Baby it's cold outside!
Resist the temptation to live in your onsie and relegate all but under-a-15-tog-duvet play to next spring, because we have some sex tips to turn up the heat in the bedroom, when winter arrives.
Massage tips with warming massage candles
A massage candle (£12) melts to a warm oil to drizzle seductively over skin..
Light the fire, lay down cushions & invite your partner to a sensual massage. Start out stroking with faux fur to awaken nerve-endings and warm up the senses.
Teasing strokes, all over the body, can create all manner of fireworks.
Seductively scented massage candles, which are designed to melt at a low temperature, create a heady atmosphere, whilst they burn and pool warm oil, ready to drizzle over your lover’s skin.
Use long, continual strokes, ensuring one hand never leaves contact with their body.
Build anticipation and leave sexy-bits for last, making sure you switch to a lube before progressing for sex play and ‘happy endings’ as, unlike massage oil, lubricant is body & condom-safe.
A 50 shades of heat sex tip
Wax Play candles ( £15 for 3) burn at a lower heat, so they won't burn skin..
For edgier games, Wax Play Candles create sizzling sensations for lovers of temperature play.
Drizzle the dripping wax over naked skin from a height for a cooler pop, or closer to the body for more intensity.
Safe to use everywhere, including breasts and down-belows, these special candles burn at a lower temperature so won’t cause burn marks.
Don’t try this with your regular household candles, as they will burn…
Take the chill off ! Tips for warming up playthings
Warm up your playthings ...
Glass is responsive to temperature, so a glass dildo can be transformed into a toasty plaything by simply by running it under the hot tap, for a few minutes.
The same can be done to metal toys and to a lesser extent silicone dildos too.
Don't try this with a vibrator though - especially one that isn't waterproof!
Run your lube bottle under the tap too!
Run your lube bottle under the tap too, especially if you bedroom isn't fired-up to a steady 60 degrees.
It transforms the lovely liquid into extra warming sensations.
This simple trick is essential for for cold nights and icy fingers.
Turn up the heat with a sex toy that actually warms up!
Warming Vibrator (£78) gently heats as you play
Go all out with a Warming Vibrator, a cool chrome sex toy that gently heats up.
Its sleek body is naturally cool to touch but the longer it vibrates (and with 8 different throbbing and escalating settings there’s plenty to occupy you!) the more it warms up, adding a pleasurable heat that gently radiates to your most sensitive spots.
Spanking leaves a rosy glow on everybody's cheeks!
A good spanking not only relieves stress by increasing endorphins but also ensures you both work up rosy cheeks and a good sweat!
If you are new to spanking, or not keen on pain, opt for a soft spanking paddle with a wide surface area, as sensations are diffused, making bottoms glow, rather than smart.
Gem up on your spanking skills and safety knowledge...
Want to learn more about the art of spanking? Sh! hosts friendly, educational, inspirational (and fully-clothed!) spanking classes at the London store and as Sh! Soirees, when the erotic class experience comes to you!
Steamy sessions - take a tip with sex play in the bathroom
System Jo Silicone Massage Oil & Personal Lubricant (£6)
Enjoying a warm bath solo or with a lover is one of life’s little luxuries, as winter draws in.
But steamy bathroom sessions can end up being too squeaky-clean to be pleasurable, as your natural juices are washed away.
Silicone-based lube isn’t water-soluble, so it remains slippery even in water, ensuring playtime in the bath, shower or Jacuzzi stays smooth and sensual.
A word of caution however – be careful to avoid spills and clean up afterwards to avoid tumbles in the tub - silicone lube will make ALL surfaces slippery!
Get hot and bothered with warming lube
Sliquid Organics Natural Stimulating Lubricant (£13/125ml) delivers a warming sensation for all over...
Get yourselves hot and bothered by slowly drizzling warming lube all over yourself, whilst your partner watches.
Let it run from breasts, down over stomach and below…
This is incredibly sexy visually - your partner won’t be able to tear their eyes away!
Once you've put on your show, invite him/her to lie down and slide your hot bod all over their body… It both looks hot and it feels hot!
And no need to worry about getting messy - the lube washes out of the sheets easily enough afterwards!
Hot lips tip for oral sex tricks
Take a sip of hot tea before going down on your lover to turn oral sex sizzling! The combination of added wetness and warmth will make them melt into a molten mess of pleasure!
Learn more tips and techniques at 'Art of Fellatio Erotic Class' at our London Store
Want to learn more about the art of fellatio? Sh! hosts friendly, educational, inspirational (and fully-clothed!) Blow His Mind classes at the London store and as Sh! Soirees, when the erotic class experience comes to you.
Talking of Cuppas…
Turn up the heat on cold days by taking a trip to Sh! in London’s Hoxton Square. Not only will its unique collection of pleasure products make you hot under the collar and its friendly, knowledgeable staff answer all your questions, but it’s also the only erotic store in the world where they’ll also serve you a cuppa whilst you browse!