Easy Egg Vibrator (£19) Strong and quiet, with stimulating soft sleeve, 3 speeds + pulse settings.

If the high pitched buzz of Sh! Secret isn’t for you, we recommend giving Sh! Easy Egg a chance. A lower, rumblier vibration can help tip you over the edge faster than you can steep a cup of tea… It takes 2 x AAA batteries – handy – and the soft cover with its raised nodules offer extra texture to rub against.

Sh! Easy Egg has a cord between the vibrating egg and the control. This is works especially well for couples’ play – your partner can hold the control whilst you enjoy the egg, so you are still playing together.

The We Vibe Tango is also a hit with our more mature customers. It’s a stylish lipstick-style vibe with 8 modes and USB charger. It’s really easy to hold and place against various hot spots. If discreet design is important, We Vibe Tango looks just like a designer lippy.  And – one more thing, Tango is 100% waterproof for play in the bath or shower.

Fun Factory Semilino is a cute, smaller-sized vibe with a number of different setting to enjoy. Lube up the ridges on the shaft before inserting, and then practice doing your pelvic floor squeezes around the vibe. We promise a work out has never been so much fun!

Self-lubricating internal vibe Cascade with its soft, rippled tip is perfect for stimulating the G-spot. A press of a button releases just the right amount of lube for comfortable play. We often hear women say their G-spot became more sensitive and more receptive to stimulation as they got older. Jiggle Cascade in firm come-hither motions on your G-spot and you might just find that a super-strong orgasm is happy to make its way over to you…

For women who want it all – and who doesn’t! – Demona Wave Vibrator is a great choice. Ergonomically designed, the curved shaft presses against the G-spot and slowly strokes it when the extraordinary wave motion is activated. Meanwhile, the soft clitoral stimulator deliver vibration to the clit and you may find yourself enjoying what’s known as a blended orgasm.

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Last but not least, we also want to draw your attention to Wand vibrators. These have been popular toys since the 70’s when Godmother of Masturbation, Betty Dodson started the first version of her famous BodySex workshops – teaching women how to masturbate to orgasm. In a group! (We are maybe a little bit too British for that, but our classes on female arousal & orgasms are pretty darn good too.) Now in her 80’s, Betty is still going strong – a true inspiration!

But back to the Wands – high intensity with a deep rumble, it is very hard to not have on orgasms with one of these. If your libido is very low, a Wand buzzing away on the clitoris can help kickstart arousal and pleasure again.

We love to hear from our mature customers, so feel free to leave us a message below – tips, tricks, advice, we’re looking forward to all of it. Or, if you have a question for us, please email advice@sh-womenstore.com and we’ll be able to offer tailored advice. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Q&A Ask Sh!

Q&A: I have No Interest in Sex

I’ve suffered from lichen sclerosis for several years (I am now 55) and have finally had successful treatment via the gynaecology team at the Royal Free, who recommended you.

I have been using vaginal dilators to help improve elasticity, but the
largest one is still uncomfortable to use and penetration by my husband is impossible.  Can you recommend a product that would help improve the situation?

Please note that my libido has tailed off in recent years and now that I’m post-menopausal I have little or no interest in sex, which is causing problems with my husband, who has been very understanding to date, but I know he is extremely frustrated both mentally and physically.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.  Thanks.

Kind regards

C

Dear C

Many thanks for your email.

You mention using dilators: are these the NHS plastic variety? They are hard and blunt, and we’d be surprised if any vagina would welcome them inside, let alone one that has experienced pain.

Our set of soft silicone, vibrating dilators is a much better option. Along with the dilators, you get a small bullet vibrator that can make all the difference. The bullet can be used for thrilling sensations around neck, nipples and clitoris before going anywhere near the entrance to the vagina. When you feel ready – and only then – pop the bullet into the base of the chosen dilator, and use for insertion.

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Also note that the dilators can be purchased individually, as you may not need the smaller sizes.

Make sure to use a nice, extra-thick lube for play. We know many doctors and therapists recommend Yes Organic Lube and whilst Yes is a great lube, it is also very thin and absorbs into the vaginal tissue too quickly. Instead we’d recommend using Sh! Pure Plus which is a paraben-free, viscous lube that creates a lovely padded layer between skin and dilator/finger/penis. This makes the process of penetration more comfortable.

Working on arousal would also be beneficial for you – we’re guessing you haven’t been feeling particularly sexy or sexual for awhile, and it may take a while to get your mojo back. Erotic books can be helpful, as well as doing things that make you feel great: having a massage, or treating yourself to a new hair cut/colour, or investing in well-cut lingerie… Think back to things/treats you used to enjoy, and schedule in some me-time for them.  🙂

Body Wands look a bit scary, but they work absolute wonders when it comes to orgasmic reliability. The deep, rumbly vibrations can awaken nervendings that have been hibernating for a long time. Wands are not for insertion; instead they feel wonderful when used all over the body including near or on the genitals.

