Advice Anal Play & Pleasure

Enhancing Anal Play and Pleasure

Before you get down to some really pleasurable anal play, there are a few things to think about, so here we’ll take you through what you may need to stock up on before heading in through the back door…

Lubricant is essential to ensure ALL your anal play is pleasurable

Lube is the most important thing when it comes to a pleasurable anal experience – a necessity.  The anal canal isn’t self-lubricating, meaning that the necessary moisture needs to be added – by you.

Many customers come to us, asking if anal play “has” to hurt, and we always give the same answer: anal play should not be painful at all. It should only be pleasurable.

When asking these customers, we usually find they all have one thing in common: they don’t use lube. (dry friction – no wonder it hurts, peeps!)

Lashings of lube will make all anal pleasure, with or without toys  so much more comfortable and sensual. It also ensures that everything stays nicely slidey, throughout the long, slow journey of anal arousal (if you’re going too fast, no wonder it hurts peeps!)

Here, we have two options for you:

Silicone Lube is slick and long-lasting for the slow pace of arousing anal play....
Silicone Lube is slick and long-lasting for the slow pace of arousing anal play….

Silicone lubricant for anal play

Silicone-based lube is great for skin-on-skin play; when you use fingers or a penis, or if you use sex toys made from glassplastic, or steel. It is slick and long-lasting, and a little goes a long, long way…

Silicone lube is also perfect for anal play in the bath or shower – which is a good place for beginners to anal sex to start their journey as many people are hesitant around ‘feeling clean’.  Water will wash away regular lube.

It’s worth noting that silicone-based lube could damage the surface of any silicone toys you may have, so we recommend covering these toys with condoms if you opt for silicone lube.

Sh! Pure Plus (£10) Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant
Sh! Pure Plus (£10) Paraben-Free Thick Anal Lubricant

Water-based lubricant for anal play

Choose a thick, viscous water-based lube for anal play

The thicker, the better! It will coat fingers, penises and toys much better than runny versions.

Customers often ask how much lube they should add, and our reply is always this: Add as much as you think. Then add a bit more!

Water-based lubes are very body-friendly, and work well with any toys  you have. Water-based lube evaporates/sinks into the skin, so you’ll have to reapply, or reactivate your lube with a  couple of drops of water or saliva, which works just as well.


A word about anal enhancers and why you should never use anal numbing products…

Intimate Organics Anal Relaxant £18
Intimate Organics Anal Relaxant £18

Here at Sh!, we do not sell any products designed to numb the anal area.

We have many customers asking for these (it’s that old ‘anal sex always hurts’ myth again!) but we always explain why using anal numbing creams or sprays could actually be harmful.

The anal canal is very delicate and the skin there easily torn.  Pain is your body’s  way of staying ‘stop’ or ‘slow down’. If you have numbed your body (with a special numbing product, or with alcohol or drugs) you will be unaware of being hurt. Staying present and in-tune with your body’s sensations is the only way to safely enjoy anal sex.

What we offer instead, are anal enhancing sprays, which are naturally formulated to relax the anus for easy penetration, whilst still keeping the bottoming partner fully aware of all sensations in their tush.


Pasante Extra Condoms (£7)
Pasante Extra Condoms (£7)

Using Condoms for Anal Play

Using condoms is a great way to take care of any hygiene-worries you may have. Also, a necessity, for safer-sex. .

Because of the delicate skin in the bum,  anal sex with an uncovered penis is the easiest transmission route of many STI’s. Pasante Extra, are specially created for anal sex; extra lube for friction-free moves and extra thick latex for a strong barrier.

Whether for safer-sex purposes or not, using condoms for anal sex makes clean-up a doddle:  just whip the condom off and dispose of. Easy peasy!



Using Latex Gloves for Anal Play – Turns fingers into smooth operators…

Black Latex Gloves
Black Latex Gloves £4 for 10

Using latex gloves for anal sex (or non-latex gloves, if you are allergic) not only easy, but also very sexy.

