Long-term lovers naturally get into a groove. Sex calms down after “new couple” fever and life takes over. Add children, mortgages and the weekly shop into the mix and it’s easy to get into a sexual rut.
Anything that is habitual will loose its thrill, so the way to spice things up is to break the routine. If you always get jiggy in the missionary position on a Friday night, then ravish your lover on a Tuesday morning in the en-suite. Send a sex-text. Introduce a sex toy. Have a massage date.
12 Tips to Spice up Your Sex life
Approach spicing-up as a fun and playful thing to do, not as a comment on the state of your sex life, as pressure to perform can be a libido-killer.
Keeping it light and surprising will ensure it will be spicy and hot .
1. Buzzing Pants Tip
Some chain store panties have gussets which aren’t sewn in at both ends, creating a very handy pocket in which to tuck a bullet vibe for hands-free buzzy delight!
2. Hot Lips Oral Sex Tip
Waking up your lover with a hot (not too hot!) mouthful of tea – warm liquid over freshly woken genitals will set anyone up for the day!
3. Other Hand
Masturbate (or give a hand-job) with your other hand – it’ll will feel quite different!
4. Play Clit-o’Clock Sex Tip
If the clitoris were a clock face, many women’s top pleasure time would be ten-to-two! This is the area to concentrate on, but can she tell the time? Play ‘what time is it?, tracing it out with your tongue until she can take no more…
5. Pop Grapes for Divine Oral Sex Tip
Try popping grapes into your mouth when going down on your parter; two if the recipient is male, one if female!
6. Raid the Cling Film
Cling film makes a great budget bondage material. Wrap it broadly around wrists and ankles and then lash to the headboard or chair legs! It can also be a visual treat to playfully ‘mummify’ your partner – but never over their nose or mouth of course!
7. Feel the Fizz Sex Tip
The fizzing of sherbet or champagne in your mouth whilst you explore your lovers body can feel oh-so-very-good…
8. Lucky Dip Sex Tip
Discover sizzling scenarios that you’d normally feel too shy or embarrassed to try. On slips of paper, write out a few fantasy roles or specific sexual activities that turn you on and put them in a bag. Your lover gets to do the same. Take turns to pick from the bag and do as the lucky dip instructs…you’re allowed only one refusal!
9. Minty Fresh Sex Tip
Go down on your lover with a smooth mint rolling around in your mouth then roll it up and down and around their sensitive bits – it will feel cool and VERY hot!
10. Ice Cream Lick Sex Tip
Rather than quick flicks or tongue twirls, try applying long soft licks; just imagine you are slowly licking an ice cream (and if you lick too hard, it will slide off its cone and down your jumper!) These long slow licks feel delicious anywhere so don’t just limit it to oral sex but lick up arms, down thighs and remember – the armpits, often overlooked are an erogenous zone.
11. Put on a Peep Show
Perform in your very own peep show with just one or two props. Turn off all the lights or perhaps throw a dark scarf over a lamp so the room is very dimly lit ( this is especially liberating, if you are a shy performer) If you’re peep-showing for a partner, hand then the touch. The beam will illuminate the intimate areas, whilst you put on the show of your life.
We’d also recommend this tip played solo – pleasure put on a (un)dress rehearsal in front of a mirror, with you controlling the touch beam.
12. Love Balls on the Bus
Sit at the back of the bus ( where the engines are!:) to experience an deep rumbling pleasure whilst wearing love balls – highly pleasurable in itself and a fabulous way to multi-task arousal on the commute home…