There are plenty of sensual activities you can enjoy together with your husband, without penetration.  Massage candles are great for reconnecting and getting used to touching each other again.

Tenga Egg (£10) make fun, cool gifts for men

Tenga Eggs, we feel, would be a fantastic way forward for the two of you too. Tenga Eggs are soft stretchy tops with textured insides. Drizzling lube into the Egg turns it into an incredible sex toy for men, and it’s a great option if your husband is missing the sensation of being inside you.

 

Lube up the Egg, pop it on top of his penis and masturbate him to your hearts content – we think you’ll both have lots of fun!

Good luck!

Love, Team Sh! xx

 

If you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at advice@sh-womenstore.com and we’ll answer you privately.

We may also share Q&A’s so others may benefit, but if we do it will always be anonymous, with nothing left in to identify you – promise!

 

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Q&A: Did sex hurt because I’m not attracted enough to men?

I recently lost my virginity to a guy that I absolutely trust and am very attracted to. He was able to make me cum using his hands, but sex was incredibly painful for me. He isn’t particularly big but I’m pretty sure he caused some tearing as well (I bled a lot, although I think I started my period at same time). I was sore so we left it and recently tried again and it still hurt, perhaps marginally less but still far too much for me to continue.

I’ve heard that even your first time doesn’t have to hurt if you’re properly aroused and unarousal was the only explanation I could think of, but I enjoy everything else he does. I’m bisexual so perhaps it’s possible my attraction for men isn’t strong enough to be sexual? There’s also the fact I have never inserted anything besides tampons and in fact being fingered hurt first time round. 

So I want to know: is it normal for it to hurt or should I be worried, and what can I do to stop the pain?

 

Hey there,

Many thanks for your email.  We’re sorry to hear your first time was so painful but it’s not uncommon. Painful sex is never fun and can put people off for a long, long time.

First of all we’d recommend booking a check up to make sure all is well on the inside of the vagina. There could be a number of reasons for the pain,  and it’s always best to have it checked out. It’s not impossible that you have a vaginal infection that may require antibiotics, for example. Or Endometriosis which is a common condition that causes pain during and after sex. There is another condition called Vaginismus that causes pain when penetration is attempted. But – the good news is that most conditions causing painful sex are treatable.

Sh! Paraben-Free LubricantSecondly, did you use lube? We always recommend generous amounts of lube for all sex play. There is always the possibility that your vaginal membranes were dry, especially if you felt nervous for your first time. Other factors such as dehydration caused by alcohol, medication or tiredness are very common and these can all  make penetrative sex uncomfortable.

Positioning can make a whole world of difference. It might be an idea for you to be in control of penetration, when you decide to give sex another go. Being on top means that you can stop if it begins to feel uncomfortable at all.

We can’t comment on whether or not you felt aroused at the time – only you know that. It could be that you didn’t feel turned on because there was no chemistry with the guy or it could be that you didn’t feel aroused, or lost your desire exactly because it was painful!

The good news is that sex usually gets much better with time so you have lots of exciting experiences to look forward to!

Love, Team Sh! xx

 

 

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Q&A: What has happened to my sex drive?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend a long time. To begin with my sex drive was higher than his, to the extent that it was something we fought about. After a while I stopped initiating sex so much and he also made some comments about my weight that knocked my confidence. Fast forward to now. We’ve recently moved, our lives have changed a lot, I’m very stressed at work and I’ve gained a little weight. So maybe it’s not surprising that my sex drive has decreased but it weirds me out that it seems to have just gone completely. 

I don’t masturbate at all. I’m not interested in having sex with anyone. The whole idea of having sex makes me feel gross. When we do have sex it’s not good for me. Not good meaning that I feel nervous, anxious, I feel like I want to cry. I can’t get wet, so I feel bad, which makes me more nervous, which makes sex uncomfortable because I’m not wet and… this is way too TMI, I’m sorry. I’m at a loss.

I still do find him attractive but… I just don’t feel anything else.

What is going on?! How do I fix it?

Hello there,

Many thanks for your email. We’re sorry to hear you’re experiencing such a tough time, it sounds as if it’s all a bit much at the moment.

It might be worth talking through some of these issues with a psychosexual therapist.

At the moment it sounds like your stress and anxiety over this is likely to be further demolishing your libido. It might be worth trying to not have penetrative sex at all for a while, it’s causing you pain and anxiety and only increasing your sense of frustration and concern. Many women struggle with changes in libido throughout their lives.