Snapping on a glove and drizzling some lube over your gloved-up fingers can be a hot image, raising anticipation of things to come..

It  can also add frisson to kinky medical role-play…

They also make a sexy barrier, if you are a bit squeamish about probing your partner’s tush…

Gloves are essential if you have long nails (long nails and delicate tushies don’t go together), nails that aren’t smooth (ouch!) or if you are concerned about hygiene (easy to whip off and dispose of).

If you have long nails, it’s a really good idea to pop some cotton wool into each finger of the glove  before putting it on. This will protect your nails – and your partner’s bum!

If you’re not keen on wearing  whole glove, you could easily cut the latex fingers off, and cover your own fingers with them – finger cots!


Using Dental Dams for Anal Oral Sex (aka Analingus or Rimming)

Latex Dam (£2) for anal oral sex, aka 'rimming'
Latex Dam (£2) for anal oral sex, aka ‘rimming’

Dams are squares of latex (also available in non-latex, if you are allergic) that you place over your partners bits to perform oral sex through. They are a barrier, much like condoms and can be used for vaginal as well as anal pleasure – though always  use a new dam, each time.

The offical word for anal oral sex is analingus, but it’s more commonly called  ‘rimming’.

Rimming is when you pleasure your partners anus with your lips and tongue. It may sound shocking to some, but the anus has tons of nerve-endings, just begging to be licked, kissed and touched, and this can be intensely pleasurable.

Drizzle a touch of lube on to your partner’s side of the dam before placing it over their anus – this will make your licking feel moist and sexy – just like your tongue!

So there’s the run-down on the essentials (lube!), as well as additions to pleasurable anal play, but if you’d like any tailored advice or recommendations, please feel free to drop us a line at and we’ll answer you.

We may also share Q&A’s so others may benefit, but if we do it will always be anonymous, with nothing left in to identify you – promise!

Anal Sex Toy Safety Tips

Anal Sex Toy Safety Tips

We want your tushie to stay safe so here are the 3 rules for anal sex toys to be safe to go near your delicate nether regions.

  • Anal toys must be smooth
  • With an anal-safe base
  • And be an anal-safe size.

All anal toys at Sh! meet this criteria (as we reject all that don’t) so  you can be confident of that. But we’ve all heard tales of emergency visits to A&E, so if you’re thinking of improvising ( please don’t!) or have any toys you’re unsure of, please check them against these 3 safety rules;

Anal sex toys MUST be absolutely smooth and seamless

Anal tissue is very delicate (much more so than the vaginal tissue) so always check toys for any rough edges that could scratch or cut the skin there.

Cheaper toys made with hard plastic can have a seam running through them where the 2 parts are joined together – check that yours doesn’t before letting it anywhere near your precious bottom.

You must be able to keep a firm grip on any anal toy

An anal toy must feature either a:

  • large or flared base
  • safety ring/ loop
  • very long handle.

This ensures that you can keep a a firm grip on the toy. These safety features prevent your anal toy from slipping all the way inside.

Unlike the vagina, sex toys lost up the ass really can stay lost and could cause damage ( as well as an embarrassing trip to the A&E dept!) so this is not advice to take lightly.


Sh! Vibrating Silicone Beads feature a a loop handle to keep a grip on...
Sh! Vibrating Silicone Beads feature a a loop handle to keep a grip on…
Sh! Silicone Butt Plug featuring a wide base to prevent it slipping inside
Sh! Silicone Butt Plug featuring a wide base to prevent it slipping inside



Crystal Flex Wand Vibrator features a long handle to keep a tight grip upon.
Crystal Flex Wand Vibrator features a long handle to keep a tight grip upon.

Anal sex toys 10cm (around 4 inches), or longer,  MUST be flexible

This ensures that they are able to  bend with the natural curves of the anal canal, which loops back, inside your body around 4 inches inside.

Other than this, only you can judge the best size of anal toy for you so experiment with fingers and don’t be afraid to think small!