Does your partner know how you feel? Having a heart to heart may seem daunting, but could make a whole lot of difference.

Going back to basics is another way of connecting on a more romantic level.

Holding hands, cuddling and maybe some sneaky kisses behind the bike shed. Think back to the first few, heady months when you got together – enjoy date nights (this could mean cooking a meal at home or going to the cinema, for example).

You don’t mention any prescription medications – it is a well known fact that medication such as contraceptives and anti-depressants can have detrimental effects on our moods and how we feel about ourselves.

As well as making us gain extra weight around the middle. If this is the case, we recommend speaking to your GP about switching to a different brand.

It’s such a shame your partner took it upon himself to make negative comments about your weight instead of luxuriating in your new lush curves! If you feel a tad out of shape, you could try some sort of fun exercise (emphasis on fun!) like belly dancing or zumba. These are great ways of toning up without feeling like you are punishing yourself. Exercise is fantastic for stress busting and can really help improve confidence too.

funny-bondageAnd feeling better about yourself really is key here.

What do you enjoy doing? Do more of those things!

Book a facial or a massage, or treat yourself to a new haircut. A night out with the girls is usually a good way of raising spirits (as well as downing some!). Long walks in the fresh air is another great way of blowing away mental cobwebs or, our favourite, spending a day in the sunshine for an additional dose of vitamin D.

Masturbating is a good step towards feeling better about sex, and how you feel about your body. How about trying a fun vibrator to see if that helps kickstart the libido? Make sure you use plenty of lube, and for an additional zing in the muffkin area, you could try an enhancing product like ON Arousal Oil which helps increase the blood flow into the area. This in turn helps with arousal, which in turn helps you want more sex… Reading erotica can be very helpful, or downloading something sexy might also help float your boat.

 

If you have any questions please send them to advice@sh-womenstore.com, if you’d like advice from our sex and relationship expert Sarah Berry please include the subject line ‘Ask Sarah’.

We hope you feel better soon xx

Team Sh! xx

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity.

 

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Free Class | Female Arousal & Orgasm | 26/01

How do you fancy a ticket to a FREE class on female arousal & orgasm?

A TV company is interested in showcasing our unique ethos and we need your help!

They would like to capture us doing what we do best; helping our customers discover their true sexual selves, away from societal pressures and through our classes and expert, tailored advice.

We’d love to show the full range of fabulous peeps who choose to shop at Sh!

More importantly, we believe it could make a pioneering, influential program if all ages, sexualities, cultures, body-types, from shy to extrovert, from those beginning their journey to those further down the line, were given a voice.

So, we’re holding a free class on female arousal & orgasm that would be filmed for commissioning purposes only (it wouldn’t be shown on TV or any public domain).

Where: Sh!, 57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB

When: Tuesday 26th January 2016 at 6pm

You can choose to be featured as much or as little as you like and can comfortably opt-out any time…

Bubbly and cup cakes will be served, and each guests will be invited to make the most of the 20% after-class discount.

Interested? Please reply to Events@sh-womenstore.com or call Renee on 020 7613 5458.

If you can’t make the class but are still interested in being involved, please let us know.

Intimate Organics Intense Clitoral Gel Review

Intimate Organics Intense Clitoral Gel Review

The Intimate Organics Intense Clitoral Gel is a great enhancer for women who need a little extra oomph to push them over the edge – but even if you don’t, this clit gel is great fun and offers extra-intense clitoral orgasms.

 

 

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Intimate Organics Intense Clit Gel £18

With two strengths to choose from, I went all out and decided on the Intense over Gentle – although I would suggest that if you are very sensitive, opting for the Intimate Organics Gentle Clitoral Gel might be a better option. Intense really does mean intense; I found that with this gel, the effects were felt for quite a while after the session.

How To Use Clitoral Gels?

Massage the gel into and around the clitoris, especially into the tissue underneath the clit. After a few seconds, the sensitivity of the clit begins to increase. One of the active ingredients in these gels is L-Arginine, which is a naturally occurring amino acid. L-Arginine draws the blood to the area, making it more sensitive.

 

The gel itself is clear and non-staining. The consistency is quite thin, compared to some gels, and can make it a little more difficult to apply, but as it’s non-staining, it doesn’t matter too much if it gets on the sheets.

 

Sex Gels for Vegans

The whole Intimate Organics range is natural and vegan-friendly. This can’t be said for many simulators and enhancers, so it’s great that labeling is clear. It’s made with certified organic extracts (certified by USDA) and is also DEA and parabens-free. 

 

I would definitely recommend Intimate Organics Intense Gel, but please remember that all women are different and you should always choose the strength most suited to your body.

 

Note: Not suitable for pregnant women, or those with STI.