If your just starting out, read our beginners guide to anal toys and rest assured that at Sh! we stock a wide selection of anal-safe sex toys and safe butt plugs, (the vast majority of them in silicone which is soft, sensual and easy to keep clean) so there is anal toy to suit everyone.

Beginners anal advice

Relaxing Anal Muscles – The Key to Pain-Free Anal Sex

Everybody says anal sex hurts right?  And yet if you watch pretty much any porn film, both gay and straight, you’ll see actors apparently happy to receive some eye-watering attention in that area.

Whilst in many a porn film, pleasure is often clearly ‘acted’, totally camouflaging pain is a much more difficult, near impossible, acting ability to achieve. The body will naturally flinch and flex away from pain and no amount of acting skill can over-ride this instinctive reaction to pain.

And yet, everybody says anal sex hurts! So, are porn stars simply a completely  different a breed, employed for their love of anal? Why do they apparently feel all pleasure and no pain, when for the rest of us sometimes/always do.

Only when you are relaxed, both physically AND psychologically, will anal sex be pain-free.

The thing to remember is that anal may not be for everybody. It’s not a tick-list but simply another part of your body that may give you pleasure.

Physiologically, there is still quite a taboo and fear around anal sex and if we’ve internalized these feeling, we’ll have done it through our bums! Ignorance around anal sex and how our body’s work and respond is another factor.

Even if our head says yes to anal sex, we’re enjoying anal play and feeling relaxed, our body can sometimes refuse to co-operate.

Physically, pleasurable anal play requires the muscles in your rectum to open up to receive whatever is going there, be it fingers, an anal sex toy or a penis.

anal sphincter muscles
anal sphincter muscles

Inside the bum the anal sphincter muscles are actually a double set of muscles that surround the anus.

The first set, called the external sphincter, is the anal muscle at the entrance – the one we are most aware of. This is the anal muscle we have the power to control and relax.

It’s the internal anal sphincter, about 2.5 – 4cm inside, that we have no conscious control over.

This is the muscle that controls continence and, apart from when we go to the loo, it’s always in a state of continuous maximal contraction, unless coaxed out of that state with lots of pleasurable attention.

Relaxing this muscle is key to enjoyable anal sex – If you feel pain, your body is telling you to stop.

But relaxing the internal spincture  is not a simple case of mind over matter. We have no conscious control over it and it’s this anal muscle that can involuntarily tense up and say no to anal sex.

It can do this even when we think we feel relaxed, turned-on and ready for more. If the internal anal sphincter muscle involuntary constricts, forcing the issue WILL result in pain.

Relaxing the internal sphincter will only happen by lavishing lots more time, patience and anal lubricant on your tense tushie.

In time, the anal muscles will usually relax and open up to pleasure again.

But, as we said earlier,  pleasurable anal play is as much about how you feel about it in your head as how you’re feeling in your body.

Physiologically, if you expect pain, your body will tense-up which will cause a viscous cycle. This is why it is never a good idea for you to ‘push through the pain’   Understanding how your body works; what you do and do not have control over is an important step to achieving pleasurable anal play.

lubricant advice

Lube for Anal Sex

The lowdown on the best lubes for anal play…

Using lube for anal sex is crucial as the anus doesn’t produce any natural lubrication of its own.

Lube protects anal tissues which are more delicate and easily torn than those of the vagina. Using lots of lube during every kinds of anal play is absolutely key to ensuring anal sex is ALL pleasure and NO pain.

Anal pleasure requires a slow pace and using lube ensures that everything feels slippery and sensual throughout the journey.

From the very beginning, through to the point where anal muscles relax enough to be receptive to penetration, and all through your anal sex session, you should ensure everything starts out coated, and remains coated in lube. Keep applying, as any ‘drag’ can cause tension and tension is the enemy of pleasurable anal sex!

Use lube is essential during all anal play - A water-based anal lube is thicker, more viscous and longer-lasting...
Use lube is essential during all anal play – A water-based anal lube is thicker, more viscous and longer-lasting…

Best Water Based Lube for Anal Sex

Standard water-based lube may dry up too quickly for the slow pace of anal sex so chose a thicker water-based lube such as  Sh! Pure PlusMaximus or Probe Classic Thick.

These lubes contain less water and so evaporate slower and have a thicker consistency than regular water-based lubes, which means they coat and cling to toys, fingers and condoms for longer…

Thick water-based lube can be used to enhance all sex-play, so it’s a great choice if you prefer to have just one lube-type by your bed – if you find it a little thick for other activities it can be simply watered down with a little purified water or even saliva.


Water-based lube is the best lube to choose if you are playing with any silicone anal toys, such as butt plugs and anal beads, or pegging  / performing anal sex with a silicone dildo.






Silicone Lube feels oily, like a light baby oil but is body and condom-safe...
Silicone Lube feels oily, like a light baby oil but is body and condom-safe…

Best Oil-Based Lube for Anal Sex

Some people prefer to use oil-based lube for anal sex as, without the evaporating qualities of water, it provides unsurpassed, super long-lasting and uber-slippy lubrication.

As the anus naturally flushes itself, it is less vulnerable to oil-induced infection than the vagina.

BUT oil-based lubes will rot a condom in seconds and will damage the surface of many anal toys, which is why we don’t stock oil-based anal lubes and caution against using mineral or vegetable oil-based products as lubricant.

The only oil-based lube we recommend, or offer, are silicone-based lube such as Eros Pjur Woman LubeSh! Silicone Lube or ID Millennium

These lubes deliver an oily-feeling AND keep anal pleasuring and non-silicone anal toys super-safe as well as super-slippery.


Q&A: How to Ass-Finger with Long Nails?

Dear Sh!

Whilst making love, my lover likes me to slip a finger in their ass but my nails are long and I’m worried I’ll hurt them – Have you got any advice or tips on how to satify my partner, without doing any harm?




Dear Tabby

Good question! And it’s really great that you’re thinking about this, rather than simply delving in, as ass-fingering with talons is tricky!

The anus is very delicate and easily torn so all nails (whether long or short) should be well groomed and smooth before going anywhere near a delicate tush.

We recommend using latex in all anal play as it adds a silky smooth touch as well as keeping things safe.

The anus is protected by only very fine skin and is easily scratched so ass-fingering is best done by latex-covered fingers.

We recommend you wear latex gloves for ass-fingering because you can squish cotton wool balls under long nails before covering them in latex, you’ll take the edge off your talons as well as protecting the glove from potential tears.

This will protect your lover’s anus but there are more reasons to rubber-up for ass fingering….

Latex Gloves - £4 for pack of 10 (5 pairs)
Latex Gloves – £4 for pack of 10 (5 pairs)

Lube is easier to apply and doesn’t get as easily absorbed when you wear latex glove for ass fingering.

Anal pleasure is  a long leisurely journey, not a speedy sprint, and ensuring everything stays nicely lubricated for the full duration is key it’s all pleasure and no pain.

-Latex-covered, your fingers will feel sleeker, so you can feel more and be more in tune with whats going on.
– They help to take care of any cleanliness issues – both your fingers and their anus…

– And just the sight and sound of you snapping on a latex glove will make your lover tingle with excitement and anticipation!


If you’d like to take anal exploration further than fingers, which are the best toys?

Sometimes it’s hard to reach round and give your lover the anal pleasuring they desire with just your fingers, so if you need extra reach or would like to try something other than fingers, take a look at our range of Butt Plugs and anal-safe Silicone Dildos.

Hope this info is helpful. If you’d like any more advice, just get in touch.

Best Wishes

Team Sh!

All names have been changed for anonymity 

Q&A Ask Sh!

Q&A: Best Toy for Anal Sex: Butt Plug or Dildo?

Dear Sh!

Please could you give me some advice on which is best toy for anal sex – a  butt plug or a dildo?

I’m kind of new to all this and would appreciate some advice.

Thanks in advance…



Hi Alex,

So, choosing the right kind of sex toy for anal play depends on how you want to use the toy and the kind of  pleasure you’d like to experience from it. But as a beginner it’s very difficult to know!

Probably the best way it to start your anal discovery with a finger, covered in a condom or latex glove, if you’d prefer….

Cover both your anus and finger with some lube and gently, with patience, start exploring.

Going in will essentially feel the same, but once up there, do you prefer simply the feeling of fullness of your finger staying put or do you prefer a sliding in and out motion?


Beginners Butt Plug £15
Beginners Butt Plug £15

Butt Plugs – Best For Feelings of Still Fullness…

If you more prefer a feeling of fullness, then a butt plug is a great anal sex toy for you as, after the initial insertion,  it’s not designed for much movement, beyond a slight wiggle or tilt.

The narrow neck at a butt plug’s base is what makes it stay in place – your sphincture muscle will naturally close around where it is narrowest – so, whilst there are no rules to how you must play with any sex toys and you can make small in-out movements with it,  it may feel jarring to try to slide a butt plug in-and-out once this muscle has tensed around the narrow neck portion.

A butt plug is a good toy to get a ‘feel’ of what it’s like simply to have something up your bum, which in itself can be very arousing.





Wirly Girly 2 - Our most popular anal dildo
Wirly Girly 2 – Our most popular anal dildo

Anal Dildos – Best for In-and-Out Strokes…

If you crave a feeling of stroking in-and-out, then a dildo is actually the best toy for this kind of anal pleasure, because they have regular shafts, with no pronounced narrowing.

Again, there’s NO rules and you can simply slide a dildo inside and hold it there with no movement. But, unlike a butt plug, you can’t really let go, as the anus’ natural instinct is to (ahem) ‘expel’ …so it will start to slide out.

Our dildos start from finger- size, like the Wirly Girly 1 Slim Dildo, so even if you are new to anal sex, you won’t be feel overwhelmed.

If you plan to  strap on a dildo for anal sex with your male or female lover, then you’ll need a longer dildo such as Wirly Girly 2 Slim Dildo  or, even Wirly Girly 3 Slim Dildo as some of the dildo’s length is lost once it’s worn in a harness.

Both these styles are super popular anal dildos; slim enough for unintimidating anal sex, with gently ribbed shafts for stimulating the responsive nerve-endings in the anal canal and the extra length allows for proper strokes, without the toy slipping out altogether which can be frustrating!

The bases of all Sh! dildos & butt plugs are all safe for anal play as they flare enough to prevent dildos from slipping inside and getting lost inside.

Remember, whenever you play – lubricant is your friend and absolutely key to pleasurable anal sex, so whichever toy you choose, treat it and yourself with a lovely coat of lube to ensure maximum glide and pleasure.

Hope this helps and do give us a shout if you need any more advice

Best Wishes

Team Sh!

All names have been changed for the purposes of anonymity


Pleasure Gels to Enhance Sex & Orgasm

Pleasure Gels to Enhance Sex & Orgasm; Separating the Good from the Bad

All our pleasure gels, whether designed to swell your G-Spot, make your clitoris more sensitive or enhance anal sex and pleasure, will gently stimulate you safely… but don’t expect miracles – no  pleasure gel will make your body hot if your mind is cold!

Simply slapping on a pleasure gel and clock-watching for the recommended activation time will not magically turn you into a hot-to-trot siren bursting with orgasms!

Fantasise, read some hot erotica, engage in some fabulous build-up whist the gel gets to work and you’ll feel the effects far more intensely…

Pleasure gels to enhance sex, arousal and orgasm – plus the ones that don’t!

Sexual enhancer creams, pleasure gels and sex sprays have been around a long time but we’ve rejected many of them as their ingredients often made us run for the shower, rather than to bed!

Some pleasure gels contain scary ingredients like loads of capsicum (the pepper family of plants – ouch!), menthol (brrr!) or lots of undisclosed, gloopy oil (an infection waiting to happen!).

Some pleasure gels and sex enhancer products make ridiculously wild claims like ‘guaranteed orgasm’ (sorry but no such thing!) and some are so deeply dodgy in their message, that they don’t even make it through to our vetting process…

Of the ones that do, we then test every pleasure gel / orgasm enhancer to ensure;

  • It actually does have a stimulating effect
  • Doesn’t mislead in it’s claims
  • Doesn’t irritate (or worse – sting!) delicate areas

If it passes the test, we’ll stock it on our shelves. It’s a tough job, but someone’s got to do it.

Our selected pleasure pleasure gels are more natural, using gentle ingredients and we even carry a pleasure enhancing range that is organic and vegan..

Pleasure gels to enhance female arousal and orgasm

The main active ingredient in our pleasure gels to enhance female orgasm is L-Arginine

This is a naturally occurring amino acid that increases blood flow by dilating blood vessels, making delicate genital tissue more sensitive and responsive.

Here’s the lowdown on the best pleasure gels to enhance female orgasm – the ones that made our shelves…

(note: use cautiously at first, just to check you’re not hyper-sensitive to any of the ingredients)

Tickle Her G Spot Pleasure Gel
Tickle Her G Spot Pleasure Gel £18


Tickle Her G- Spot Pleasure Gel. We were impressed when we tested it – and we weren’t wrong –  our customers give it rave 5* reviews:

‘The gel feels tingly and I could feel a pleasurable sensation spreading all over the area. As soon as we re-introduced the vibrator it felt sublime, my G-spot felt incredibly aroused without it being too intense’ 

This G-Spot Gel really does seem to work; swelling the G-Spot, or at least the general G-Spot area (pinpointing the elusive G Spot is often tricky) by increasing blood flow to it and making it more responsive.



Clitoral Pleasure Gel
Tickle Her Clitoral Pleasure Gel £11

Tickle Her Clitoral Pleasure Gel

This does the same thing to the clitoris, making blood flow to the area, enhancing sensation and awareness. It too receives great reviews;

‘ an almost immediate pleasant tingling sensation. It certainly enhances desire and I have difficulty climaxing so this is very useful for me’ 

As well as L’Arganine Tickle Her Clitoral Pleasure Gel contains Damiana, a natural aphrodisiac that increases clitoral sensitivity.


Tickle Her Pink Clitoral Stimulating Gel Tester £3
Tickle Her Pink Clitoral Stimulating Gel Tester £3


Both are available in tester sachetsso you can see how they work for you before investing in a larger bottle…






ON natural arousal oil
ON Natural Arousal Oil £15

On Arousal Oil 

A blend of oils and herbal extracts, this small 5ml bottle contains over 50 applications.

It delivers a ‘buzzing sensation’ to the clitoris – it’s not L’arginine, in this case, but Cinnamomum Cassie that delivers the focused warm,  tingling sensation.

It’s a natural arousal effect, without any harsh preservatives, parabens or artificial ingredients and we’ve found it safe and very effective. but  some people are hypersensitive to this natural ingredient.

We carry ON Arousal Oil Tester so you can see if it does the same for you.

ON Arousal Oil is only recommended for clitoral stimulation and it the only pleasure gel we stock that it NOT latex-safe so should NOT be used with condoms.


A word about vaginal tightening gels

One word – No!

Sorry ( but not sorry!) you won’t find these at Sh!

With names such as ‘Like a Virgin’ and ’18 Again’ and promising to make you feel ‘younger, tighter and sexier’ we think these products have seriously dodgy undertones. We’re into empowerment, not re-enforcing any insecurities that society gives us about  our vagjajays.

(Like we’d all like to go back to our teenage sexual years and sore inexperienced fumbles?  No thank you!)

However ‘natural’ the ingredients, Vaginal Tightening creams contain harsh astringents, which strikes us as something we wouldn’t want on our delicate downstairs bits. The effect is temporary, potentially irritating ( even scaring) and drying.

Plus if it shrinks, won’t it do the same to anything entering there, such as a penis!!?

Naturally elastic, the vagina is tightly folded most of the time but opens up during sexual arousal (and childbirth)

The best way to tighten the muscles around the vagina is by doing PC Muscle exercises and that’s what we;re sticking to, because it will also help with giving us stronger, easier orgasms, rather than a shrunken vag!



Enhancer Products for Anal Pleasure

Do we sell products that numb you bum?


There are lots on the market, many containing mild anaesthetic ( often Benzocaine or Lidocaine) and other de-sensitizing ingredients but we seriously caution you to stay away from them.

Pain is your body’s way of telling you to stop or at least slow down, a lot… Anal tissue is very delicate and easily torn and when it’s numbed, you cannot tell if any damage is being done.

If anal sex is painful, it’s generally for 2 reasons;

  1. Delicate anal tissue is being harmed
  2. When the body is resisting – it’s an involuntary tensing of the set of sphincture muscles that you cannot consciously relax. Relaxing anal muscles is key to pain-free anal-play

We also don’t get why being numb can in any way be pleasurable?

Surely sex is ALL about enhancing sensations, not about blocking them out..

Intimate Organics Anal Spray for Men with Lemongrass
Intimate Organics Anal Gel for Men with Lemongrass
Intimate Organics Anal Spray for Women with natural orange
Intimate Organics Anal Gel for Women with natural orange

So, instead of numbing, we carry an organic equivalent: Intimate Organics Anal Spray

All-natural ingredients in this anal gel simply and gently relax the anal  sphincter musclesfor easy penetration, allowing you to still be aware of all sensations.

As one reviewer says;

‘ This gel completely relaxes you, without any numbing at all so that you can just enjoy the sensation rather than worry about any pain, and it leaves a nice orange scent too!’

A word about numbing blow job or ‘deep throat’ sprays

advice blow jobBlow job and Deep Throat sprays all use local anesthetic to desensitize the mouth and ‘relax the the gag reflex’ to ‘reduce the discomfort associated with oral sex’

Oh gosh – no! The best ( worst!) example of the sex industry’s old-school exploitative ways and demotion of female pleasure; Lie back and think of England ladies and whilst you’re there, numb your throat, so you can take your man deeper – yum!

Basically a sore throat spray, marketed in a deeply un sex-positive way, we know for the men who choose to shop at Sh!, their women’s pleasure is paramount and numbing her, for their pleasure is  a deeply UN-sexy idea…

(Plus, practically – if it numbs the mouth, doesn’t it numb everything that goes in it??)

 A great blow-job is as much about a woman enjoying herself, as it is the man,  and we give Blow His Mind Erotic Classes in Fellatio to teach anatomy, tips and confidence-building to this (ahem) end!

Pleasure Gels for Men


Do we stock Spanish fly? Nope.  In it’s true form of dried out beetle bodies, it’s toxic and can be dangerous ( it works by stimulating the water passages in the bladder)

But we do stock an organic equivalent.

Stimul8 Spanish Love Drops
Stimul8 Spanish Love Drops

Stimul8 Spanish Love Drops 

100% natural ingredients, which include L-Arginine and Vitamin C.

Both these active ingredients have been shown to enhance erection and stamina.

Many pleasure enhancer preparations for men  work on male insecurities, rather than actual active ingredients, promising erections that are Bigger! Harder! Longer-lasting!

Long-suffering male friends and partners have helped us test many of these products… with many/most rejected.

stimul8 penis enlargement
Stimul8 Penis Enlargement Cream £15


Stimul8 Penis Enlargement Cream

This one got the thumbs up from our last man standing (ie the only one who didn’t refuse to do any more testing!).

The jury’s still out on whether this 100% organic pleasure gel actually enlarges penis over time, but the claim of better blood flow and expansion of erectile tissue in the penis did seem to please our tester. Over to you!